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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello everyone I have a vanilla wife. I’ve been trying to help her be with other men. Anyone know how to change a women’s mind? All advice will be taken and appreciated. |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
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"Hello everyone I have a vanilla wife. I’ve been trying to help her be with other men. Anyone know how to change a women’s mind? All advice will be taken and appreciated. "
Don't try and change her mind, she either wants to try it or she doesn't - your just being selfish and thinking of your own enjoyment; best thing is rather than asking a forum of strangers how to 'change her mind' why not sit down and have a grown-up conversation with her.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have had a discussion with her about this. I’m not being selfish. I want her to experience a beautiful thing here. It’s really for her benefit. She was raised to be the way she is (vanilla). She’s never even been any where close to what I’m discussing here. If she tried and didn’t like it. Then it’s over b |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
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"I have had a discussion with her about this. I’m not being selfish. I want her to experience a beautiful thing here. It’s really for her benefit. She was raised to be the way she is (vanilla). She’s never even been any where close to what I’m discussing here. If she tried and didn’t like it. Then it’s over b"
So if you've had the discussion, why do you feel the need to change her mind? Just because you think its a beautiful experience that doesn't automatically make it that for her. Most of us are raised vanilla, and being forced, or what may seem forced/coerced, into doing something, ultimately might end up being the end of a relationship - its a simple case of accepting, and respecting other peoples boundaries. i.e. being a normal decent person!
Again, speak to her, have a proper grown-up conversation, and if needs be accept that what 'you' want might not be what 'she' wants and leave it at that - I'm sure if she feels, or wants to explore it at a future date then, no doubt, she'll let you know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello everyone I have a vanilla wife. I’ve been trying to help her be with other men. Anyone know how to change a women’s mind? All advice will be taken and appreciated. "
I would leave her alone and not push her into anything she doesnt want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello everyone I have a vanilla wife. I’ve been trying to help her be with other men. Anyone know how to change a women’s mind? All advice will be taken and appreciated. "
I just wondered how you would feel if she interpreted your 'helping her' as not being enough for you. This would be irriversable and she might end up leaving you anyway if she started enjoying herself more with other men. Be careful what you wish for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had a discussion with her about this. I’m not being selfish. I want her to experience a beautiful thing here. It’s really for her benefit. She was raised to be the way she is (vanilla). She’s never even been any where close to what I’m discussing here. If she tried and didn’t like it. Then it’s over b"
You sound like you are being infinitely selfish to be honest. Does she know that you have a profile on here? Obviously she doesn't sound interested in the slightest! Are you wanting to make her for your pleasure? If you have discussed it and she has said noe why can't you respect her wishes? And do you seriously mean that it's over? In which case don't make her do something she doesn't want to to reconsider your life choices just be honest about it all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello everyone I have a vanilla wife. I’ve been trying to help her be with other men. Anyone know how to change a women’s mind? All advice will be taken and appreciated. "
She should probably divorce you, not accepting "no" when told several times is a massive red flag especially when it's to do with something sexual |
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"I have had a discussion with her about this. I’m not being selfish. I want her to experience a beautiful thing here. It’s really for her benefit. She was raised to be the way she is (vanilla). She’s never even been any where close to what I’m discussing here. If she tried and didn’t like it. Then it’s over b"
If you want her to be able to explore her sexuality in an uninhibited way on her terms that's great. If you want her to express her sexuality on your terms that not good.
Have you considered enabling her to be more open in a way she wants to be? I find that emotional intimacy helps a lot there. If a woman feels loved, supported and accepted for herself then she will open up. If she feels you want her to be a certain way she will shut down and feel that you don't value the real her.
Try exploring with her in a direction she wants to go.
Good luck to you both |
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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago
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Is your marriage open? She knows you have sex with others?
For all you know, her kink may be having illicit affairs behind your back. Or she may prefer knitting.
Coercion isn't sexy, as others have said.
Tbh it usually ends badly anyway -wife gets loads of sex, husband is lucky to get a look in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wow. I'd divorce you're arse. No means no in any context. Shes clearly not interested yet you continue to pressure. How charming.  "
Did you sit in a pile of sugar? Cause you have a pretty sweet butt!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, you can’t make someone into something they are not, especially so in this context.
My wife would love for me to be into BDSM, but I’m not and never will be as it does nothing for me at all. |
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Why are you trying to coerce her into something she clearly doesn’t want? You could traumatise her for the rest of her life if you make her do this. Do you realise if someone consents to something only under duress, it’s not true consent, and you and any man party to this will be participants in sexual assault? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I sometimes think that when a man (and it is always a man) posts about wanting to convince their wife to swing despite the fact they clearly dont want to, their motivation is fuck all to do with their wife's enjoyment and everything to do with the fact that swinging as a couple is way easier than swinging as a man and opens up the possibility of them shagging other women. I suspect the wife probably figures this out too. |
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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
Staffordshire |
"Wow. I'd divorce you're arse. No means no in any context. Shes clearly not interested yet you continue to pressure. How charming.
Did you sit in a pile of sugar? Cause you have a pretty sweet butt! "
Oh I'm always falling over onto sugar. I'm sure it's what makes it grow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wow. I'd divorce you're arse. No means no in any context. Shes clearly not interested yet you continue to pressure. How charming.
Did you sit in a pile of sugar? Cause you have a pretty sweet butt!
Oh I'm always falling over onto sugar. I'm sure it's what makes it grow. "
If you were a fruit, you would be called a fine-apple!  |
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"I sometimes think that when a man (and it is always a man) posts about wanting to convince their wife to swing despite the fact they clearly dont want to, their motivation is fuck all to do with their wife's enjoyment and everything to do with the fact that swinging as a couple is way easier than swinging as a man and opens up the possibility of them shagging other women. I suspect the wife probably figures this out too. "
THIS 100% we choose to be on here together as playing separate wasnt an option but we BOTH were onboard ,near impossible to do if both are not fully into this lifestyle
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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago
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"I sometimes think that when a man (and it is always a man) posts about wanting to convince their wife to swing despite the fact they clearly dont want to, their motivation is fuck all to do with their wife's enjoyment and everything to do with the fact that swinging as a couple is way easier than swinging as a man and opens up the possibility of them shagging other women. I suspect the wife probably figures this out too. "
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
"Hello everyone I have a vanilla wife. I’ve been trying to help her be with other men. Anyone know how to change a women’s mind? All advice will be taken and appreciated. "
I thought I was vanilla until I went to a club. Omg it was mine blowing And worked wonders for my confidence. My man was not new to it. He made me feel at ease and was patient not pushy. It was at a pace I was in control of and free to walk away at any time and do only what I was comfortable with. This worked. I had an open mind and he respected that. I doubt play at clubs often but there are boundaries and they are for us both. U may find she doesn't want to do it or go. Respect it. Push and u may jeopardise your whole relationships |
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
"Hello everyone I have a vanilla wife. I’ve been trying to help her be with other men. Anyone know how to change a women’s mind? All advice will be taken and appreciated.
I thought I was vanilla until I went to a club. Omg it was mine blowing And worked wonders for my confidence. My man was not new to it. He made me feel at ease and was patient not pushy. It was at a pace I was in control of and free to walk away at any time and do only what I was comfortable with. This worked. I had an open mind and he respected that. I doubt play at clubs often but there are boundaries and they are for us both. U may find she doesn't want to do it or go. Respect it. Push and u may jeopardise your whole relationships "
. We play as a couple my partner only play with me. Maybe she feels like I do and won't share her man but u may enjoy watching her play if she wishes |
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"Hello everyone I have a vanilla wife. I’ve been trying to help her be with other men. Anyone know how to change a women’s mind? All advice will be taken and appreciated. "
Omg.
There is nothing you can do or should do.
You ask she says no you respect that.
Coercion is sexual assault. |
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You cannot change her mind. You can try and talk to her about it but if she doesn’t want to try it you can not make her. As part of a couple we both appreciate at times the other might not want to do anything with someone else (not happened yet) but we respect each other and not force what we want on the other. You may not think it but you are being selfish not listening to her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You cannot change her mind. You can try and talk to her about it but if she doesn’t want to try it you can not make her. As part of a couple we both appreciate at times the other might not want to do anything with someone else (not happened yet) but we respect each other and not force what we want on the other. You may not think it but you are being selfish not listening to her"
I still dont understand how vixens can be domesticated! |
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"You cannot change her mind. You can try and talk to her about it but if she doesn’t want to try it you can not make her. As part of a couple we both appreciate at times the other might not want to do anything with someone else (not happened yet) but we respect each other and not force what we want on the other. You may not think it but you are being selfish not listening to her
I still dont understand how vixens can be domesticated! "
It takes a lot of practice but the secret is in training the hubby to do things |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
"Hello everyone I have a vanilla wife. I’ve been trying to help her be with other men. Anyone know how to change a women’s mind? All advice will be taken and appreciated. "
I echo everything that has been said here about changing her mind.
I strongly suggest, if you want to enhance your love life with her, that you join her in her world. Enjoy some of the benefits of loving, vanilla, sensual, sexy togetherness. Appreciate her for who she is without judgement about why she is like that .. put all your efforts into that, exactly that.
You may be surprised at what is ther.
You can suggest and express away but whatever you do DON'T try to change her mind! Listen to her. |
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