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"Depends almost entirely on what you want from the experience.
to feel owned to serve and to be be teased and aroused but not always unlocked "
Paying a key holder ... as a key holder or someone to own you and for you to serve? To tease you and arouse you... but not always unlocked? I think you have different ideas about a key holder service than a key holder service may have ..
My wife holds my key ( if she hasn’t forgotten where it is) it’s for me to serve not to be teased and aroused... I think you should have a rethink and maybe discussion with someone who won’t charge to work things out before spending a penny x |
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"so is paying good or bad ?
I don't think it's either good or bad, it depends what you want.
i would prefer free but as an insensitive i would pay
Oh and sorry to hear you’re an insensitive !  "
lol blooming auto correct haha it was ment to say incentive |
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"Depends almost entirely on what you want from the experience.
to feel owned to serve and to be be teased and aroused but not always unlocked
Paying a key holder ... as a key holder or someone to own you and for you to serve? To tease you and arouse you... but not always unlocked? I think you have different ideas about a key holder service than a key holder service may have ..
My wife holds my key ( if she hasn’t forgotten where it is) it’s for me to serve not to be teased and aroused... I think you should have a rethink and maybe discussion with someone who won’t charge to work things out before spending a penny x"
your only going by what your key holder does for you , does your device prevent you from getting a hard on ? |
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"I have experience on both side. I think they are equally fun.
Probably more prompt when paid, simply because ys based on a predetermined agreement. "
yes true and a good point , i do wish i lived in london xx |
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"I think that paying is all part of the fun and emphisises the feeling of being owned
do you think so , can i ask are you caged and owned "
Not at the moment but have been in the past and currently seeking to be part of a female led relationship again which would hopefully include chasitiy and cuckolding.
Paying doesnt have to be cold hard notes but could be paying for some sexy underwear for Your keyholder to wear on a date for example.
Of course there is nothing wrong if a agreement was cash for release i just think it makes it a bit easier for a sub to get release if they can just pay for it instead of having to work for it and earn with obeidance and good behaviour.
It all depends on the dynamic between the two and a lot of factors can have a impact |
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"I think that paying is all part of the fun and emphisises the feeling of being owned
do you think so , can i ask are you caged and owned
Not at the moment but have been in the past and currently seeking to be part of a female led relationship again which would hopefully include chasitiy and cuckolding.
Paying doesnt have to be cold hard notes but could be paying for some sexy underwear for Your keyholder to wear on a date for example.
Of course there is nothing wrong if a agreement was cash for release i just think it makes it a bit easier for a sub to get release if they can just pay for it instead of having to work for it and earn with obeidance and good behaviour.
It all depends on the dynamic between the two and a lot of factors can have a impact"
i like the idea of having to earn been unlocked and doing what they want |
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"Depends almost entirely on what you want from the experience.
to feel owned to serve and to be be teased and aroused but not always unlocked
Paying a key holder ... as a key holder or someone to own you and for you to serve? To tease you and arouse you... but not always unlocked? I think you have different ideas about a key holder service than a key holder service may have ..
My wife holds my key ( if she hasn’t forgotten where it is) it’s for me to serve not to be teased and aroused... I think you should have a rethink and maybe discussion with someone who won’t charge to work things out before spending a penny x
your only going by what your key holder does for you , does your device prevent you from getting a hard on ?"
Yes.... and I’m only answering to the best of my experience my thoughts |
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"Depends almost entirely on what you want from the experience.
to feel owned to serve and to be be teased and aroused but not always unlocked
Paying a key holder ... as a key holder or someone to own you and for you to serve? To tease you and arouse you... but not always unlocked? I think you have different ideas about a key holder service than a key holder service may have ..
My wife holds my key ( if she hasn’t forgotten where it is) it’s for me to serve not to be teased and aroused... I think you should have a rethink and maybe discussion with someone who won’t charge to work things out before spending a penny x
your only going by what your key holder does for you , does your device prevent you from getting a hard on ?
Yes.... and I’m only answering to the best of my experience my thoughts "
im confused who actually said what now with all this quoting lol |
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"Depends almost entirely on what you want from the experience.
to feel owned to serve and to be be teased and aroused but not always unlocked
Paying a key holder ... as a key holder or someone to own you and for you to serve? To tease you and arouse you... but not always unlocked? I think you have different ideas about a key holder service than a key holder service may have ..
My wife holds my key ( if she hasn’t forgotten where it is) it’s for me to serve not to be teased and aroused... I think you should have a rethink and maybe discussion with someone who won’t charge to work things out before spending a penny x
your only going by what your key holder does for you , does your device prevent you from getting a hard on ?
Yes.... and I’m only answering to the best of my experience my thoughts
im confused who actually said what now with all this quoting lol"
It’s all quite simple .... go to the beginning .... read in turn ... or, alternatively, have a clue what you’ve said ! |
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"Depends almost entirely on what you want from the experience.
to feel owned to serve and to be be teased and aroused but not always unlocked
Paying a key holder ... as a key holder or someone to own you and for you to serve? To tease you and arouse you... but not always unlocked? I think you have different ideas about a key holder service than a key holder service may have ..
My wife holds my key ( if she hasn’t forgotten where it is) it’s for me to serve not to be teased and aroused... I think you should have a rethink and maybe discussion with someone who won’t charge to work things out before spending a penny x
your only going by what your key holder does for you , does your device prevent you from getting a hard on ?
Yes.... and I’m only answering to the best of my experience my thoughts
im confused who actually said what now with all this quoting lol
It’s all quite simple .... go to the beginning .... read in turn ... or, alternatively, have a clue what you’ve said !"
getting a bit bitchy there arent you ,i was joking maybe you have your knickers on too tight and its restricted any type of sense of humour |
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"Depends almost entirely on what you want from the experience.
to feel owned to serve and to be be teased and aroused but not always unlocked
Then it should always be paid for "
payed for in money or in service |
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I have a love hate relationship with male chastity. When a partner or in a Cuckolding scenario I get a thrill because one or both of them want me locked up. However if I am locked up and it’s largely ignored then I am less keen.
I fully appreciate some men are locked up however I have a very active life, gym and showering at work then another gym in the evening. So that really does impact on how wearable the device is.
I wouldn’t be keen on paying someone simply because the thrill for me is someone wanting me locked, getting turned on by it and for me a professional key holder is perhaps more interested in your cash than your chastity.
How about a compromise and buy yourself a timed lock or timed lock box then just ask someone how long, program the time and you won’t get out until the time is up! |
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"I have a love hate relationship with male chastity. When a partner or in a Cuckolding scenario I get a thrill because one or both of them want me locked up. However if I am locked up and it’s largely ignored then I am less keen.
I fully appreciate some men are locked up however I have a very active life, gym and showering at work then another gym in the evening. So that really does impact on how wearable the device is.
I wouldn’t be keen on paying someone simply because the thrill for me is someone wanting me locked, getting turned on by it and for me a professional key holder is perhaps more interested in your cash than your chastity.
How about a compromise and buy yourself a timed lock or timed lock box then just ask someone how long, program the time and you won’t get out until the time is up!"
i agree with that and i think thats how i feel about it lol and riding the spin bike is near impossible with the device on ,
someone mentioned timed locks before but they are as bad as paying someone who doesnt care i think |
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"Depends almost entirely on what you want from the experience.
to feel owned to serve and to be be teased and aroused but not always unlocked
Paying a key holder ... as a key holder or someone to own you and for you to serve? To tease you and arouse you... but not always unlocked? I think you have different ideas about a key holder service than a key holder service may have ..
My wife holds my key ( if she hasn’t forgotten where it is) it’s for me to serve not to be teased and aroused... I think you should have a rethink and maybe discussion with someone who won’t charge to work things out before spending a penny x
your only going by what your key holder does for you , does your device prevent you from getting a hard on ?
Yes.... and I’m only answering to the best of my experience my thoughts
im confused who actually said what now with all this quoting lol
It’s all quite simple .... go to the beginning .... read in turn ... or, alternatively, have a clue what you’ve said !
getting a bit bitchy there arent you ,i was joking maybe you have your knickers on too tight and its restricted any type of sense of humour "
I found your comment regarding I’m only saying what my key holder does odd! You asked For advice.... I took my time to offer it .... the leaning toward saving you money in that you may not receive what you want from paying.... YOUR reply wasn’t particularly in the spirit of someone receiving the advice they requested! Your joke that you can’t keep up with your own thread is lost on me .... have fun! |
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"Depends almost entirely on what you want from the experience.
to feel owned to serve and to be be teased and aroused but not always unlocked
Paying a key holder ... as a key holder or someone to own you and for you to serve? To tease you and arouse you... but not always unlocked? I think you have different ideas about a key holder service than a key holder service may have ..
My wife holds my key ( if she hasn’t forgotten where it is) it’s for me to serve not to be teased and aroused... I think you should have a rethink and maybe discussion with someone who won’t charge to work things out before spending a penny x
your only going by what your key holder does for you , does your device prevent you from getting a hard on ?
Yes.... and I’m only answering to the best of my experience my thoughts
im confused who actually said what now with all this quoting lol
It’s all quite simple .... go to the beginning .... read in turn ... or, alternatively, have a clue what you’ve said !
getting a bit bitchy there arent you ,i was joking maybe you have your knickers on too tight and its restricted any type of sense of humour
I found your comment regarding I’m only saying what my key holder does odd! You asked For advice.... I took my time to offer it .... the leaning toward saving you money in that you may not receive what you want from paying.... YOUR reply wasn’t particularly in the spirit of someone receiving the advice they requested! Your joke that you can’t keep up with your own thread is lost on me .... have fun! "
dont really take advice from people with a strange attitudes |
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"Depends almost entirely on what you want from the experience.
to feel owned to serve and to be be teased and aroused but not always unlocked
Paying a key holder ... as a key holder or someone to own you and for you to serve? To tease you and arouse you... but not always unlocked? I think you have different ideas about a key holder service than a key holder service may have ..
My wife holds my key ( if she hasn’t forgotten where it is) it’s for me to serve not to be teased and aroused... I think you should have a rethink and maybe discussion with someone who won’t charge to work things out before spending a penny x
your only going by what your key holder does for you , does your device prevent you from getting a hard on ?
Yes.... and I’m only answering to the best of my experience my thoughts
im confused who actually said what now with all this quoting lol
It’s all quite simple .... go to the beginning .... read in turn ... or, alternatively, have a clue what you’ve said !
getting a bit bitchy there arent you ,i was joking maybe you have your knickers on too tight and its restricted any type of sense of humour
I found your comment regarding I’m only saying what my key holder does odd! You asked For advice.... I took my time to offer it .... the leaning toward saving you money in that you may not receive what you want from paying.... YOUR reply wasn’t particularly in the spirit of someone receiving the advice they requested! Your joke that you can’t keep up with your own thread is lost on me .... have fun!
dont really take advice from people with a strange attitudes "
Strange in what way? |
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"funny the amount of guys that have looked at my profile after this thread , you can ask questions if your curious "
Why is it funny? You asked a question in a forum, it is only natural for someone to check your profile to see where you are coming from, before answering. This is better than flooding your inbox with questions, no?  |
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"Depends almost entirely on what you want from the experience.
to feel owned to serve and to be be teased and aroused but not always unlocked
Paying a key holder ... as a key holder or someone to own you and for you to serve? To tease you and arouse you... but not always unlocked? I think you have different ideas about a key holder service than a key holder service may have ..
My wife holds my key ( if she hasn’t forgotten where it is) it’s for me to serve not to be teased and aroused... I think you should have a rethink and maybe discussion with someone who won’t charge to work things out before spending a penny x
your only going by what your key holder does for you , does your device prevent you from getting a hard on ?
Yes.... and I’m only answering to the best of my experience my thoughts
im confused who actually said what now with all this quoting lol
It’s all quite simple .... go to the beginning .... read in turn ... or, alternatively, have a clue what you’ve said !
getting a bit bitchy there arent you ,i was joking maybe you have your knickers on too tight and its restricted any type of sense of humour
I found your comment regarding I’m only saying what my key holder does odd! You asked For advice.... I took my time to offer it .... the leaning toward saving you money in that you may not receive what you want from paying.... YOUR reply wasn’t particularly in the spirit of someone receiving the advice they requested! Your joke that you can’t keep up with your own thread is lost on me .... have fun!
dont really take advice from people with a strange attitudes "
The couple have offered you advice from their perspective! I have only seen them being helpful |
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If you want someone to have an invested interest in your chastity, the only real way is to find a Domme play partner who enjoys that aspect of kink.
However, it is worth noting that not many people are going to interested in doing something for you just because it turns you on. That's not the way a lot of people work. |
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"Depends almost entirely on what you want from the experience.
to feel owned to serve and to be be teased and aroused but not always unlocked
Paying a key holder ... as a key holder or someone to own you and for you to serve? To tease you and arouse you... but not always unlocked? I think you have different ideas about a key holder service than a key holder service may have ..
My wife holds my key ( if she hasn’t forgotten where it is) it’s for me to serve not to be teased and aroused... I think you should have a rethink and maybe discussion with someone who won’t charge to work things out before spending a penny x
your only going by what your key holder does for you , does your device prevent you from getting a hard on ?
Yes.... and I’m only answering to the best of my experience my thoughts
im confused who actually said what now with all this quoting lol
It’s all quite simple .... go to the beginning .... read in turn ... or, alternatively, have a clue what you’ve said !
getting a bit bitchy there arent you ,i was joking maybe you have your knickers on too tight and its restricted any type of sense of humour
I found your comment regarding I’m only saying what my key holder does odd! You asked For advice.... I took my time to offer it .... the leaning toward saving you money in that you may not receive what you want from paying.... YOUR reply wasn’t particularly in the spirit of someone receiving the advice they requested! Your joke that you can’t keep up with your own thread is lost on me .... have fun!
dont really take advice from people with a strange attitudes
The couple have offered you advice from their perspective! I have only seen them being helpful "
Thank you I thought so x |
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"If you want someone to have an invested interest in your chastity, the only real way is to find a Domme play partner who enjoys that aspect of kink.
However, it is worth noting that not many people are going to interested in doing something for you just because it turns you on. That's not the way a lot of people work. "
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"should i pay for a key holder or should it be something that is free and paying would not give me a good experience ?"
I would save your money and buy a smaller chastity cage, the one in your pic looks a bit too big, in my experience a smaller cage is more comfortable. |
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"Depends almost entirely on what you want from the experience.
to feel owned to serve and to be be teased and aroused but not always unlocked
Paying a key holder ... as a key holder or someone to own you and for you to serve? To tease you and arouse you... but not always unlocked? I think you have different ideas about a key holder service than a key holder service may have ..
My wife holds my key ( if she hasn’t forgotten where it is) it’s for me to serve not to be teased and aroused... I think you should have a rethink and maybe discussion with someone who won’t charge to work things out before spending a penny x
your only going by what your key holder does for you , does your device prevent you from getting a hard on ?
Yes.... and I’m only answering to the best of my experience my thoughts
im confused who actually said what now with all this quoting lol
It’s all quite simple .... go to the beginning .... read in turn ... or, alternatively, have a clue what you’ve said !
getting a bit bitchy there arent you ,i was joking maybe you have your knickers on too tight and its restricted any type of sense of humour
I found your comment regarding I’m only saying what my key holder does odd! You asked For advice.... I took my time to offer it .... the leaning toward saving you money in that you may not receive what you want from paying.... YOUR reply wasn’t particularly in the spirit of someone receiving the advice they requested! Your joke that you can’t keep up with your own thread is lost on me .... have fun!
dont really take advice from people with a strange attitudes
Strange in what way? "
go back through your posts and read |
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"funny the amount of guys that have looked at my profile after this thread , you can ask questions if your curious
Why is it funny? You asked a question in a forum, it is only natural for someone to check your profile to see where you are coming from, before answering. This is better than flooding your inbox with questions, no? "
its funny because theres a hell of a lot more men looking than women |
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"Depends almost entirely on what you want from the experience.
to feel owned to serve and to be be teased and aroused but not always unlocked
Paying a key holder ... as a key holder or someone to own you and for you to serve? To tease you and arouse you... but not always unlocked? I think you have different ideas about a key holder service than a key holder service may have ..
My wife holds my key ( if she hasn’t forgotten where it is) it’s for me to serve not to be teased and aroused... I think you should have a rethink and maybe discussion with someone who won’t charge to work things out before spending a penny x
your only going by what your key holder does for you , does your device prevent you from getting a hard on ?
Yes.... and I’m only answering to the best of my experience my thoughts
im confused who actually said what now with all this quoting lol
It’s all quite simple .... go to the beginning .... read in turn ... or, alternatively, have a clue what you’ve said !
getting a bit bitchy there arent you ,i was joking maybe you have your knickers on too tight and its restricted any type of sense of humour
I found your comment regarding I’m only saying what my key holder does odd! You asked For advice.... I took my time to offer it .... the leaning toward saving you money in that you may not receive what you want from paying.... YOUR reply wasn’t particularly in the spirit of someone receiving the advice they requested! Your joke that you can’t keep up with your own thread is lost on me .... have fun!
dont really take advice from people with a strange attitudes
The couple have offered you advice from their perspective! I have only seen them being helpful "
they gave advice with attitude if they cant give advice with out the attitude then keep it goes for anyone |
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"If you want someone to have an invested interest in your chastity, the only real way is to find a Domme play partner who enjoys that aspect of kink.
However, it is worth noting that not many people are going to interested in doing something for you just because it turns you on. That's not the way a lot of people work. "
yes very true its just finding them even fet life is proving not so good |
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"should i pay for a key holder or should it be something that is free and paying would not give me a good experience ?
I would save your money and buy a smaller chastity cage, the one in your pic looks a bit too big, in my experience a smaller cage is more comfortable."
my dick does actually come virtually to the end of the cage if you zoom in on the pic you can see , maybe i should take another pic lol |
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I offer paid keyholding services and while the money is a nice part I genuinely have a love for chastity. The tease, the torment of poor subs caged for me, setting tasks, the daily reminder of where the key is, is all part of the experience for us both. There are numerous keyholding services it's simply finding that which approach works for you be it paid or free |
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"I offer paid keyholding services and while the money is a nice part I genuinely have a love for chastity. The tease, the torment of poor subs caged for me, setting tasks, the daily reminder of where the key is, is all part of the experience for us both. There are numerous keyholding services it's simply finding that which approach works for you be it paid or free "
you sound great wish i could find more like you |
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"I offer paid keyholding services and while the money is a nice part I genuinely have a love for chastity. The tease, the torment of poor subs caged for me, setting tasks, the daily reminder of where the key is, is all part of the experience for us both. There are numerous keyholding services it's simply finding that which approach works for you be it paid or free
you sound great wish i could find more like you "
I am quite unique  I would recommend checking the fet place and checking out the chastity groups and getting involved. You may find the keyholder of your dreams on it |
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"I offer paid keyholding services and while the money is a nice part I genuinely have a love for chastity. The tease, the torment of poor subs caged for me, setting tasks, the daily reminder of where the key is, is all part of the experience for us both. There are numerous keyholding services it's simply finding that which approach works for you be it paid or free
you sound great wish i could find more like you
I am quite unique I would recommend checking the fet place and checking out the chastity groups and getting involved. You may find the keyholder of your dreams on it "
i do have a fet account but not right sure how it works |
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just in case any of the guys that have looked at my profile are wondering what i get out of it well after a couple of weeks of been locked and my balls have swelled with been full when i do cum its like the first time you wanked as a teen and shot your load you all remember that first time right |
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"just in case any of the guys that have looked at my profile are wondering what i get out of it well after a couple of weeks of been locked and my balls have swelled with been full when i do cum its like the first time you wanked as a teen and shot your load you all remember that first time right "
What type of key holder are you looking for? |
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"Can you have more than one key holder or owner?
I don't think so.
It ruins the reason of having a key holder"
So have you got one?
And is it the traditional type where you have to physically meet to get the key? |
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The thing is, in my view I don't see the attraction if you don't actually meet or spend time with the key holder.
In chastity the tease and denial of the Dom partner is EVERYTHING. Pleasuring your partner without getting conventional pleasure quickly becomes a terrible torture that you'll both love and hate. Without that intimate dynamic, a chastity cage quickly becomes an annoyance, getting in the way of life and sleep, and what is sexy about that? |
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"Can you have more than one key holder or owner? "
As cucky said, not really... but if the keyholders know each other... then i have heard of that working... so a couple mayb... or someone and one of their friends. But generally, chastity is about that bond that can form between keyholder and cage wearer... so you'd need that well established before adding others i'd say |
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