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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all.
I'm quite new to the site so still feeling my way.
Got a wink off a very attractive person who thinks my photos are 'hot'.
I was flattered and sent a meesage. A couple of messages later and they want to arrange a meet. All good...but...
This person is 20, I am a late fifties guy, my kids are in their 30s!
I should have thought things through before I replied.
I need to decline, but without giving offence or knocking their confidence. Any suggestions please. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes, varified and been on here a while.
Keeps messaging now asking why I'm not replying.
Could be a piss take I suppose, but if it's not and I don't reply soon it'll look like I'm a waster |
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If you don't want to meet people that young reply, quickly and unambiguously saying that they are absolutely gorgeous but you didn't realise how young they were and can't go ahead. Wish them well and then amend your message filters so no one that young can contact you in future. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes, they have face pics on profile, I sent private.
I wish I hadn't replied to this wink, I've had a few and no problems, its just the age.
Think I'll put it down to inexperience on these sites and just say I've had a re-think. I hope it is a piss take and no one gets upset. Thanks for the advice. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you don't want to meet people that young reply, quickly and unambiguously saying that they are absolutely gorgeous but you didn't realise how young they were and can't go ahead. Wish them well and then amend your message filters so no one that young can contact you in future."
Good advice, I had put on profile from age 40 |
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"If you don't want to meet people that young reply, quickly and unambiguously saying that they are absolutely gorgeous but you didn't realise how young they were and can't go ahead. Wish them well and then amend your message filters so no one that young can contact you in future.
Good advice, I had put on profile from age 40"
Your profile says 18 to 99. Set message filters  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you don't want to meet people that young reply, quickly and unambiguously saying that they are absolutely gorgeous but you didn't realise how young they were and can't go ahead. Wish them well and then amend your message filters so no one that young can contact you in future.
Good advice, I had put on profile from age 40
Your profile says 18 to 99. Set message filters "
Thanks, just checked and rectified |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would think some one less than 40 interested in me would be off their rocker. "
You're quite right. I think what threw me
was, when I was younger, I always fancied older people. That and the fact I was flattered...yes i know I'm a silly old sod |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, varified and been on here a while.
Keeps messaging now asking why I'm not replying.
Could be a piss take I suppose, but if it's not and I don't reply soon it'll look like I'm a waster"
ask his name  |
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"We have a 25 year wanting to meet us ,ive always said no the lowest we have gone is 36 ,but was very mature guy ,but my daughter is 30 is this a step too far ,seems really nice too ?  "
It doesn’t have to be a step too far. Meet socially, see how you feel. |
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We get some interest from 20-somethings, hot, slim, almost model material.
Some are obvious fakes.
One or two might be a piss-take.
But some have been genuine.
What have you got to loose.. have a social, ask the question "Why?" face to face...and see where it goes.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, varified and been on here a while.
Keeps messaging now asking why I'm not replying.
Could be a piss take I suppose, but if it's not and I don't reply soon it'll look like I'm a waster"
The persistence would make me question them to be honest.
There’s never a need to ask someone why they’re not replying, people have lives.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would think some one less than 40 interested in me would be off their rocker. "
Not necessarily!
I am seeking older men here, and I have had messages asking why, one guy even proceeded to claim he is adamant I’m fake, and I’m probably a bloke in his 50s because nobody my age could possibly be interested in older. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would think some one less than 40 interested in me would be off their rocker.
Not necessarily!
I am seeking older men here, and I have had messages asking why, one guy even proceeded to claim he is adamant I’m fake, and I’m probably a bloke in his 50s because nobody my age could possibly be interested in older. "
I've had exactly the same find it odd. I've never been keen on men my age |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just tell her you’ve just noticed her age and have a personal policy not to see people younger than your kids. And that she’s stunning and you should have checked first and sorry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it difficult to believe that people make mistakes like this "
My brain doesn't work when my cock is hard. After I've had a wank the brain cells get some blood back in them and ......... |
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If you messaged her without checking her profile and seeing she was 20 then I sympathise with you but if you did check her profile and saw her age then it's trouble of your own making.
Saying that explain to her that she's a tad too young for you and that you were flattered by her attention. Job done! |
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"I would think some one less than 40 interested in me would be off their rocker.
Not necessarily!
I am seeking older men here, and I have had messages asking why, one guy even proceeded to claim he is adamant I’m fake, and I’m probably a bloke in his 50s because nobody my age could possibly be interested in older. "
Maybe it’s a confidence thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hi just read your post, I am 36 and myself and my husband have been having regular meets with a man who is 59, don’t feel that you have to decline as with me I prefer older men, I think it’s the security they offer and are different to the typical men on the site. I would much prefer to meet and older guy than someone my own age or younger. Hope this helps, good luck ?? |
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I'd never considered meeting a younger man--til I did. You never know!!
If you just think it'd be awkward, have a social and then decide. If you KNOW it's not right for you, just tell her, as noted above.
Not all young women on here are fake!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's rare, but not unusual for someone so young to fancy you. Recently I found out that a young colleague had a crush on me, I found it flattering, but would never persue the issue. It may not be a piss take, so as others have said, let her down gently, most of us have had a crush on someone much older than us at some point in our lives.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have a 25 year wanting to meet us ,ive always said no the lowest we have gone is 36 ,but was very mature guy ,but my daughter is 30 is this a step too far ,seems really nice too ? "
But your profile says from age 30 so if 36 is your lower limit, raise the age on profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have our minimum age set to 40, sometimes we lower it to 35 but then we get inundated so if I'm feeling overwhelmed I raise to 40 again.
However, if someone between 35 and 40 keeps looking and fabbing pics, and if we like the look of them, I will initiate contact |
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