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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Been together for 10+years

We Had a 3some with a friend years ago

Sex life gone abit stale

Although nervous Would luv to get her into this

Any advice ?

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

Show her your profile

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

"Show her your profile

If it's her in the pics, you could ask her about converting it to a couples profile.

I'd assume that you would be better to consider discussing your relationship and sex life, before rushing to get her to think about swinging though.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Talk to her and ask her if she'd like to join you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Does she know that you are on here x i was only asking because your profile says a quick fuck would be great xx if i was you i would take her to a club and see how it goes

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By *am4CamWoman over a year ago

Fairy Land

Having perused your profile I’d check if she meets your own requirements:

Is she a “bored housewife”?

Can she be discreet?

Does she mind intimate photos of her being splashed over the internet?

If yes to all three, you’re good to go. Help her set up a profile or, if she’s up for it, set up a couple profile together.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Talk to her about it. See how she feels about it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There’s a quiz called mojo for couples. It’s for kinks and comparing desires. It only shows categories you both say yes to. That’s an opener for discussion but to swing as a couple there needs to be absolute trust and honesty. I’d delete the solo profile and invest that energy into her instead. Trust and communication and just see what happens. If she’s not interested you can always discuss an open arrangement based on your needs. Honesty is best - Mrs

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By *carlettxWoman over a year ago

Essex

"Been together for 10+years

We Had a 3some with a friend years ago

Sex life gone abit stale

Although nervous Would luv to get her into this

Any advice ? "

Looks like she’s already into it without her knowing if you have a profile yourself without her knowing ?

Isn’t swinging about choice ?

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By *eith28Man over a year ago

uxbridge

"Been together for 10+years

We Had a 3some with a friend years ago

Sex life gone abit stale

Although nervous Would luv to get her into this

Any advice ? "

Give her my details

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would advise against showing her your profile, firstly if she isn't aware you are on here you have already shared her pictures without consent.

Secondly if she is unaware and reads your profile I sense she may feel she has no choice in the matter, that she should agree or you will continue behind her back as you have been.

Ultimately your profile alone could break her trust in you.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"There’s a quiz called mojo for couples. It’s for kinks and comparing desires. It only shows categories you both say yes to. That’s an opener for discussion but to swing as a couple there needs to be absolute trust and honesty. I’d delete the solo profile and invest that energy into her instead. Trust and communication and just see what happens. If she’s not interested you can always discuss an open arrangement based on your needs. Honesty is best - Mrs "

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

You need to sort out the fundimental foundations and communication in your relationship/love life first. Successful swinging in a loving relationship really does rely on this being in place first. So concentrate on that first. You may not be the only one in your relationship down about your current sex life. Clearly there is no gaureentee she'll be game down the line, you can't make someone be a swinger. But there is far more chance of it or another solution if you can both openly communicate your desires to each and still love each other for who you both are. Hopefully you can go forward in a better way together whether we see you both on here or not one day.

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By *ireupthequattroCouple over a year ago

Stratford

Too many guys in this world cheating on their partners for years , being on chat and swingers sites behind their backs then asking for advice on how to introduce their wife’s to swinging , swinging needs trust and honesty , you have neither of those , what if you found out she has been on a swinging site begging guys to fuck her then one day says to you “look at what I’m doing , you ok with that “

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By *ireupthequattroCouple over a year ago

Stratford

When I met my boyfriend he told me on our first date what he was into , never lead me down the garden path and did it behind my back , he was honest from day one. Not months or years down the road

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's a Virginia?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would advise against showing her your profile, firstly if she isn't aware you are on here you have already shared her pictures without consent.

Which puts you in breach of revenge porn laws

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Been together for 10+years

We Had a 3some with a friend years ago

Sex life gone abit stale

Although nervous Would luv to get her into this

Any advice ? "

if you dont know here by now then i fear you never will

how the heck are a bunch of stranger going to help ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would advise against showing her your profile, firstly if she isn't aware you are on here you have already shared her pictures without consent.

Which puts you in breach of revenge porn laws"

depends if the pics have been lifted from elsewhere

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Op. You’re the same age as me and from the same town. Do we know each other? I often throw local social events. If you do discuss it with her (because you do need to it you won’t get anywhere in the scene sneaking around and having to lie, I also agree about not showing her your profile) then that’s a non-scary option to let her experience the scene initially xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

1st you have got to tell her that you are on here x lol then take her out to a club and see if she is up for it x

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

Who is the woman in your pics OP? Is it your partner? Has she consented to you using intimate pictures of her on here? If not then at least have the respect to remove them. If she has then surely she knows about swinging, and that will be a conversation opener.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"Who is the woman in your pics OP? Is it your partner? Has she consented to you using intimate pictures of her on here? If not then at least have the respect to remove them. If she has then surely she knows about swinging, and that will be a conversation opener."

Ah appears tineye answers my question.