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Guide for single guys (simplified)
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Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
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Why title the thread 'guide for single guys' if it apllies to all ? |
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over a year ago
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"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
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over a year ago
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"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
Why title the thread 'guide for single guys' if it apllies to all ? "
It's the demographic that needs most help. |
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"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
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Smh
Every guy would go for a quick fuck with every woman
No straight guy is bi (not gay if you don't push back)
Could honestly be looking to make friends and get to know a lady but still be up for a quick fuck...
"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself."
This makes so little sense to a guy that I can't even explain why it's useless advice (definitely not having woken up 10 mins ago!) and yet is perfect logic for a woman!
Guide for guys written by a woman smh
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
Why title the thread 'guide for single guys' if it apllies to all ?
It's the demographic that needs most help. "
There are lots more guys on here than other groups, so logically there will be more profiles that folk may consider them to be lacking.
I look at single ladies and somd couples profiles and their profiles are often just as bad.
Another day another thread taking a swipe at single guys.  |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
Why title the thread 'guide for single guys' if it apllies to all ?
It's the demographic that needs most help.
There are lots more guys on here than other groups, so logically there will be more profiles that folk may consider them to be lacking.
I look at single ladies and somd couples profiles and their profiles are often just as bad.
Another day another thread taking a swipe at single guys. "
Yes, but women and couples with shit profiles will still easily find people who want to meet them. Men won't. That's not a swipe at men, it's just a fact on this site. |
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"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
Why title the thread 'guide for single guys' if it apllies to all ?
It's the demographic that needs most help.
There are lots more guys on here than other groups, so logically there will be more profiles that folk may consider them to be lacking.
I look at single ladies and somd couples profiles and their profiles are often just as bad.
Another day another thread taking a swipe at single guys. "
Those 'single ladies' and 'couples' profiles are probably single guys. They stand out a mile as fake.
If a thread makes you feel insecure then avoid it. Lots of men need help and advice on here as they genuinely do not have a clue. It's tragic and laughable how some men (yes men!) behave. The occassional single fem and couple may fit into that group but it's rare. |
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Guide for guys written by a woman smh
Wrong."
Well I just saw what looked like a female arse at a glance. Reading the word couple was beyond my capacity of cognitive processing at that point of the morning
Whilst what I wrote is tongue in cheek, there's a serious point under there somewhere.
Hopefully I'll be awake enough later to come back and articulate why advice about not trying to please the woman and working out what you think she would want from a guy, in initial interactions, causes a short circuit for a guy approaching women.  |
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tried site very briefly last year. just came back.
guys theres a lot of single men on here. be realistic and patient.theres a lot of choice so unless you stand out you'll get no where.
and be respectful. |
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Hopefully I'll be awake enough later to come back and articulate why advice about not trying to please the woman and working out what you think she would want from a guy, in initial interactions, causes a short circuit for a guy approaching women. "
But a bloke just telling anyone what he thinks they want to hear IS the problem. They are faking it, better to concentrate of people that want what you have to offer. If no-one wants that then find another hobby. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
Smh
Every guy would go for a quick fuck with every woman
No straight guy is bi (not gay if you don't push back)
Could honestly be looking to make friends and get to know a lady but still be up for a quick fuck...
"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself."
This makes so little sense to a guy that I can't even explain why it's useless advice (definitely not having woken up 10 mins ago!) and yet is perfect logic for a woman!
Guide for guys written by a woman smh
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Its written by a woman and your point being? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
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As a single woman
This is a small minority of folk
Most here are honest
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"tried site very briefly last year. just came back.
guys theres a lot of single men on here. be realistic and patient.theres a lot of choice so unless you stand out you'll get no where.
and be respectful. "
The ratio of men on the site and Internet is greater
For me it will always be quality over quantity |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
Why title the thread 'guide for single guys' if it apllies to all ?
It's the demographic that needs most help.
There are lots more guys on here than other groups, so logically there will be more profiles that folk may consider them to be lacking.
I look at single ladies and somd couples profiles and their profiles are often just as bad.
Another day another thread taking a swipe at single guys.
Those 'single ladies' and 'couples' profiles are probably single guys. They stand out a mile as fake.
If a thread makes you feel insecure then avoid it. Lots of men need help and advice on here as they genuinely do not have a clue. It's tragic and laughable how some men (yes men!) behave. The occassional single fem and couple may fit into that group but it's rare."
So my single profile is fake 
Bit of a rash judgement |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
Why title the thread 'guide for single guys' if it apllies to all ?
It's the demographic that needs most help.
There are lots more guys on here than other groups, so logically there will be more profiles that folk may consider them to be lacking.
I look at single ladies and somd couples profiles and their profiles are often just as bad.
Another day another thread taking a swipe at single guys. "
She did say other people in her thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
Smh
Every guy would go for a quick fuck with every woman
No straight guy is bi (not gay if you don't push back)
Could honestly be looking to make friends and get to know a lady but still be up for a quick fuck...
"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself."
This makes so little sense to a guy that I can't even explain why it's useless advice (definitely not having woken up 10 mins ago!) and yet is perfect logic for a woman!
Guide for guys written by a woman smh
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Well they're always asking for a fems advice.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very good. Also in general don't be a twat, the site owes you nothing and especially not sex, that part is down to you and the effort you put in."
Damn, I might struggle with this one |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds |
"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
Why title the thread 'guide for single guys' if it apllies to all ?
It's the demographic that needs most help.
There are lots more guys on here than other groups, so logically there will be more profiles that folk may consider them to be lacking.
I look at single ladies and somd couples profiles and their profiles are often just as bad.
Another day another thread taking a swipe at single guys.
Those 'single ladies' and 'couples' profiles are probably single guys. They stand out a mile as fake.
If a thread makes you feel insecure then avoid it. Lots of men need help and advice on here as they genuinely do not have a clue. It's tragic and laughable how some men (yes men!) behave. The occassional single fem and couple may fit into that group but it's rare."
Thread makes me feel insecure, let me think.. nope ..if it was a thread that was specificto me ..maybe I'd look at it differently. as its a generic old topic thats been done countless times, thats likely to not be read by those its aimed at .. let me think ...nope
I'm good with that.
Fakes stand out.. guys need help haven't a clue all very possible, (same for some couples and ladies) then why muddy the waters and make it more difficult for others to figure out.
I often say on threads similar to this of whichever group they reference they'll reap what they sow.  |
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"Very good. Also in general don't be a twat, the site owes you nothing and especially not sex, that part is down to you and the effort you put in.
Damn, I might struggle with this one "
ha ha well at least you're honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
"
They way this is wrote is about honesty!
Are some people missing the point? |
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Remember you'll only get out of fab as much as you put in to it. Make the effort to stand out, in a good way. Be the composer of the one message she replies to out of the 30 in her inbox after a hard day at work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very good. Also in general don't be a twat, the site owes you nothing and especially not sex, that part is down to you and the effort you put in.
Damn, I might struggle with this one ha ha well at least you're honest"
Do you think my honesty will cancel out the twat part?! |
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I never understand the logic of telling the ‘bad’ guys how to get meets ie be something they aren’t . Surely it’s better to let them be themselves so you get to know the real person rather than a clone off the good guys on here. |
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"Very good. Also in general don't be a twat, the site owes you nothing and especially not sex, that part is down to you and the effort you put in.
Damn, I might struggle with this one ha ha well at least you're honest
Do you think my honesty will cancel out the twat part?!"
Honestly, erm no |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very good. Also in general don't be a twat, the site owes you nothing and especially not sex, that part is down to you and the effort you put in.
Damn, I might struggle with this one ha ha well at least you're honest
Do you think my honesty will cancel out the twat part?!
Honestly, erm no"
Okay in this instance I think I should lie then |
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"I never understand the logic of telling the ‘bad’ guys how to get meets ie be something they aren’t . Surely it’s better to let them be themselves so you get to know the real person rather than a clone off the good guys on here."
I’m starting to think like this. Why help the idiots to get meets when there are loads of great guys already. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont out whinging updates on. Gets a preemptive block from us.
Also sending "fuck today" when we haven't said we are looking for one gets you blocked and therefore not considered those times when we impulsively fancy some dp and just want an extra cock (within reason, we have standards). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Read the profile.
Then, read the profile again.
Once you are sure you've done that, read the profile yet again.
Create a witty, individual message that actually mentions points in that profile that by now you have some understanding of. This may take time and effort, but surely its potentially worth it.
Also, have a well written profile that actually advertises you in a good light. That makes you someone that others are intrigued by.
A few photos in your profile are a big plus, and make sure they are yours and not a random German model (been there, seen this). Have one as your profile photo, being Mr Silhouette is not going to work.
This feels like the basics that surely should go as common sense, but so many just don't...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its is hard being a single guy on here. So glad to take any help I can get on here
I'm always editing my profile changing thing around trying to just get it just right. |
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By *udosMan
over a year ago
hull |
As an "older guy" on here who is often outside of the age range of lots of couples and singles, I feel I do ok.
I dont have a 12" penis or a super gym fit body !
The reason for that I believe is I am always polite and respectful to everyone I contact and a decent length intelligent correctly spelled message usually gets a polite reply, whether a yes or a no.
I never spit out my dummy and accept every reply graciously.
I always send a further polite "thank you" message to any no replies.
Just talk to people as in a normal conversation if you met someone elsewhere......works for me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also, read the damn profile  "
I see that a lot, I do read profiles, most have disclaimers in them. Lots have if u don’t respond I’m not interested.
Far to many women’s profiles state what they don’t like as opposed to what they looking for.
Perhaps the genuine single women swingers can state what the look for not their dislikes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also, read the damn profile
I see that a lot, I do read profiles, most have disclaimers in them. Lots have if u don’t respond I’m not interested.
Far to many women’s profiles state what they don’t like as opposed to what they looking for.
Perhaps the genuine single women swingers can state what the look for not their dislikes."
Couldn’t agree more. I know single guys are under pressure here but there is a quiet acceptance that you can treat us like shit and we can’t complain cos there’s loads of us... |
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"Also, read the damn profile
I see that a lot, I do read profiles, most have disclaimers in them. Lots have if u don’t respond I’m not interested.
Far to many women’s profiles state what they don’t like as opposed to what they looking for.
Perhaps the genuine single women swingers can state what the look for not their dislikes.
Couldn’t agree more. I know single guys are under pressure here but there is a quiet acceptance that you can treat us like shit and we can’t complain cos there’s loads of us..."
We have exactly what we're not looking for at the top, and then further down what we are looking for, it's done that way so we know how far people have been bothered to read.
But if more people followed the profiles it's easier. We always try and reply to those who've read what we've put, it's the ones who clearly haven't we ignore. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Also, read the damn profile
I see that a lot, I do read profiles, most have disclaimers in them. Lots have if u don’t respond I’m not interested.
Far to many women’s profiles state what they don’t like as opposed to what they looking for.
Perhaps the genuine single women swingers can state what the look for not their dislikes."
Tried this and it doesn't work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Basic principles for all are approach a person or persons as you would in real life
If your approach on here would get you arrested or slapped in real life you’re probably going to get the online equivalent |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
E.G.
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
"
This  |
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"Stop trying to please everyone and just be honest about yourself.
Works for everyone really, not just guys
Married? Say so.
Bi? Say so.
Looking for a quick fuck? Say so.
Looking for a relationship? Say so.
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works for everyone? No |
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Hopefully I'll be awake enough later to come back and articulate why advice about not trying to please the woman and working out what you think she would want from a guy, in initial interactions, causes a short circuit for a guy approaching women.
But a bloke just telling anyone what he thinks they want to hear IS the problem. They are faking it, better to concentrate of people that want what you have to offer. If no-one wants that then find another hobby."
You're definitely right but much of the male female relationship dynamic is about the man working out what the woman wants and being interested in her. So whilst a guy pretending to be someone is isn't is a huge problem as you say, however I think a man tries to work out which aspects of him will interest a particular lady. Its not a simple as a guy saying hey I'm ABC take me as I am. That's how women work but men have to work out which part of them, which strengths, abilities, 'selling points' a woman they are approaching will be interested in.
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