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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We like to think we're an easy going couple non pushy, always up for fun and banter ,
We woundered what we could do differently to get more intrest from the lady's and ideally get chatting .
Any input appreciated lol   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes the unicorn thing is a little tired for me these days
Don’t forget odds are a little higher as a three way attraction needed rather than a two way attraction
You’re profile seems ok though social first all parties needs etc just finding the right lady I guess or the right lady finding you !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often get approached by couples and I would play with couples, however, it can be difficult joining a couple as sometimes the couple are so into their own satisfaction they forget about the third person. For this reason I am now reluctant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we were a single female looking to meet with a couple, we would be a bit suspicious of your profile and if you were really a single guy. This is based on you only having a pic of the guy in your public gallery and no verifications after being on here for 8 months. Not saying that you are not genuine but hope that's helpful. Bear in mind that single females are like unicorns so you need to pull out all the stops, not limit your opportunities. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You seem like a nice, respectful couple who will take the third persons wishes into account.
Unfortunately you’re looking for the same thing as a lot of other couples on Fab as I’m sure you know.
As someone else mentioned, try a club. Great way of meeting females who might be interested and of course they can see that you are genuine.
Lots of luck to you both.
Miss V x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wasn't saying that we are female and we're not saying that you are not genuine. Wd are saying that others can only consider you on the basis of your profile. Was just trying to offer some friendly and helpful advice on how we think you might come across to females. You don't have to agree and no problem if you don't. You list mf couples as an interest group but no verifications are indicated at all for the time that you have been on. These are the sort of considerations that we would apply if being contacted by others. If you want to connect with those that form the hardest category to attract, you need to play your A game. Hope you can appreciate the helpful intention of our thoughts, whether you agree with them or not and also hope that you find what you are looking for x |
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Your looking for a member of the smallest group here and in a restrictive age range. Single girls get many messages. When i get a messsge from a couple and check their profile out, if there are no pics of them as a couple on show i tend to delete. As a couple profile thsts what i would expect. |
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"Plus your not a single female lol "
Many couples have a bi fem who may play as a single fem, like myself. By dismissing them, and the knowledge they bring, you are making it harder for yourself. Personally I would steer clear of a profile like yours. It appears to be driven by the male and is unverified. |
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We as a couple have I suppose been lucky in meeting single ladies,we find the most important thing is the ladies need to be attracted to each other otherwise it will be a let down ,mostly meet in clubs the ladies sometimes not even been on Fab ,but have also meet off here but meet socially first to put lady at ease |
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One sure-fire way of meeting single ladies is to be active on the social scene.
Ditch the idea that single bi ladies who play with couples are "rare or mythical"...its bullshit, most swinging ladies, both single and in couples, are bi.
As another poster said, 8 months without any veries at all isnt good, it shows a lack of effort. Going to a social, even one of the smaller ones, would easily get you half a dozen or more veries. |
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"One sure-fire way of meeting single ladies is to be active on the social scene.
Ditch the idea that single bi ladies who play with couples are "rare or mythical"...its bullshit, most swinging ladies, both single and in couples, are bi.
As another poster said, 8 months without any veries at all isnt good, it shows a lack of effort. Going to a social, even one of the smaller ones, would easily get you half a dozen or more veries."
. Agree with you most ladies that play with couple are Bi and most importantly the ladies need to be attracted to each |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Plus your not a single female lol
We are verified as a couple through fab and he had just as much input in this profile as me lol
Many couples have a bi fem who may play as a single fem, like myself. By dismissing them, and the knowledge they bring, you are making it harder for yourself. Personally I would steer clear of a profile like yours. It appears to be driven by the male and is unverified. "
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"Plus your not a single female lol
We are verified as a couple through fab and he had just as much input in this profile as me lol
Many couples have a bi fem who may play as a single fem, like myself. By dismissing them, and the knowledge they bring, you are making it harder for yourself. Personally I would steer clear of a profile like yours. It appears to be driven by the male and is unverified. "
Photo verification doesn't count as a veri in this sense. Photo veris are easily faked, so I wouldn't use that as a way to see you're truly a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I would be thinking single male!
As for us single females being sought after all I get is rubbish mail, no effort at all and that's from single guys and a few couples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I would be thinking single male!
As for us single females being sought after all I get is rubbish mail, no effort at all and that's from single guys and a few couples "
Generally we make an effort but usually dont get a reply. Not tried a large social yet though and hopefully that will help.
An initial first ice breaker message can be difficult but an effort is always made obviously not unique enough in the first part of the message. |
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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon tyne |
Firstly 8 months is nothing in fab land. It took us a year to get our first meet with a single lady on here. Photo veris are good but we have found most people like veris from actual meets. We went to an organised social and let and played with lots of wonderful people who we are now lucky enough to call our friends. They verified us by meet and I think that has definitely helped us get more meets. Clubs and socials are mostly where we get our meets so maybe try those out and use fab on the side.
Gem |
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"Firstly 8 months is nothing in fab land. It took us a year to get our first meet with a single lady on here. Photo veris are good but we have found most people like veris from actual meets. We went to an organised social and let and played with lots of wonderful people who we are now lucky enough to call our friends. They verified us by meet and I think that has definitely helped us get more meets. Clubs and socials are mostly where we get our meets so maybe try those out and use fab on the side.
Gem"
Completely unrelated but I adore your blue outfit! |
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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon tyne |
"Firstly 8 months is nothing in fab land. It took us a year to get our first meet with a single lady on here. Photo veris are good but we have found most people like veris from actual meets. We went to an organised social and let and played with lots of wonderful people who we are now lucky enough to call our friends. They verified us by meet and I think that
has definitely helped us get more meets. Clubs and socials are mostly where we get our meets so maybe try those out and use fab on the side.
Gem
Completely unrelated but I adore your blue outfit!"
Thank you! Was an Ann summers bargain! |
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"Firstly 8 months is nothing in fab land. It took us a year to get our first meet with a single lady on here. Photo veris are good but we have found most people like veris from actual meets. We went to an organised social and let and played with lots of wonderful people who we are now lucky enough to call our friends. They verified us by meet and I think that
has definitely helped us get more meets. Clubs and socials are mostly where we get our meets so maybe try those out and use fab on the side.
Gem
Completely unrelated but I adore your blue outfit!
Thank you! Was an Ann summers bargain!"
Even better! Looks great on you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You need to network it’s a bit of a chicken and egg situation, real swinging single girls will look at your veris to see who you’ve met, if you’ve met single girls then you are more likely to meet more because they will see other single girls have had a nice time, but the reality is that most single girls can’t stand couples with weird boundaries, putting them on a pedestal or using them as a toy. |
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By *ng1983Couple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon tyne |
"Firstly 8 months is nothing in fab land. It took us a year to get our first meet with a single lady on here. Photo veris are good but we have found most people like veris from actual meets. We went to an organised social and let and played with lots of wonderful people who we are now lucky enough to call our friends. They verified us by meet and I think that
has definitely helped us get more meets. Clubs and socials are mostly where we get our meets so maybe try those out and use fab on the side.
Gem
Completely unrelated but I adore your blue outfit!
Thank you! Was an Ann summers bargain!
Even better! Looks great on you! "
Aw thank you! I love your 9th Oct pic. Gorgeous! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You’re looking for a SF to live out ‘our fantasy’
That to me says, I’m a toy. Standard really on couple profiles.
The couples I met are all in clubs where we can chat first. I don’t meet off fab because it’s far to difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You’re looking for a SF to live out ‘our fantasy’
That to me says, I’m a toy. Standard really on couple profiles.
The couples I met are all in clubs where we can chat first. I don’t meet off fab because it’s far to difficult. "
Not standard at all, we’ve had plenty of FFM meets with equal way dynamics, last night as an example. Don’t tar every couple with the same brush! We are all individual & different, just like you would expect us to treat you as an individual  |
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"Firstly 8 months is nothing in fab land. It took us a year to get our first meet with a single lady on here. Photo veris are good but we have found most people like veris from actual meets. We went to an organised social and let and played with lots of wonderful people who we are now lucky enough to call our friends. They verified us by meet and I think that
has definitely helped us get more meets. Clubs and socials are mostly where we get our meets so maybe try those out and use fab on the side.
Gem
Completely unrelated but I adore your blue outfit!
Thank you! Was an Ann summers bargain!
Even better! Looks great on you!
Aw thank you! I love your 9th Oct pic. Gorgeous! "
Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You’re looking for a SF to live out ‘our fantasy’
That to me says, I’m a toy. Standard really on couple profiles.
The couples I met are all in clubs where we can chat first. I don’t meet off fab because it’s far to difficult.
Not standard at all, we’ve had plenty of FFM meets with equal way dynamics, last night as an example. Don’t tar every couple with the same brush! We are all individual & different, just like you would expect us to treat you as an individual "
I was responding to OP, not directly towards your own profile. But yes, I do tend to find couples wanting SF as a toy standard. just reading other forum threads on the same topic brings up the same response from other SFs. hence, why I said I prefer clubs, where I’ve met some amazing couples |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your looking for a member of the smallest group here and in a restrictive age range. Single girls get many messages. When i get a messsge from a couple and check their profile out, if there are no pics of them as a couple on show i tend to delete. As a couple profile thsts what i would expect. "
If anyone wanted a pic of us together we are more than happy to show,, |
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If anyone wanted a pic of us together we are more than happy to show
So why don't you put one on your profile ?
Was just thinking the same? "
Yep more photos together and maybe a small bio written by each of you explaining what you want from this. Your profile isn’t bad but consider we get maybe 20 messages per day from couples so you need to stand out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always funny when people critique another’s profile whilst displaying very little on there own, we get that it’s about supply and demand, however if you’ve not got much on your own profile do you not think you just attract the desperate? |
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If anyone wanted a pic of us together we are more than happy to show
So why don't you put one on your profile ?
Was just thinking the same?
Yep more photos together and maybe a small bio written by each of you explaining what you want from this. Your profile isn’t bad but consider we get maybe 20 messages per day from couples so you need to stand out."
How would a couple stand out when messaging you?
Just you know.. curious..  |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
You don't really say what your fantasies are! Is it just female on female play or everyone playing??
Weve been on fab a year and never met a single female outside of the club scene as of yet!!
I'm definitely a bi female and I am not adverse to playing alone with couples.
However, I am sceptical of women in couples who have never been with a female. I know we all start somewhere. But so many times I see it where what they mean is I play with the female so she gets all the pleasure and hubby has a walk. The female wont return and the hubby is out of bounds.
What I would say to you to state what type of situation you're looking for.
Like we state we like everyone to play. I don't like the idea of being a circus monkey for the hubby to watch. Just my preference!!
But then I actually like watching my husband fuck other women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The point is OP you need to message the single lady profiles with good information, lots of pictures including full length body shots who have repeat veris from couples, who generally play with couples and have there heads screwed on, you’ll have far more success rather than a splatter gun approach, just avoid the profiles with no or very few pictures and not much information, if they haven’t made the effort with the profile they probably won’t make the effort to read your profile and engage in a proper conversation |
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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago
Your wildest Dreams |
My profile bio is an essay and a half, specifically because I was getting asked alot of questions in messages so it was like ping pong for ages. Me personally, as a single female I prefer clubs as it is safer and I always have fun regardless of play or not. Majority of us single females, do clubs and not private meets purely for the safety behind reasons x |
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By *ad6Woman
over a year ago
Near you |
"I often get approached by couples and I would play with couples, however, it can be difficult joining a couple as sometimes the couple are so into their own satisfaction they forget about the third person. For this reason I am now reluctant. "
I totally agree with you on that |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
We joined to find the elusive single female nearly four years ago, nada for the first months, Went to a small club, Got some verifications from regulars & had fun.
Still nothing, a few big socials, a few promises, lots & lots of chat from all groups but we were not getting any closer it seemed.
In all that time on here we have had a play meet with ONE single female as we don't do clubs. Whilst we have enjoyed our other adventures in the world of swinging we still wanted a regular third & despite our numerous social veries we have found single females on the whole are just too spoilt for choice on here & many prefer to go the single guy route.
We would say photo veri is pretty useless & easy to fake, anyone on here after eight months not making an effort to get a meet veri even from a social or club is really not making much of an effort.
As someone else said we'd avoid those that say they are bi & open to meeting couples unless they actually have a play meet veri from one & not a "We met them in a club, we kissed & she was great fun"..means jack apart from they are real & they kissed..Whoop whoop, my mums real & we kiss too.
We gave up on here in the end & used a couple of poly sites & now have a gf, Maybe that's too much for you but not everything is about sex sometimes..
Not for us anyway..
Old cliche for many but "You get out what you put in" still applies, but don't expect to get out anytime soon & certainly not if you won't attend a club or maybe a group social meet to start with.
Good luck
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"Always funny when people critique another’s profile whilst displaying very little on there own, we get that it’s about supply and demand, however if you’ve not got much on your own profile do you not think you just attract the desperate? "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have put what we are in to in our interests , although like any other couple this could change depends on what gets EVERY ONE going lol
,, and stated it's not all about us we've even put this in our profile Xxxxxxx
We would also like to say to any bi ladys thinking about messaging us we are fully aware you have needs to and will not be treated like a present or a toy ... And we promise to put ur needs and fantasys in line with ours xxx
The friendlys xx
We have loads of pics ,,, but our choice is to start chatting first before friending everyone first lol
We're not looking for criticism just helpful advice pointers |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
" We have put what we are in to in our interests , although like any other couple this could change depends on what gets EVERY ONE going lol
,, and stated it's not all about us we've even put this in our profile Xxxxxxx
We would also like to say to any bi ladys thinking about messaging us we are fully aware you have needs to and will not be treated like a present or a toy ... And we promise to put ur needs and fantasys in line with ours xxx
The friendlys xx
We have loads of pics ,,, but our choice is to start chatting first before friending everyone first lol
We're not looking for criticism just helpful advice pointers "
I wasnt trying to be critical just looking from another point of view. You don't say whether all will be involved or just the 2 ladies which is what a lot of women want to know.
And it comes back to you're looking for the most difficult thing to find on here. We've been here a year and we've yet to find one!! Though we're happy playing with couples so it's not a huge deal |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Always funny when people critique another’s profile whilst displaying very little on there own, we get that it’s about supply and demand, however if you’ve not got much on your own profile do you not think you just attract the desperate? "
Tottaly agree with this xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" We have put what we are in to in our interests , although like any other couple this could change depends on what gets EVERY ONE going lol
,, and stated it's not all about us we've even put this in our profile Xxxxxxx
We would also like to say to any bi ladys thinking about messaging us we are fully aware you have needs to and will not be treated like a present or a toy ... And we promise to put ur needs and fantasys in line with ours xxx
The friendlys xx
We have loads of pics ,,, but our choice is to start chatting first before friending everyone first lol
We're not looking for criticism just helpful advice pointers
I wasnt trying to be critical just looking from another point of view. You don't say whether all will be involved or just the 2 ladies which is what a lot of women want to know.
And it comes back to you're looking for the most difficult thing to find on here. We've been here a year and we've yet to find one!! Though we're happy playing with couples so it's not a huge deal "
We have a brief summary of our interests generally the same as most couples , and we will put their interests in line with ours as stated in profile , but like we said on the original post on this thread we would ideally like to start chatting or getting more intrest , , |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
" We have put what we are in to in our interests , although like any other couple this could change depends on what gets EVERY ONE going lol
,, and stated it's not all about us we've even put this in our profile Xxxxxxx
We would also like to say to any bi ladys thinking about messaging us we are fully aware you have needs to and will not be treated like a present or a toy ... And we promise to put ur needs and fantasys in line with ours xxx
The friendlys xx
We have loads of pics ,,, but our choice is to start chatting first before friending everyone first lol
We're not looking for criticism just helpful advice pointers
I wasnt trying to be critical just looking from another point of view. You don't say whether all will be involved or just the 2 ladies which is what a lot of women want to know.
And it comes back to you're looking for the most difficult thing to find on here. We've been here a year and we've yet to find one!! Though we're happy playing with couples so it's not a huge deal
We have a brief summary of our interests generally the same as most couples , and we will put their interests in line with ours as stated in profile , but like we said on the original post on this thread we would ideally like to start chatting or getting more intrest , , "
You are not a million miles from a couple of very good well established socials..We had a 120 mile round trip to go to our nearest social gathering, even further now but we will probably do a couple in the new year as it's nice to meet people into the lifestyle & they don't all walk around shouting about it..as some seem to think..
Just saying..
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