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Think it's time to call it quits

By *azBeNaughty OP Man over a year ago

Isleworth

I've been on here a while, updated my profile and pictures many times, so much that I lost count. I've sent lots of messages which are all polite and attached a picture on every one. Have not sent anything demanding or too forthcoming and also tried to add some banter as well. But the messages are all deleted as soon as they are read. This includes couples and women. I think I've accepted what other guys are going through and this site is just too difficult for a single guy, lack of veris probably also makes this harder. I'm not sure if its because I'm a guy or another reason that I keep getting messages deleted. Maybe it's time to accept there's no hope.. Sorry for the long message just a mid week rant.. ??

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By *orthyorkypairCouple over a year ago

North Yorkshire

please close door quietly on your way out!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bye!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bye, OP, better luck next time.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

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By *azBeNaughty OP Man over a year ago

Isleworth

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?"

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later

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By *azBeNaughty OP Man over a year ago

Isleworth

Kind of proves my point

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By *reykiwi500Man over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later"

All you did was rant in a 'woe is me' kind of way. Rightly or wrongly, that doesn't gain much sympathy on here, especially if it's coming from a single guy.

If you'd asked for some constructive feedback, you might have received some. I believe it's a rule on here that profiles cannot be critiqued unless this has been requested.

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By *reykiwi500Man over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

Anyway, chin up. Apparently you've got a memorable Pizza Express in your area!

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By *ankie303Woman over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later"

If you want profile advice, you need to ask for it clearly or it can't be given. And wasn't it the point of your post, to say goodbye? As that's how I got it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi OP,

You need thick skin on fab. I get how frustrating it can be for single guys....especially ones without veris in person.

Why not try one last time, and get yourself to a club to get verified? Alternatively, give us an example of a message you sent this week...

x Niki

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By *oyRoy06Man over a year ago

leighton buzzard

Many of us here struggling. Not all complaining about it.

When your title suggests you're leaving, and you then write a "woe is me" type comment ... what do you expect?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later"

You didn't ask for constructive criticism it was a woe me thread and they never end well At the end of the day not everybody gets picked for the school football team.

Whilst you took some things on board did you do 2 of the most important things i.e join a club and attend socials?? Which in turn can lead to party invites, verifications thus making fab more visble?

Fab is just one part of a swingers toolbox and is not very effective for many people especially for single males but even for a couple like us if it's just used in isolation.

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By *azBeNaughty OP Man over a year ago

Isleworth

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later

All you did was rant in a 'woe is me' kind of way. Rightly or wrongly, that doesn't gain much sympathy on here, especially if it's coming from a single guy.

If you'd asked for some constructive feedback, you might have received some. I believe it's a rule on here that profiles cannot be critiqued unless this has been requested."

Thanks for the feedback, I wasn't aware you had to request a profile to be crtiqued. It was a last attempt to get some idea on what is wrong with my profile.

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By *azBeNaughty OP Man over a year ago

Isleworth

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later

If you want profile advice, you need to ask for it clearly or it can't be given. And wasn't it the point of your post, to say goodbye? As that's how I got it. "

Understood I now realise I worded it wrongly. I was just trying to get an understanding on what I was doing wrong

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been on here a while, updated my profile and pictures many times, so much that I lost count. I've sent lots of messages which are all polite and attached a picture on every one. Have not sent anything demanding or too forthcoming and also tried to add some banter as well. But the messages are all deleted as soon as they are read. This includes couples and women. I think I've accepted what other guys are going through and this site is just too difficult for a single guy, lack of veris probably also makes this harder. I'm not sure if its because I'm a guy or another reason that I keep getting messages deleted. Maybe it's time to accept there's no hope.. Sorry for the long message just a mid week rant.. ??"
dont go........... stay......... all good things come to those who wait

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By *reykiwi500Man over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later

You didn't ask for constructive criticism it was a woe me thread and they never end well At the end of the day not everybody gets picked for the school football team.

Whilst you took some things on board did you do 2 of the most important things i.e join a club and attend socials?? Which in turn can lead to party invites, verifications thus making fab more visble?

Fab is just one part of a swingers toolbox and is not very effective for many people especially for single males but even for a couple like us if it's just used in isolation.

KJ"

This

I probably wouldn't be on here anymore if it wasn't for clubs - keeping in touch with people I meet etc.. Then again, I discovered clubs through this site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later

You didn't ask for constructive criticism it was a woe me thread and they never end well At the end of the day not everybody gets picked for the school football team.

Whilst you took some things on board did you do 2 of the most important things i.e join a club and attend socials?? Which in turn can lead to party invites, verifications thus making fab more visble?

Fab is just one part of a swingers toolbox and is not very effective for many people especially for single males but even for a couple like us if it's just used in isolation.

This

I probably wouldn't be on here anymore if it wasn't for clubs - keeping in touch with people I meet etc.. Then again, I discovered clubs through this site

Exactly the same applies for us as a couple if we didn't also embrace clubs, socials and the wider scene and solely relied on fab we wouldn't be here anymore.

OP listen to this guy, also read his profile, the proofs in his verifications!

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By *j48Man over a year ago

Wigan

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later"

Attend a social or visit a club, Chat to people. Have absolutely no expectations just attend something and mingle. Don't ask people for veris if you're polite and people like your company they'll verify you as such. With maybe a positive observation about you

That'll help no end..

Think of fab as circulating in a massive party with thousands attending..

Make people aware you exist, be polite and chat, a bit like being in the pub..

From acorns.....

Good luck buddy

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By *azBeNaughty OP Man over a year ago

Isleworth

Thank you all for your comments I shall take them onboard. Have a good evening

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you all for your comments I shall take them onboard. Have a good evening

"
good night and good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyway, chin up. Apparently you've got a memorable Pizza Express in your area!

Dodgy cliental though!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So sorry to hear you are leaving, be a real pity and a real shame, you seem lovely, you are hot, please don’t leave....,.

..... oh shoot I posted the standard response when a single lady says they are leaving..,..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think fab works best if you have zero expectations.

You have a much better profile than I do and I at least get replies to friendly messages.

I suffer the same fate as you though when I attempt to message ladies on the most fabbed picture list. You need way more XP for that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Welllcome to Faaaaab

This for some solo guys is more of a once in a blue moon situation..or in some cases, blood moon!

I've had 2 meets in the 2 years I've been here. The second turned into a FWB. Persistence is vital but not the pushy level.

I am always looking to talk with and get to know others but don't expect much. Ratio of guys to gals is staggering from what I can gather.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just hide the profile take a break come back and just take it with a pinch of salt, for single guys you have to stand out and do things the right way. Send nice good messages, understand that not everyone will be interested. Be patient and nice, find a friend to go clubs with Or go yourself and make friends. It’s a case of just enjoying the lifestyle when it suits you and dont forget the real world and what means most in life, don’t get frustrated with fab it will happen think positive and maybe make some changes

GOOD LUCK ENJOY!!

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

Sorry to hear you are having difficulty, but unfortunately the days of the personal ads in the back of adult magazine or here is my horny wife, I can't satisfy her help me out, went out with the goldfish bowl and fake BMW key rings, this site is like any relationship site it will take time and patience to work your way though the lady's or couples trust concerns.

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By *nnocentimesMan over a year ago

over there by that tree

This 100%....

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

OP..you've been here for over a year.

I don't think it's Fab that is the issue...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein.

Maybe this just won't work out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Constructive criticism, try not to whinge, don’t send copy n pasted messages or dick pics, your profile is confusing you’ve ticked the can accommodate box but then in you description it says you can book a hotel ......... accommodating is having someone back to your place, we can all book a hotel so therefore everyone can accommodate it would be pointless having that box to tick!

I don’t care about height but you’re short that will put some women off and some may see not accommodating as married/attached, which is a big no no for some!

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein.

Maybe this just won't work out. "

Ahh the 28 day rule

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later

All you did was rant in a 'woe is me' kind of way. Rightly or wrongly, that doesn't gain much sympathy on here, especially if it's coming from a single guy.

If you'd asked for some constructive feedback, you might have received some. I believe it's a rule on here that profiles cannot be critiqued unless this has been requested."

Or if it is relevant to the OP, ie someone is wondering why they are not having much luck

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By *azBeNaughty OP Man over a year ago

Isleworth

"Constructive criticism, try not to whinge, don’t send copy n pasted messages or dick pics, your profile is confusing you’ve ticked the can accommodate box but then in you description it says you can book a hotel ......... accommodating is having someone back to your place, we can all book a hotel so therefore everyone can accommodate it would be pointless having that box to tick!

I don’t care about height but you’re short that will put some women off and some may see not accommodating as married/attached, which is a big no no for some!

Good luck "

Thank you, your reply has been very useful I shall take it on board.

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"Thank you all for your comments I shall take them onboard. Have a good evening

"
. You are based in Woking If so can you travel if so you may want to check out the London forums as there is a social in the Croydon area.There is also a house / venue in the Sutton area that have various events which maybe of interest to you check out the meet and events page for Greater London to see what is on and where and when.Also whilst looking at your profile you are looking at a age range of 18 - 99 which I think you should adjust unless you are looking to meet a 99 year old I am sure it’s a over sight but some may feel you are a bit lazy by not adjusting it.Best of luck with what ever you decide to do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tax.. I've said I'll verify you if you can get down for s coffee. That should help a bit xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you all for your comments I shall take them onboard. Have a good evening

. You are based in Woking If so can you travel if so you may want to check out the London forums as there is a social in the Croydon area.There is also a house / venue in the Sutton area that have various events which maybe of interest to you check out the meet and events page for Greater London to see what is on and where and when.Also whilst looking at your profile you are looking at a age range of 18 - 99 which I think you should adjust unless you are looking to meet a 99 year old I am sure it’s a over sight but some may feel you are a bit lazy by not adjusting it.Best of luck with what ever you decide to do."
the sutton house does indeed have some great parties. If you're into BBW's check out the Big Beautiful Babes profile for their next party date.

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

It's really nice to see a guy admit that maybe swinging isn't for him. Everyone else seems to think that they have some sort of divine right to get replies/meets.

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"Thank you all for your comments I shall take them onboard. Have a good evening

. You are based in Woking If so can you travel if so you may want to check out the London forums as there is a social in the Croydon area.There is also a house / venue in the Sutton area that have various events which maybe of interest to you check out the meet and events page for Greater London to see what is on and where and when.Also whilst looking at your profile you are looking at a age range of 18 - 99 which I think you should adjust unless you are looking to meet a 99 year old I am sure it’s a over sight but some may feel you are a bit lazy by not adjusting it.Best of luck with what ever you decide to do. the sutton house does indeed have some great parties. If you're into BBW's check out the Big Beautiful Babes profile for their next party date."
. I believe also HKOParties , Bifun club , Curvy Club and Team Players.I think HKOParties would be a good for the OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It happens to all us single guys, the trick is to keep positive keep going and be polite and kind. Then everyone and then it clicks and boom you get a morning like I have just had. Your glass should always be half full in life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bit harsh but here goes the truth.

You cant accom and your on the smaller side height wise.

Only you can decided if fab is worth it.

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

I can understand the OP s frustration. Just to address the balance I’ve met three people on Fab who are a massive part of my life. There is a god out there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why don't we all get a big stick and totally beat the hell out of any confidence the OP has left?

Lets uplift people rather than tell them they are rubbish, too short, incapable of communicating in a specific way, etc. etc...

There are all kinds of people on fab, OP. Don't listen to anyone that says you are not good enough.

To be fair, if you were a woman asking for help and someone said you are not communicating, you are too curvy / skinny, your bum is too big /small, too short / tall, or your pictures are trash / too good, there would be uproar.

Fair is fair, people. And this is the female of the couple posting btw....

Niki x

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By *ifty_million_sperm_laterMan over a year ago

oldham

Chin up fella...things will improve...best of luck to you...being single is shit in so many ways fav just emphasises that but get out there an go to some clubs like others say i still need to do it myself personally never get the time to mingle tho these days #timeflies

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

Why don't we all get a big stick and totally beat the hell out of any confidence the OP has left?

Lets uplift people rather than tell them they are rubbish, too short, incapable of communicating in a specific way, etc. etc...

There are all kinds of people on fab, OP. Don't listen to anyone that says you are not good enough.

Fair is fair, people. And this is the female of the couple posting btw....

Niki x"
. Quite right we shouldn’t be beating him with a stick a couple have offered to meet him for a coffee and a verification and I have advised that if he can travel there is a social and club that maybe of interest to him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t care about height but you’re short that will put some women off and some may see not accommodating as married/attached, which is a big no no for some!

Good luck

Thank you, your reply has been very useful I shall take it on board.

Maybe try some group socials, get your face and personality familiar to some likeminded people x

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

No need to announce your departure, you're not a train

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By *jonesMan over a year ago

Plymouth

Go to a social ...there are lots ..they are free and you will meet lots of nice people.

Bypass a lot of the unnecessary rudeness on fab.

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

Why don't we all get a big stick and totally beat the hell out of any confidence the OP has left?

Lets uplift people rather than tell them they are rubbish, too short, incapable of communicating in a specific way, etc. etc...

There are all kinds of people on fab, OP. Don't listen to anyone that says you are not good enough.

Fair is fair, people. And this is the female of the couple posting btw....

Niki x"

Agree with you. It's hard for single guys xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why don't we all get a big stick and totally beat the hell out of any confidence the OP has left?

Lets uplift people rather than tell them they are rubbish, too short, incapable of communicating in a specific way, etc. etc...

There are all kinds of people on fab, OP. Don't listen to anyone that says you are not good enough.

Fair is fair, people. And this is the female of the couple posting btw....

Niki x. Quite right we shouldn’t be beating him with a stick a couple have offered to meet him for a coffee and a verification and I have advised that if he can travel there is a social and club that maybe of interest to him "

Thanks for the back up here. I was literally biting my lip, I was so furious about some of the comments on this thread...

x N

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By *reykiwi500Man over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later

All you did was rant in a 'woe is me' kind of way. Rightly or wrongly, that doesn't gain much sympathy on here, especially if it's coming from a single guy.

If you'd asked for some constructive feedback, you might have received some. I believe it's a rule on here that profiles cannot be critiqued unless this has been requested.

Or if it is relevant to the OP, ie someone is wondering why they are not having much luck

The advice re: going to clubs, socials etc. can be given freely, but any critiquing of a profile must, as I understand it, be explicitly requested.

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By *jonesMan over a year ago

Plymouth

Why don't we all get a big stick and totally beat the hell out of any confidence the OP has left?

Lets uplift people rather than tell them they are rubbish, too short, incapable of communicating in a specific way, etc. etc...

There are all kinds of people on fab, OP. Don't listen to anyone that says you are not good enough.

Fair is fair, people. And this is the female of the couple posting btw....

Thanks for the back up here. I was literally biting my lip, I was so furious about some of the comments on this thread...

x N"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later

All you did was rant in a 'woe is me' kind of way. Rightly or wrongly, that doesn't gain much sympathy on here, especially if it's coming from a single guy.

If you'd asked for some constructive feedback, you might have received some. I believe it's a rule on here that profiles cannot be critiqued unless this has been requested.

Or if it is relevant to the OP, ie someone is wondering why they are not having much luck

The advice re: going to clubs, socials etc. can be given freely, but any critiquing of a profile must, as I understand it, be explicitly requested."

Further up the thread he asks for constructive criticism, surely commenting on his profile has got to be more helpful that telling him he’s not a train or replying with bye ........

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By *reykiwi500Man over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"Anyway, chin up. Apparently you've got a memorable Pizza Express in your area!

Dodgy cliental though!

Haha!

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later

All you did was rant in a 'woe is me' kind of way. Rightly or wrongly, that doesn't gain much sympathy on here, especially if it's coming from a single guy.

If you'd asked for some constructive feedback, you might have received some. I believe it's a rule on here that profiles cannot be critiqued unless this has been requested.

Or if it is relevant to the OP, ie someone is wondering why they are not having much luck

The advice re: going to clubs, socials etc. can be given freely, but any critiquing of a profile must, as I understand it, be explicitly requested.

Further up the thread he asks for constructive criticism, surely commenting on his profile has got to be more helpful that telling him he’s not a train or replying with bye ........ "

Absolutely! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why don't we all get a big stick and totally beat the hell out of any confidence the OP has left?

Lets uplift people rather than tell them they are rubbish, too short, incapable of communicating in a specific way, etc. etc...

There are all kinds of people on fab, OP. Don't listen to anyone that says you are not good enough.

Fair is fair, people. And this is the female of the couple posting btw....

Niki x

Agree with you. It's hard for single guys xx"

Thank you, I've been anxious about hate mail..

x N

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

" but any critiquing of a profile must, as I understand it, be explicitly requested."

No it doesn't, as explained by Ruggers further up the thread.

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By *reykiwi500Man over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later

All you did was rant in a 'woe is me' kind of way. Rightly or wrongly, that doesn't gain much sympathy on here, especially if it's coming from a single guy.

If you'd asked for some constructive feedback, you might have received some. I believe it's a rule on here that profiles cannot be critiqued unless this has been requested.

Or if it is relevant to the OP, ie someone is wondering why they are not having much luck

The advice re: going to clubs, socials etc. can be given freely, but any critiquing of a profile must, as I understand it, be explicitly requested.

Further up the thread he asks for constructive criticism, surely commenting on his profile has got to be more helpful that telling him he’s not a train or replying with bye ........ "

Yes, but that was after the initial responses. In any event, bar one or two unhelpful remarks, the OP has now had lots of constructive advice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" but any critiquing of a profile must, as I understand it, be explicitly requested.

No it doesn't, as explained by Ruggers further up the thread."

Maybe he’s admin but surely then he wouldn’t be laughing ‘haha’ at the sh!tty comments!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later

All you did was rant in a 'woe is me' kind of way. Rightly or wrongly, that doesn't gain much sympathy on here, especially if it's coming from a single guy.

If you'd asked for some constructive feedback, you might have received some. I believe it's a rule on here that profiles cannot be critiqued unless this has been requested.

Or if it is relevant to the OP, ie someone is wondering why they are not having much luck

The advice re: going to clubs, socials etc. can be given freely, but any critiquing of a profile must, as I understand it, be explicitly requested.

Further up the thread he asks for constructive criticism, surely commenting on his profile has got to be more helpful that telling him he’s not a train or replying with bye ........

Yes, but that was after the initial responses. In any event, bar one or two unhelpful remarks, the OP has now had lots of constructive advice."

If wasn’t after my response, it was before! What the unhelpful remarks you’re laughing at

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some of you are so harsh

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later

All you did was rant in a 'woe is me' kind of way. Rightly or wrongly, that doesn't gain much sympathy on here, especially if it's coming from a single guy.

If you'd asked for some constructive feedback, you might have received some. I believe it's a rule on here that profiles cannot be critiqued unless this has been requested.

Or if it is relevant to the OP, ie someone is wondering why they are not having much luck

The advice re: going to clubs, socials etc. can be given freely, but any critiquing of a profile must, as I understand it, be explicitly requested.

Further up the thread he asks for constructive criticism, surely commenting on his profile has got to be more helpful that telling him he’s not a train or replying with bye ........ "

That's fair enough if he's now asking for help, I went off the headline and it's a real bugbear of mine on Facebook where people say they're leaving a group but want people to beg them to stay

So I'll apologise if that's not what he wanted

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By *reykiwi500Man over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

" but any critiquing of a profile must, as I understand it, be explicitly requested.

No it doesn't, as explained by Ruggers further up the thread.

Maybe he’s admin but surely then he wouldn’t be laughing ‘haha’ at the sh!tty comments!

Oh for goodness sake, the 'haha' was clearly about the dodgy cliental remark for Woking's Pizza Express (topical news story). Seriously!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You all seem ready to push him off the site. I haven't yet met this guy but we have been chatting on and off for ages. He is a really lovely guy and we need more guys like him on Fab. I am hoping to meet for a coffee soon and then he can get verified. That usually helps. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So sorry to hear you are leaving, be a real pity and a real shame, you seem lovely, you are hot, please don’t leave....,.

..... oh shoot I posted the standard response when a single lady says they are leaving..,..

Just seen this, it's made me chuckle! What a good point!

x N

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later

All you did was rant in a 'woe is me' kind of way. Rightly or wrongly, that doesn't gain much sympathy on here, especially if it's coming from a single guy.

If you'd asked for some constructive feedback, you might have received some. I believe it's a rule on here that profiles cannot be critiqued unless this has been requested.

Or if it is relevant to the OP, ie someone is wondering why they are not having much luck

The advice re: going to clubs, socials etc. can be given freely, but any critiquing of a profile must, as I understand it, be explicitly requested."

Or if it is relevant to the OP, ie someone is wondering why they are not having much luck

https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules

No nit-picking please

Unless someone specifically asks for their profile to be critiqued or if it's relevant to the thread e.g. someone is wondering why they're not having success, please don't critique their profile or be mean about it.

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

" but any critiquing of a profile must, as I understand it, be explicitly requested.

No it doesn't, as explained by Ruggers further up the thread.

Maybe he’s admin but surely then he wouldn’t be laughing ‘haha’ at the sh!tty comments!

Who is Admin?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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" but any critiquing of a profile must, as I understand it, be explicitly requested.

No it doesn't, as explained by Ruggers further up the thread.

Maybe he’s admin but surely then he wouldn’t be laughing ‘haha’ at the sh!tty comments!

Who?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You all seem ready to push him off the site. I haven't yet met this guy but we have been chatting on and off for ages. He is a really lovely guy and we need more guys like him on Fab. I am hoping to meet for a coffee soon and then he can get verified. That usually helps. X"

Good on you. Hope he has another go... Enjoy your coffee and your chat if you have it. A few months ago, a few people did this for us, that kept us on the site...

x N

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By *reykiwi500Man over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"Are you asking why you're not getting replies?

Was hoping to get some constructive criticism.. but instead I get Bye and see you later

All you did was rant in a 'woe is me' kind of way. Rightly or wrongly, that doesn't gain much sympathy on here, especially if it's coming from a single guy.

If you'd asked for some constructive feedback, you might have received some. I believe it's a rule on here that profiles cannot be critiqued unless this has been requested.

Or if it is relevant to the OP, ie someone is wondering why they are not having much luck

The advice re: going to clubs, socials etc. can be given freely, but any critiquing of a profile must, as I understand it, be explicitly requested.

Or if it is relevant to the OP, ie someone is wondering why they are not having much luck

https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules

No nit-picking please

Ah OK fair enough, my mistake. Apologies. I've read on the forums so many times by so many people that you can't critique a profile without it being explicitly requested, that I assumed that was the only criteria.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At last someone decent posting

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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As you can see, people get the rules wrong, a lot. Have a read of the rules yourself , it saves any bans

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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To the OP, don't be put off with some of the replies. You were very polite in your replies. Hopefully if you stick around you will have some luck soon, one lady has offered you a social

To the people who are obviously fed up with single men asking for help, avoid the thread instead of trying to humiliate the man as it really isn't pleasant

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