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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
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Andy |
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
Answers on a postcard...
Thanks
Andy"
I can understand some people wanting to maintain discretion, but experience on here has taught me to avoid profiles, with absolutely no pics.
There's ways of taking pics, without divulging your identity.
If I get 2 messages, 1 from a blank profile, 1 with friends only pics, then I'm more likely going to reply to the one with pics, regardless of how good a message the blank profile sent.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why would they reply to a blank profile when there are plenty with pics?"
That is a good way to put it! I did have a profile pic on a previous profile (dick pick) but that didnt work and a lot of people seemed to not like dick pics as profile pics |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We chat to profiles with no pictures but won't meet unless we've seen one."
I thought more would have gone down this route as all it takes is a couple messages and if rapport is built then pics can be exchanged etc |
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"We chat to profiles with no pictures but won't meet unless we've seen one.
I thought more would have gone down this route as all it takes is a couple messages and if rapport is built then pics can be exchanged etc"
So you build a rapport, things going ok
Then get a photo, and you don't like what you see
What then?
Polity decline, ghost, be honest, block?
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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If I'm walking down the High Street looking for something, I'm much more likely to go in the shops that have a attractive displays in the shop windows and draw me in either visually or with my imagination.
A shop with a blank storefront would not even catch me my attention for long enough for me to decide not to venture in. |
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"Why would they reply to a blank profile when there are plenty with pics?
That is a good way to put it! I did have a profile pic on a previous profile (dick pick) but that didnt work and a lot of people seemed to not like dick pics as profile pics"
Why not have a profile pic that is neither face nor dick ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No excuse for no pics. Im sure nobody would recognise a toe or belly button."
Fair shout but on a previous profile on here i used a dick pic and didnt garner much more interest! But yes perhaps should do something ‘normal’ and see if it improves  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
Answers on a postcard...
Thanks
Andy
I can understand some people wanting to maintain discretion, but experience on here has taught me to avoid profiles, with absolutely no pics.
There's ways of taking pics, without divulging your identity.
If I get 2 messages, 1 from a blank profile, 1 with friends only pics, then I'm more likely going to reply to the one with pics, regardless of how good a message the blank profile sent.
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Yeah i understand. Very different for guys on here though. I would definately reply to everyone but i guess if you got 50 messages to go through the ones with pics would probably get preference to those that don’t? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would only chat to a blank profile if a face pic was attached to first message!x"
Have done that approach on a few a feel are genuine but not so many back. I musnt be very good looking! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've got lots of information, photos, and time into my profile, I don't feel that I would be compatible with somebody who just doesn't feel it's worth making an effort."
Awesome analogy... i cant argue with that! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why would they reply to a blank profile when there are plenty with pics?
That is a good way to put it! I did have a profile pic on a previous profile (dick pick) but that didnt work and a lot of people seemed to not like dick pics as profile pics
Why not have a profile pic that is neither face nor dick ?"
I thought by using a dick pic it would highlight a favourable asset however from a lot of comments and messages i see in profiles people dont seem to like profile dick pics - which is fair enough. I will add something normal |
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"I would only chat to a blank profile if a face pic was attached to first message!x
Have done that approach on a few a feel are genuine but not so many back. I musnt be very good looking!"
Well if they don’t find you attractive , would you want to bother? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I would only chat to a blank profile if a face pic was attached to first message!x
Have done that approach on a few a feel are genuine but not so many back. I musnt be very good looking!
Well if they don’t find you attractive , would you want to bother?"
No course not. I wouldnt follow up after that. I guess another issue which is probably for a whole other thread is the effort that goes in to some messages for profile you really like. You send a good message. Attached a few pics. Then nothing! |
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"I would only chat to a blank profile if a face pic was attached to first message!x
Have done that approach on a few a feel are genuine but not so many back. I musnt be very good looking!
Well if they don’t find you attractive , would you want to bother?
No course not. I wouldnt follow up after that. I guess another issue which is probably for a whole other thread is the effort that goes in to some messages for profile you really like. You send a good message. Attached a few pics. Then nothing! "
Maybe put that effort into your profile first and then try!x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We never talk to profiles with no pics.
We’re discreet but have body pics.
We can’t understand people having no pics for discretion reasons. Are the afraid their friends/family/boss/wife will recognise their body/genitalia/clothes? We always assume they have something to hide and just reject. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We never talk to profiles with no pics.
We’re discreet but have body pics.
We can’t understand people having no pics for discretion reasons. Are the afraid their friends/family/boss/wife will recognise their body/genitalia/clothes? We always assume they have something to hide and just reject. "
In a nutshell i think you have said pretty much every reason! You just never know who is on here who you might know... admittedly i am probably overthinking it? |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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I have to be discreet as well and I have about 20 pictures.
A lot of people start there messages with something along the lines of "you look nice" or something similar.
Would they contact me if I didn't have any pictures? I don't think so.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
Answers on a postcard...
Thanks
Andy"
I am discreet, I have plenty of pictures and I'm confident nobody will recognise me other than my husband and those I've been intimate enough with to recognise certain marks on my body.
I don't see the problem to have public pictures. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We never talk to profiles with no pics.
We’re discreet but have body pics.
We can’t understand people having no pics for discretion reasons. Are the afraid their friends/family/boss/wife will recognise their body/genitalia/clothes? We always assume they have something to hide and just reject.
In a nutshell i think you have said pretty much every reason! You just never know who is on here who you might know... admittedly i am probably overthinking it?"
But who would recognise a body pic (no face) of you in a pair of boxers ? We always suspect with single guys with no pics that they’re worried about their wife recognising their body. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
Answers on a postcard...
Thanks
Andy"
no pics equals no reply, no profile write up no reply, cannot accom and no reason no reply, too far away no reply, your profile is your advert make it the best it can be or no reply  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have to be discreet as well and I have about 20 pictures.
A lot of people start there messages with something along the lines of "you look nice" or something similar.
Would they contact me if I didn't have any pictures? I don't think so.
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I get messages saying "you look nice", "hi gorgeous" etc.
99% of the time I have no pics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have to be discreet as well and I have about 20 pictures.
A lot of people start there messages with something along the lines of "you look nice" or something similar.
Would they contact me if I didn't have any pictures? I don't think so.
I get messages saying "you look nice", "hi gorgeous" etc.
99% of the time I have no pics. "
really omg that smacks of total stupidity |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
Answers on a postcard...
Thanks
Andy"
Because isnt just a fuck site its a community and a lifestyle based upon discretion and trust, nobody is going to paste a poster of your profile at the local bus stops or hire town criers to shout youe business to the public.
The people who require the level of discretion you request are normally the ones with an unknowing wife or husband to go home to which alot of the community here dont want to involve themselves with.
P.S the only time someone in work ever called me out for being on fab i quite proudly announced that to know i was on fab and see my profile you also have to be on fab, a rather dumbstruck looking colleague never said a single word about fab after that. Moral of the story people on fab wont announce you're on fab! |
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Simply it's a large open buyers market. So to a certain extent if you want to be competitive you need to advertise yourself well. Generally products with great packaging are going to attract more interest than ones with blank packaging. |
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Discretion is understandable. But clearly you have to accept that if trade viability for discretion it's going to have an adverse effect on your chances. That's just logical right? I don't really see how you can moan about people favouring that which is advertised more attractively? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just go for it pal, put a face pic up.. if anyone knows you on here they are probably doing the same things you are.. my ex wife told my mum I was on here.. she thinks it’s great |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
Answers on a postcard...
Thanks
Andy
Because isnt just a fuck site its a community and a lifestyle based upon discretion and trust, nobody is going to paste a poster of your profile at the local bus stops or hire town criers to shout youe business to the public.
The people who require the level of discretion you request are normally the ones with an unknowing wife or husband to go home to which alot of the community here dont want to involve themselves with.
P.S the only time someone in work ever called me out for being on fab i quite proudly announced that to know i was on fab and see my profile you also have to be on fab, a rather dumbstruck looking colleague never said a single word about fab after that. Moral of the story people on fab wont announce you're on fab! "
That's breathtakingly naïve!! |
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
Answers on a postcard...
Thanks
Andy
Because isnt just a fuck site its a community and a lifestyle based upon discretion and trust, nobody is going to paste a poster of your profile at the local bus stops or hire town criers to shout youe business to the public.
The people who require the level of discretion you request are normally the ones with an unknowing wife or husband to go home to which alot of the community here dont want to involve themselves with.
P.S the only time someone in work ever called me out for being on fab i quite proudly announced that to know i was on fab and see my profile you also have to be on fab, a rather dumbstruck looking colleague never said a single word about fab after that. Moral of the story people on fab wont announce you're on fab! "
Or you're a teacher of small children and a parent finds you on here and has a problem, or other jobs where you can "bring the profession into disrepute", or you don't want creeps following you around Tesco asking if they can impregnate you, or... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a shallow fucker on here. I only interact with those I like the look of. I can afford to ignore anyone with no pics as there are plenty of hot guys with pics that I can immediately see what I'm getting. Anything else is a potential waste of my time and I don't need to risk it.
It's your profile though. So stick to your way of doing things. |
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I have just been brave enough to put up a face pic on my profile and hid my veries for descretion this week and now guys saying I am a fake or asking what am I looking for...
"Friendship" or "Fucking"!!
I thought "Swinging" was both.
Any wonder some single guys struggle on here.
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"I have just been brave enough to put up a face pic on my profile and hid my veries for descretion this week and now guys saying I am a fake or asking what am I looking for...
"Friendship" or "Fucking"!!
I thought "Swinging" was both.
Any wonder some single guys struggle on here.
Comments welcome."
Your posting really just confirms that a lot of single guys on here are inherently stupid. |
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"If I'm walking down the High Street looking for something, I'm much more likely to go in the shops that have a attractive displays in the shop windows and draw me in either visually or with my imagination.
A shop with a blank storefront would not even catch me my attention for long enough for me to decide not to venture in. "
That's just how I see a profile,I get drawn in by their window,nothing to look at,I don't feel the need to ask
Discreet usually means married in my experience  |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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When I get a message,the first thing I look at is the profile. No avatar , no pics = no interest in opening the message so it's an instant delete.
It's not hard to put just 1 picture on regardless of needing to be discreet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have just been brave enough to put up a face pic on my profile and hid my veries for descretion this week and now guys saying I am a fake or asking what am I looking for...
"Friendship" or "Fucking"!!
I thought "Swinging" was both.
Any wonder some single guys struggle on here.
Comments welcome.
Your posting really just confirms that a lot of single guys on here are inherently stupid."
 and can’t read!
OP - seriously! If there’s no photos then a response is less likely. Why not just add photos to that well thought out message.I delete messages UNREAD without a photo attached.
I always share photos in first photos and have them on my profile if looking to meet: window shopping!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
Answers on a postcard...
Thanks
Andy
Because isnt just a fuck site its a community and a lifestyle based upon discretion and trust, nobody is going to paste a poster of your profile at the local bus stops or hire town criers to shout youe business to the public.
The people who require the level of discretion you request are normally the ones with an unknowing wife or husband to go home to which alot of the community here dont want to involve themselves with.
P.S the only time someone in work ever called me out for being on fab i quite proudly announced that to know i was on fab and see my profile you also have to be on fab, a rather dumbstruck looking colleague never said a single word about fab after that. Moral of the story people on fab wont announce you're on fab!
That's breathtakingly naïve!!"
Im in no way bothered if people know that im here but 99% of the time its true |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
Answers on a postcard...
Thanks
Andy
Because isnt just a fuck site its a community and a lifestyle based upon discretion and trust, nobody is going to paste a poster of your profile at the local bus stops or hire town criers to shout youe business to the public.
The people who require the level of discretion you request are normally the ones with an unknowing wife or husband to go home to which alot of the community here dont want to involve themselves with.
P.S the only time someone in work ever called me out for being on fab i quite proudly announced that to know i was on fab and see my profile you also have to be on fab, a rather dumbstruck looking colleague never said a single word about fab after that. Moral of the story people on fab wont announce you're on fab!
Or you're a teacher of small children and a parent finds you on here and has a problem, or other jobs where you can "bring the profession into disrepute", or you don't want creeps following you around Tesco asking if they can impregnate you, or... "
Being a teacher of small children has nothing to do with it, your private life is yours to do with as you please and how about a soldier where you can goto military prison for being here?
As for being followed around do yoh hide your face on any other dating sites you use? Any dating site has creeps that can see your face why is fab the magical exception? |
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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago
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"Why would they reply to a blank profile when there are plenty with pics?
That is a good way to put it! I did have a profile pic on a previous profile (dick pick) but that didnt work and a lot of people seemed to not like dick pics as profile pics
Why not have a profile pic that is neither face nor dick ?"
A torso shot in a nice 3 piece suit or disheveled shirt and tie gets me every time.  |
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
Answers on a postcard...
Thanks
Andy
Because isnt just a fuck site its a community and a lifestyle based upon discretion and trust, nobody is going to paste a poster of your profile at the local bus stops or hire town criers to shout youe business to the public.
The people who require the level of discretion you request are normally the ones with an unknowing wife or husband to go home to which alot of the community here dont want to involve themselves with.
P.S the only time someone in work ever called me out for being on fab i quite proudly announced that to know i was on fab and see my profile you also have to be on fab, a rather dumbstruck looking colleague never said a single word about fab after that. Moral of the story people on fab wont announce you're on fab!
Or you're a teacher of small children and a parent finds you on here and has a problem, or other jobs where you can "bring the profession into disrepute", or you don't want creeps following you around Tesco asking if they can impregnate you, or...
Being a teacher of small children has nothing to do with it, your private life is yours to do with as you please and how about a soldier where you can goto military prison for being here?
As for being followed around do yoh hide your face on any other dating sites you use? Any dating site has creeps that can see your face why is fab the magical exception? "
Several professions, it reflects badly and it may threaten your employment.
One, I'm not on any other sites. Two, if I were, I wouldn't be so open about my desires for things like gangbangs. |
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"We never talk to profiles with no pics.
We’re discreet but have body pics.
We can’t understand people having no pics for discretion reasons. Are the afraid their friends/family/boss/wife will recognise their body/genitalia/clothes? We always assume they have something to hide and just reject. "
Agreed! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have just been brave enough to put up a face pic on my profile and hid my veries for descretion this week and now guys saying I am a fake or asking what am I looking for...
"Friendship" or "Fucking"!!
I thought "Swinging" was both.
Any wonder some single guys struggle on here.
Comments welcome."
you have a lovely figure, you suit black |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Simply it's a large open buyers market. So to a certain extent if you want to be competitive you need to advertise yourself well. Generally products with great packaging are going to attract more interest than ones with blank packaging."
Wicked reply mate. Very good. Got ya! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I got pictures still don’t get no replies. It’s a meat market on here, you have to be “almost perfect” I’ve found. So much choice for females and couples."
Yep i do agree. Single guys are cannon fodder. Got to hustle really hard to even get noticed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Being attached also put a lot of people off.. so maybe its not just the fact you don’t have a profile pic x"
I guess maybe it is a factor. But havent hid it. Any profile i see where they have made a point of saying they don't want attached people i stay clear of. Points for honesty? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm bewildered why the op can't understand why he gets no replies. No pics means it's quite obvious."
Whats obvious about having no pics? I said i have on profile. Just dont have a profile front page pic. I really didnt think it was a huge issue. Especially as i wouldnt not talk to someone if they didnt have one. Hence why im asking! |
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"I'm bewildered why the op can't understand why he gets no replies. No pics means it's quite obvious.
Whats obvious about having no pics? I said i have on profile. Just dont have a profile front page pic. I really didnt think it was a huge issue. Especially as i wouldnt not talk to someone if they didnt have one. Hence why im asking!"
It's a huge issue. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why would they reply to a blank profile when there are plenty with pics?
That is a good way to put it! I did have a profile pic on a previous profile (dick pick) but that didnt work and a lot of people seemed to not like dick pics as profile pics
Why not have a profile pic that is neither face nor dick ?
A torso shot in a nice 3 piece suit or disheveled shirt and tie gets me every time. "
Thanks. Noted! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm bewildered why the op can't understand why he gets no replies. No pics means it's quite obvious.
Whats obvious about having no pics? I said i have on profile. Just dont have a profile front page pic. I really didnt think it was a huge issue. Especially as i wouldnt not talk to someone if they didnt have one. Hence why im asking!
It's a huge issue. "
Yep judging by this thread it clearly is! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm a shallow fucker on here. I only interact with those I like the look of. I can afford to ignore anyone with no pics as there are plenty of hot guys with pics that I can immediately see what I'm getting. Anything else is a potential waste of my time and I don't need to risk it.
It's your profile though. So stick to your way of doing things. "
Yeah but my way and thought of it is pretty shit clearly! But yeah i get your point and you can filter how you choose. You owe no-one a reply!
Back to the drawing board for me i think... |
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All single men have a great issue due to the amount of effort that they have to invest to get meets. Accept this as a given and adjust expectations accordingly.
People wanting men have masses of them mailing them all day, every day. Men without pics make it harder for themselves as people searching for men instantly know if other men are attractive but have no clue whatsoever about you. Guess who they pick?
Some men here are cheating, so have no pics, on case she finds them. Lots of people are suspicious if someone is cheating and aren't interested.
Lots of a body isn't identifiable - so use a good body shot, rather than nothing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We chat to profiles with no pictures but won't meet unless we've seen one.
I thought more would have gone down this route as all it takes is a couple messages and if rapport is built then pics can be exchanged etc"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I 1st came on Fab,I had a social with a bloke of here.. yes he had pics on his profile.
But they were defo not recent.
My choice not to have pics on my profile and hey worked out ok for me !!!!!
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"I'm bewildered why the op can't understand why he gets no replies. No pics means it's quite obvious.
Whats obvious about having no pics? I said i have on profile. Just dont have a profile front page pic. I really didnt think it was a huge issue. Especially as i wouldnt not talk to someone if they didnt have one. Hence why im asking!"
As has been said, it's a market! Your pics are hidden. If you can't see what's obvious about a blank profile not much point in saying anything more, unless you take your blinkers off and have a look at the competition. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've got lots of information, photos, and time into my profile, I don't feel that I would be compatible with somebody who just doesn't feel it's worth making an effort."
I second this...hi hun xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I had 20 pics on my account, but I took them all off . I did it so people can read my profile better instead of getting sidetracked
But I do send face pics when ask "
I guess this can work for a womans profile. No chance on a mans. Im proof of that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So what about if it's a verified couple with no profile or public pictures but some friends only pics? I've been messaged and hope to progress things but as I've got nothing to go on I've sent them a friend request which has so far been ignored. Is it too rude of me to ask for a friend request at this stage if I've no other way of seeing who I'm messaging with? |
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"So what about if it's a verified couple with no profile or public pictures but some friends only pics? I've been messaged and hope to progress things but as I've got nothing to go on I've sent them a friend request which has so far been ignored. Is it too rude of me to ask for a friend request at this stage if I've no other way of seeing who I'm messaging with? "
Do you really want to proceed in those circumstances? I wouldn't. |
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"So what about if it's a verified couple with no profile or public pictures but some friends only pics? I've been messaged and hope to progress things but as I've got nothing to go on I've sent them a friend request which has so far been ignored. Is it too rude of me to ask for a friend request at this stage if I've no other way of seeing who I'm messaging with? "
They messaged you? No I don't think it's rude at all. You need to know who you're talking to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So what about if it's a verified couple with no profile or public pictures but some friends only pics? I've been messaged and hope to progress things but as I've got nothing to go on I've sent them a friend request which has so far been ignored. Is it too rude of me to ask for a friend request at this stage if I've no other way of seeing who I'm messaging with?
Do you really want to proceed in those circumstances? I wouldn't. "
Thanks, i sent some pictures but havent had a response despite them continuing to look at my profile every day. I'm not going to bother making any more contact though, shame, being a single male i don't get many messages so my hopes were up! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
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Thanks
Andy
Because isnt just a fuck site its a community and a lifestyle based upon discretion and trust, nobody is going to paste a poster of your profile at the local bus stops or hire town criers to shout youe business to the public.
The people who require the level of discretion you request are normally the ones with an unknowing wife or husband to go home to which alot of the community here dont want to involve themselves with "
This 100% |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
Answers on a postcard...
Thanks
Andy
Because isnt just a fuck site its a community and a lifestyle based upon discretion and trust, nobody is going to paste a poster of your profile at the local bus stops or hire town criers to shout youe business to the public.
The people who require the level of discretion you request are normally the ones with an unknowing wife or husband to go home to which alot of the community here dont want to involve themselves with.
P.S the only time someone in work ever called me out for being on fab i quite proudly announced that to know i was on fab and see my profile you also have to be on fab, a rather dumbstruck looking colleague never said a single word about fab after that. Moral of the story people on fab wont announce you're on fab!
Or you're a teacher of small children and a parent finds you on here and has a problem, or other jobs where you can "bring the profession into disrepute", or you don't want creeps following you around Tesco asking if they can impregnate you, or...
Being a teacher of small children has nothing to do with it, your private life is yours to do with as you please and how about a soldier where you can goto military prison for being here?
As for being followed around do yoh hide your face on any other dating sites you use? Any dating site has creeps that can see your face why is fab the magical exception?
Several professions, it reflects badly and it may threaten your employment.
One, I'm not on any other sites. Two, if I were, I wouldn't be so open about my desires for things like gangbangs. "
Yes and if you're in a profession where it reflects badly and youve still come here then you've already weighed the pros vs cons and discreation isnt going to solve any of your problems if you have any |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"If I'm walking down the High Street looking for something, I'm much more likely to go in the shops that have a attractive displays in the shop windows and draw me in either visually or with my imagination.
A shop with a blank storefront would not even catch me my attention for long enough for me to decide not to venture in. "
Perfect way to put it |
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
Answers on a postcard...
Thanks
Andy
Because isnt just a fuck site its a community and a lifestyle based upon discretion and trust, nobody is going to paste a poster of your profile at the local bus stops or hire town criers to shout youe business to the public.
The people who require the level of discretion you request are normally the ones with an unknowing wife or husband to go home to which alot of the community here dont want to involve themselves with.
P.S the only time someone in work ever called me out for being on fab i quite proudly announced that to know i was on fab and see my profile you also have to be on fab, a rather dumbstruck looking colleague never said a single word about fab after that. Moral of the story people on fab wont announce you're on fab!
Or you're a teacher of small children and a parent finds you on here and has a problem, or other jobs where you can "bring the profession into disrepute", or you don't want creeps following you around Tesco asking if they can impregnate you, or...
Being a teacher of small children has nothing to do with it, your private life is yours to do with as you please and how about a soldier where you can goto military prison for being here?
As for being followed around do yoh hide your face on any other dating sites you use? Any dating site has creeps that can see your face why is fab the magical exception?
Several professions, it reflects badly and it may threaten your employment.
One, I'm not on any other sites. Two, if I were, I wouldn't be so open about my desires for things like gangbangs.
Yes and if you're in a profession where it reflects badly and youve still come here then you've already weighed the pros vs cons and discreation isnt going to solve any of your problems if you have any"
It's mitigation of risk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Doesn't matter whether it's a single guy or a woman for me, if theres no avatar I'm very unlikely to even read the message xx"
exactly i can just you on your breasts and they look well worth meeting  |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
Answers on a postcard...
Thanks
Andy"
How many blank profiles do you yourself message as a %.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi everyone
Trying to gauge what the problem is with profiles that dont have a pic on the front page?
Keen to maintain discretion and when i message people i state i can send pics if interested.
Finding it so frustrating spending ages writing messages. Putting it all out there and no replies!
Would like to understand what the issue people have with these kinds of profiles and what i can maybe do to enhance communication?
Answers on a postcard...
Thanks
Andy
Because isnt just a fuck site its a community and a lifestyle based upon discretion and trust, nobody is going to paste a poster of your profile at the local bus stops or hire town criers to shout youe business to the public.
The people who require the level of discretion you request are normally the ones with an unknowing wife or husband to go home to which alot of the community here dont want to involve themselves with.
P.S the only time someone in work ever called me out for being on fab i quite proudly announced that to know i was on fab and see my profile you also have to be on fab, a rather dumbstruck looking colleague never said a single word about fab after that. Moral of the story people on fab wont announce you're on fab!
Or you're a teacher of small children and a parent finds you on here and has a problem, or other jobs where you can "bring the profession into disrepute", or you don't want creeps following you around Tesco asking if they can impregnate you, or...
Being a teacher of small children has nothing to do with it, your private life is yours to do with as you please and how about a soldier where you can goto military prison for being here?
As for being followed around do yoh hide your face on any other dating sites you use? Any dating site has creeps that can see your face why is fab the magical exception?
Several professions, it reflects badly and it may threaten your employment.
One, I'm not on any other sites. Two, if I were, I wouldn't be so open about my desires for things like gangbangs.
Yes and if you're in a profession where it reflects badly and youve still come here then you've already weighed the pros vs cons and discreation isnt going to solve any of your problems if you have any
It's mitigation of risk. "
And the second you send someone a face pic or meet with someone all the privacy and discretion youve been trying to keep is out the window. Logically the more you seek discreation the more likely you are to lose it.
Think of it in these term, i have my face pic in public gallery and also my avatar. Clearly privacy is not a concern of mine so somebody who chooses to find someway to hurt me is going to look for another way because if theh decide to use said photo my face is already freely available. Just like with all your photos being private they know 99% they've found someone they can hurt with something as simple as a photo. |
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"I have added a profile pic!
Wish me luck...
Thanks for all comments and suggestions"
Read the majority of negative comments about no pics. Having them as friends only, changes nothing. No excuse whatsoever for not having body shots freely available for anyone to look at. If you continue with your attitude towards no pics, at this stage, after all the above advice, I'm afraid your chances of a meet remain slim.
A realist! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not here for blind date. If I cant see pics to gauge whether I'm going to find someone physically attractive to me or not very early on, then I wont bother replying.
Sin. |
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