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Too many people shooting for the stars...

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hmmmm how do I get this off my chest without being rude? I've found that there seem to be many individuals who seem to be shooting for the stars (as in aiming too high/expecting/wanting too much). Now, I'm a single, average looking male and I fully understand that us single males outweigh the single women/couples. But I've been here a few months (with this profile) and a year with my first profile (gave up the first time round as I had literally zero success/interest).

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

You may be thinking, what's the problem? Well, this particular lady is a bbw herself and a very large bbw if I'm honest, without being too rude. I'm sorry but it just really gets to me, how people expect you to be this and that, when they aren't anything special themselves!

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would have been best to keep it on your chest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I rem_mber you ranting at people on other forum posts. Your problem may just well be your attitude and nothing else. Swinging isn’t going to suit everyone, and you may just well fall into that.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

The audacity of those bitches

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I don't think most women are looking for exceptional men OP. What they are looking for is a man who is engaging, polite, considerate and respectful. You know, standard decent person stuff. Posting on the forum and going to socials definitely help you stand out (as an aside of sorts).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hmmmm how do I get this off my chest without being rude? I've found that there seem to be many individuals who seem to be shooting for the stars (as in aiming too high/expecting/wanting too much). Now, I'm a single, average looking male and I fully understand that us single males outweigh the single women/couples. But I've been here a few months (with this profile) and a year with my first profile (gave up the first time round as I had literally zero success/interest).

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

I’m a fat woman, and I fuck men of that description often.

Just because you may not find a woman attractive, doesn’t mean that other men think the same.

I’d suggest you try not to be so bitter (not an attractive quality) and mind your own business.

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By *mberWoman over a year ago

Preston

OP you are being too rude.

Why shouldn't any woman (or man) be able to express a preference any more than someone you deem to be more worthy based on looks?

We all have things we like, we all have things we don't like. And that's really OK.

I don't like people who put others down because of their body mass! That's my choice!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

* Gets the popcorn out *

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would have been best to keep it on your chest.

Lmao

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"* Gets the popcorn out *"

I got vodka. I'm willing to share if you are

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By *elshsunsWoman over a year ago

Flintshire

I’ve put the kettle on

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By *hickennchipsWoman over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

Sorry, you are too short for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"* Gets the popcorn out *"

I quite like forums now hahaha

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By *olden RatioWoman over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I can assume that this post will achieve only one thing

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

See as a couple I can see why single men find it hard!! We maybe arent the most attractive people on fab we certainly arent ultra skinny, etc.

HOWEVER... We are respectful and nice people!! We do have some expectations of single guys and most cant even seem to achieve those.

1. Actually be SINGLE. At least half the single guys who message us are playing away which is clearly listed as no thank you on our profile.

2. Speak to use with intelligent conversation. I'd love to be able to share the content of our inbox with people because seriously?! 90% of these opening messaging will not get responded to due to being illiterate or vulgar.

3. A dick pic is not a hello!! Its a sea of penises in our inbox.

So yeah we are picky because we want a single respectful man!! We took the filters off just over a week ago and had maybe 3 single guys at the max we would pursue!! Mostly older guys as they seem the ones most capable of respectful conversation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Such a shame the ladies you don’t find attractive don’t find you attractive either. Rem_mber football at school, when everyone wanted to be in the team but some people weren’t good enough. Well it’s the same here, some people just aren’t desirable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

Hmmm how do I get this off MY chest without being rude? I'm a big girl. Like it or lump it. Just because I'm a big girl am I meant to be grateful that anyone could bear to fuck me? Not being funny love, but have a wee look at my man

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Complaining that you have approached women you don't even apparently find attractive and that you think they're out of order for not being attracted to you is not an attractive look.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

Yeah? I don't consider anyone under six foot and I specialise in men with very good muscle tone. I've had a look at the figures and I can confirm that the number of fucks given about your opinion on this matter is : 0. Obviously I'll update if it changes but I wouldn't hold your breath...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fact is most men will fuck anything that is female a fact that women on here can use to there advantage x

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By *oyo5053Man over a year ago

Bridgwater

Hmmm thankfully I must not be in the 'most men' category!!

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman over a year ago

Pontypridd

Are you suggesting that us less attractive ladies should stop fucking the studs we’re getting and settle for giving you a sympathy shag? I’m failing to see what’s in it for me.

Fab is what it is. It won’t change. Women, even fat inferior ones like me, are in demand. And despite what you think a lot of us prefer average guys with good profiles and attitudes. Join in with socials and go to clubs to get noticed. And upgrade your attitude if you want a good reputation in the community. Guys with bad reps get known and avoided.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So fat people aren't allowed to have a type? They should just settle for anyone who is ready and willing to fuck them?

What makes you say that she wasn't anything special? Because she was big? Is that how you measure someone's worth? I'm not surprised you struggled on here

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By *kyhighstilettoCouple over a year ago

Cheltenham

Strong contender for the most ill-advised forum post in living memory

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fact is most men will fuck anything that is female a fact that women on here can use to there advantage x"

Maybe the men you attract are of that kind. The ones I meet are very discerning.

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By *oyo5053Man over a year ago

Bridgwater

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m not special at all however there is a height requirement on our profile....for single men they must be my height or taller. We haven’t struggled to get meets....Vixen

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman over a year ago

Victoria, London

too young for me, and the thread seems to have proved it

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By *adeiteWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire

I think I walked into the wrong bar

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My preference is rugby build..

Why should I alter what I like?

We all can't like each other..

My preference is I don't like mushrooms..doesn't mean i Don't want a fungi..

All folk can be complicated not fit into your box..

But this is fab.... Accept it or au revoir

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

God forbid us bigger ladies have preferences,because we are meant to be grateful for any attention we get ....

I don't think myself anything special but I get messages from some men on here who are deluded if they think that they are what I'm looking for. However, fair play to them and I wish them well .

It goes both ways I guess

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By *ablo minibar123Woman over a year ago

I know quite a few guys of average build, average height and shock horror they are even over 50, and you know what, not only do they not struggle for meets but people actually seek them out. So hun if you aren't getting much luck then just maybe it's your bitterness and attitude putting people off.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple over a year ago

Maidstone

Bitter much?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

I will try to make this to the point so sorry if it comes out a little harsh but you basically just said that fat woman should just take whatever action they can and not hope for better.

So firstly and this is to all single men. THIS IS NOT A DATING APP. Yes there are hook up elements to it but it is a specialist social media site. As with the rest of the world, there are entire sites for you to troll on.

Secondly feel free to look at the pictures of me (a reject on the set of hairy bikers) and the 6 foot Goddess I sleep next to. I didn't get her because I look like Chris Hemsworth.

So instead of ranting on here like some entitled prat 5 minutes from a harassment charge. Take a look at how you can better yourself or in the words of the immortal Alyssa Edwards 'don't get bitter, get better.'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My bf is a 6ft 2 rugby type. We once met a couple where the lady specifically didn't like men of that build and had a preference for shorter, wiry guys. The opposite of what I like. I think that for me they were the most enjoyable couple we've ever played with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Secondly feel free to look at the pictures of me (a reject on the set of hairy bikers) and the 6 foot Goddess I sleep next to. I didn't get her because I look like Chris Hemsworth.

I dunno what you did, mate but you must have done it like a boss. She's a daisy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Secondly feel free to look at the pictures of me (a reject on the set of hairy bikers) and the 6 foot Goddess I sleep next to. I didn't get her because I look like Chris Hemsworth.

I dunno what you did, mate but you must have done it like a boss. She's a daisy

Thank you. I am kind. I do housework. I show up oh and I eat pussy like a starving lesbian at an all you can eat buffet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow, I enjoyed the roasting of the op, think he may have regretted posting that lol.

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By *ollydoesWoman over a year ago

Shangri-La

Id put your coat back on now if i were you...i csnt see yku staying long after this.

And i hope the lady your quoting above dosnt see this either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its like shooting fish in a barrel.....

Wonder if it's a pre unlos thread

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By *ablo minibar123Woman over a year ago

"Wow, I enjoyed the roasting of the op, think he may have regretted posting that lol. "

Na he must have realised it wouldn't be a popular opinion, so he's probably loving the attention.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

Who do these fussy women on fab think they are ?

They should be named and shamed for having the audacity to have preferences over who they flutter their fanny at.

Don't they know that female swingers should drop their knickers for anyone that shows the remotest interest in them

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

I'm a fat woman and I shoot for the stars and I don't miss, why would I fuck someone I wasn't attracted to just to make men like you feel better? The issue is your attitude not the women on fab.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Secondly feel free to look at the pictures of me (a reject on the set of hairy bikers) and the 6 foot Goddess I sleep next to. I didn't get her because I look like Chris Hemsworth.

I dunno what you did, mate but you must have done it like a boss. She's a daisy

Thank you. I am kind. I do housework. I show up oh and I eat pussy like a starving lesbian at an all you can eat buffet."

I look after mine like a king. I think it gives me as much pleasure as it gives him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Before I get abused lol I do think some guys find it difficult to communicate with a message, I have had socials which have gone well, one I never thought it would lead to anything but... There you go I don't have a preference a good sense of humour is really attractive and a personality

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Fact is most men will fuck anything that is female a fact that women on here can use to there advantage x"

You must really hate singles, most of your posts are snide digs at us. We are as entitled to be here as you are.

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

Wow just wow! This post is... No stop. I have no words just wow

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Fact is most men will fuck anything that is female a fact that women on here can use to there advantage x

You must really hate singles, most of your posts are snide digs at us. We are as entitled to be here as you are."

Maybe I should have put some of your posts, not most.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bore off

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By *ancardiff7Man over a year ago

Near Cowbridge

I'm not particularly exceptional.

I get occasional meets.

I'm not a complete flange.

Can you see the pattern emerging OP?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've googled it, but so far I can't find the link between a person's right to be selective and their dress size. I'm wondering if size 12 can be super fussy, 12-14 moderately fussy, 16-18 a little bit fussy and size 20+ have no rights and should be grateful of the attention.

Would that suffice OP?

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

"Bore off

Lol done himself a great favour with this don't you think? Should have you single ladies lining up at his door. Lol dear me

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By *akeheelsTV/TS over a year ago

dalkeith

"I can assume that this post will achieve only one thing "

And for me, that was clicking on your profile and going "ohhhh, artful hotty photos"

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By *rmrs1234Couple over a year ago

Waterford

noone be interested with that attitude anyway for sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP this is not like real life or a dating app.

For single women they can get whatever they want on here because there are so many guys relative to women. It’s their choice

For couples if they’re looking for a single male then they’re probably looking for someone special; in a fair number of cases vwe or bbc, because it’s a fantasy thing so they maybe don’t want an average guy joining them. Plus a couple, due to the numbers, also have a choice of lots of different guys.

The odds are stacked so much in favour of single women/couples that you’ll probably more likely meet what you’re looking for on a hook up site.

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"Hmmmm how do I get this off my chest without being rude "

Apparently, not like that.

You're welcome.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs here. We go for average. I am not big enough to be classed as bbw but I am overweight and lack confidence with my body so gym fit guys intimidate me and I don't punch above our weight. Even when I've told guys I feel they are out of our league and they have still tried to push for a meet (suggesting they still like the look of me) I have rejected them. In messaging I got/get a confidence boost but won't risk seeing a look of disappointment if we met lol.

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By *xperimentalistMan over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I could give you a detailed response to this that may aid you, but I get the feeling you wouldn't be listening.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I honestly was thinking the forums have becoming boring lately....

Then this thread happened..... thank you Op

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Would have been best to keep it on your chest.

Why be afraid to speak the truth....this is an open forum, where one should be able to voice one’s opinions or concerns .....and not be shot down in flames

Or is it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well it's not the truth. It's just an unpleasant opinion from someone who's annoyed that people are having sex with people that he thinks they shouldn't be having sex with. I don't think anyone's even mentioned this but let's hope the woman he's fat shamed and whose profile he's quoted from doesn't read the thread and recognise herself. Tbh if no one had challenged it I think that would be a huge worry.

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Well it's not the truth. It's just an unpleasant opinion from someone who's annoyed that people are having sex with people that he thinks they shouldn't be having sex with. I don't think anyone's even mentioned this but let's hope the woman he's fat shamed and whose profile he's quoted from doesn't read the thread and recognise herself. Tbh if no one had challenged it I think that would be a huge worry. "

So if it is not truth why worry yourself about it?...

I am afraid I have too many real life worries to worry about what people write on here....

Forums are for discussions....if you wish to join in on a particular discussion (s) you do so knowing that someone, somewhere will challenge you...if you do not do well with challenge then do not partake ....simples....

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I rem_mber you ranting at people on other forum posts. Your problem may just well be your attitude and nothing else. Swinging isn’t going to suit everyone, and you may just well fall into that. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So if it is not truth why worry yourself about it?...

I am afraid I have too many real life worries to worry about what people write on here....

Then why are you posting? And I didn't see your post as a challenge. I was just pointing out that the OP isn't speaking the truth as per your post. I'm not looking for an argument, if you are I'm afraid you'll have to try someone else. I'm watching a football game and not engaged enough.

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple over a year ago

Cheltenham

So if it is not truth why worry yourself about it?...

I am afraid I have too many real life worries to worry about what people write on here....

Looking for an argument? Hardly....I am posting to simply say that everyone is entitled to an opinion, and an opportunity to voice it....

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By *orkiecplCouple over a year ago

York

The OP attitude really boils my blood , we all human and have wants and desires personal to ourselves, the size of anyone male or female is they own business and no one else least of all the very rude OP , besides our souls or personalities are carried in our heads our bodies are just a vessel to carry our souls. Get to know a person really well and they body type won't matter anymore if their have the right sort of personality that matches your. The OP is so shallow and rude it's no wonder he struggling on fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm below average, not been here long and doing ok to be honest so maybe it's just you?

Maybe re work your profile as it's mainly about what you want and not about what you can offer.

Maybe try to stand out when writing messages and get a few more photos up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So if it is not truth why worry yourself about it?...

I am afraid I have too many real life worries to worry about what people write on here....

Looking for an argument? Hardly....I am posting to simply say that everyone is entitled to an opinion, and an opportunity to voice it...."

An opinion, sure. Your original post said speaking the truth. Those are two different things.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "
women rule here and unfortunately going on about the size of a person is kinda rude, your success here will be born from having a great profile write up, great pics and the ability to read the target profiles and message accordingly and showing some personality, we dont know how you message but being rude will not achieve anything except bad publicity, maybe youre just not equipped for the frustration of this internet domain

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By *hromosexualsCouple over a year ago

Near Abercynon

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves "

I think the biggest mistake you are making is thinking that the exceptional part is all about body/looks. I think that’s a pretty small part of it.

You do need to be exceptional to stand out, but mostly that’s just finding some sort of connection.

We get a lot of messages along the lines of “nice tits, when are you free” but that’s never going to work with us no matter who says it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"See as a couple I can see why single men find it hard!! We maybe arent the most attractive people on fab we certainly arent ultra skinny, etc.

HOWEVER... We are respectful and nice people!! We do have some expectations of single guys and most cant even seem to achieve those.

1. Actually be SINGLE. At least half the single guys who message us are playing away which is clearly listed as no thank you on our profile.

3. A dick pic is not a hello!! Its a sea of penises in our inbox.

this,always this

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By *ntrovertedblackguyMan over a year ago

Nearby

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

It's supply and demand!

If you received hundreds of mails from women every day, you'd become fussy too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've googled it, but so far I can't find the link between a person's right to be selective and their dress size. I'm wondering if size 12 can be super fussy, 12-14 moderately fussy, 16-18 a little bit fussy and size 20+ have no rights and should be grateful of the attention.

Would that suffice OP?

Well summed up, lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously!

It's supply and demand!

If you received hundreds of mails from women every day, you'd become fussy too.

"
yes agreed and i am

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

Ah but those fat/ugly (insert whatever derogatory description you like fella) ladies are not aiming too high. They are aiming just where they need to be, getting the meets they want, with people they want. That doesn't include you and that's your issue OP. This place isn't a joke, only your attitude is.

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman over a year ago

Bangor

"The audacity of those bitches "

Haha ha I'm one of those bitches

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bet your inbox is flooding with sympathy shag offers now from all the women being consumed by guilt.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Ad Astra = To the stars.

I make no apology for aiming high!

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

Ive read your profile OP and based on that i simply wouldn't meet you because you dont accom...not because im a fat entitled bitch wanting an adonis...though if any local adonis' who accom are reading this, you provide the snacks and i'll bring all my holes

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

So if it is not truth why worry yourself about it?...

Because if people state something often enough it gets quoted as "truth" one example is the oft quoted "truth" that you aren't allowed to comment on a profile unless someone specifically asks for it. That isn't what the rules say but so many people believe it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fact is most men will fuck anything that is female a fact that women on here can use to there advantage x

You must really hate singles, most of your posts are snide digs at us. We are as entitled to be here as you are.

Maybe I should have put some of your posts, not most. "

Can’t see how you would construe that comment as a dig at single women.

Yep I’m sure the numerous repeat meets and regular single ladies we meet would attest to your assumption that hate singles

of course you are entitled to be here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t think it’s the women who don’t understand their limits. You’ll find prostitutes less fussy, and if you feel you are above that, obviously not.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Would have been best to keep it on your chest.

for fear of looking a twit.

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

Dear oh dear OP.

Judgemental and rude. Not showing yourself in a very good light here.

Why can't people be selective on here? We know what we like and fon't like. It's human nature. However we would never put others down.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP.

You have face pics on your profile.

If someone fancies you they will meet you.

It really is that simple.

Nothing to do with shooting for the stars or anyone being in different leagues.

Ps..you have really done yourself no favours with this post.

But hey..good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a fat girl. Very fat girl infact. And I only want tall men when I meet.... I didn't realise being fat I am only allowed to meet short men and I'm not allowed preferences.

Damn I better bin off my handsome beast as I'm obviously punching with him being tall

Do you know some men actually prefer us fatties so guess what we are allowed to be selective too...I'm sorry that you couldn't even get a fat girl to meet you.....

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

The men I wouldn't have fucked when I was slim, are the same men I would avoid now I'm older.

OP sulky men are never attractive.

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

"...I'm sorry that you couldn't even get a fat girl to meet you.....

And that wins the internet for today

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By *icplshropsCouple over a year ago

Rock

You are being very rude. In fact, it was a pretty crass comment to suggest people of a certain body shape, shouldn’t have the confidence to approach. In your opinion, punch above their weight. By your opinion, you must, therefore, only approach people that are only ‘average’.

BTW peeps, not once has he replied to any comments on his thread. Perhaps he was punching above his weight by posting this thread!

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By *ud and BryanCouple over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Wonder why some guys are so keen to be added to almost everyone's block list...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would that suffice OP?

Funandkinky2

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"The men I wouldn't have fucked when I was slim, are the same men I would avoid now I'm older.

OP sulky men are never attractive.

"
sulky people are never attractive full stop...

But totally agree with the former comments you made. It goes to show that your gut was right all along.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You know that BBW stands for Big BEAUTIFUL Women right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

Can of worms I sense!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ladies you are just mean not meeting him. Simple as that really. Now look past this moaning thread and get in touch with him for a sympathy shag.

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By *ady PaulaWoman over a year ago

bradford

"I’ve put the kettle on

Make mine a White tea with Honey. Please

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By *acky RacersCouple over a year ago

Lincoln

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

Anyone can shoot for the stars, it doesn't mean they get them but why shouldn't they have a fantasy they want to fulfil...just because you don't match it, doesn't make it wrong...you're just not what they're looking for...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

reach for the stars! climb every mountain higher..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would that suffice OP?

I’m in trouble then - I’m a size 14-16 and fussy as fuck

I’d rather go without than do someone I don’t fancy on all levels. Oh and speaking of entitled, I’m 5’2 and prefer tall guys.

OP, you’ve posted this in the advice section rather than the lounge or swingers chat, so I shall offer advice: please grasp the fact that swinging is as much about the social aspect as it is about sex. A lot of single guys think it’s Tinder. It’s not. Consider getting a new profile, going to a club, and starting over with an attitude of observance and learning. If that doesn’t work, then surely experience would indicate that this little realm of society is not a good fit for you. Vixen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Best thread ive read so far...

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By *dquestCouple over a year ago

Peterborough

OP what you are finding on fab is the near future for society. Welcome to the era of empowered, educated, economically self sufficient women who understand their intrinsic self worth choosing who they want to allow in their lives. The dark ages are almost over. Adapt or perish.

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By *affeine DuskMan over a year ago

Caerphilly

"The audacity of those bitches "

Dyin' over coffee

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Another man disillusioned cos he’s not getting any....yawn

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By *elshsunsWoman over a year ago

Flintshire

"OP what you are finding on fab is the near future for society. Welcome to the era of empowered, educated, economically self sufficient women who understand their intrinsic self worth choosing who they want to allow in their lives. The dark ages are almost over. Adapt or perish."

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By *exy Black JenWoman over a year ago

London/Eastbourne weekends

Im supposed to be leaving my house, but this is sooo interesting that now lm late!....lol..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seems to be a working formula, both in forums and chat that if you make outrageous claims yes don't half get a lot of attention that you wouldn't normally get.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op, you've been castigated plenty in this thread. I see no need to add to that and prefer to find a good point.

Clearly, you can write a message. Yes, you've either massively miscalculated in your post or have actively been looking to stir the hornet's nest. Ignoring the content for now though, if you can put that energy and writing into positive introductory messages and a profile that truly represents you as you desire, that's going to help you. The amount of single guys that either can't write a decent message, or can't be bothered, is astounding. It will help you to stand out from the crowd.

So, onto the point of the original post. Everyone of course has a preferred ideal partner physically. For me (male) petite redheads are that, for my partner it's tall dark well built younger guys. But for us both our favourite meets have been with people who have been completely different to that; it's all come down to an underlying connection, an electricity that can't be generated by ticking boxes of what your physical preference is on here. I believe for most people that is what's important, and worrying about a perceived disparity in what men and women on here can achieve is missing the point entirely.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op, you've been castigated plenty in this thread. I see no need to add to that and prefer to find a good point.

Your eloquence and clarity, which is considerable I'm afraid is wasted as the OP will take no notice. But anyone who secretly agrees but doesn't want to say so because he realises how it will make him appear.. There's still hope for you. Read and absorb

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seriously? I think OP's comment is not entirely without merit, although it is plainly pointless trying to make it.

This has bugger all to do with empowerment and self-worth. It does have everything to do with supply and demand, meaning that a "5" with a vagina can demand to see only "10's" with penises, and will always get some takers.

A "5" with a penis can express his preference for all potential partners to look like Brie Larson, and he'll die without ever getting laid.

Men here just need to accept that they're a very common commodity, and supply far exceeds demand. Tough for the ego to take, but that's how it is here.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Seriously? I think OP's comment is not entirely without merit, although it is plainly pointless trying to make it.

A "5" with a penis can express his preference for all potential partners to look like Brie Larson, and he'll die without ever getting laid.

Men here just need to accept that they're a very common commodity, and supply far exceeds demand. Tough for the ego to take, but that's how it is here."

It used to be the case that women had to make do with a man that happened to be available. For economic reasons if nothing else. I think, partly as a result of that, pressure on women to make themselves attractive is much higher than it is for men, and thus a female 5 may do more work on themselves to be desirable than a male 9.

These days we don't have to, and sometimes the choice between what's available and nothing is clear, we'd rather nothing. Some men need to up their game.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You said they are nothing special.. wow wow.. I guess those who reject you might think the same? Maybe they just dont voice it on here.

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Redhill

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

WOW just WOW!!! bit like the guy who messaged me the other day..i say a polite no ty and then the attitude of 'why not im a man!!!' started..jeez

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Redhill

I can only say that this site has given me some of the most amazing experiences in my life. And I have met some incredible people who perhaps I wouldn’t have had it not been for Fab.

I honestly wish I could write about them- utterly breathtaking.

Being someone quite average, really, I consider myself extremely lucky. Thankfully there are men, women and couples out there who also value intelligence, wit and charisma besides physical appearance.

Fab is fabulous. I love this site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At LEAST once a week, often more I'll tell someone they're well out of my league and could get someone half my age and weight. I've literally just said it to someone now. While I'm not crazy about the idea of rating anyone I'm not fucking stupid. But if they keep on wanting to meet after that then just maybe they don't want a fuck... Which they could get any Friday night for a few drinks. Maybe they do actually want to fuck ME. I know how stuff works in the real world as well as here. And I'm getting a bit bored of hearing that the men I meet would fuck anything and that's why they meet me. Some people don't have that many opportunities to meet people in real life for various reasons, often because they have crippling work loads. And just because you don't have a commitment it doesn't mean that whoever you play with won't treat you well and relish your company and be there to cheer you up when you're having a shit day. Even if you're a dumpy little thing like me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seriously? I think OP's comment is not entirely without merit, although it is plainly pointless trying to make it.

A "5" with a penis can express his preference for all potential partners to look like Brie Larson, and he'll die without ever getting laid.

Men here just need to accept that they're a very common commodity, and supply far exceeds demand. Tough for the ego to take, but that's how it is here."

Not just on here. I totally reserve my right to be choosy as fuck in the real world too

I appreciate that may not sit well with some given that I'm a fat bird but I have never settled in the world outwith so why on earth would I settle on Fab. I have a man who I think is exceptional in every way, and who thinks the same of me. I'm not about to start becoming someone's shag at this point in my life. I know my worth so if I want to hold out for exceptional then that's my prerogative- and as has already been pointed out, it's about so much more than looks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op, you've been castigated plenty in this thread. I see no need to add to that and prefer to find a good point.

Totally agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

What a great filter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The internet has officially been broken by this thread eek!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah!!! Well bloody said.

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

Another one added to the blocked list.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seriously? I think OP's comment is not entirely without merit, although it is plainly pointless trying to make it.

A "5" with a penis can express his preference for all potential partners to look like Brie Larson, and he'll die without ever getting laid.

Men here just need to accept that they're a very common commodity, and supply far exceeds demand. Tough for the ego to take, but that's how it is here.

Not just on here. I totally reserve my right to be choosy as fuck in the real world too

Totally agree. I'm no oil painting, and the best night of my life was spent with, arguably, a physically pretty average lady, but we had such a connection, on every level, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, deep inside. It is NOT just about appearance. Never will be for me.

But you can't deny the fact of my comment about supply and demand, as modified by the inescapable fact that men, more so than women (stereotyping yes, I know) will often be less discerning when the urge is upon them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not looking for men but speak to a few guys regularly on here.

By their own admission, none of them are a strapping 6ft, hung, Adonis and have described themselves as "average".

They are however, funny, considerate, interesting, quick witted with a wee bit of "je ne sais quoi". That's what I'd be looking for in a man on here and I doubt I'm the only woman who thinks that way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes but that doesn't mean they'll be successful. I'll know immediately if someone is slumming it in their head or thinks ill be an easy, effort free shag and they get shut down real fast. It takes considerable effort to meet me, money won't help you at all and looks will only get you a conversation. The men I meet are often middle aged with staid lives and very demanding jobs. They enjoy having a nerdy, silly hippy chick in their lives who makes them laugh and talks about sports and when we get the chance to gives them a wonderful time in bed. If I did meaningless hookups then sure... Ten or so very hot guys could get a free shag every day. But I don't. And nor do my fwbs.

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By *ig Beautiful BabesCouple over a year ago

London

If we fat women are so disgusting and can’t be choosy then why are our bbw/ssbbw parties full of really HOT men.

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

Maybe op it is you that's punching to high and getting upset due to so many knock Backs. But putting up a thread like this will surely get you laid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I turned down a "strapping 6ft, hung, Adonis" the other day. He told me to "go find the wee penis [I] was looking for". Made my day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...But you can't deny the fact of my comment about supply and demand, as modified by the inescapable fact that men, more so than women (stereotyping yes, I know) will often be less discerning when the urge is upon them.

You did, in fact, made a comment. That is undeniable.

Inescapable "fact" that men are "less discerning"? Really? You may be, but you should not presume to speak for other men, and it certainly is not fact.

More popcorn please

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Well aren't you just a little ray of pitch black.

I would prefer to aim for the stars and miss many many times then invite someone I'm not attracted to into my bed.

If the original poster has a problem with ladies living their sexual fantasies and choosing people to meet that help that come true, and he is upset because that doesn't include him, that is just a sense of his entitlement and his problem, not the ladies who are far too busy getting jiggy to care.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You did, in fact, made a comment. That is undeniable.

Inescapable "fact" that men are "less discerning"? Really? You may be, but you should not presume to speak for other men, and it certainly is not fact.

More popcorn please

That was a generalisation which plainly doesn't apply to all men in all circumstances, but is valid for more men than women. I don't speak for all men, but I am one (last time i looked) and do have some small insight into their behaviour.

BTW - popcorn is bad for you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But more important than all this...:

I just opened a Rice Krispie Square packet -

1) It's 3D, so it can't just be a square.

2) Even more important - it's twice as long as it is wide. So if we play along with their terminological inexactitude, it should be called a Rice Krispie Rectangle.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would prefer to aim high and live in my standards than except 2nd best

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would prefer to aim high and live in my standards than except 2nd best"

Quite right too. Nobody can deny your right to choose, and to set your own preferences and standards.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"......That was a generalisation which plainly doesn't apply to all men in all circumstances, but is valid for more men than women. I don't speak for all men, but I am one (last time i looked) and do have some small insight into their behaviour.

BTW - popcorn is bad for you

Thank you for admitting that generalisations and opinions are not fact. I'd love to hang around and rip you a new one for playing the penis card, but that's enough fun for one day and I'm off to work

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I turned down a "strapping 6ft, hung, Adonis" the other day. He told me to "go find the wee penis [I] was looking for". Made my day

If it's a wee penis that you're looking for, then look no further...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

BTW - popcorn is bad for you

Thank you for admitting that generalisations and opinions are not fact. I'd love to hang around and rip you a new one for playing the penis card, but that's enough fun for one day and I'm off to work

Everything on here is opinion and hence open to debate and question.

You'll have to explain "the penis card" sometime tho. That went over the head of this mere male. Have a nice day at work.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

BTW - popcorn is bad for you

Thank you for admitting that generalisations and opinions are not fact. I'd love to hang around and rip you a new one for playing the penis card, but that's enough fun for one day and I'm off to work

Everything on here is opinion and hence open to debate and question.

You'll have to explain "the penis card" sometime tho. That went over the head of this mere male. Have a nice day at work."

What she means is you claimed to know more about male behaviour simply because you're male.

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By *affeine DuskMan over a year ago

Caerphilly

BTW - popcorn is bad for you

Thank you for admitting that generalisations and opinions are not fact. I'd love to hang around and rip you a new one for playing the penis card, but that's enough fun for one day and I'm off to work

Everything on here is opinion and hence open to debate and question.

You'll have to explain "the penis card" sometime tho. That went over the head of this mere male. Have a nice day at work.

What she means is you claimed to know more about male behaviour simply because you're male. "

I'm a male and I have zero insight into male behaviour.

Every f*cker confuses me.

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

Being tall strong and an exotic enigma I’m too sexy for this thread Op.

I will be over there hoovering up the ladies.

(In the meantime be less bitter. Life is so much better when you give less fucks).

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By *akeheelsTV/TS over a year ago

dalkeith

"But more important than all this...:

I just opened a Rice Krispie Square packet -

1) It's 3D, so it can't just be a square.

2) Even more important - it's twice as long as it is wide. So if we play along with their terminological inexactitude, it should be called a Rice Krispie Rectangle.

Methinks a rectangle is a 2d shape tho, surely what you see before your eyes is a rectangular cuboid.

Not as tasty as a tunnocks teacake, but not bad....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just had a white chocolate peanut butter cup. Evil genius...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

BTW - popcorn is bad for you

Thank you for admitting that generalisations and opinions are not fact. I'd love to hang around and rip you a new one for playing the penis card, but that's enough fun for one day and I'm off to work

Everything on here is opinion and hence open to debate and question.

You'll have to explain "the penis card" sometime tho. That went over the head of this mere male. Have a nice day at work.

What she means is you claimed to know more about male behaviour simply because you're male. "

Then she's right. I do. Just as she, and you, will have better insights into the female psyche than I can possibly have.

But if she, or you, choose to deny that there are, in general, but plainly not for all individuals, often differences in the way men and women regard sex, well, that's delusional.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always shoot for the stars... don't let anyone say otherwise

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But more important than all this...:

I just opened a Rice Krispie Square packet -

1) It's 3D, so it can't just be a square.

2) Even more important - it's twice as long as it is wide. So if we play along with their terminological inexactitude, it should be called a Rice Krispie Rectangle.

Methinks a rectangle is a 2d shape tho, surely what you see before your eyes is a rectangular cuboid.

Not as tasty as a tunnocks teacake, but not bad...."

Quite right.

Not bad, the teacake, but surely the Tunnocks Caramel wins out?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

BTW - popcorn is bad for you

Thank you for admitting that generalisations and opinions are not fact. I'd love to hang around and rip you a new one for playing the penis card, but that's enough fun for one day and I'm off to work

Everything on here is opinion and hence open to debate and question.

You'll have to explain "the penis card" sometime tho. That went over the head of this mere male. Have a nice day at work.

What she means is you claimed to know more about male behaviour simply because you're male.

Then she's right. I do. Just as she, and you, will have better insights into the female psyche than I can possibly have.

But if she, or you, choose to deny that there are, in general, but plainly not for all individuals, often differences in the way men and women regard sex, well, that's delusional.

I don't have any insights into the female psyche. Dunno why you'd think I would.

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By *eah BabyCouple over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

The saying goes...Shoot for the moon if you miss it you will land among the stars

At the end of the day people like what they like, we’re all different and all like different x

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By *G CoupleCouple over a year ago

kent

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

If your finding it hard on the site, stop trying.

Go out to clubs, parties or socials

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By *ickygirl41Woman over a year ago

Glasgow

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

Maybe your attitude is the problem.

I'm not ever looking for exceptional I'm looking for compatible.

I've met very overweight folk, skinny people, those who would not be considered traditionally good looking, handsome ripped guys, tall folk, short folk, unemployed people, mummytummy/dadbod and I'm still incredibly demanding when it comes to meets.

Everyone is different here, women are choosy/not choosy, stuck up, meet too many, don't meet enough, too fat too old, punching above their weight, demanding....the list continues ad nauseum.

I select bedmates on my criteria, others select on theirs.

What I've tended to find is that people who are open, easygoing, humble, optimistic and humourous seem to get along fairly well here.

Also if you could tell all the other guys that if they keep skeerin off teh wimmin they ain't gonna get meets. ;D

It's not our fault that it's 50-1 ratio here.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"Would have been best to keep it on your chest.

I'm a big girl and well aware I could but demands on my profile and if I got them.. what's wrong with that.

( I only demand someone is actually single actually)

By saying this lady is nothing special herself you are judging her very harshly. She may not be for you but doesnt mean she isnt special

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

BTW - popcorn is bad for you

Thank you for admitting that generalisations and opinions are not fact. I'd love to hang around and rip you a new one for playing the penis card, but that's enough fun for one day and I'm off to work

Everything on here is opinion and hence open to debate and question.

You'll have to explain "the penis card" sometime tho. That went over the head of this mere male. Have a nice day at work.

What she means is you claimed to know more about male behaviour simply because you're male.

Then she's right. I do. Just as she, and you, will have better insights into the female psyche than I can possibly have.

But if she, or you, choose to deny that there are, in general, but plainly not for all individuals, often differences in the way men and women regard sex, well, that's delusional.

I don't have any insights into the female psyche. Dunno why you'd think I would. "

Quite simply from the fact that you are female. The way your mind works will be more likely to have similarities to other women than men. Note "more likely". Not an absolute truth in all cases. People are all a bit different.

But likewise Scots have different attitudes compared to us southern softies. Scousers aren't exactly the same as geordies (in general, not reduced to individuals) and men ARE NOT the same as women. Again, generally, not every individual.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well aren't you just a little ray of pitch black.

I would prefer to aim for the stars and miss many many times then invite someone I'm not attracted to into my bed.

Glitterbabe, another

here and I'm laughing at your "little ray of pitch black" comment. Picturing Vin Diesel

. Who I personally do not find physically attractive but appreciate others do...

I've enjoyed reading the replies to this. Especially the mainly respectful ones. Being respectful does not mean someone is beating around the bush.

There's a way to say things after all and I appreciate that it in forums, it can take longer to word a reply where you try to highlight the point that was trying to be made in a better manner than the OP but not mention the bad or "bad" side most others are. As the intention of this can be seen that you are agreeing with what's seen as rude just by not mentioning it, when said reply is often doing nothing of the sort.

It seems inescapable to most that the women the OP considers unattractive to him are just that.

Unattractive TO HIM.

NOT that they are unattractive (to all).

Changing the content of the opening post by replacing the words average/BBW/rugby body type with ANY other description and the tone would remain the same. That's the overriding fact(or).....

Average/super slim/slim/athletic/short/tall/blonde/brunette/dad bod and what in the tone has changed? Nothing really.

Exceptional to one is not exceptional to all.

One man music is another man's noise as they say and OP, if everyone liked the same type of person physically, you'd have even less choice....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't have any insights into the female psyche. Dunno why you'd think I would.

OK I guess if you're talking in very broad generalisations then yeah.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well aren't you just a little ray of pitch black.

I would prefer to aim for the stars and miss many many times then invite someone I'm not attracted to into my bed.

Glitterbabe, another

here and I'm laughing at your "little ray of pitch black" comment. Picturing Vin Diesel

. Who I personally do not find physically attractive but appreciate others do...

I've enjoyed reading the replies to this. Especially the mainly respectful ones. Being respectful does not mean someone is beating around the bush.

It seems inescapable to most that the women the OP considers unattractive to him are just that.

Unattractive TO HIM.

NOT that they are unattractive (to all).

Changing the content of the opening post by replacing the words average/BBW/rugby body type with ANY other description and the tone would remain the same. That's the overriding fact(or).....

Average/super slim/slim/athletic/short/tall/blonde/brunette/dad bod and what in the tone has changed? Nothing really.

Exceptional to one is not exceptional to all.

One man music is another man's noise as they say and OP, if everyone liked the same type of person physically, you'd have even less choice....

This

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By *udewhennudeMan over a year ago

newport

What the op doesn’t realise is fab is a place where everybody has the option to be selective, to indulge their desires and fantasies. This idea that people should and can reach for the stars only applies to women is incorrect. I and other guys like me can have experiences, that would rarely happen elsewhere ie from a chance encounter in a bar. I doubt I’d even approach let alone have fun with the majority off people I’ve met through fab.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel it's more acceptable for a woman to say she doesn't want short fat men than a man to say he doesn't want short fat women

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

What is an exceptional man?

One person’s exceptional might be another person’s fugly.

What makes a man exceptional? What makes ANYONE exceptional?

Eh i dunno.

All the best with your search OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I feel it's more acceptable for a woman to say she doesn't want short fat men than a man to say he doesn't want short fat women"

It does come across that way but it shouldn’t. Men should be able to state their preferences the same as ladies should be able to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I feel it's more acceptable for a woman to say she doesn't want short fat men than a man to say he doesn't want short fat women

It does come across that way but it shouldn’t. Men should be able to state their preferences the same as ladies should be able to.

You're right, of course, but this sort of brings the debate full circle. Any woman, simply by virtue of the excessive number of available men, is still more likely to find someone to satisfy their preferences than a man.

We all have our preferences, but I don't think Emily Procter is a m_mber, so I'm screwed (or more to the point, not)

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By *lackTeJayMan over a year ago

Gloucester / Leicester

My advice would be to delete your profile (as you definitely won’t get meets after your post) and start a new one mate. Be nice to people and definitely attend socials / clubs. spend time getting to know people. Rem_mber that you are entitled to have your own preferences just like females and couples are free to have theirs. Just be respectful of that and you will be fine.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Fact is most men will fuck anything that is female a fact that women on here can use to there advantage x

You must really hate singles, most of your posts are snide digs at us. We are as entitled to be here as you are.

Maybe I should have put some of your posts, not most.

Can’t see how you would construe that comment as a dig at single women.

Yep I’m sure the numerous repeat meets and regular single ladies we meet would attest to your assumption that hate singles

of course you are entitled to be here"

It was a dig at single men saying they will fuck anything and a dig at women saying we take advantage of it.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I feel it's more acceptable for a woman to say she doesn't want short fat men than a man to say he doesn't want short fat women"

Yeah it probably is, it shouldn't be though. I've met quite a few people in clubs who aren't into fat women, I've never been offended by it, I just accept it as their preference.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Speaking of shooting, how's that foot of yours? Stinging somewhat from the bullet you fired into it?

I'm a short arse, does that mean only dwarves are allowed to be attracted to me? You best tell my giraffed legged OH coz he's 6'1 that he needs to keep to his own eyeline.

Are gingers only allowed to be attracted to other gingers?

You People are attracted to who they're attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Speaking of shooting, how's that foot of yours? Stinging somewhat from the bullet you fired into it?

I'm a short arse, does that mean only dwarves are allowed to be attracted to me? You best tell my giraffed legged OH coz he's 6'1 that he needs to keep to his own eyeline.

Are gingers only allowed to be attracted to other gingers?

You People are attracted to who they're attracted to.

It's true. Over the decades there've even been a couple who wanted to fuck me. Go figure.

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By *udewhennudeMan over a year ago

newport

"My advice would be to delete your profile (as you definitely won’t get meets after your post) and start a new one mate. Be nice to people and definitely attend socials / clubs. spend time getting to know people. Rem_mber that you are entitled to have your own preferences just like females and couples are free to have theirs. Just be respectful of that and you will be fine."
My advice would be , it’s extremely likely that his post will have little bearing on his chances, purely because the number of people who will have read it that would be likely to meet within travelling distance would be very small. That said I’m sure the op knew what he was doing when he posted it, I’m guessing he will be Unlos soon.

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By *estlands4Man over a year ago

Sidmouth

Oooh I love a good bitch on a boring Monday morning...

Ok having come into this late, as a 54 yr old fairly average guy (who doesn’t do too badly on here) if I said I only wanted to meet young attractive size 10 max ladies with breasts to die for, pig tails and a pert bum I don’t think I’d get far... if however I was a 54 yr old fairly average lady who said I only wanted to meet rugby playing guys under 30 with a six pack and huge cock I’d get loads of replies...

Fab is a numbers game and if it’s 10 or 20 men for every lady then they can rightly shoot for whatever stars they want & good luck to them - we’d all gladly swap given the chance.

As for me I’ll continue to enjoy what comes my way as there’s a lot more to a lady than what they look like - to me it’s a mental connection that’s most important- being able to look into their eyes and know you’re both/all having fun is the thing - fab is for fun rem_mber xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

How very well dare they ?

I wouldn't worry too much about what other people are looking for. Focus on the ones that you are looking for and if you're not for them so be it . Like Forest Gump says "Life is like a box of chocolates" we can't all like the same ones. Get to a club or a social event .I'm not 5'11" and only a short arse yet seem to do ok on here. Keep smiling my friend and don't get too involved with what other people are looking for. Your time will come

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By *cd and scruffCouple over a year ago

Rochester

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

So just how did you expect this to go?

Seriously?

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By *uriousscouserWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"I feel it's more acceptable for a woman to say she doesn't want short fat men than a man to say he doesn't want short fat women

Yeah it probably is, it shouldn't be though. I've met quite a few people in clubs who aren't into fat women, I've never been offended by it, I just accept it as their preference."

This.

I've had a couple of guys on here tell me I'm not their type because of my size. No drama, it's all good and everyone is entitled to their preference.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I feel it's more acceptable for a woman to say she doesn't want short fat men than a man to say he doesn't want short fat women

Yeah it probably is, it shouldn't be though. I've met quite a few people in clubs who aren't into fat women, I've never been offended by it, I just accept it as their preference.

This.

I've had a couple of guys on here tell me I'm not their type because of my size. No drama, it's all good and everyone is entitled to their preference."

Course they are, I never mind this. I did mind the guy who said I was too big and my pictures were deceptive because he said that after I'd got him off twice. No one else has ever said that to me and I've met a lot of people. The time to say it is when you first see someone. Not when you had sex twice, come both times and they're stuck on your crappy narrowboat and can't get home. I should have gone back and torpedoed him...

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By *ecrets4everCouple over a year ago

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

-I appreciate that your intention is not to be rude!

However, if I summarise your very long post I’m hearing it as ‘overweight ladies shouldn’t expect to meet good looking men’.

-Further more, after just a few weeks here you’ve decided the place is a joke. This is extremely judgmental and disrespectful to the many m_mbers for who this is a lifestyle choice.

I would suggest this isn’t the place for you.

Perhaps paid services would be the way for you to go so that you have a better chance of not being rejected.

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By *izzy69Man over a year ago

London

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously! "

Mate, I think you've said it yourself pretty much:

They're not really "shooting for the stars" if they're actually getting what they've asked for.

People like you and I just have to get in line and hope someone goes for "a nice guy" as opposed to their tick list.

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

You did, in fact, made a comment. That is undeniable.

Inescapable "fact" that men are "less discerning"? Really? You may be, but you should not presume to speak for other men, and it certainly is not fact.

More popcorn please

Whilst no guy should speak for all men......

Let's be honest, men HAVE shown to be less fussy in this regard - it's not really debatable tbh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You did, in fact, made a comment. That is undeniable.

Inescapable "fact" that men are "less discerning"? Really? You may be, but you should not presume to speak for other men, and it certainly is not fact.

More popcorn please

Whilst no guy should speak for all men......

Let's be honest, men HAVE shown to be less fussy in this regard - it's not really debatable tbh

And while I don't speak for all women... Just because they would fuck anything it doesn't mean that anything is going to let them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So yeah, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that as I am a single, average guy, nothing special, no one is interested...

Because the women/couples here DO expect you to be special. Average just doesn't cut it here, or so it seems...

But what really bugs me is this... This quote was taken directly from a womens profile: "If you are tall and dark with rugby bodytype you are my type. And when I say tall I do mean 5'11"

Christ, no wonder so many single guys here seem to have a hard time trying to talk/meet others, when we are all expected to be exceptional, when most women/couples aren't exceptional themselves!

This place is a joke, seriously!

Mate, I think you've said it yourself pretty much:

They're not really "shooting for the stars" if they're actually getting what they've asked for.

People like you and I just have to get in line and hope someone goes for "a nice guy" as opposed to their tick list."

What does that even mean?

Why would people fuck you because youre 'nice?'

Women are on here to get what they want. You know that, right?

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