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I have someone who I’m semi-regularly meeting with, we both want to have anal but the last time we met and tried he lost his erection. We used lube and tried to ‘get it in’ in a couple of positions but it didn’t really work. He’s said before that he doesn’t want to hurt me, so I’m not sure if that has something to do with it. We’re due to meet again in a couple of weeks and I’m really keen to make it more successful this time. Any tips please?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As mentioned above a little stretching before deffo helps lol, we prefer lots of ass play beforehand.. we just blend it in as we go. fingers, tongues and toys xx |
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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago
Leicestershire |
I love anal. We always find the easiest position to begin anal is the doggy position. Make sure you keep your back arched down un a U shape so your bum is in the air and at an easier angle for penetration x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Communicate enthusiastically... Make sure he's in no doubt that this is what you want him to do to you and that you're not in pain or discomfort. Overstating the obvious is about the baseline to start from.
Enjoy yourselves playing and take it further when you're ready.. Making a thing out of it not working will create pressure and anxiety.
Have fun! Xxxx |
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By *juk72Man
over a year ago
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If he lost his erection then I personally think he needs to look at his perceptions around anal.
Does he think it's wrong, bad, challenge his sexuality, is it something he has fantasized about or something he has never considered?
For me fucking a women in the ass (as part of consensual play) was always something I thought would be hot (naughty/dirty but fun), and when she asked me to do it I was harder than ever and after checking she really wanted it (was not just pleasing me, she actually had the lube etc ready) I was straight in there.
It does not matter how big a plug you have had in if he has a problem with being in there in the first place.
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"I have someone who I’m semi-regularly meeting with, we both want to have anal but the last time we met and tried he lost his erection. We used lube and tried to ‘get it in’ in a couple of positions but it didn’t really work. He’s said before that he doesn’t want to hurt me, so I’m not sure if that has something to do with it. We’re due to meet again in a couple of weeks and I’m really keen to make it more successful this time. Any tips please?
Thank you "
You could invite me round to give him a demo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of anal play before hand helps. My wife will ease herself onto my cock with lots of lube so she feels in control initially. Once he can see how much you are enjoying it im sure he will be fine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first starting receiving anal sex I read an article about it written by a female doctor. The first line was if you were thinking about having anal sex , Dont! It then went on to say that if you were going to do it, after touching and lubing the best position was for him to kneel on the floor and sit back and for the receiver to kneel down in front of him with their back to him and gently ease themselves down on him thus controlling the penetration. It worked for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maintaining an erection can be a psychological thing. If he's thinking he might hurt you he might lose his erection. The more he thinks about it, the worse it'll be.
I'd say, both of you don't build up high expectations. Take your time, give it a go, but it's no big deal if it doesn't happen.
Once this guy feels comfortable and relaxed about it all should be fine.
Lots of lube and toys first can help him penetrate you easier. |
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By *jr41Couple
over a year ago
Wiltshire |
"Remember the 6 P's!
I like alot of anal play and foreplay first to relax and loosen up..
And remember to douche first! "
Sorry please explain the 6 P's and douche first ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A current fb introduced me into the world of anal, which I wasn't into at all before, his approach worked very well for me, he was patient and would relax me with a massage and played with my ass then would massage me again the play with my ass and spent alot of time relaxing my until I felt ready for play
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
London |
I think losing his erection may be due to his anxiety to not hurt you.
I think may be you taking control and showing that it is YOU who wants it may put him at ease and may even turn him on to know you're horny for it.
The way I've initiated 'anal virgins' before has been a mix of passionate lead up, fingering and playing to get the right muscles flexible, natural flow into the anal rather than "right we'we're gping to do this now" and, if you're up for it, a bit of rimming also helps. It's all to rid the tension and relax the mind and arse muscles. Other than that, you may need some lube and a glass of wine. lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I also find that sometimes he has to start fucking my ass for a little bit then stop, move on to something else for a little while and then come back to anal. It just helps to stretch and feel comfortable . You know when you’re stretched and ready as it feels amazing , and then I don’t want anal to stop |
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"I have someone who I’m semi-regularly meeting with, we both want to have anal but the last time we met and tried he lost his erection. We used lube and tried to ‘get it in’ in a couple of positions but it didn’t really work. He’s said before that he doesn’t want to hurt me, so I’m not sure if that has something to do with it. We’re due to meet again in a couple of weeks and I’m really keen to make it more successful this time. Any tips please?
Thank you "
men do lose it some times all I used to do was get them to fuck my pusy then when he is solid try again it does work
its not you its the man |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
London |
"I have someone who I’m semi-regularly meeting with, we both want to have anal but the last time we met and tried he lost his erection. We used lube and tried to ‘get it in’ in a couple of positions but it didn’t really work. He’s said before that he doesn’t want to hurt me, so I’m not sure if that has something to do with it. We’re due to meet again in a couple of weeks and I’m really keen to make it more successful this time. Any tips please?
Thank you
men do lose it some times all I used to do was get them to fuck my pusy then when he is solid try again it does work
its not you its the man "
Shagging the pussy isn't going to be possible either if he's not hard. A dirty blow job might be better. |
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"I have someone who I’m semi-regularly meeting with, we both want to have anal but the last time we met and tried he lost his erection. We used lube and tried to ‘get it in’ in a couple of positions but it didn’t really work. He’s said before that he doesn’t want to hurt me, so I’m not sure if that has something to do with it. We’re due to meet again in a couple of weeks and I’m really keen to make it more successful this time. Any tips please?
Thank you
men do lose it some times all I used to do was get them to fuck my pusy then when he is solid try again it does work
its not you its the man
Shagging the pussy isn't going to be possible either if he's not hard. A dirty blow job might be better."
What is a dirty blow job pray tell? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love anal. We always find the easiest position to begin anal is the doggy position. Make sure you keep your back arched down un a U shape so your bum is in the air and at an easier angle for penetration x"
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
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"I have someone who I’m semi-regularly meeting with, we both want to have anal but the last time we met and tried he lost his erection. We used lube and tried to ‘get it in’ in a couple of positions but it didn’t really work. He’s said before that he doesn’t want to hurt me, so I’m not sure if that has something to do with it. We’re due to meet again in a couple of weeks and I’m really keen to make it more successful this time. Any tips please?
Thank you
men do lose it some times all I used to do was get them to fuck my pusy then when he is solid try again it does work
its not you its the man
Shagging the pussy isn't going to be possible either if he's not hard. A dirty blow job might be better.
What is a dirty blow job pray tell? "
Lol. You know, sucking it like you haven't eaten in days, lots of noise and spit and deep throating. Or is that an average normal blowjob to you |
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"I have someone who I’m semi-regularly meeting with, we both want to have anal but the last time we met and tried he lost his erection. We used lube and tried to ‘get it in’ in a couple of positions but it didn’t really work. He’s said before that he doesn’t want to hurt me, so I’m not sure if that has something to do with it. We’re due to meet again in a couple of weeks and I’m really keen to make it more successful this time. Any tips please?
Thank you
men do lose it some times all I used to do was get them to fuck my pusy then when he is solid try again it does work
its not you its the man
Shagging the pussy isn't going to be possible either if he's not hard. A dirty blow job might be better.
What is a dirty blow job pray tell?
Lol. You know, sucking it like you haven't eaten in days, lots of noise and spit and deep throating. Or is that an average normal blowjob to you"
lots of eye contact too ,my eyes always show so much appreciated bliss for cock in my dirty sloppy mouth and throat mmmmmm |
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