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Men can do the same though so it's all good 
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" If they can be bothered to type all that out, imagine how bat shit crazy they must be in real life!  | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! If they can be bothered to type all that out, imagine how bat shit crazy they must be in real life! "Or they get pissed off after the thousandth crazy message. | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" One of many done to death forum topics  | |||
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"Nobody is entitled to a reply. On my single I just replied to a guy saying he is too far away. He replied hed come to me. I said I dont host. He said get the train. I said its £40 on the train from here....and blocked him. That's what happens when I send a polite no thanks. And we females can demand whatever we want to, as can men and couples too . " Oh my god This really tickled me. As it is so true. Each to there own on here. Freedom of choice. | |||
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"It's simple , just don't message such profiles "^^^ This! Easily sorted ... | |||
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"Nobody is entitled to a reply. On my single I just replied to a guy saying he is too far away. He replied hed come to me. I said I dont host. He said get the train. I said its £40 on the train from here....and blocked him. That's what happens when I send a polite no thanks. And we females can demand whatever we want to, as can men and couples too . " Or Me too far Him I will travel Me great social only though Him silence !!! | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" God forbid we should be allowed to choose who we want to meet. | |||
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"When you see profiles like that OP,it is generally a reaction to the inane drivel they have received from those men that dont give flying fuck about preferences. " This is exactly why! | |||
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I rarely reply as my wants are very specific and so yes, I’d fall into the category you have just addressed.
I’ve added a little footnote to my profile that says if I don’t reply, don’t be offended. I bet an incredibly few make it that far in reading though and thus they reserve the right to be offended. Haha. | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" Not another one!! Been rejected? Is that it?? | |||
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"What I don't understand is this... If someone is too lazy to read my profile and pay attention to what I've written, how can they pay attention to what's happening on a meet? Are they too lazy to give a damn there too? Your ability to read a profile, message coherently and message people who may be interested in what you're looking for too says a lot about you and how you'd interact if someone met you. " THIS | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" I know this one. It's the right to follow the rules of the site and particularly the fact that a deletion or non reply is a sufficient way to say no thank you. It does indeed take less than 2 minutes to send a polite reply. However for us females on here it often doesn't end there and my decision to now not reply is down to abuse I've received after these polite no thank yous that you see as so simple | |||
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"I just dont message those types of profiles. Seem more hassle than they are worth x" I find these profiles off putting too, even as a bi woman. I’m all for expressing preferences but some profiles just read as an aggressive rant - the unedited contents of someone’s head - rather than assertive and eloquent. It puts me right off and I’m not even a bloke. | |||
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"When you see profiles like that OP,it is generally a reaction to the inane drivel they have received from those men that dont give flying fuck about preferences. " This. My original single female profile started nice and polite and ended with loads of rants and capitals.... | |||
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"Women create profiles with requirements because they are picky about who they want to interact with. If they are too picky for you then don’t message them. It’s clearly stated in the rules that no reply means no thanks. That rule ain’t changing to accommodate you, and it exists for good reasons. My profile requires a face pic to be sent. If a guy doesn’t send one he hasn’t read my profile. If he’s too lazy to read my profile he’ll probably be a lazy shag. Message deleted. " I have the same request in my profile, some send some don't not certain that would make them a lazy shag, if they don't send we'll never find out. I too have preferences. To those saying ladies can be choosy. ** news flash** We all have the same choices "yes please" or "no thanks" | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! God forbid we should be allowed to choose who we want to meet. " | |||
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"I just dont message those types of profiles. Seem more hassle than they are worth x I find these profiles off putting too, even as a bi woman. I’m all for expressing preferences but some profiles just read as an aggressive rant - the unedited contents of someone’s head - rather than assertive and eloquent. It puts me right off and I’m not even a bloke. " I try to strike a balance on mine. I really do. | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" In a perfect world where a "No thanks" was taken and that was the end of it then you may have a point. However in the FAB world many (in our experience more than half) take the "no thanks" as a foot in the door to try and start a conversation that we don't want. So we will carry on deleting, uninteresting messages and sometimes blocking the sender. And on here we really don't give a fuck if they are offended. We do sometimes have a bit of a giggle when a guy gets all uppity that we haven't replied to his first message that told us he had obviously not got past the first line of our profile. | |||
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have been around a while.. And have come across a good few unpleasant men.
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"I just dont message those types of profiles. Seem more hassle than they are worth x I find these profiles off putting too, even as a bi woman. I’m all for expressing preferences but some profiles just read as an aggressive rant - the unedited contents of someone’s head - rather than assertive and eloquent. It puts me right off and I’m not even a bloke. I try to strike a balance on mine. I really do. " I can see that you do. Yours isn’t one of the more ‘ranty’ written in anger ones I was referring to! I just find it semi amusing when people have a full blown rant - capitals and everything - as if that’s going to make these people who don’t profiles in the first place any more likely to read it? It isn’t. They probably still won’t read it. Easier to not waste time with the long rant - just delete / block those who haven’t paid attention to the basics, IMHO... | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" Mad about people you're never going to meet! That sounds ridiculous to me! | |||
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"Nobody is entitled to a reply. On my single I just replied to a guy saying he is too far away. He replied hed come to me. I said I dont host. He said get the train. I said its £40 on the train from here....and blocked him. That's what happens when I send a polite no thanks. And we females can demand whatever we want to, as can men and couples too . " Ahh the 20 question syndrome! Lol | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" because they can. It really is that simple.your choice is to scroll on by. | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" Ladies are in charge here that’s why lol....  | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" Why does something so trivial make you mad? That’s strange. They’re probably sick of all the entitled messages and abuse that females can receive on here. Not saying it’s right, but it’s very common to receive nasty messages out of the blue on here. Just move on. Simple. | |||
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"Nobody is entitled to a reply. On my single I just replied to a guy saying he is too far away. He replied hed come to me. I said I dont host. He said get the train. I said its £40 on the train from here....and blocked him. That's what happens when I send a polite no thanks. And we females can demand whatever we want to, as can men and couples too . Or Me too far Him I will travel Me great social only though Him silence !!! " That's a good one x | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! Ladies are in charge here that’s why lol.... "Ahh theres me thinking you ladies wanted equality.  | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" As a single bi guy, I can confirm the following: 1) The number of single sentence messages I get from anonymous male profiles is more than I ever thought I would get. I can readily imagine that the number of messages for single women and couples is staggering. A female fab friend once showed me the contents of her inbox, and she had 800 messages sitting there. In a perfect world, it would be ideal if everyone could take the time to write a response to every message they get. But we don't live in that world. Before you start complaining about people being mean by not replying, take the time to consider that other people have different fab experiences to you, women and couples generally have more messages to deal with, and that literally everyone on this site (until they meet) is an online stranger:- I don't always reply to messages from my friends, why would I make the effort to do so for anonymous strangers? 2) Profiles are there to let readers know exactly what a user is looking for, and as such its entirely up to their discretion how they use them. I can't say I'm a particular fan of how some user profiles state "Will not meet bisexual men" but you know what? As distasteful as I find that, at least it lets me know there's no point contacting that user, and saves me wasting both our time. 3) This is more a word of advice, but generally speaking 'negging' isn't a good look. Fab is a swinging site: that means the ratio of guys to couples is inordinately high, and the ratio of guys to single women is even astronomically higher. You don't get meets by carrying a negative attitude, or moaning about a lack of attention, you get meets by staying positive, keeping your chin up, and eventually making a connection with the single women, couples and guys who do want to meet up with you. That's my tuppence worth anyway, and I seem to have stuck it out longer and had more success than most other single male profiles I see. | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! As a single bi guy, I can confirm the following: 1) The number of single sentence messages I get from anonymous male profiles is more than I ever thought I would get. I can readily imagine that the number of messages for single women and couples is staggering. A female fab friend once showed me the contents of her inbox, and she had 800 messages sitting there. In a perfect world, it would be ideal if everyone could take the time to write a response to every message they get. But we don't live in that world. Before you start complaining about people being mean by not replying, take the time to consider that other people have different fab experiences to you, women and couples generally have more messages to deal with, and that literally everyone on this site (until they meet) is an online stranger:- I don't always reply to messages from my friends, why would I make the effort to do so for anonymous strangers? 2) Profiles are there to let readers know exactly what a user is looking for, and as such its entirely up to their discretion how they use them. I can't say I'm a particular fan of how some user profiles state "Will not meet bisexual men" but you know what? As distasteful as I find that, at least it lets me know there's no point contacting that user, and saves me wasting both our time. 3) This is more a word of advice, but generally speaking 'negging' isn't a good look. Fab is a swinging site: that means the ratio of guys to couples is inordinately high, and the ratio of guys to single women is even astronomically higher. You don't get meets by carrying a negative attitude, or moaning about a lack of attention, you get meets by staying positive, keeping your chin up, and eventually making a connection with the single women, couples and guys who do want to meet up with you. That's my tuppence worth anyway, and I seem to have stuck it out longer and had more success than most other single male profiles I see. " This great post. | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! As a single bi guy, I can confirm the following: 1) The number of single sentence messages I get from anonymous male profiles is more than I ever thought I would get. I can readily imagine that the number of messages for single women and couples is staggering. A female fab friend once showed me the contents of her inbox, and she had 800 messages sitting there. In a perfect world, it would be ideal if everyone could take the time to write a response to every message they get. But we don't live in that world. Before you start complaining about people being mean by not replying, take the time to consider that other people have different fab experiences to you, women and couples generally have more messages to deal with, and that literally everyone on this site (until they meet) is an online stranger:- I don't always reply to messages from my friends, why would I make the effort to do so for anonymous strangers? 2) Profiles are there to let readers know exactly what a user is looking for, and as such its entirely up to their discretion how they use them. I can't say I'm a particular fan of how some user profiles state "Will not meet bisexual men" but you know what? As distasteful as I find that, at least it lets me know there's no point contacting that user, and saves me wasting both our time. 3) This is more a word of advice, but generally speaking 'negging' isn't a good look. Fab is a swinging site: that means the ratio of guys to couples is inordinately high, and the ratio of guys to single women is even astronomically higher. You don't get meets by carrying a negative attitude, or moaning about a lack of attention, you get meets by staying positive, keeping your chin up, and eventually making a connection with the single women, couples and guys who do want to meet up with you. That's my tuppence worth anyway, and I seem to have stuck it out longer and had more success than most other single male profiles I see. " I agree with all of this. However... I also think that often, *some* (by no means all) single women profiles can come across as somewhat entitled and ‘ranty’ rather than clearly and politely expressed preferences. I wonder if the OP is taking issue with the way it is put across rather than the expression of preferences per se? I know personally I have often looked through pictures of bisexual women profiles and thought “wow she’s beautiful”, only to then scroll down and read what comes across as an entitled rant and I feel immediately put off and choose not to message. I have no doubt at all these women are in the receiving end of abusive and rude messages (I’ve been on the receiving end of this too) and this drives the rant that spills out onto the profile, however, your profile is the first thing people see - they don’t see the volume of abusive/ rude messages to your inbox - they just see how you come across. And this can say a lot about your personality and can change someone’s mind about whether or not you’re attractive to them. So in my opinion the best approach is to ignore / block the messages, take a deep breath, and type your profile text when you’re calm so it reflects who you truly are rather than being the result of the frustration that the site can create. Not sure if that makes any sense?! | |||
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"I agree with all of this. However... I also think that often, *some* (by no means all) single women profiles can come across as somewhat entitled and ‘ranty’ rather than clearly and politely expressed preferences. I wonder if the OP is taking issue with the way it is put across rather than the expression of preferences per se?" Without wanting to sound uncharitable towards the OP, given the tone of his post and his lack of subsequent engagement on the subject, I suspect he's less interested in a nuanced discussion on the meta-ethics of female Fab profiles, and more interested in having a bit of a grumble as he hasn't got his end away. "I know personally I have often looked through pictures of bisexual women profiles and thought “wow she’s beautiful”, only to then scroll down and read what comes across as an entitled rant and I feel immediately put off and choose not to message. I have no doubt at all these women are in the receiving end of abusive and rude messages (I’ve been on the receiving end of this too) and this drives the rant that spills out onto the profile, however, your profile is the first thing people see - they don’t see the volume of abusive/ rude messages to your inbox - they just see how you come across. And this can say a lot about your personality and can change someone’s mind about whether or not you’re attractive to them. So in my opinion the best approach is to ignore / block the messages, take a deep breath, and type your profile text when you’re calm so it reflects who you truly are rather than being the result of the frustration that the site can create. Not sure if that makes any sense?! " It makes perfect sense, and believe me when I say I don't disagree with you at all. However, given that anything to do with Fab is going to be subjective rather than objective, it's worth bearing in mind the flip side: however harsh you may personally find a profile isn't hugely relevant to the user in question, if that profile and how they've written it works for them. As an example: my profile is definitely one of the wordier ones on the site, and after much editing and experimenting, I did end up including a rather short bit on the end aimed at any single men who think they can just send me a floppy dick pic and a one word sentence to get in my bed. I've had messages from people saying they think it's great, and I've also had uppity messages from men who think I'm super full of myself. My takeaway is that if typing that out once on my profile saves me having the type the same thing again and again in reply format, then that works for me. I assume it's much the same for women and couples: They're not looking to offend anyone, but they've also decided its better to get the harsh stuff out the way up front as a way to stop having to send out so many harsh replies to messages from idiots. For what its worth, it doesn't always work- I still get one word messages from guys with dick pics. In fact I got a message just now from some guy the other side of the country, that was literally pics of him in the gym and a one word message. But since I've updated my profile, it has cut down on the amount of crap I get sent unsolicited, and does mean I can spend more time replying to people who actually interest me. | |||
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"I agree with all of this. However... I also think that often, *some* (by no means all) single women profiles can come across as somewhat entitled and ‘ranty’ rather than clearly and politely expressed preferences. I wonder if the OP is taking issue with the way it is put across rather than the expression of preferences per se? Without wanting to sound uncharitable towards the OP, given the tone of his post and his lack of subsequent engagement on the subject, I suspect he's less interested in a nuanced discussion on the meta-ethics of female Fab profiles, and more interested in having a bit of a grumble as he hasn't got his end away. I know personally I have often looked through pictures of bisexual women profiles and thought “wow she’s beautiful”, only to then scroll down and read what comes across as an entitled rant and I feel immediately put off and choose not to message. I have no doubt at all these women are in the receiving end of abusive and rude messages (I’ve been on the receiving end of this too) and this drives the rant that spills out onto the profile, however, your profile is the first thing people see - they don’t see the volume of abusive/ rude messages to your inbox - they just see how you come across. And this can say a lot about your personality and can change someone’s mind about whether or not you’re attractive to them. So in my opinion the best approach is to ignore / block the messages, take a deep breath, and type your profile text when you’re calm so it reflects who you truly are rather than being the result of the frustration that the site can create. Not sure if that makes any sense?! It makes perfect sense, and believe me when I say I don't disagree with you at all. However, given that anything to do with Fab is going to be subjective rather than objective, it's worth bearing in mind the flip side: however harsh you may personally find a profile isn't hugely relevant to the user in question, if that profile and how they've written it works for them. As an example: my profile is definitely one of the wordier ones on the site, and after much editing and experimenting, I did end up including a rather short bit on the end aimed at any single men who think they can just send me a floppy dick pic and a one word sentence to get in my bed. I've had messages from people saying they think it's great, and I've also had uppity messages from men who think I'm super full of myself. My takeaway is that if typing that out once on my profile saves me having the type the same thing again and again in reply format, then that works for me. I assume it's much the same for women and couples: They're not looking to offend anyone, but they've also decided its better to get the harsh stuff out the way up front as a way to stop having to send out so many harsh replies to messages from idiots. For what its worth, it doesn't always work- I still get one word messages from guys with dick pics. In fact I got a message just now from some guy the other side of the country, that was literally pics of him in the gym and a one word message. But since I've updated my profile, it has cut down on the amount of crap I get sent unsolicited, and does mean I can spend more time replying to people who actually interest me. " Precisely. Same here. I am happy to scare off 99% of them and block the remaining 1% who cannot read. | |||
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"I agree with all of this. However... I also think that often, *some* (by no means all) single women profiles can come across as somewhat entitled and ‘ranty’ rather than clearly and politely expressed preferences. I wonder if the OP is taking issue with the way it is put across rather than the expression of preferences per se? Without wanting to sound uncharitable towards the OP, given the tone of his post and his lack of subsequent engagement on the subject, I suspect he's less interested in a nuanced discussion on the meta-ethics of female Fab profiles, and more interested in having a bit of a grumble as he hasn't got his end away. I know personally I have often looked through pictures of bisexual women profiles and thought “wow she’s beautiful”, only to then scroll down and read what comes across as an entitled rant and I feel immediately put off and choose not to message. I have no doubt at all these women are in the receiving end of abusive and rude messages (I’ve been on the receiving end of this too) and this drives the rant that spills out onto the profile, however, your profile is the first thing people see - they don’t see the volume of abusive/ rude messages to your inbox - they just see how you come across. And this can say a lot about your personality and can change someone’s mind about whether or not you’re attractive to them. So in my opinion the best approach is to ignore / block the messages, take a deep breath, and type your profile text when you’re calm so it reflects who you truly are rather than being the result of the frustration that the site can create. Not sure if that makes any sense?! It makes perfect sense, and believe me when I say I don't disagree with you at all. However, given that anything to do with Fab is going to be subjective rather than objective, it's worth bearing in mind the flip side: however harsh you may personally find a profile isn't hugely relevant to the user in question, if that profile and how they've written it works for them. As an example: my profile is definitely one of the wordier ones on the site, and after much editing and experimenting, I did end up including a rather short bit on the end aimed at any single men who think they can just send me a floppy dick pic and a one word sentence to get in my bed. I've had messages from people saying they think it's great, and I've also had uppity messages from men who think I'm super full of myself. My takeaway is that if typing that out once on my profile saves me having the type the same thing again and again in reply format, then that works for me. I assume it's much the same for women and couples: They're not looking to offend anyone, but they've also decided its better to get the harsh stuff out the way up front as a way to stop having to send out so many harsh replies to messages from idiots. For what its worth, it doesn't always work- I still get one word messages from guys with dick pics. In fact I got a message just now from some guy the other side of the country, that was literally pics of him in the gym and a one word message. But since I've updated my profile, it has cut down on the amount of crap I get sent unsolicited, and does mean I can spend more time replying to people who actually interest me. " Yes I realise perhaps I’ve given the OP more credit than warranted - but this post put me in mind of a similar issue I’ve come across, that’s all. Eloquent wording and assertiveness wins it for me every time over ranty and entitled. That’s my personal preference. And the point I was making is, it’s a shame it puts me off instantly, because it might not actually reflect that person’s personality - it might just be a reflection of their frustration with this site. But as you say, some people do like what I consider ranty and entitled (different strokes for different folks and all that), and hence the profile works for them (but like probably attracts like, I imagine ....) Your profile, by the way, is definitely what I would consider eloquent and assertive, so I can totally see why it works for you | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! As a single bi guy, I can confirm the following: 1) The number of single sentence messages I get from anonymous male profiles is more than I ever thought I would get. I can readily imagine that the number of messages for single women and couples is staggering. A female fab friend once showed me the contents of her inbox, and she had 800 messages sitting there. In a perfect world, it would be ideal if everyone could take the time to write a response to every message they get. But we don't live in that world. Before you start complaining about people being mean by not replying, take the time to consider that other people have different fab experiences to you, women and couples generally have more messages to deal with, and that literally everyone on this site (until they meet) is an online stranger:- I don't always reply to messages from my friends, why would I make the effort to do so for anonymous strangers? 2) Profiles are there to let readers know exactly what a user is looking for, and as such its entirely up to their discretion how they use them. I can't say I'm a particular fan of how some user profiles state "Will not meet bisexual men" but you know what? As distasteful as I find that, at least it lets me know there's no point contacting that user, and saves me wasting both our time. 3) This is more a word of advice, but generally speaking 'negging' isn't a good look. Fab is a swinging site: that means the ratio of guys to couples is inordinately high, and the ratio of guys to single women is even astronomically higher. You don't get meets by carrying a negative attitude, or moaning about a lack of attention, you get meets by staying positive, keeping your chin up, and eventually making a connection with the single women, couples and guys who do want to meet up with you. That's my tuppence worth anyway, and I seem to have stuck it out longer and had more success than most other single male profiles I see. I agree with all of this. However... I also think that often, *some* (by no means all) single women profiles can come across as somewhat entitled and ‘ranty’ rather than clearly and politely expressed preferences. I wonder if the OP is taking issue with the way it is put across rather than the expression of preferences per se? I know personally I have often looked through pictures of bisexual women profiles and thought “wow she’s beautiful”, only to then scroll down and read what comes across as an entitled rant and I feel immediately put off and choose not to message. I have no doubt at all these women are in the receiving end of abusive and rude messages (I’ve been on the receiving end of this too) and this drives the rant that spills out onto the profile, however, your profile is the first thing people see - they don’t see the volume of abusive/ rude messages to your inbox - they just see how you come across. And this can say a lot about your personality and can change someone’s mind about whether or not you’re attractive to them. So in my opinion the best approach is to ignore / block the messages, take a deep breath, and type your profile text when you’re calm so it reflects who you truly are rather than being the result of the frustration that the site can create. Not sure if that makes any sense?! " You're assuming that those women want you/them/whoever to message them. The odds are that they don't care if it puts people off, I certainly don't. If someone can't treat me with the basic decency that everyone is entitled to, I'd rather my profile did put them off. | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! As a single bi guy, I can confirm the following: 1) The number of single sentence messages I get from anonymous male profiles is more than I ever thought I would get. I can readily imagine that the number of messages for single women and couples is staggering. A female fab friend once showed me the contents of her inbox, and she had 800 messages sitting there. In a perfect world, it would be ideal if everyone could take the time to write a response to every message they get. But we don't live in that world. Before you start complaining about people being mean by not replying, take the time to consider that other people have different fab experiences to you, women and couples generally have more messages to deal with, and that literally everyone on this site (until they meet) is an online stranger:- I don't always reply to messages from my friends, why would I make the effort to do so for anonymous strangers? 2) Profiles are there to let readers know exactly what a user is looking for, and as such its entirely up to their discretion how they use them. I can't say I'm a particular fan of how some user profiles state "Will not meet bisexual men" but you know what? As distasteful as I find that, at least it lets me know there's no point contacting that user, and saves me wasting both our time. 3) This is more a word of advice, but generally speaking 'negging' isn't a good look. Fab is a swinging site: that means the ratio of guys to couples is inordinately high, and the ratio of guys to single women is even astronomically higher. You don't get meets by carrying a negative attitude, or moaning about a lack of attention, you get meets by staying positive, keeping your chin up, and eventually making a connection with the single women, couples and guys who do want to meet up with you. That's my tuppence worth anyway, and I seem to have stuck it out longer and had more success than most other single male profiles I see. I agree with all of this. However... I also think that often, *some* (by no means all) single women profiles can come across as somewhat entitled and ‘ranty’ rather than clearly and politely expressed preferences. I wonder if the OP is taking issue with the way it is put across rather than the expression of preferences per se? I know personally I have often looked through pictures of bisexual women profiles and thought “wow she’s beautiful”, only to then scroll down and read what comes across as an entitled rant and I feel immediately put off and choose not to message. I have no doubt at all these women are in the receiving end of abusive and rude messages (I’ve been on the receiving end of this too) and this drives the rant that spills out onto the profile, however, your profile is the first thing people see - they don’t see the volume of abusive/ rude messages to your inbox - they just see how you come across. And this can say a lot about your personality and can change someone’s mind about whether or not you’re attractive to them. So in my opinion the best approach is to ignore / block the messages, take a deep breath, and type your profile text when you’re calm so it reflects who you truly are rather than being the result of the frustration that the site can create. Not sure if that makes any sense?! You're assuming that those women want you/them/whoever to message them. The odds are that they don't care if it puts people off, I certainly don't. If someone can't treat me with the basic decency that everyone is entitled to, I'd rather my profile did put them off. " I CAN and DO treat everyone with decency, yet I’m put off a lot of profiles. Which, I feel, is a shame. Maybe some of the women I choose not to message would have liked to receive a message from me, maybe some wouldn’t. But I don’t get to the stage of finding that out with some because of that initial first impression and feeling put off instantly. That’s all. | |||
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" I CAN and DO treat everyone with decency, yet I’m put off a lot of profiles. Which, I feel, is a shame. Maybe some of the women I choose not to message would have liked to receive a message from me, maybe some wouldn’t. But I don’t get to the stage of finding that out with some because of that initial first impression and feeling put off instantly. That’s all. " Maybe that's just their personality? I just think people ought to stop worrying about everyone else's profiles and just concentrate on people they do want to meet. Btw, I didn't mean you personally with the common decency comment. | |||
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"Yes I realise perhaps I’ve given the OP more credit than warranted - but this post put me in mind of a similar issue I’ve come across, that’s all. Eloquent wording and assertiveness wins it for me every time over ranty and entitled. That’s my personal preference. And the point I was making is, it’s a shame it puts me off instantly, because it might not actually reflect that person’s personality - it might just be a reflection of their frustration with this site. But as you say, some people do like what I consider ranty and entitled (different strokes for different folks and all that), and hence the profile works for them (but like probably attracts like, I imagine ....) Your profile, by the way, is definitely what I would consider eloquent and assertive, so I can totally see why it works for you "Firstly: flattery will get you everywhere  You're far too kind, but thank you for the lovely words about my profile.
Secondly: I agree with you that eloquence is always the ideal to strive towards. If everyone on Fab had witty, charming profile descriptions that made it clear what they're looking for without resorting to rudeness, the standard of Fabbing would be much higher, we'd all be happier and having better sex with each other.
Sadly, the main issue with this (aside from users oftentimes not being interested in the joy of prose) is that its a case of pearls before swine: the single men on this site really can be a carnival of stupidity (#notallmen), and given some of the idiocy that is regularly put on display, I won't judge anyone on this site who feels it necessary to put away the big boy words and use language they feel will get through to the target audience easier.
You're very clearly a sophisticated lady who enjoys seeing language used well in the art of seduction, which is great and more people should be like you. Some of the users on this site, however, would literally stick their penis inside an electrical socket if they thought it would get them off, and sometimes you do need to make it clear to them that they need to step up a bit. | |||
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"What I don't understand is this... If someone is too lazy to read my profile and pay attention to what I've written, how can they pay attention to what's happening on a meet? Are they too lazy to give a damn there too? Your ability to read a profile, message coherently and message people who may be interested in what you're looking for too says a lot about you and how you'd interact if someone met you. " Bravo, bravo | |||
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" I CAN and DO treat everyone with decency, yet I’m put off a lot of profiles. Which, I feel, is a shame. Maybe some of the women I choose not to message would have liked to receive a message from me, maybe some wouldn’t. But I don’t get to the stage of finding that out with some because of that initial first impression and feeling put off instantly. That’s all. Maybe that's just their personality? I just think people ought to stop worrying about everyone else's profiles and just concentrate on people they do want to meet. Btw, I didn't mean you personally with the common decency comment. " Yeah maybe it is their personality - in which case it’s good that it comes across as I’d rather know straight away the type of person I’m about to message. I knew you didn’t mean that. You stated you’d rather put people off who can’t treat you with decency. Of course - 100% agree. But would you feel differently if you knew you might be inadvertently putting someone off who is in fact very decent, and who you might want to connect with, but you never find out... that’s all I’m saying. Perhaps this has got a bit more complex than I intended! | |||
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"Roman empress syndrome..sometimes I imagine I'm dealing with helen of troy given the bloated and delusional sense of entitlement..pan to pics and it's a gargoyle Yeah. Who do these women think they are, with their standards, and their personal requirements and their fetishes. Don't they know that if you're outside the normal standards of beauty, having clearly stated requirements or preferences makes you a [checks notes] gargoyle? " Or me not wanting to shag X guy means I'm arrogant and think I deserve Y (archetype of hot guy). Rather than, it means I don't want to shag X guy. | |||
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" I CAN and DO treat everyone with decency, yet I’m put off a lot of profiles. Which, I feel, is a shame. Maybe some of the women I choose not to message would have liked to receive a message from me, maybe some wouldn’t. But I don’t get to the stage of finding that out with some because of that initial first impression and feeling put off instantly. That’s all. Maybe that's just their personality? I just think people ought to stop worrying about everyone else's profiles and just concentrate on people they do want to meet. Btw, I didn't mean you personally with the common decency comment. Yeah maybe it is their personality - in which case it’s good that it comes across as I’d rather know straight away the type of person I’m about to message. I knew you didn’t mean that. You stated you’d rather put people off who can’t treat you with decency. Of course - 100% agree. But would you feel differently if you knew you might be inadvertently putting someone off who is in fact very decent, and who you might want to connect with, but you never find out... that’s all I’m saying. Perhaps this has got a bit more complex than I intended! "It doesn't really bother me if it puts people off, it's attracted enough people that I do like so I don't feel like I'm missing out. | |||
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" Or me not wanting to shag X guy means I'm arrogant and think I deserve Y (archetype of hot guy). Rather than, it means I don't want to shag X guy" Steady now. As a single woman on Fab, it's clearly your responsibility to field requests from any and all men, regardless of how it impacts your time or sanity 
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"Yes I realise perhaps I’ve given the OP more credit than warranted - but this post put me in mind of a similar issue I’ve come across, that’s all. Eloquent wording and assertiveness wins it for me every time over ranty and entitled. That’s my personal preference. And the point I was making is, it’s a shame it puts me off instantly, because it might not actually reflect that person’s personality - it might just be a reflection of their frustration with this site. But as you say, some people do like what I consider ranty and entitled (different strokes for different folks and all that), and hence the profile works for them (but like probably attracts like, I imagine ....) Your profile, by the way, is definitely what I would consider eloquent and assertive, so I can totally see why it works for you
Firstly: flattery will get you everywhere You're far too kind, but thank you for the lovely words about my profile.
Secondly: I agree with you that eloquence is always the ideal to strive towards. If everyone on Fab had witty, charming profile descriptions that made it clear what they're looking for without resorting to rudeness, the standard of Fabbing would be much higher, we'd all be happier and having better sex with each other.
Sadly, the main issue with this (aside from users oftentimes not being interested in the joy of prose) is that its a case of pearls before swine: the single men on this site really can be a carnival of stupidity (#notallmen), and given some of the idiocy that is regularly put on display, I won't judge anyone on this site who feels it necessary to put away the big boy words and use language they feel will get through to the target audience easier.
You're very clearly a sophisticated lady who enjoys seeing language used well in the art of seduction, which is great and more people should be like you. Some of the users on this site, however, would literally stick their penis inside an electrical socket if they thought it would get them off, and sometimes you do need to make it clear to them that they need to step up a bit. "This is probably the most sensible comment on this thread. And “carnival of stupidity” is by the far the best phrase I’ve heard...
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! As a single bi guy, I can confirm the following: 1) The number of single sentence messages I get from anonymous male profiles is more than I ever thought I would get. I can readily imagine that the number of messages for single women and couples is staggering. A female fab friend once showed me the contents of her inbox, and she had 800 messages sitting there. In a perfect world, it would be ideal if everyone could take the time to write a response to every message they get. But we don't live in that world. Before you start complaining about people being mean by not replying, take the time to consider that other people have different fab experiences to you, women and couples generally have more messages to deal with, and that literally everyone on this site (until they meet) is an online stranger:- I don't always reply to messages from my friends, why would I make the effort to do so for anonymous strangers? 2) Profiles are there to let readers know exactly what a user is looking for, and as such its entirely up to their discretion how they use them. I can't say I'm a particular fan of how some user profiles state "Will not meet bisexual men" but you know what? As distasteful as I find that, at least it lets me know there's no point contacting that user, and saves me wasting both our time. 3) This is more a word of advice, but generally speaking 'negging' isn't a good look. Fab is a swinging site: that means the ratio of guys to couples is inordinately high, and the ratio of guys to single women is even astronomically higher. You don't get meets by carrying a negative attitude, or moaning about a lack of attention, you get meets by staying positive, keeping your chin up, and eventually making a connection with the single women, couples and guys who do want to meet up with you. That's my tuppence worth anyway, and I seem to have stuck it out longer and had more success than most other single male profiles I see. I agree with all of this. However... I also think that often, *some* (by no means all) single women profiles can come across as somewhat entitled and ‘ranty’ rather than clearly and politely expressed preferences. I wonder if the OP is taking issue with the way it is put across rather than the expression of preferences per se? I know personally I have often looked through pictures of bisexual women profiles and thought “wow she’s beautiful”, only to then scroll down and read what comes across as an entitled rant and I feel immediately put off and choose not to message. I have no doubt at all these women are in the receiving end of abusive and rude messages (I’ve been on the receiving end of this too) and this drives the rant that spills out onto the profile, however, your profile is the first thing people see - they don’t see the volume of abusive/ rude messages to your inbox - they just see how you come across. And this can say a lot about your personality and can change someone’s mind about whether or not you’re attractive to them. So in my opinion the best approach is to ignore / block the messages, take a deep breath, and type your profile text when you’re calm so it reflects who you truly are rather than being the result of the frustration that the site can create. Not sure if that makes any sense?! " Makes sense to me.
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! As a single bi guy, I can confirm the following: 1) The number of single sentence messages I get from anonymous male profiles is more than I ever thought I would get. I can readily imagine that the number of messages for single women and couples is staggering. A female fab friend once showed me the contents of her inbox, and she had 800 messages sitting there. In a perfect world, it would be ideal if everyone could take the time to write a response to every message they get. But we don't live in that world. Before you start complaining about people being mean by not replying, take the time to consider that other people have different fab experiences to you, women and couples generally have more messages to deal with, and that literally everyone on this site (until they meet) is an online stranger:- I don't always reply to messages from my friends, why would I make the effort to do so for anonymous strangers? 2) Profiles are there to let readers know exactly what a user is looking for, and as such its entirely up to their discretion how they use them. I can't say I'm a particular fan of how some user profiles state "Will not meet bisexual men" but you know what? As distasteful as I find that, at least it lets me know there's no point contacting that user, and saves me wasting both our time. 3) This is more a word of advice, but generally speaking 'negging' isn't a good look. Fab is a swinging site: that means the ratio of guys to couples is inordinately high, and the ratio of guys to single women is even astronomically higher. You don't get meets by carrying a negative attitude, or moaning about a lack of attention, you get meets by staying positive, keeping your chin up, and eventually making a connection with the single women, couples and guys who do want to meet up with you. That's my tuppence worth anyway, and I seem to have stuck it out longer and had more success than most other single male profiles I see. I agree with all of this. However... I also think that often, *some* (by no means all) single women profiles can come across as somewhat entitled and ‘ranty’ rather than clearly and politely expressed preferences. I wonder if the OP is taking issue with the way it is put across rather than the expression of preferences per se? I know personally I have often looked through pictures of bisexual women profiles and thought “wow she’s beautiful”, only to then scroll down and read what comes across as an entitled rant and I feel immediately put off and choose not to message. I have no doubt at all these women are in the receiving end of abusive and rude messages (I’ve been on the receiving end of this too) and this drives the rant that spills out onto the profile, however, your profile is the first thing people see - they don’t see the volume of abusive/ rude messages to your inbox - they just see how you come across. And this can say a lot about your personality and can change someone’s mind about whether or not you’re attractive to them. So in my opinion the best approach is to ignore / block the messages, take a deep breath, and type your profile text when you’re calm so it reflects who you truly are rather than being the result of the frustration that the site can create. Not sure if that makes any sense?! Makes sense to me.
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"I think a lot of the upper tier of guys on Fab realise that a lot of people are disrespectful and horrible in messages, and so don't take the ranting personally. " I've had enough disrespectful messages and crap meets myself that even though I am a cis single man, I tend to class 'Fab single men' as another species entirely, will moan about them quite freely, and don't take any generalisations about them personally at all. Like, some of the guys on Fab don't even understand the basics of a gentleman's wash. How stupid do you have to be to not understand if you're going to get your bits out, you should maybe wash them beforehand? | |||
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"This is probably the most sensible comment on this thread. And “carnival of stupidity” is by the far the best phrase I’ve heard...
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"Though Fab isn't really a dating site, the same logic applies: the best people on the site will make you swoon with delight, and wonder why you'd ever spend your time doing anything else. The worst people on the site will make you question how we ever managed to develop lungs and crawl out of the sea in the first place. For me, the main takeaay is that its the idiots on the site who make me value the genuine ones even more. I can't be perfectly polite to everyone all the time, but it just means I try extra hard to impress someone when they do message me or catch my eye | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! Ladies are in charge here that’s why lol....
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"It means that you're saying nice things to get laid, and you're betraying men by agreeing with women "But... if that were true, that would mean I'm saying nice things on a discussion forum to try and get laid with people halfway across the country from me... rather than just using the Fab site itself to chat to and sleep with the single people looking to meet in my city tonight?
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"Sorry to be a dick, but being a realist I can't help but think that profiles shouldn't be the go to thing when it comes to knowing someone. Anyone can write absolutely anything. Doesn't make it true. Inflection is also lost in text. You could be tongue in cheek and it may read as pissed off or angry etc" Absolutely agree the profile text shouldn’t be the *only* thing you rely on to get to know someone - but surely it’s important as the first impression? For me, it largely determines whether I’ll pursue contact with someone. I’d say my decision to contact a person is 40% determined by pictures and 60% text. I wonder if this means I’m turned on by intelligence first and foremost... Who knows .... | |||
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"It means that you're saying nice things to get laid, and you're betraying men by agreeing with women
But... if that were true, that would mean I'm saying nice things on a
discussion forum to try and get laid with people halfway across the country from me... rather than just using the Fab site itself to chat to and sleep with the single people looking to meet in my city tonight?
My head hurts..."Women are your enemy. We're evil and out to get you. The only reason you'd be nice to us is to get laid. Rather than us being people with good and bad points like anyone else. Duh! | |||
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"Women are your enemy. We're evil and out to get you. Fuckin' A. Is that the Maleficent type evil, or the Rocky Horror Frank-N-Furter type of evil? Either way, can you show me how to arch my evil eyebrows, put on my evil mascara, and get my evil cheeks so sharp they cut through glass? I will literally pledge my soul to Satan if it means I can up my make-up game to full on Evil Temptress levels. "
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"Women are your enemy. We're evil and out to get you. Fuckin' A. Is that the Maleficent type evil, or the Rocky Horror Frank-N-Furter type of evil? Either way, can you show me how to arch my evil eyebrows, put on my evil mascara, and get my evil cheeks so sharp they cut through glass? I will literally pledge my soul to Satan if it means I can up my make-up game to full on Evil Temptress levels.
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! Profiles give an insight into the "person" and if I read a profile and it's not appealing, I move on. No one here owes anyone anything to be honest. Eventually you will develop a 6th sense and realise who you should contact and who you should leave well alone." More or less agree with Andrew on this. No-one is "owed" anything. If I get a 'thanks but no thanks' reply, I usually reply in turn and say it would be nice if all were as polite on here. Politeness costs nothing. | |||
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" I CAN and DO treat everyone with decency, yet I’m put off a lot of profiles. Which, I feel, is a shame. Maybe some of the women I choose not to message would have liked to receive a message from me, maybe some wouldn’t. But I don’t get to the stage of finding that out with some because of that initial first impression and feeling put off instantly. That’s all. Maybe that's just their personality? I just think people ought to stop worrying about everyone else's profiles and just concentrate on people they do want to meet. Btw, I didn't mean you personally with the common decency comment. Yeah maybe it is their personality - in which case it’s good that it comes across as I’d rather know straight away the type of person I’m about to message. I knew you didn’t mean that. You stated you’d rather put people off who can’t treat you with decency. Of course - 100% agree. But would you feel differently if you knew you might be inadvertently putting someone off who is in fact very decent, and who you might want to connect with, but you never find out... that’s all I’m saying. Perhaps this has got a bit more complex than I intended!
It doesn't really bother me if it puts people off, it's attracted enough people that I do like so I don't feel like I'm missing out. "Exactly this!! | |||
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So do I. Some of your comments have made my evening "You're both only saying that because you recognise beneath my sissy, bisexual mangina exterior beats the heart of a testosterone fuelled manly alpha (who is definitely not a white knight), and you're using your feminine evil powers to try and claim the rugged manliness you both crave as feeble, weak willed women. ...or something? I dunno, I don't really understand this whole masculinity bravado thing. Really I'm just sitting here craving a cock in my mouth, and wishing so many of the locals could use words with more than two syllables. | |||
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"Sorry to be a dick, but being a realist I can't help but think that profiles shouldn't be the go to thing when it comes to knowing someone. Anyone can write absolutely anything. Doesn't make it true. Inflection is also lost in text. You could be tongue in cheek and it may read as pissed off or angry etc Absolutely agree the profile text shouldn’t be the *only* thing you rely on to get to know someone - but surely it’s important as the first impression? For me, it largely determines whether I’ll pursue contact with someone. I’d say my decision to contact a person is 40% determined by pictures and 60% text. I wonder if this means I’m turned on by intelligence first and foremost... Who knows .... " I totally agree. Problem is, what if whats written is total bill, aimed at drawing you in?. Obviously doesn't mean that's the norm. Just worth considering | |||
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So do I. Some of your comments have made my evening
You're both only saying that because you recognise beneath my sissy, bisexual mangina exterior beats the heart of a testosterone fuelled manly alpha (who is definitely not a white knight), and you're using your feminine evil powers to try and claim the rugged manliness you both crave as feeble, weak willed women.
...or something? I dunno, I don't really understand this whole masculinity bravado thing. Really I'm just sitting here craving a cock in my mouth, and wishing so many of the locals could use words with more than two syllables. "Spot on I’d say! Also, ‘mangina’ has 3 syllables. Does he not get extra credit for that?! | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" And sending a stupid insulting message because they misunderstood the slightest transgression of their petty rules then block cos their knickers are in a twist | |||
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"Sorry to be a dick, but being a realist I can't help but think that profiles shouldn't be the go to thing when it comes to knowing someone. Anyone can write absolutely anything. Doesn't make it true. Inflection is also lost in text. You could be tongue in cheek and it may read as pissed off or angry etc Absolutely agree the profile text shouldn’t be the *only* thing you rely on to get to know someone - but surely it’s important as the first impression? For me, it largely determines whether I’ll pursue contact with someone. I’d say my decision to contact a person is 40% determined by pictures and 60% text. I wonder if this means I’m turned on by intelligence first and foremost... Who knows .... I totally agree. Problem is, what if whats written is total bill, aimed at drawing you in?. Obviously doesn't mean that's the norm. Just worth considering " | |||
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" I like you
So do I. Some of your comments have made my evening
You're both only saying that because you recognise beneath my sissy, bisexual mangina exterior beats the heart of a testosterone fuelled manly alpha (who is definitely not a white knight), and you're using your feminine evil powers to try and claim the rugged manliness you both crave as feeble, weak willed women.
...or something? I dunno, I don't really understand this whole masculinity bravado thing. Really I'm just sitting here craving a cock in my mouth, and wishing so many of the locals could use words with more than two syllables. "You don't want to go down that rabbit hole, trust me | |||
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"Love the ones that actually can't even spell right but they want professional guys, gym fit, and hung like horses but they are just hoarders and cat ladies. We should get a rating system based on interaction on here."Hoarders and cat ladies ... I haven’t come across this specific niche on here? | |||
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"You don't want to go down that rabbit hole, trust me "Which one? The rabbit hole of sucking cock? Oh sweetie, you may as well call me Watership Down, as it's a bit late for that one... | |||
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"Also this post is very demanding "Just what I was thinking! Also do you put effort into your messages? You wouldnt believe the number I get that clearly havent read my profile and after a quick hello its "when are you free?" .. Easy tiger I havent said Ill meet you yet.... I just block after that. Im not a freebie prostitute. If thats demanding? Good.. Im ok with demanding | |||
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"Love the ones that actually can't even spell right but they want professional guys, gym fit, and hung like horses but they are just hoarders and cat ladies. We should get a rating system based on interaction on here."Since when did not being able to spell correctly mean you can’t have a preference? | |||
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"Love the ones that actually can't even spell right but they want professional guys, gym fit, and hung like horses but they are just hoarders and cat ladies. We should get a rating system based on interaction on here.
Since when did not being able to spell correctly mean you can’t have a preference? "Don't you know women aren't allowed preferences? | |||
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"Love the ones that actually can't even spell right but they want professional guys, gym fit, and hung like horses but they are just hoarders and cat ladies. We should get a rating system based on interaction on here.
Since when did not being able to spell correctly mean you can’t have a preference?
Don't you know women aren't allowed preferences? "Silly me! I should’ve known! We should just spread our legs and let all and sundry enter, right? | |||
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"Spot on I’d say! Also, ‘mangina’ has 3 syllables. Does he not get extra credit for that?!
Oh sure he does, but he's not a Norwich local, so sadly doesn't count "Oh! 
In that case I have my fingers crossed for you that you find someone in your area who is familiar with 3 syllable words such as ‘mangina’. Actually... no. I don’t wish that upon you at all... | |||
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"Love the ones that actually can't even spell right but they want professional guys, gym fit, and hung like horses but they are just hoarders and cat ladies. We should get a rating system based on interaction on here."Lol | |||
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"Love the ones that actually can't even spell right but they want professional guys, gym fit, and hung like horses but they are just hoarders and cat ladies. We should get a rating system based on interaction on here.
Since when did not being able to spell correctly mean you can’t have a preference?
Don't you know women aren't allowed preferences?
Silly me! I should’ve known!
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"Its always the thick ones that have the most demands" Yeah. You can really tell someone’s intelligence from how many demands they have on their profile... | |||
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"Oh!
In that case I have my fingers crossed for you that you find someone in your area who is familiar with 3 syllable words such as ‘mangina’. Actually... no. I don’t wish that upon you at all... "It's fine. Norwich actually is a pretty good city for Fabbing, once you get to know who the gems are. Besides, this thread is now all the entertainment I need this evening Loving some of the replies getting posted | |||
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"Its always the thick ones that have the most demands You're a jolly fella, I'm suprised you're not knee deep in flange." Flange so crass | |||
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"Its always the thick ones that have the most demands You're a jolly fella, I'm suprised you're not knee deep in flange. Flange so crass" Yep! Like you calling people cunts on your status. | |||
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"Oh!
In that case I have my fingers crossed for you that you find someone in your area who is familiar with 3 syllable words such as ‘mangina’. Actually... no. I don’t wish that upon you at all...
It's fine. Norwich actually is a pretty good city for Fabbing, once you get to know who the gems are.
Besides, this thread is now all the entertainment I need this evening Loving some of the replies getting posted "Yup. I’ve made myself a brew and I’m just sitting back watching it unfold .... | |||
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"Well I was going to reply to the thread, but rather annoyingly I've been completely distracted by NaughtyLG's amazing body and photos! Bollocks to reading profiles full of demands, I've just been shown the better side of Fab "Second that !! | |||
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"Yup. I’ve made myself a brew and I’m just sitting back watching it unfold .... "My favourite part is the anonymous male posters with no verifications and no pics instructing the rest of us on best Fab etiquette
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"Well I was going to reply to the thread, but rather annoyingly I've been completely distracted by NaughtyLG's amazing body and photos! Bollocks to reading profiles full of demands, I've just been shown the better side of Fab " and yet somehow you still managed to reply to the thread despite the distractions... multi tasking at its finest! | |||
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"Well I was going to reply to the thread, but rather annoyingly I've been completely distracted by NaughtyLG's amazing body and photos! Bollocks to reading profiles full of demands, I've just been shown the better side of Fab
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! If they can be bothered to type all that out, imagine how bat shit crazy they must be in real life! "Your profile is pretty loooonnnggg does that make you batshit crazy????? | |||
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Second that !!
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Too kind, both of you
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"Well I was going to reply to the thread, but rather annoyingly I've been completely distracted by NaughtyLG's amazing body and photos! Bollocks to reading profiles full of demands, I've just been shown the better side of Fab
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She’s mine. Back off.
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"Too kind, both of you
Psssh... you're alright, I guess. Beer goggles would definitely help.
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and yet somehow you still managed to reply to the thread despite the distractions... multi tasking at its finest!
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"Well I was going to reply to the thread, but rather annoyingly I've been completely distracted by NaughtyLG's amazing body and photos! Bollocks to reading profiles full of demands, I've just been shown the better side of Fab
and yet somehow you still managed to reply to the thread despite the distractions... multi tasking at its finest!
One handed too :P ... Drinking a cup of tea with the other x
Now, is “drinking a cup of tea” a euphemism or ... are you actually enjoying a nice brew? "Haha, 9 out of 10 times it really would be a euphemism. But actually on this occassion I really am enjoying a nice brew of Massala Chai. Just come back from India and can't get enough of it! (hmmm there goes another possible euphemism :P) | |||
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"Well I was going to reply to the thread, but rather annoyingly I've been completely distracted by NaughtyLG's amazing body and photos! Bollocks to reading profiles full of demands, I've just been shown the better side of Fab
and yet somehow you still managed to reply to the thread despite the distractions... multi tasking at its finest!
One handed too :P ... Drinking a cup of tea with the other x
Now, is “drinking a cup of tea” a euphemism or ... are you actually enjoying a nice brew?
Haha, 9 out of 10 times it really would be a euphemism. But actually on this occassion I really am enjoying a nice brew of Massala Chai. Just come back from India and can't get enough of it! (hmmm there goes another possible euphemism :P)" Haha i see!! I’ll be sad when this thread closes... I’ve had a blast and I feel like I’m making friends (that sounds like sarcasm but it genuinely isn’t!) | |||
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"If nothing else, it's quite entertaining watching the OP open with a post that led into quite a spectacular thread backfire. You are all some sassy, sassy bitches and I love it xxx" Interestingly, we haven’t heard much from the OP recently. Shame really, as I’d like to hear his considered and articulate views on all that followed... | |||
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"If nothing else, it's quite entertaining watching the OP open with a post that led into quite a spectacular thread backfire. You are all some sassy, sassy bitches and I love it xxx Interestingly, we haven’t heard much from the OP recently. Shame really, as I’d like to hear his considered and articulate views on all that followed... "really lol | |||
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"Well I was going to reply to the thread, but rather annoyingly I've been completely distracted by NaughtyLG's amazing body and photos! Bollocks to reading profiles full of demands, I've just been shown the better side of Fab
and yet somehow you still managed to reply to the thread despite the distractions... multi tasking at its finest!
One handed too :P ... Drinking a cup of tea with the other x
Now, is “drinking a cup of tea” a euphemism or ... are you actually enjoying a nice brew?
Haha, 9 out of 10 times it really would be a euphemism. But actually on this occassion I really am enjoying a nice brew of Massala Chai. Just come back from India and can't get enough of it! (hmmm there goes another possible euphemism :P)
Haha i see!! I’ll be sad when this thread closes... I’ve had a blast and I feel like I’m making friends (that sounds like sarcasm but it genuinely isn’t!) "Haha, ditto! Don't worry we can always hijack another thread tomorrow and distract everyone from flaming the poor OPs | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" Does it?....aye...? | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" Who are you to say what others can put in their profiles? Chill out and ignore the ones you don't like. Nothing could be easier. As for a no response, which is a separate issue, this equates to no thank you. | |||
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"You know what makes me mad? Men Okay. Thank you for that." Nicely diffused! I have to admit, this comment did scare me slightly - just randomly thrown in there at what I thought was the conclusion of a raging debate. This could’ve flared it all up again. You saved it | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! If they can be bothered to type all that out, imagine how bat shit crazy they must be in real life! "What rubbish. They simply know they want. This aids those who don't meet their criteria by indirectly stating "don't contact me". | |||
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One handed too :P ... Drinking a cup of tea with the other x
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Haha, 9 out of 10 times it really would be a euphemism. But actually on this occassion I really am enjoying a nice brew of Massala Chai. Just come back from India and can't get enough of it! (hmmm there goes another possible euphemism :P)
Haha i see!! I’ll be sad when this thread closes... I’ve had a blast and I feel like I’m making friends (that sounds like sarcasm but it genuinely isn’t!)
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! In a perfect world where a "No thanks" was taken and that was the end of it then you may have a point. However in the FAB world many (in our experience more than half) take the "no thanks" as a foot in the door to try and start a conversation that we don't want. So we will carry on deleting, uninteresting messages and sometimes blocking the sender. And on here we really don't give a fuck if they are offended. We do sometimes have a bit of a giggle when a guy gets all uppity that we haven't replied to his first message that told us he had obviously not got past the first line of our profile." I, Vix, received a message, 3 minutes later another wondering why I hadn't replied
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"You know what makes me mad? Men Okay. Thank you for that. Nicely diffused! I have to admit, this comment did scare me slightly - just randomly thrown in there at what I thought was the conclusion of a raging debate. This could’ve flared it all up again. You saved it "Haha, glad I nipped it in the bud. An obviously very thoughtful response underpinned nicely by the content of the thread. It could have just escalated it all again. | |||
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"And we females can demand whatever we want to, as can men and couples too . "We" females ? This seems to imply some type of authoritarian attitude. We couples (i.e. we males and we females) can also completely disregard users with attitudes of self-entitlement. Good luck in your searches. x" That’s a huge reach. You clearly saw something in that comment that nobody else did. | |||
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"And we females can demand whatever we want to, as can men and couples too . "We" females ? This seems to imply some type of authoritarian attitude. We couples (i.e. we males and we females) can also completely disregard users with attitudes of self-entitlement. Good luck in your searches. x That’s a huge reach. You clearly saw something in that comment that nobody else did. "What made me chuckle was them using the exact thing they were complaining about to try and prove a point. | |||
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"Women create profiles with requirements because they are picky about who they want to interact with. If they are too picky for you then don’t message them. It’s clearly stated in the rules that no reply means no thanks. That rule ain’t changing to accommodate you, and it exists for good reasons. My profile requires a face pic to be sent. If a guy doesn’t send one he hasn’t read my profile. If he’s too lazy to read my profile he’ll probably be a lazy shag. Message deleted. " | |||
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"And we females can demand whatever we want to, as can men and couples too . "We" females ? This seems to imply some type of authoritarian attitude. We couples (i.e. we males and we females) can also completely disregard users with attitudes of self-entitlement. Good luck in your searches. x That’s a huge reach. You clearly saw something in that comment that nobody else did.
What made me chuckle was them using the exact thing they were complaining about to try and prove a point. "The irony! | |||
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"Its always the thick ones that have the most demands Yeah. You can really tell someone’s intelligence from how many demands they have on their profile... "Or the status they have (but the again he could be enjoying the photos | |||
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"Sorry to be a dick, but being a realist I can't help but think that profiles shouldn't be the go to thing when it comes to knowing someone. Anyone can write absolutely anything. Doesn't make it true. Inflection is also lost in text. You could be tongue in cheek and it may read as pissed off or angry etc"
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!! As a single bi guy, I can confirm the following: 1) The number of single sentence messages I get from anonymous male profiles is more than I ever thought I would get. I can readily imagine that the number of messages for single women and couples is staggering. A female fab friend once showed me the contents of her inbox, and she had 800 messages sitting there. In a perfect world, it would be ideal if everyone could take the time to write a response to every message they get. But we don't live in that world. Before you start complaining about people being mean by not replying, take the time to consider that other people have different fab experiences to you, women and couples generally have more messages to deal with, and that literally everyone on this site (until they meet) is an online stranger:- I don't always reply to messages from my friends, why would I make the effort to do so for anonymous strangers? 2) Profiles are there to let readers know exactly what a user is looking for, and as such its entirely up to their discretion how they use them. I can't say I'm a particular fan of how some user profiles state "Will not meet bisexual men" but you know what? As distasteful as I find that, at least it lets me know there's no point contacting that user, and saves me wasting both our time. 3) This is more a word of advice, but generally speaking 'negging' isn't a good look. Fab is a swinging site: that means the ratio of guys to couples is inordinately high, and the ratio of guys to single women is even astronomically higher. You don't get meets by carrying a negative attitude, or moaning about a lack of attention, you get meets by staying positive, keeping your chin up, and eventually making a connection with the single women, couples and guys who do want to meet up with you. That's my tuppence worth anyway, and I seem to have stuck it out longer and had more success than most other single male profiles I see. I agree with all of this. However... I also think that often, *some* (by no means all) single women profiles can come across as somewhat entitled and ‘ranty’ rather than clearly and politely expressed preferences. I wonder if the OP is taking issue with the way it is put across rather than the expression of preferences per se? I know personally I have often looked through pictures of bisexual women profiles and thought “wow she’s beautiful”, only to then scroll down and read what comes across as an entitled rant and I feel immediately put off and choose not to message. I have no doubt at all these women are in the receiving end of abusive and rude messages (I’ve been on the receiving end of this too) and this drives the rant that spills out onto the profile, however, your profile is the first thing people see - they don’t see the volume of abusive/ rude messages to your inbox - they just see how you come across. And this can say a lot about your personality and can change someone’s mind about whether or not you’re attractive to them. So in my opinion the best approach is to ignore / block the messages, take a deep breath, and type your profile text when you’re calm so it reflects who you truly are rather than being the result of the frustration that the site can create. Not sure if that makes any sense?! " Yes what you’ve said makes sense | |||
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"What gives some women the right to virtually slag all men off demanding this and that and don’t do this don’t put that or I’ll block, or won’t reply, surely takes two mins for a simple polite reply even if it’s a no! Makes me mad!!" Do these women only annoy and frustrate you once they have deleted your message, so actually, they haven’t done a damn thing have they? It’s you... you are frustrating yourself.. why message women that are slagging off men? Why message women who are demanding if you don’t like demanding women? Ps single women can get 100 messages a day, you think they should spend 3’1/2 hours a day saying no to men on here? Wow.. looks who’s demanding now? | |||
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"What I don't understand is this... If someone is too lazy to read my profile and pay attention to what I've written, how can they pay attention to what's happening on a meet? Are they too lazy to give a damn there Your ability to read a profile, message coherently and message people who may be interested in what you're looking for too says a lot about you and how you'd interact if someone met you. " This exactly, well put | |||
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