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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thinking of attending a club on my own, but not sure what to expect. Doesn't help that I get a bit anxious in these kind of environments.
Is it normal for a single guy to attend a club by himself?
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Lots of singles go to clubs by themselves. Good clubs have host/esses that will give you a tour when you go and explain the rules. Look on the website of the club you want to go to to see a night which you are interested in. Good luck and I hope you enjoy x |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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It’s very normal OP. Probably better as you are forced to talk to others rather than just the person you came in with. The hosts are normally very friendly and show you around. I chose one with a sauna for my first visit, so I could just go in there if I didn’t end up chatting with anyone. |
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"It’s very normal OP. Probably better as you are forced to talk to others rather than just the person you came in with. The hosts are normally very friendly and show you around. I chose one with a sauna for my first visit, so I could just go in there if I didn’t end up chatting with anyone. "
I think OP this is wonderful advice and one with a sauna area means you can relax and gain confidence before mingling x |
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I went by myself the first time. Just go in with no expectation of anything happening, be friendly to everyone, have a wander around, sit at the bar or somewhere central with a drink and just smile at people when they look at you and you’ll find yourself at ease when people casually start chatting to you. I know that’s easier said than done but the hardest part is going in! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s very common for men to go on their own. The club should show you round and tell you how it works. Just don’t expect a Roman style free for all. You’ll still have to pull like at a normal club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When a club allows single guys the place tends to be milling with them, so you won't be the odd one out. Expect to be one of many single guys and make peace with the fact that you'll probably not be having much "fun" unless you've pre-arranged something.
Once you've set good expectations with yourself, up your chances: first, get there (reasonably) early. When there's less people there then you'll find it easier to strike up a conversation, and those first few conversations are the hardest. Talk to anyone and everyone - other guys, too. If there's a bar, sit at it - don't be pushy, but don't sit in the corner or (worse) in a play room, waiting for something to happen. Talk to everyone that is open to talking to you, and make sure they know that you're an alright guy.
If you've done the ground work early then people know you, they are at ease with you, they're gonna find it easier and more comfortable to flirt with you, or be flirted with. I'm not gonna tell you how to get laid, but I can assure you that if you take the socialising seriously then you're really gonna up your chances of leaving with a massive grin instead of just a satisfied smile at the end of the night. |
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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago
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"Thinking of attending a club on my own, but not sure what to expect. Doesn't help that I get a bit anxious in these kind of environments.
Is it normal for a single guy to attend a club by himself?
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Very normal, you'd be very popular at events we normally attend MrsXOXO  |
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