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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They don’t find you attractive. Simples

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You might think you meet all their requirements, but they can disagree.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Shes looked at your pic and didnt fancy you.

Move on and dont stress.

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By *ensualtouch15Man over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please"

She looked at your pic

I guess one of her requirements is a man SHE finds attractive

Block and move on

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By *atisfying jackMan over a year ago

Hereford

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please"

Dont take it personally, even if you think you meet all the criteria, you may not.

You could send the best, well thought out message they have ever seen but you may just not be what they're looking for.

I understand your pain, stick at it bud, just move on and see what comes up elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Writing a message to someone doesn’t entitle you to a reply. Move on to another lady mate

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By *oney to the beeWoman over a year ago

Manchester

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please"

The problem is if you send a thanks but no thanks more than a quater will come back with the why not reply and if you reply to that you get the buy can't you make an exception.

So if you are not interested you are best often just not to reply just delete then your no thanks message isn't the only message in someone's in box for them to pester you via.

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

"They don’t find you attractive. Simples"

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

thank you everyone

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

They're not interested. Move on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Requirements

since when is attraction about ticking boxes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please"
forget and move on. I usually block to save confusion afterwards

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please"

You met all of her requirements except the one that's not written down, she wasn't attracted to you.

Don't stress about it, you'll find someone who is sooner or later.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't get why this is so hard to grasp?!? Do you want to fuck EVERY person that fits your requirements, on paper, OP?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't get why this is so hard to grasp?!? Do you want to fuck EVERY person that fits your requirements, on paper, OP?! "

I do

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I don't get why this is so hard to grasp?!? Do you want to fuck EVERY person that fits your requirements, on paper, OP?!

I do

"
Haha we've missed you

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By *atisfying jackMan over a year ago

Hereford

"I don't get why this is so hard to grasp?!? Do you want to fuck EVERY person that fits your requirements, on paper, OP?! "

Hmmm some of the messages I've had from straight men would let me believe that the phrase 'any hole is a goal' for a lot of men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please

You met all of her requirements except the one that's not written down, she wasn't attracted to you.

Don't stress about it, you'll find someone who is sooner or later.

cheers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because they're rude and CBA to write no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I often see messages from people I would meet.

If at that time I'm not looking then it's easier to delete.

They can message again when I post a meet if they are free

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't get why this is so hard to grasp?!? Do you want to fuck EVERY person that fits your requirements, on paper, OP?!

I do

lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't get why this is so hard to grasp?!? Do you want to fuck EVERY person that fits your requirements, on paper, OP?!

I do

I do you!! Missed ya naughty! Hope you're having a ball!!

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By *teve48ukMan over a year ago

Ware

So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?"

Because they're rude boss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?"

What makes you think everyone deserves or is entitled to a reply ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?"

Coz they needed to wipe their arse and only have 2 hands.

Maybe they'll come back to it later, maybe they won't

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By *teve48ukMan over a year ago

Ware

"So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?

Coz they needed to wipe their arse and only have 2 hands.

Maybe they'll come back to it later, maybe they won't

Is it not common curtesy?

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By *iguyandbbwCouple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please"

Caesar, fair play to you thoe reading a profile and seeing if you match then when u do u send a personalised message thats great to see, wished other guys would do the same, we do reply to all that do this to us but with some we don't find attractive and as we r a couple we both have to agree

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?"

Because they don't have time to reply.

Because they're coming back to all the messages that warrant a reply at a later date.

Because they're waiting until there's a reasonable number to bulk delete.

Because they're on holiday.

Because they're actually not meeting.

Because they're using their hands to have a wank.

Because there passed away and their next of kin don't have their log in.

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By *irthandgirthMan over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Ok.. taking a different tack on this one.. its difficult to judge without knowing the content of your message, which would be inappropriate to share.

Maybe your message was too well crafted and it came across as fake? You said you ticked all the boxes. Your OP wasn't clear if this was part of the message or not. If it was detsiling how perfect you were for her that may have come across as weird.

As above. Learn and move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?

Coz they needed to wipe their arse and only have 2 hands.

Maybe they'll come back to it later, maybe they won't

Is it not common curtesy?

Depends on your view.

According to the side, it's perfectly acceptable not to reply.

People who receive a mountain of messages/can't be arsed getting into a debate about the whole WHY you don't find a person suitable/plus a host of other reasons may think not relying isn't rude.

Some people who don't get many messages may find it rude not to reply.

People are human too, don't forget that. I've often thought I've replied to texts off friends and family when I haven't. I've meant to but not finished the message or simply not pressed send!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?

Coz they needed to wipe their arse and only have 2 hands.

Maybe they'll come back to it later, maybe they won't

Is it not common curtesy?

Depends on your view.

According to the side, it's perfectly acceptable not to reply.

People who receive a mountain of messages/can't be arsed getting into a debate about the whole WHY you don't find a person suitable/plus a host of other reasons may think not relying isn't rude.

Some people who don't get many messages may find it rude not to reply.

People are human too, don't forget that. I've often thought I've replied to texts off friends and family when I haven't. I've meant to but not finished the message or simply not pressed send!

Fuck me, I really need to proof read before I post.

I ain't even gonna bother correcting my spellings today, I'm on a rebel role.

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By *teve48ukMan over a year ago

Ware

"So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?

Coz they needed to wipe their arse and only have 2 hands.

Maybe they'll come back to it later, maybe they won't

Is it not common curtesy?

Depends on your view.

According to the side, it's perfectly acceptable not to reply.

People who receive a mountain of messages/can't be arsed getting into a debate about the whole WHY you don't find a person suitable/plus a host of other reasons may think not relying isn't rude.

Some people who don't get many messages may find it rude not to reply.

People are human too, don't forget that. I've often thought I've replied to texts off friends and family when I haven't. I've meant to but not finished the message or simply not pressed send!

Fuck me, I really need to proof read before I post.

I ain't even gonna bother correcting my spellings today, I'm on a rebel role.

P"
Absolutely fair enough, and very valid points

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By *ark-Nat 2016Couple over a year ago

cheshire

Man the F up and move on soldier

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My offering- i could not possibly reply to all messages, sorry.

Unfortunately, this is a bit harsh part of fab journey on men.. stars are bit cruel here.

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please"

They don't owe you a reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I meant to say 'stats' not 'stars'

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please

They don't owe you a reply."

ok cool

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please

thank you for your honest opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do yourself a favour mate, don't look in the sent box.

There's no point dwelling on things completely out of your control.

You could be the ripest apple in the bowl but she might fancy a peach

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had so many guys telling me they don't understand why I'm not interested in them as they tick all my boxes..

You think you do but I know what I like. That's the difference.

Sorry you're not my type.

And that's when the abuse starts..

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By *lderamDarkMan over a year ago

Bromsgrove

Even if you meet the requirements she still needs to find you attractive it's the same for some men for me I've gotta be able to find a woman that catches my eye and her profile information if I read that and I see she is feisty then I'm challenging her to see how feisty.

So as you see theres more to it than that try changing how you speak to them try different methods.

1. Be more daring in what you say dont always be too polite show you have a bad boy side to the gentleman side but dont get that mixed up with being rude.

2. Pay her a compliment but dont put her up on the pedestal as then she knows she has the power and once she gets that she's bored easily.

3. Dont be too full on in your messages it comes across needy, dont give out to much about yourself make her work to find out more about you because she will be making you work to get her time and attention.

4.Go outside of your boundaries because if you stay in the comfort zone then thats boring.

5. Banter is a must if you dont know how to banter then learn I am a fucker for banter I will push boundaries say stuff out of the blue relate to there statuses or profiles info and banter away.

6. If your pics just ain't doing it then take new ones make them more sexier change your hair or your clothes.

But most of all dont take it to heart if they dont wanna know then let it be find some one else remember this is a friends with benefits site not a love matchmaking one.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please"

Most people read the profile before the message and if there are any red flags the message will be deleted unread.

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By *iguyandbbwCouple over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please

thank you for your honest opinion"

Your welcome

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Ah ha! You only thought you met their requirements. You obviously didn’t. Besides which, there’s loads of reasons why they deleted it and it might not have been you.

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

It takes more than ticking boxes for somebody to be attracted to somebody else. People are not computers.

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By *ewrocksWoman over a year ago

button moon

The requirements are a guideline, being the right location, height etc does not guarantee attraction.

No one owes you anything, they don't need to reply for you to know they're not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Deleted message = no fuckie simple as that.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Deleted message = no fuckie simple as that. "
or...

Deleted message = a sad lonely wank

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By *ewrocksWoman over a year ago

button moon

Plus if they do reply, then unless they block you then get passed their filters if they adjust them.

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By *ndrew CareyMan over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please"

You asked a question and you've got lots of comments. Some helpful, some rude but you have remained calm and polite.

The site is full of all kinds of people. Keep a level head and keep trying and you will eventually find the right people.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

you may think you meet someone's basic requirements but if they delete your message or say no, it means that you don't . They don't want a cock, they have tastes for personality and looks that someone may or may not meet - you didn't.

That je ne sais quoi about someone is what makes them right for another. If you are here and not immediately moving on to the next alternative, you are wasting potential time, as you could.miss out on the many things you could have been doing to meet others, including improving your techniques, visiting clubs or others in real life.

Each message requires dedicated effort. Always without any realistic expectations of reply, let alone a meet. Single men must accept this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please

You asked a question and you've got lots of comments. Some helpful, some rude but you have remained calm and polite.

The site is full of all kinds of people. Keep a level head and keep trying and you will eventually find the right people.

Thank you mate

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By *apiomanMan over a year ago

Shipley

"Because they're rude and CBA to write no thanks"

For women getting 100 messages a day that’s a lot of replies. Yes it is lovely to even get a ‘no thanks’ but not realistic. And it opens up that whole ‘why not’ dialogue.

No one on here is entitled to a reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because they're rude and CBA to write no thanks

For women getting 100 messages a day that’s a lot of replies. Yes it is lovely to even get a ‘no thanks’ but not realistic. And it opens up that whole ‘why not’ dialogue.

No one on here is entitled to a reply. "

Does that mean it's not rude ?

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

"Because they're rude and CBA to write no thanks"

Some people send 100 messages a day. Would 100 no thank you messages back every day make you happier?

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Because they're rude and CBA to write no thanks"

Yep, because writing "no thanks" 100 times a day never gets old.

Hope this helps your perspective;

Fab FAQs.

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?

What makes you think everyone deserves or is entitled to a reply ?"

It’s manners to reply even with a no thanks. Best to reply negative and then block so they can’t question why or cause grief.

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By *ewrocksWoman over a year ago

button moon

"So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?

What makes you think everyone deserves or is entitled to a reply ?

It’s manners to reply even with a no thanks. Best to reply negative and then block so they can’t question why or cause grief. "

It has got absolutely nothing to do with manners

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By *lderamDarkMan over a year ago

Bromsgrove

"So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?

What makes you think everyone deserves or is entitled to a reply ?

It’s manners to reply even with a no thanks. Best to reply negative and then block so they can’t question why or cause grief. "

why should 1 fee like they have to reply isnt it there own choice if they want to or not

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By *hubarbandcustard1000Couple over a year ago

Dudley

It's not possible for a single girl to answer all her messages on fab. Unless she wants to spend 4 hours an evening purely to respond to people that shes probably not intrested in. I mean it's nice to be nice but Fab is supposed to be fun. Not an admin job.

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Because they're rude and CBA to write no thanks

Yep, because writing "no thanks" 100 times a day never gets old.

Hope this helps your perspective;

Fab FAQs.

It's not rude not to reply.

Agree with stingly xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not possible for a single girl to answer all her messages on fab. Unless she wants to spend 4 hours an evening purely to respond to people that shes probably not intrested in. I mean it's nice to be nice but Fab is supposed to be fun. Not an admin job. "

That's right. I get paid at work to answer each email, fax or a letter. Nobody pays me to answer each message on fab

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By *lderamDarkMan over a year ago

Bromsgrove

It must be a hard life for a woman on fab lol

That's right. I get paid at work to answer each email, fax or a letter. Nobody pays me to answer each message on fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just because you take time out to write someone a message doesn't mean they have to reply.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?

Because they're rude boss"

No, because it stops abuse, why not or trying to get you to change your mind. Read site faq section. It clearly states no reply means no interest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You've all got you're reasons why you CBA to reply either way it's rude ignoring the message, I don't give a shit if you ignore mine or not you're all entitled to not reply that's your choice. Just don't get sensitive when in my opinion it's rude

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?

What makes you think everyone deserves or is entitled to a reply ?

It’s manners to reply even with a no thanks. Best to reply negative and then block so they can’t question why or cause grief. "

Wow there is a woman on fab who isn't rude it's a miracle lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So another question on delete or not delete

If you write a message to someone, it gets read and not deleted, why no reply?

What makes you think everyone deserves or is entitled to a reply ?

It’s manners to reply even with a no thanks. Best to reply negative and then block so they can’t question why or cause grief.

Wow there is a woman on fab who isn't rude it's a miracle lol "

Awww are your ickle feelings hurt?

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

Hmmm better deleted and no reply than someone telling you home truths about why they are not interested. Egos are far too easily dented on here so no point dinting them.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"You've all got you're reasons why you CBA to reply either way it's rude ignoring the message, I don't give a shit if you ignore mine or not you're all entitled to not reply that's your choice. Just don't get sensitive when in my opinion it's rude

I'll post this again because you may have missed it earlier.

Hope this helps your perspective;

Fab FAQs.

It's not rude not to reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll post this again because you may have missed it earlier.

Hope this helps your perspective;

Fab FAQs.

It's not rude not to reply.

What exactly is this ?

So you ignoring someone is not rude then ? Very strange outlook if that's the case

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

I'll post this again because you may have missed it earlier.

Hope this helps your perspective;

Fab FAQs.

It's not rude not to reply.

What exactly is this ?

So you ignoring someone is not rude then ? Very strange outlook if that's the case "

I can only assume with that attitude and outlook you reply to every piece of junk mail through your door, every unsolicited email, every telesales phone call.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am selling facias for home exteriors and yours qualifies OP.

Why haven't you responded to my well thought out leaflet that I put through your door?

Just because You are Selling, doesn't mean that She is Buying!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll post this again because you may have missed it earlier.

Hope this helps your perspective;

Fab FAQs.

It's not rude not to reply.

What exactly is this ?

So you ignoring someone is not rude then ? Very strange outlook if that's the case

I can only assume with that attitude and outlook you reply to every piece of junk mail through your door, every unsolicited email, every telesales phone call."

No I do not I don't even reply to messages on here if I can't be asked but I can admit I'm rude because I'm not deluded. Also you are on a social website with a messaging service aswell as filters it's alot different to junk mail and cold calls

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So woman excuses for why it isn't rude is because you're not actively asking someone to mail you ? Wow

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

I'll post this again because you may have missed it earlier.

Hope this helps your perspective;

Fab FAQs.

It's not rude not to reply.

What exactly is this ?

So you ignoring someone is not rude then ? Very strange outlook if that's the case "

It's from Fab FAQs. (Frequently Asked Questions)

It explains the answer to the question; "Why don't people answer my messages".

Simplistically, no reply = no thank you.

Within the world of Fab a "no reply" is not considered rude or ignorant.

I get that this is hard for some men to comprehend. Some men don't get any incoming mail at all.

They therefore have no understanding of just how many messages women get.

I have a bin next to my letterbox at home. Junk mail goes straight into it.

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

Rude is ignoring the following flashed up by site admin:-

STOP. THINK.

You've already sent XXX a message and not received a reply back.

If someone doesn't reply, it's not rude, it just means they're not interested. You're better off messaging people who you haven't contacted already. PS. Because some women and couples get hundreds of mails each day, we take a dim view of anyone harassing those who don't reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Talking about deluded profiles!

Just move on and pass your negative replies to the recycle bin.

I don't beg men to message me. So they shouldn't feel angry if I don't reply to them."

It's negative because in my opinion it's rude to ignore someone? Maybe you don't understand the meaning of negative ?

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By *orthEastJohnMan over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

I can sympathise with women having 100s of emails to delete There's a shame fab does not have a no thanks button, that deltes and auto says no thanks message but does not use up the message limits, may even be a benefit in that email having an optional blocking any further emails from the sender, ie if the sender keeps posting, that can be used to highlight the block who don't respect no is no, who knows maybe could be used to negatively score members who pester. Ie I like to chat to anyone on here, but I'm not gay, but same guys seem to think because I have not block there preferences I'm closest gay, I'm not. But by the same token I don't block because I'm not homophobic either

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm on fab to enjoy myself. And not to spend hours of messaging back to those who I'm not interested in.

Thankfully there are loads of people who get this.

And then there a few who don't as we can clearly see

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And all this bollocks about getting a 100 mails a day that's absolute bullshit, unless you never block the ones who've messaged you before who you ain't interested in that's got to be about 30 new men messaging you every hour its just your cop out of not being rude sorry

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm on fab to enjoy myself. And not to spend hours of messaging back to those who I'm not interested in.

Thankfully there are loads of people who get this.

And then there a few who don't as we can clearly see

Ok well your rude for ignoring them, stop getting so defensive about it

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm just fine being rude by the standards of people complaining on the forum. Ultimately, it results in me meeting nice people and fucking them. Increase in overall net happiness. I was never going to meet the whingers anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So woman excuses for why it isn't rude is because you're not actively asking someone to mail you ? Wow "

So are you saying that every couple who can get 100s of messages every day or single women who can get many 100s of messages every day (especially people in large population areas) should spend an hour plus every evening responding to every single one??

Also you expect them to do that every single day of the year?

So what if they went on holiday for a week and then come back to 1000+ messages should they then spend their entire evening replying to them all 1 by 1??

There is no reply to all function on fab so the only way is to do them is individually.

What about the fact that the majority of these messages simply say "Hi" "wanna fuck" etc etc. Or are ones who clearly haven't read your profile e.g no smokers only and they are a smoker?

When we do take time to reply do you realise that a minority but still a significant amount message back with why not? Or worse abuse?

What your saying is simply not logistically possible for certain users who receive large volumes of fab messages. That's why Fab Website rules clearly state a no reply is not rude!! and is to be taken as a polite no thanks for all the reasons I've mentioned above.

KJ x

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think the standard way of getting women to "behave" backfires here. Oh, you're rude! You're such a bitch! Why don't you be nicer?

Honey, to survive on Fab women have to be mean. Some of us even like it.

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By *orthEastJohnMan over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

I can sympathise with women having 100s of emails to delete.

There's a shame fab does not have a no thanks button, that deltes and auto says no thanks message but does not use up the message limits, may even be a benefit in that email having an optional blocking any further emails from the sender, ie if the sender keeps posting, that can be used to highlight the block who don't respect no is no, who knows maybe could be used to negatively score members who pester.

For example I like to chat to anyone on here, but I'm not gay, but same guys seem to think because I have not block there preferences I'm closest gay, I'm not. But by the same token I don't block because I'm not homophobic either

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the standard way of getting women to "behave" backfires here. Oh, you're rude! You're such a bitch! Why don't you be nicer?

Honey, to survive on Fab women have to be mean. Some of us even like it. "

Exactly be as rude as you want just don't get defensive and live in denial it's not a big deal of you're rude just own it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So woman excuses for why it isn't rude is because you're not actively asking someone to mail you ? Wow

Also you expect them to do that every single day of the year?

So what if they went on holiday for a week and then come back to 1000+ messages should they then spend their entire evening replying to them all 1 by 1??

There is no reply to all function on fab so the only way is to do them is individually.

What about the fact that the majority of these messages simply say "Hi" "wanna fuck" etc etc. Or are ones who clearly haven't read your profile e.g no smokers only and they are a smoker?

When we do take time to reply do you realise that a minority but still a significant amount message back with why not? Or worse abuse?

KJ x "

So you have on average a hundred mails a day from completely random people on here ? I'm sorry I don't believe you

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think the standard way of getting women to "behave" backfires here. Oh, you're rude! You're such a bitch! Why don't you be nicer?

Honey, to survive on Fab women have to be mean. Some of us even like it.

Exactly be as rude as you want just don't get defensive and live in denial it's not a big deal of you're rude just own it "

I'm rude by normal standards. Normal standards don't apply on Fab.

I'd you think I'm rude for Fab... Good for you, I don't care.

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

"I can sympathise with women having 100s of emails to delete.

Much to some mentally stunted opinions 100 messages in a day can easily be surpassed if you put new photos up. I know some top 2000 in a week or more and if you took a minute to reply to all thats 33 hrs and then the following 500 that ask why not you would loose the will to live.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let's see if this thread gets to 175.. funnily enough not by OP's replies

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I can sympathise with women having 100s of emails to delete.

Mmhm. My inbox has died down thank god, but 100 a day used to be my normal. I'm not answering that much mail.

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

"I think the standard way of getting women to "behave" backfires here. Oh, you're rude! You're such a bitch! Why don't you be nicer?

Honey, to survive on Fab women have to be mean. Some of us even like it.

Exactly be as rude as you want just don't get defensive and live in denial it's not a big deal of you're rude just own it

I'm rude by normal standards. Normal standards don't apply on Fab.

I'd you think I'm rude for Fab... Good for you, I don't care. "

Fabs rules here they say what goes people agree to those rules by signing up and the site specifically say its not rude. So its just best to ignore those who pontificate over their own sad agend.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think the standard way of getting women to "behave" backfires here. Oh, you're rude! You're such a bitch! Why don't you be nicer?

Honey, to survive on Fab women have to be mean. Some of us even like it.

Exactly be as rude as you want just don't get defensive and live in denial it's not a big deal of you're rude just own it

I'm rude by normal standards. Normal standards don't apply on Fab.

I'd you think I'm rude for Fab... Good for you, I don't care.

Fabs rules here they say what goes people agree to those rules by signing up and the site specifically say its not rude. So its just best to ignore those who pontificate over their own sad agend."

Oh definitely.

My point is more, the normal strategy to get women to do what you want is to tell them they're rude or mean.

The strategy doesn't work on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the standard way of getting women to "behave" backfires here. Oh, you're rude! You're such a bitch! Why don't you be nicer?

Honey, to survive on Fab women have to be mean. Some of us even like it.

Exactly be as rude as you want just don't get defensive and live in denial it's not a big deal of you're rude just own it

I'm rude by normal standards. Normal standards don't apply on Fab.

I'd you think I'm rude for Fab... Good for you, I don't care.

Fabs rules here they say what goes people agree to those rules by signing up and the site specifically say its not rude. So its just best to ignore those who pontificate over their own sad agend."

As long as fab says it isn't rude to ignore people it isn't thank god you've got their approval

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Let's see if this thread gets to 175.. funnily enough not by OP's replies

Thanks again also thanks for visiting my profile

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

"I think the standard way of getting women to "behave" backfires here. Oh, you're rude! You're such a bitch! Why don't you be nicer?

Honey, to survive on Fab women have to be mean. Some of us even like it.

Exactly be as rude as you want just don't get defensive and live in denial it's not a big deal of you're rude just own it

I'm rude by normal standards. Normal standards don't apply on Fab.

I'd you think I'm rude for Fab... Good for you, I don't care.

Fabs rules here they say what goes people agree to those rules by signing up and the site specifically say its not rude. So its just best to ignore those who pontificate over their own sad agend.

Oh definitely.

My point is more, the normal strategy to get women to do what you want is to tell them they're rude or mean.

The strategy doesn't work on Fab. "

It seems to be but then those shouting rude are also the ones who don't accept the word no. you often see this type being thrown out of clubs or worse arrested. At best they are bullies and best avoided. I know there are a few kik groups with screen shots of abuse from fab people and who to avoid. Its just aggregation and not what most want.

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

"Let's see if this thread gets to 175.. funnily enough not by OP's replies

There is always one ranter screaming stick in hand you will find.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"just need opinions....ive written a respectable message meeting a womans requirements on her profile, my message gets deleted.

i understand women get loads of messages from men but i dont understand, you meet their requirements, send a respective message yet my message gets deleted.

any respected opinions please"

I would take it as a not interested..You have to remember single females on here get a few hundred messages per day .Don't take it personal. Like someone said it saves with the why not? replies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So woman excuses for why it isn't rude is because you're not actively asking someone to mail you ? Wow

Also you expect them to do that every single day of the year?

So what if they went on holiday for a week and then come back to 1000+ messages should they then spend their entire evening replying to them all 1 by 1??

There is no reply to all function on fab so the only way is to do them is individually.

What about the fact that the majority of these messages simply say "Hi" "wanna fuck" etc etc. Or are ones who clearly haven't read your profile e.g no smokers only and they are a smoker?

When we do take time to reply do you realise that a minority but still a significant amount message back with why not? Or worse abuse?

KJ x

So you have on average a hundred mails a day from completely random people on here ? I'm sorry I don't believe you "

OH dear then you really don't understand the number ratios here on fab do you?

I'll break it down for you -

Mon to Thurs on average 50 messages a day. Sometimes a few more sometimes a few less but that's about average as a baseline.

On a Fri, Sat and Sun it goes up to about 75-100 a day.

If we add new photos you can add another 25 - 50 messages that day.

If we put up a status saying we are attending xxx club on xxx then at least another 25+ messages that day and every day in the lead up to the club night.

If we put out an update status specifically saying we are looking for a single male to meet tonight / tomorrow well an EXTRA 100+ messages that day.

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Let's see if this thread gets to 175.. funnily enough not by OP's replies

There is always one ranter screaming stick in hand you will find.

Yes. The one who seems to be wanting or needing to have the last word..

God bless

Same goes for when people block you ..Don't take it personal ..Fab is like a box of chocolates and we can't all like the same ones x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Let's see if this thread gets to 175.. funnily enough not by OP's replies

There is always one ranter screaming stick in hand you will find.

Yes. The one who seems to be wanting or needing to have the last word..

God bless

Same goes for when people block you ..Don't take it personal ..Fab is like a box of chocolates and we can't all like the same ones x

My block list is neverending.. I wonder why

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So woman excuses for why it isn't rude is because you're not actively asking someone to mail you ? Wow

Also you expect them to do that every single day of the year?

So what if they went on holiday for a week and then come back to 1000+ messages should they then spend their entire evening replying to them all 1 by 1??

There is no reply to all function on fab so the only way is to do them is individually.

What about the fact that the majority of these messages simply say "Hi" "wanna fuck" etc etc. Or are ones who clearly haven't read your profile e.g no smokers only and they are a smoker?

When we do take time to reply do you realise that a minority but still a significant amount message back with why not? Or worse abuse?

KJ x

So you have on average a hundred mails a day from completely random people on here ? I'm sorry I don't believe you

OH dear then you really don't understand the number ratios here on fab do you?

I'll break it down for you -

Mon to Thurs on average 50 messages a day. Sometimes a few more sometimes a few less but that's about average as a baseline.

On a Fri, Sat and Sun it goes up to about 75-100 a day.

If we add new photos you can add another 25 - 50 messages that day.

If we put up a status saying we are attending xxx club on xxx then at least another 25+ messages that day and every day in the lead up to the club night.

If we put out an update status specifically saying we are looking for a single male to meet tonight / tomorrow well an EXTRA 100+ messages that day.

KJ x

So all of those messages are completely new random men ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the standard way of getting women to "behave" backfires here. Oh, you're rude! You're such a bitch! Why don't you be nicer?

Honey, to survive on Fab women have to be mean. Some of us even like it.

Exactly be as rude as you want just don't get defensive and live in denial it's not a big deal of you're rude just own it

I'm rude by normal standards. Normal standards don't apply on Fab.

I'd you think I'm rude for Fab... Good for you, I don't care.

Fabs rules here they say what goes people agree to those rules by signing up and the site specifically say its not rude. So its just best to ignore those who pontificate over their own sad agend.

Oh definitely.

My point is more, the normal strategy to get women to do what you want is to tell them they're rude or mean.

The strategy doesn't work on Fab.

So because I think you're rude I can't take no for an answer, I'm a bully and I'm some sort of sexual deviant who could end up in prison hahaha all this because your in denial about being rude

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

"Let's see if this thread gets to 175.. funnily enough not by OP's replies

There is always one ranter screaming stick in hand you will find.

Yes. The one who seems to be wanting or needing to have the last word..

God bless

Same goes for when people block you ..Don't take it personal ..Fab is like a box of chocolates and we can't all like the same ones x

My block list is neverending.. I wonder why

so is mine strange that!

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

"So woman excuses for why it isn't rude is because you're not actively asking someone to mail you ? Wow

Also you expect them to do that every single day of the year?

So what if they went on holiday for a week and then come back to 1000+ messages should they then spend their entire evening replying to them all 1 by 1??

There is no reply to all function on fab so the only way is to do them is individually.

What about the fact that the majority of these messages simply say "Hi" "wanna fuck" etc etc. Or are ones who clearly haven't read your profile e.g no smokers only and they are a smoker?

When we do take time to reply do you realise that a minority but still a significant amount message back with why not? Or worse abuse?

KJ x

So you have on average a hundred mails a day from completely random people on here ? I'm sorry I don't believe you

OH dear then you really don't understand the number ratios here on fab do you?

I'll break it down for you -

Mon to Thurs on average 50 messages a day. Sometimes a few more sometimes a few less but that's about average as a baseline.

On a Fri, Sat and Sun it goes up to about 75-100 a day.

If we add new photos you can add another 25 - 50 messages that day.

If we put up a status saying we are attending xxx club on xxx then at least another 25+ messages that day and every day in the lead up to the club night.

If we put out an update status specifically saying we are looking for a single male to meet tonight / tomorrow well an EXTRA 100+ messages that day.

KJ x

But you have already told that can't be true!

Sorry but I know you are right I just had to smile at disbelievers.

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By *appytochatMan over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

Because it's the internet people cant do what they like.

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By *etite HandfulWoman over a year ago

Chester

"Because it's the internet people cant do what they like. "

According to some they can't

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So woman excuses for why it isn't rude is because you're not actively asking someone to mail you ? Wow

Also you expect them to do that every single day of the year?

So what if they went on holiday for a week and then come back to 1000+ messages should they then spend their entire evening replying to them all 1 by 1??

There is no reply to all function on fab so the only way is to do them is individually.

What about the fact that the majority of these messages simply say "Hi" "wanna fuck" etc etc. Or are ones who clearly haven't read your profile e.g no smokers only and they are a smoker?

When we do take time to reply do you realise that a minority but still a significant amount message back with why not? Or worse abuse?

KJ x

So you have on average a hundred mails a day from completely random people on here ? I'm sorry I don't believe you

OH dear then you really don't understand the number ratios here on fab do you?

I'll break it down for you -

Mon to Thurs on average 50 messages a day. Sometimes a few more sometimes a few less but that's about average as a baseline.

On a Fri, Sat and Sun it goes up to about 75-100 a day.

If we add new photos you can add another 25 - 50 messages that day.

If we put up a status saying we are attending xxx club on xxx then at least another 25+ messages that day and every day in the lead up to the club night.

If we put out an update status specifically saying we are looking for a single male to meet tonight / tomorrow well an EXTRA 100+ messages that day.

KJ x

So all of those messages are completely new random men ? "

Not all but most are yes.

I would say a rough break down is as followed

75% new single men

15% from single men / couples who we have spoken to before, or have messaged us before

5% from people we have met or consider friends

4.9% from new to us couples

0.1% from single women

Out of every 100 single male profiles that contact us maybe 5 will have multiple pictures, some decent content to their written profile, match our preferences and have sent us a message that was specifically to us (not copy and paste). To these messages we will always reply even if we are not interested.

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Let's see if this thread gets to 175.. funnily enough not by OP's replies

There is always one ranter screaming stick in hand you will find.

Yes. The one who seems to be wanting or needing to have the last word..

God bless

Same goes for when people block you ..Don't take it personal ..Fab is like a box of chocolates and we can't all like the same ones x

My block list is neverending.. I wonder why

so is mine strange that!

I would never guess

Off to work now, had enough of this haha would you make sure a positive comment will end this lovely thread, please?

A positive end to a thread rarely happens

That's true actually. Anyway enjoy forums

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By *wosmilersCouple over a year ago

Heathrowish

Simple answer....move on. Life is too short......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So woman excuses for why it isn't rude is because you're not actively asking someone to mail you ? Wow

Also you expect them to do that every single day of the year?

So what if they went on holiday for a week and then come back to 1000+ messages should they then spend their entire evening replying to them all 1 by 1??

There is no reply to all function on fab so the only way is to do them is individually.

What about the fact that the majority of these messages simply say "Hi" "wanna fuck" etc etc. Or are ones who clearly haven't read your profile e.g no smokers only and they are a smoker?

When we do take time to reply do you realise that a minority but still a significant amount message back with why not? Or worse abuse?

KJ x

So you have on average a hundred mails a day from completely random people on here ? I'm sorry I don't believe you

OH dear then you really don't understand the number ratios here on fab do you?

I'll break it down for you -

Mon to Thurs on average 50 messages a day. Sometimes a few more sometimes a few less but that's about average as a baseline.

On a Fri, Sat and Sun it goes up to about 75-100 a day.

If we add new photos you can add another 25 - 50 messages that day.

If we put up a status saying we are attending xxx club on xxx then at least another 25+ messages that day and every day in the lead up to the club night.

If we put out an update status specifically saying we are looking for a single male to meet tonight / tomorrow well an EXTRA 100+ messages that day.

KJ x

So all of those messages are completely new random men ?

Not all but most are yes.

I would say a rough break down is as followed

75% new single men

15% from single men / couples who we have spoken to before, or have messaged us before

5% from people we have met or consider friends

4.9% from new to us couples

0.1% from single women

KJ x

So most days around 30 then taking away the ones you reply too who "match your criteria" sorry but 30 no thanks take 5 minutes at most that's being generous, sorry I find that rude

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

"I think the standard way of getting women to "behave" backfires here. Oh, you're rude! You're such a bitch! Why don't you be nicer?

Honey, to survive on Fab women have to be mean. Some of us even like it.

Exactly be as rude as you want just don't get defensive and live in denial it's not a big deal of you're rude just own it

I'm rude by normal standards. Normal standards don't apply on Fab.

I'd you think I'm rude for Fab... Good for you, I don't care.

Fabs rules here they say what goes people agree to those rules by signing up and the site specifically say its not rude. So its just best to ignore those who pontificate over their own sad agend.

As long as fab says it isn't rude to ignore people it isn't thank god you've got their approval"

So could we please have an idea of time someone has to spend replying to messages from those they are not interested in so as not to be considered rude? Is there a differentiation between those who do not read profiles and those who do, and also between copiers-and-pasters and those who actually talk to a person? A reference to a contract we signed when we registered on the site would also be nice.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Another day, another person who tries to dictate how people use Fab.

Tomorrow there'll be more. And the response will be the same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

FAQ is your friend:

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Impossible to reply to all at times just far too many messages and not enough hours in the day.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FAQ is your friend:

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Well if admin acknowledge people can get 100s they should know so some relief in that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As I said you can make as many excuses as you want I will still class you as rude,

I get maybe one or two blokes messaging me to suck me off a day I block and delete them and that's me being rude. Look I admitted it and the world hasn't swallowed me up that's crazy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So woman excuses for why it isn't rude is because you're not actively asking someone to mail you ? Wow

Also you expect them to do that every single day of the year?

So what if they went on holiday for a week and then come back to 1000+ messages should they then spend their entire evening replying to them all 1 by 1??

There is no reply to all function on fab so the only way is to do them is individually.

What about the fact that the majority of these messages simply say "Hi" "wanna fuck" etc etc. Or are ones who clearly haven't read your profile e.g no smokers only and they are a smoker?

When we do take time to reply do you realise that a minority but still a significant amount message back with why not? Or worse abuse?

KJ x

So you have on average a hundred mails a day from completely random people on here ? I'm sorry I don't believe you

OH dear then you really don't understand the number ratios here on fab do you?

I'll break it down for you -

Mon to Thurs on average 50 messages a day. Sometimes a few more sometimes a few less but that's about average as a baseline.

On a Fri, Sat and Sun it goes up to about 75-100 a day.

If we add new photos you can add another 25 - 50 messages that day.

If we put up a status saying we are attending xxx club on xxx then at least another 25+ messages that day and every day in the lead up to the club night.

If we put out an update status specifically saying we are looking for a single male to meet tonight / tomorrow well an EXTRA 100+ messages that day.

KJ x

So all of those messages are completely new random men ?

Not all but most are yes.

I would say a rough break down is as followed

75% new single men

15% from single men / couples who we have spoken to before, or have messaged us before

5% from people we have met or consider friends

4.9% from new to us couples

0.1% from single women

KJ x

So most days around 30 then taking away the ones you reply too who "match your criteria" sorry but 30 no thanks take 5 minutes at most that's being generous, sorry I find that rude "

Where did you study Maths?

When is 75% of 100 30?

The daily average is hundred per day. I broke it down into detailed specifics as some days are way more than 100 e.g when planning meets, club events and some days are a bit less e.g weekdays when nothing is happening.

Point is out of say an average of 75 single male messages per day. Take away the 5 who put some effort in and will receive a response that leaves an average of 70 "hi" "let me fuck your wife" "what's up babe" left.

I'm sorry they put zero effort in why should we waste our time replying when we have zero interested.

The bit you have ignored all through this thread is the website rules say specifically a no reply is not rude it is to be taken as a polite no thank you due to the volume of message couples and single women recieve.

70 messages a day that don't warrant a reply soon builds up if you take a day or 2 off the site.

If we go away for a week it can take a few hours replying to friends and people we do want to chat to.

There's no way we are going to send individual replies to the 70x7 490 messages from profiles that put zero effort into their message in the first place that buit up that week sorry we have a life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FAQ is your friend:

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Well if admin acknowledge people can get 100s they should know so some relief in that.

Noooooo admin must be lying the know it all's are always correct.

My inbox doesn't lye

Ahh but it must do the know it alls are never wrong.

Well they are I know what I see on 25 mins today 35 messages in that time.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

On the rare day I get under 30 messages a day, I still don't respond to the inane crap that makes up the bulk of my mail.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So you have on average a hundred mails a day from completely random people on here ? I'm sorry I don't believe you "

Upon signing up to the site on my single account I recieved over 600 messages within the first 24 hours.

Just responding to that lot alone is enough to keep you busy, that's without the replies you get off the back of the replies you sent out.

If you hit hot pics page 1 with no filters on you open up another tirade. I got over a thousand messages a day for the 3 days I was on top spot on my singles account.

Please don't call people liars when you've not been in that position.

If you don't lock down your filters and have a vagina then it's perfectly "normal" to have a massive number of messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So woman excuses for why it isn't rude is because you're not actively asking someone to mail you ? Wow

Also you expect them to do that every single day of the year?

So what if they went on holiday for a week and then come back to 1000+ messages should they then spend their entire evening replying to them all 1 by 1??

There is no reply to all function on fab so the only way is to do them is individually.

What about the fact that the majority of these messages simply say "Hi" "wanna fuck" etc etc. Or are ones who clearly haven't read your profile e.g no smokers only and they are a smoker?

When we do take time to reply do you realise that a minority but still a significant amount message back with why not? Or worse abuse?

KJ x

So you have on average a hundred mails a day from completely random people on here ? I'm sorry I don't believe you

OH dear then you really don't understand the number ratios here on fab do you?

I'll break it down for you -

Mon to Thurs on average 50 messages a day. Sometimes a few more sometimes a few less but that's about average as a baseline.

On a Fri, Sat and Sun it goes up to about 75-100 a day.

If we add new photos you can add another 25 - 50 messages that day.

If we put up a status saying we are attending xxx club on xxx then at least another 25+ messages that day and every day in the lead up to the club night.

If we put out an update status specifically saying we are looking for a single male to meet tonight / tomorrow well an EXTRA 100+ messages that day.

KJ x

So all of those messages are completely new random men ? "

Trust me it's true .. I know a lot of single ladies on here and they show me their messages ..Some are disgusting ..Try to be polite and respectful with your messages and you won't go far wrong..Oh and ditch the cock pics

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