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Straight to bi-curious

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi everyone,

So on my profile I have put down that I am Straight which is fully true.. however for quite a while I’ve been thinking about changing it to bi-curious purely because I feel I’ve always been thinking about trying stuff possibly with a man.. mainly the sucking part. But I don’t want to run before I can walk.. is anyone else in the same boat at all? What would you do? I’ve always wanted to try it but not to the climax bit... I think it’s just the confidence side of things and I don’t want anyone to be pushy..

Many years ago, I did kiss a guy when I was very young, stayed over at his house and I think it started from there but I’ve not been with any guy since then, I’ve always had girlfriends in the past..

Just a thought and wanted to know where/how I could take that?

Thanks,

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By *anni and RicCouple over a year ago

York

You'll certainly find guys to play with on here and if the worst comes to the worst just start again with a straight profile. As a newbie here you have nothingbto lose tbf. We get more interest from couples and females when I am listed straight on here though! Ric x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You'll certainly find guys to play with on here and if the worst comes to the worst just start again with a straight profile. As a newbie here you have nothingbto lose tbf. We get more interest from couples and females when I am listed straight on here though! Ric x"

Thank you, I’m really in no rush at all.. it was just a thought and I wasn’t posting it as a way of getting more people to message me for fun. It was just a way of asking myself the question and I straight or bi-curious?’

Thank you!

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By *eith28Man over a year ago

uxbridge

"Hi everyone,

Just a thought and wanted to know where/how I could take that?

Labels mate that’s all it is. Put that you’re interested in trying sucking a cock in your bio but don’t change to bi curious yet. Of and unblock guys. Lol

Thanks,"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds like you're the exact person the term bi-curious was invented for.

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By *hamesGentMan over a year ago

Oxfordshire / Sussex

I can understand what you say about not wanting to run before you can walk. The first time I ever met a couple I realised that there might be more to explore in an MMF scenario than just straight play. But it took me some time before I felt like acting on it. And when I did finally indulge in some bi oral play, it was because the couple I was with were so relaxed and open about it, it seemed so natural and became just another way to give and receive pleasure with those who enjoy it.

After all, sexuality is something to explore and enjoy, not define.

Have fun with it and good luck OP!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have gone from gay to bicurious but not acted on it yet, had offers. It seems to come in cycles my bicuriosity. I think best way is to try a bi MMF. That is how I nay possibly do it. Think one on one is a bit much for someone just curious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have gone from gay to bicurious but not acted on it yet, had offers. It seems to come in cycles my bicuriosity. I think best way is to try a bi MMF. That is how I nay possibly do it. Think one on one is a bit much for someone just curious."

I agree. MMF with a curious couple where you are all comfortable with what may may not feel right is the way to go. And go with the flow…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah I should be honest about it. Sexuality changes as we go through life. Something may have happened as you say when you were younger and the hormones, smell and tastes it released remain in our memory bank forever.

It's easier now to explore these things and if you like it do it again, If you don't embrace the fact that you tried it and are now able to make a valued judgment about it rather than a knee jerk "no fucking way" next time.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Keep it straight until you've met a guy. Most guys won't care what you have as your sexuality. But there's some very bigoted women and couples on here.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

Try a bi night at a club, you could then see what's going on, participate or just watch. If you meet someone great, as its easier then to explore your sexuality in a room full of people who've done the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Try a bi night at a club, you could then see what's going on, participate or just watch. If you meet someone great, as its easier then to explore your sexuality in a room full of people who've done the same

Thanks, good idea however with living on an island comes the difficulty of attending such places. Maybe in the future!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I really would love to do a MMF, it's just finding the right person who wants to meet me unfortunately. I have sent messages... Thanks!

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By *ain and sortedMan over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

Same as you mate, I'm very straight in appearance and mannerisms , however after attending a few club nights my curiosity took hold of me , during a vi night event I finally let go and let the fun begin so liberating having a naked play with both male and female I can now see why the ladies enjoy a nice hard cock

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you all for the various advice and posts above, I have taken the plunge and changed my status on my profile for all to see! Thank you to those who sent me messages too, really appreciated!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well done on being both brave and honest, far too many lying on this site. Take it slow and enjoy

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By *nnocentimesMan over a year ago

over there by that tree

"Thank you all for the various advice and posts above, I have taken the plunge and changed my status on my profile for all to see! Thank you to those who sent me messages too, really appreciated!

Let the fun commence

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well done on being both brave and honest, far too many lying on this site. Take it slow and enjoy

I definitely intend to. I know I love in a limited area but hoping that won’t be forever.. I don’t want to just meet anyone, just genuine people. People that will make the effort if you also do too! Thank you to everyone on here..

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By *ssex Playfull CoupleCouple over a year ago

Grays

Life’s for living mate don’t be too worried about trying new things and as previouly mentioned you can always start a new profile. I go from feeling bi to not, just depends on how I’m feeling at the time.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man over a year ago

Bristol

I hope 2020 provides you with all of your needs and some of your wants!

Fantasies fulfilled..

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By *aytay987Man over a year ago

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By *aytay987Man over a year ago

Yep, I’m in the same boat here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just avoid those who fetishise you as you are curious, they are gay/ bi men with a sad fixation on straight males. I had to change my sexuality from bicurious to gay in end to stop those types and their sad fantasy messages. Just exchange messages with non-pushy and respectful males

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just avoid those who fetishise you as you are curious, they are gay/ bi men with a sad fixation on straight males. I had to change my sexuality from bicurious to gay in end to stop those types and their sad fantasy messages. Just exchange messages with non-pushy and respectful males

Thanks for this, noted! Sounds interesting...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I hope 2020 provides you with all of your needs and some of your wants!

Fantasies fulfilled.."

Thank you, me too! Happy New Year!

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By *ocoTemptationMan over a year ago

london

When I realised that I was bi-curious I wrestled with the same decision.

In the end I concluded that I would rather put off the straight couples who won't meet bi guys than the bi couples who won't meet singles guys with profiles that say they are straight.

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By *eesside lingerie wearerMan over a year ago

Middlesbrough

I think we have to accept ourselves for who we are, some will like and some won't. That's life x

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By *ark_sentinelCouple over a year ago

Andover

having lived on the same rock for a number of years, the gossip is rife and the attitudes dated in easily the middle of the last century. you may want to switch your face pics to private. there are some bi guys and couples over here so you may be able to have a local dabble but pick and choose. you'd be better off exploring in the UK for weekends away etc albeit pricy trips

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"having lived on the same rock for a number of years, the gossip is rife and the attitudes dated in easily the middle of the last century. you may want to switch your face pics to private. there are some bi guys and couples over here so you may be able to have a local dabble but pick and choose. you'd be better off exploring in the UK for weekends away etc albeit pricy trips"

Thank you, because I am discreet.. I always keep my face pictures private and send when requested. I always require one back as well. Good idea though.. just finding the right time to head off.. maybe in January!

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Keep it straight until you've met a guy. Most guys won't care what you have as your sexuality. But there's some very bigoted women and couples on here. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My first experience was when I was at school.

Then nothing for years and years until my old school friend friended me on facebook.eventually the subject of our experiment at school came up.i said I sometimes still think about it, with that he sent me a pic of his erect cock.i wrestled with the curious side then took the Plunge and advertised on here for a wank buddy.i now have two and all three of us meet up a few times a year to watch porn and mutually wank and suck.maybe looking for a wank buddy first might be the way to go

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My first experience was when I was at school.

Sounds good! Unfortunately I’m a little bit limited with my location but always happy to travel. Currently chatting to someone from here about all this stuff which is good!

Thank you all for your replies and advice, I didn’t think I’d get anything back so it’s really appreciated. Thanks!

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

So pleased that you have had some great replies. It might be worth checking your photos if you think your face pics are private, because your face is clearly visible in a couple of them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So pleased that you have had some great replies. It might be worth checking your photos if you think your face pics are private, because your face is clearly visible in a couple of them. "

Thanks, I’ve just changed that!

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By *andemanMan over a year ago

bedforshire

Thanks, good idea however with living on an island comes the difficulty of attending such places. Maybe in the future!"

Well St.Peter Port is not the biggest pond to fish in to be fair. St.Hellier much the same. Pop over to Southhampton and go to a gay Sauna. Step Naken into a hottube and close your eyes. By the time you step back out you will have made up your mind. Frankly sex is sex some is good some not so much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve swung both ways when the timing, mood and company has been right but I list myself as straight as I feel that most adequately describes me and what I’m looking for. I hate labels and pigeonholing someone just because on the odd occasion they might be open to some form of sexual contact with the same sex. Labels are for tins of soup if you want my opinion

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Straight but open minded....? Try meeting a couple where the guy is bi and see what happens.

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By *ain and sortedMan over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

"I’ve swung both ways when the timing, mood and company has been right but I list myself as straight as I feel that most adequately describes me and what I’m looking for. I hate labels and pigeonholing someone just because on the odd occasion they might be open to some form of sexual contact with the same sex. Labels are for tins of soup if you want my opinion

I agree with you there mate , about labels , at my age even the labels are getting g harder to read haha, it's swinging and should be fun and exciting for all involved. I had my first bi fun in a big bundle of bodies all rather erotic

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By *andemanMan over a year ago

bedforshire

I put Bi-curious on my profile becouse the site does not have a label that fits me. Happy tart or hendonistic flexable (well once the joints have warmed up anyway) if it feels good and people are happy thats cool bi me. Real swinging is about giving pleasure and recieving it. Too many people come on the scene only to recieve and get hung up with what they want. As a result they get hung up with labels. If your boundy says this is not something you are than thats cool and people should respect that. If its something you wsnt to answer than pose the question sort of speak and feel the answer. Just be polite if that answer is no.

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS over a year ago

Yorkshire

The 'labels' on this site are a bit rubbish really- they don't reflect people's current thinking and inclinations- well not mine anyhow! Ignore the haters and just have fun!

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By *ampolCouple over a year ago

Stevenage

We only meet bi guys, as it’s nice everyone to have fun.. but it doesn’t mean we have to play bi.. we had mmf the other day and the guys didn’t really touch each other, only DVP but it was great.. but it’s nice to have the option

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

People sometimes forget that bi people can and often play ‘straight’ as well.

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By *ampolCouple over a year ago

Stevenage

"People sometimes forget that bi people can and often play ‘straight’ as well. "
may have test that on you if your ever our way..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"People sometimes forget that bi people can and often play ‘straight’ as well. may have test that on you if your ever our way.."

As said above, I know I’m limited with my location but I don’t want to jump straight in and have fun with a single bi-male straight away. I’d like to do that with a couple.. but I’m happy to wait until the time is right for the right person/people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I just wanted to thank each and everyone of you who has posted on this topic, it’s been really interesting and comforting knowing that what I’m feeling is pretty normal at the end of the day! Changing to bi-curious was a good thing!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m back! Still not had an experience yet but just been really-reading the posts above. Great advice here and I would like to experience something at somepoint!

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By *andemanMan over a year ago

bedforshire

"I’m back! Still not had an experience yet but just been really-reading the posts above. Great advice here and I would like to experience something at somepoint!"

That might be because St.Peter Port is not really a hot bed of Bi Swinging. Try Jersey.

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS over a year ago

Bristol.

As someone who has been on the site for a number of years, I have noticed many changes ( including mine) of status/sexual preference etc..This includes guys who started out as straight and moved from bi-curious to bisexual and in a couple of cases to gay....That's quite a journey!

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By *cooby5555Man over a year ago

galway

I went from straight to bi curious when I was 50 t0 orally bi and then on to anally bi no t a bad place to be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always considered myself to be straight until a guy kissed and fondled me, best thing ever

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By *cooby5555Man over a year ago

galway

Not into kissing to be honest

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By *irgilMan over a year ago

gran canaria

any bi couples fancy a chat?

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By *ullpa72Man over a year ago

Isle of Arran

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just this its spot on as advise. Its how I tried it for my first time (but definitely it's not my last )

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I joined as straight a guy asked to suck me off I ended up sucking him and swallowing his cum I loved it and play with guys whenever I can.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m back! Still not had an experience yet but just been really-reading the posts above. Great advice here and I would like to experience something at somepoint!

That might be because St.Peter Port is not really a hot bed of Bi Swinging. Try Jersey. "

Would like to visit there again, but difficult as we now have a 14 day isolation when you enter the island from pretty much everywhere now..

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By *van ArdenMan over a year ago

Coleford, Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire.

I had my first bi experience with a young guy who was my age (mid teens) at the time and have been dabbling in MM fun on and off ever since and I have always enjoyed the sexual pleasure that only another guy can give me. I have a wife of over 45 years and kids and grandkids that are my world and that will never change and even though my wife and I enjoy a healthy sex life there is still a male dimension to my sexual needs that needs to be fulfilled.

I think that totally straight guys are very much in the minority and reading the profiles of other guys on here (some married) I get the impression that there are many of them who are at least bicurious if not fully bi.

This is only my opinion and I would neither recommend nor discourage other guys to act upon any feelings they might have for other guys. It has to be a personal decision that only they can make.

Happy swinging guys whichever path you choose.

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By *ain and sortedMan over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

As a young man always considered myself straight never really thought about cock at all, until one night at a club in a room full of people a guy asked if he could suck my cock, I was horny naked and hard so Ofcourse I said yes, loved the feeling of being naughty and watching others play, since then it's just enhanced my sexual adventures

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I joined as straight and kept on getting message from men, I was flooded with offers. Until one day I randomly met a tv. Started with a bj but it left me hooked and I kept going back. The excitement of it kept me hooked until one day went a bit further. I questioned it a lot and questioned my sexuality but coudnt find my self to do anything with a man. I do have though and like to see pic of a cock but it depends on my mood really. I just don’t label it as my main interest is females. Trans is just an interest for me to explore and have fun.

Just don’t think about it.

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By *arlee72Couple over a year ago

Ewell

I changed my profile to bi-curious fairly recently. This was off the back of some fairly selfish meets on my part - I just love blow jobs

wether from a guy or a gal so met a couple of guys from here or were happy to do just that without reciprocation, one of which gave the best I've ever experienced. We haven't had a meet since I changed it due to covid etc but I think being orally bi would certainly add another dimension to our meets.

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By *ocoTemptationMan over a year ago

london

I know exactly what you mean. When its time to start meeting couples again couples with a cock sucking hubby will be at the top of my wish list mmmmmm.

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"I joined as straight and kept on getting message from men, I was flooded with offers. Until one day I randomly met a tv. Started with a bj but it left me hooked and I kept going back. The excitement of it kept me hooked until one day went a bit further. I questioned it a lot and questioned my sexuality but coudnt find my self to do anything with a man. I do have though and like to see pic of a cock but it depends on my mood really. I just don’t label it as my main interest is females. Trans is just an interest for me to explore and have fun.

Just don’t think about it. "
. This I can understand I get plenty of messages from tv / ts , gay , bi guys and bi couples where the male half wants to do things to me with his wife watching or joining in. I tend to reply thanks for the message but I am straight generally the majority respect my boundaries but some will continue messaging hoping that I will change my mind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really am thinking about organising something soon (Guernsey is pretty alright regarding COVID) but also incredibly nervous too.. any tips? I’m usually pretty quick when it comes to ‘performing’

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By *andemanMan over a year ago

bedforshire

Just don’t think about it. . This I can understand I get plenty of messages from tv / ts , gay , bi guys and bi couples where the male half wants to do things to me with his wife watching or joining in. I tend to reply thanks for the message but I am straight generally the majority respect my boundaries but some will continue messaging hoping that I will change my mind."

Oh Bother! Sulks! Lol! Hope your well brother.

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

Oh Bother! Sulks! Lol! Hope your well brother. "
. Can be a bit frustrating getting the same messages from the same guys but I guess there are worse things in the world. I am well brother hope you are too

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By *andemanMan over a year ago

bedforshire

Oh Bother! Sulks! Lol! Hope your well brother. . Can be a bit frustrating getting the same messages from the same guys but I guess there are worse things in the world. I am well brother hope you are too"

I hear you my friend yep it is. And yes doing alright but going to be an outrageously horny fucker when this is all over!!! Yes even more than normal!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really am thinking about organising something soon (Guernsey is pretty alright regarding COVID) but also incredibly nervous too.. any tips? I’m usually pretty quick when it comes to ‘performing’"

Anyone? I was incredibly close to meeting up with someone the other day but ‘bottled’ it

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By *ullpa72Man over a year ago

Isle of Arran

I am bi and openly state it on my profile .while I can enjoy a mm meet ,I much prefer a mix mmf meet ,hard to arrange on here but so much fun .The best advice I can give to a newbi is the clubs (when they reopen) They are a relaxed atmosphere with no pressure .So you can chat and watch others and join in when you are ready .All at your own pace with the safety net of no means no in a club setting .

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By *uantumedMan over a year ago

stockport

"I hope 2020 provides you with all of your needs and some of your wants!

Fantasies fulfilled.."

Lol.

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By *avey57Man over a year ago

cheshunt

I was in your position many years ago but once I tried it I loved it and became comfortable with it in a very short time. I still class myself as straight as i would never have a full time relationship with a guy, and my preference is straight sex, however I have done everything with guys and love it. My main wank fantasy is gay sex but I do insist that guys kiss. Going from a guy to a girl and back again in the same session is exciting

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By *orthfieldsNickMan over a year ago

West London

I bottled it a couple of times before I had my first meet, but then I realised that I’d already crossed the line in my head so might as well go through with it. I came pretty quick as I was very nervous but the guy was cool with it, and I still sucked his cock afterwards.

From my experience I’d say just go for it, I hated been curious and I’m so glad I tried after fantasising for so long. I don’t know if/when I’ll do it again but I will always be glad that I’ve tried at least once

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks for everyone’s posts, most appreciated. I have been in two minds whether or not to keep ‘straight’ on my profile or ‘bi-curious’. For now I’ve changed it to the latter.

I was going to meet someone about a week ago, and actually got in my car driving towards his place. The directions were fairly poor and there was no face picture or anything prior.. I know it’s a small island here but after driving down a wrong lane and getting completely lost, I got frustrated and just drove back home. I don’t know why people can’t just be helpful and either give a phone number or face picture.. etc.

This is something that I still want to try, and need to bite the bullet. I’ve just spent a couple of minutes watching male masturbation which turned me on quite a lot..

Suggestions to move this forward?

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