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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Finding it really hard even getting replies back.
I'm genuine and write polite messages introducing myself and what I'm here for, i also say I'm happy to send a face photo in a message.
What am I doing wrong here lady's?
Thank you in advance  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My wife has a single profile and often gets 100 mails a day.
In order to even choose the ones to read she has to delete all the ones with sex talk, all the ones with dick pictures anywhere, all the ones with no profile picture, thinking up more and more reasons to reject just to get the numbers down.
So be aware that women get too many messages. That means you have a lot of competition. So you better write a very good message, have a good profile and be prepared for a low return ratio. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
We're a couple and I see you're looking for single women but the general stuff is the same: re-write your profile and get rid of the spelling and grammar errors....it's one of the ways we filter out the dozens of messages we get each day.
Also get some good photos. Your only pic isn't very flattering in all honesty.
Bry (and Char) |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"No one got any advice with this? "
You need some patience. Expecting an immediate reply at 1am suggests that you want things and want them now.
Regarding your profile...being a curvy, smoker who is happy to meet people in their 90s will put some people off.
Your profile talks about what you are looking for. You need to think why would you appeal to ladies. What do you offer them ? Why should they decide to reply to your message and not the other 30 ?
Do you send polite messages...ie the same cut and paste message to everyone you write to ?
Try making it personal , so that the lady thinfs you want to meet them, not you will meeting anyone ages 18 to 99 within an hour's travel.
Loads of profile and messaging advise is you search for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know/knew the feeling. I believe my issue was the profile text was rubbish, I’ve just amended mine to hopefully be more appealing.
Don’t give up though. All good things come eventually |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, also struggling here too and just amended my profile text.. being on an island, discretion is a must with me. Sadly I met up with someone from here last year but they are no longer on the site so can’t get a verification and plus.. I’m on a island miles away from the UK!
Any tips people can give regarding my profile? It would really be appreciated. |
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By mrsmileguy OP Find posts by mrsmileguy Man
1 day ago
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Finding it really hard even getting replies back.
I'm genuine and write polite messages introducing myself and what I'm here for, i also say I'm happy to send a face photo in a message.
What am I doing wrong here lady's?
Thank you in advance
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By mrsmileguy OP Find posts by mrsmileguy Man
1 day ago
harlow
No one got any advice with this?
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By barkadaFind posts by barkada Couple
24 hours ago
Aylesbury area
My wife has a single profile and often gets 100 mails a day.
In order to even choose the ones to read she has to delete all the ones with sex talk, all the ones with dick pictures anywhere, all the ones with no profile picture, thinking up more and more reasons to reject just to get the numbers down.
So be aware that women get too many messages. That means you have a lot of competition. So you better write a very good message, have a good profile and be prepared for a low return ratio.
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By Wankie303Find posts by Wankie303 Woman
24 hours ago
Weirdsville South Dorset
"No one got any advice with this? "
Use the search forum function and type "profile advice" and read the many many many many....many many many threads full of advice
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By CharAndBryFind posts by CharAndBry Couple
16 hours ago
Stamford
We're a couple and I see you're looking for single women but the general stuff is the same: re-write your profile and get rid of the spelling and grammar errors....it's one of the ways we filter out the dozens of messages we get each day.
Also get some good photos. Your only pic isn't very flattering in all honesty.
Bry (and Char)
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By Lizzy.Find posts by Lizzy. Woman
15 hours ago
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"No one got any advice with this? "
You need some patience. Expecting an immediate reply at 1am suggests that you want things and want them now.
Regarding your profile...being a curvy, smoker who is happy to meet people in their 90s will put some people off.
Your profile talks about what you are looking for. You need to think why would you appeal to ladies. What do you offer them ? Why should they decide to reply to your message and not the other 30 ?
Do you send polite messages...ie the same cut and paste message to everyone you write to ?
Try making it personal , so that the lady thinfs you want to meet them, not you will meeting anyone ages 18 to 99 within an hour's travel.
Loads of profile and messaging advise is you search for it.
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By SallySlinkyFind posts by SallySlinky Woman
14 hours ago
Leeds
Your name is mr smile guy but it can also be read as mrs mileguy so a bit confusing, especially as your name is Dee which I think of as a woman.
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By 282draymond282Find posts by 282draymond282 Man
14 hours ago
Hampshire
I know/knew the feeling. I believe my issue was the profile text was rubbish, I’ve just amended mine to hopefully be more appealing.
Don’t give up though. All good things come eventually
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By Locarno1Find posts by Locarno1 Man
14 hours ago
Guernsey
Yep, also struggling here too and just amended my profile text.. being on an island, discretion is a must with me. Sadly I met up with someone from here last year but they are no longer on the site so can’t get a verification and plus.. I’m on a island miles away from the UK!
Any tips people can give regarding my profile? It would really be appreciated.
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By SallySlinkyFind posts by SallySlinky Woman
2 hours ago
Leeds
"being on an island, discretion is a must with me.
Any tips people can give regarding my profile ?"
"Discretion is a must" but you insist on women sending you a face pic with their first message
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My advice such as it is .. throw away all of your ideas,preconceptions,desires even . Don't assume you will be getting jiggy after a few messages on here .
Just join a virtual chat environment in the forums be yourself and see what if anything develops from the chat and banter .
If you are though just looking to have fun then a sensible idea might be to go to a club or perhaps accompany someone from here to one .
Other than that ..pull up a seat, sit down . Cheers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say that what you are doing wrong is EXPECTING a reply.
Check out the site FAQ's. Nobody owes you a reply just because you've sent them a message.
Do you phone up all the takeaway outlets that post their menus through your door just to tell them you're not interested.
Yes, it can be a little disheartening to send messages and not get a response but I very much doubt that an inbox full of 'no thanks' messages would make you feel any better.
Single women and couples are massively outnumbered by men on fab and many are inundated on a daily basis. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
There's plenty of existing threads giving advice, also most of my profile is dedicated to this as well, feel free to take a look. You say you have been here before, so you know how things generally work, that's a good start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly for me the biggest problem was that initial verification - once you have that people become more open.
I got mine when I attended my first club night (went as single male) and ended up having a blast! Meeting so many awesome people too |
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By *j48Man
over a year ago
Wigan |
"Honestly for me the biggest problem was that initial verification - once you have that people become more open.
I got mine when I attended my first club night (went as single male) and ended up having a blast! Meeting so many awesome people too"
Yep
Being sociable is a big plus |
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
"Finding it really hard even getting replies back.
I'm genuine and write polite messages introducing myself and what I'm here for, i also say I'm happy to send a face photo in a message.
What am I doing wrong here lady's?
Thank you in advance "
To be fair it can be tricky for older or newer, inboxes have peaks and troughs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just the way the site is. Even if your profile is good for every woman you message you are competing with tens if not hundreds of other men! Which if you are average looking like me then can make it near impossible haha!
Women on the other hand they have fab fall at thier feet they get men couples and single ladies message them without doing a thing haha.
Just the way it is. I find doing things offline like clubs etc to be far better |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems to be a lot of single guys finding it hard to meet on fabswingers."
I don’t find it hard and I’d like to say I have some magic advice, but haven’t. I only message people I like the look of, take rejection well, and like to think my profile is a reflection of my personality. I do take a little time composing a message and check it before sending it. I only ever send face pics and always fully read the profile of anyone I ever message. Every line. |
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