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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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ello peeps
im very new to all this need some advice. I know i haven't been on this site for along time at all but iv had hardly any attention. One, iv changed my profile. so thoughts?
And secondly i need more pics. What sort of pictures should i take to add to my profile.
Any advice or wisdom from the gurus of swinging is much welcomed
Thanks
KA |
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"ello peeps
im very new to all this need some advice. I know i haven't been on this site for along time at all but iv had hardly any attention. One, iv changed my profile. so thoughts?
And secondly i need more pics. What sort of pictures should i take to add to my profile.
Any advice or wisdom from the gurus of swinging is much welcomed
Thanks
KA"
Think the problem might be you are expecting attention, you might have to do some leg work and put up with a lot of rejection to find what you are looking for. If you plan to sit back and wait for the action to happen, you might be waiting a while, there are thousands of single guys on here.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think calling yourself killer abs as well even though they are killer abs creates a bit of a impression thats not going to sit well with everyone! that maybe you love yourself a little too much and thats not a character trait that everyone takes too
maybe something more fun or personal would be better, as they must be more to you than the abs, and people going to see them straight away on your photos so not like you have to have name which kinda gives impression your full of yourself. after all you might not be you could be a great guy
facepics would help alot too, if you cant show your face it gives a dishonest impression to some people.
just two ideas that i think could help you out to get that first meet! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Think the problem might be you are expecting attention, you might have to do some leg work and put up with a lot of rejection to find what you are looking for. If you plan to sit back and wait for the action to happen, you might be waiting a while, there are thousands of single guys on here. "
Iv got to sort of sell my self and yeah i do send messages. just don't get a reply back. There probably just not attracted to me. Tough times. Would taking more picture be a good idea? and is there anything i can add to my profile? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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wow i never taught about it like that. I dint know my user name would such an effect. I'm genuinely not full of my self, just thought id try and sell my self. If that makes sense.
The thing about the face pic is i do have one but its privet so i can message it to someone. the reason i don't have it public is because of the jobs i have.
and thanks for the quick reply's |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think your overselling yourself thought mate, your headline even says porn star body check me out!
take alook at alot of the women and couples on here alot arnt perfect, when someone comes accross like they think alot of themselves that way quite often it can put people off especially if they not that perfect themselves, where your photos would sell this point of yourself anyways. if you had face pics and come accross more down to earth and when sending messages try to make friends than ask people if they want to fuck, then i think you would have greater success.
make a rule of not asking anyone to meet the same day or talking about sex unless they do first. if they want to meet you the same day or want to talk about sex then most women or couples will, and that way they have to show you their interested rather than sit there knocking you back. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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hmmm I shall to see to that.
Swinging etiquette huh? And i do refrain from messaging for a meet on the same day. or even that week. When you do see some of the women on here my jaw drops. i literally feel iv got to over sell my self to get noticed if that makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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if you subscribe to premium member you can easily change your username, plus you can see who has been looking at your profile, so if you see the same women or couple looking at you then you can think maybe i'll message them and get in touch.
it says your after tv/ts that might put some off from meeting, and its upto you if you show a face pic, but even if it is for your job alot of people like to see it in public as means you not got anything to hide and one thing about getting a single woman into bed via the internet, well without trust it will never happen, some will take a pic in private but alot may just goto the next message who has their picture on show.
ive not got as nice as body as yourself, but think ive got a decent one to get by with alot of the site,
i just got nice pics that show me in a good light,
anything rudes set to friends only as if someone wants to see they know to add me or ask to send privatley,
i just describe myself and try to come accross how i am, i nice genuine friendly guy whos into being naughty
as you can see it works for me, as my profile sells me as a person not as just a body, and maybe thats another way you been going wrong, after all your photos probs sell that side of you without really mentioning it
and once you get a few meets your verifications should back thing up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You're very young which isn't for a lot of people here and as you can probably see from the numerous threads about it, Bi or bi curious can often be a deal breaker for some...
Your preferences aren't particularly discriminating-perhaps narrow it down a little so the people you message feel that you are actually looking for them, not just anything anywhere... |
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Well I agree with the comments that have been made so far we as a couple as soon as we see the username which comes across as either big headed or someone who just loves themselves not that we are saying you do but we immediately just ignore. We look for a guy who comes across as genuine not full of himself and seems to love looking in the mirror I am sure that is not you but if you want to attract the right sort of attention then firstly change your name and get rid of the porno body headline that you have it really does not sound good and immediately puts people off.
Just a couple of tips to get you on your way.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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tv/ts?
hmm i see what you mean. Its been a dry spell for me this month (well year). Well il sort out my headline and get a premium membership. hopefully things turn around.
and shucks 
btw your helps much appreciated mate
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hmmm I shall to see to that.
Swinging etiquette huh? And i do refrain from messaging for a meet on the same day. or even that week. When you do see some of the women on here my jaw drops. i literally feel iv got to over sell my self to get noticed if that makes sense. "
its not ediquate its just things i often do which i think puts me in a better light than alot of people on here and helps me stand out from the crowd and successfully get meets and make good friends in the process (which is what its all about!)
think about it. how often is it a woman or a couple on here get a message from a guy and within message 1-3 get either 1 (or all 3!) of the below
1) picture of cock
2) ask to meet
3) talk about sex/dirty talk
this is why alot of guys dont get anywhere or get a reply and it dies off quickly (because they think ah he might be different, then quickly you do something and they think ah he's just the same as the rest and then go quiet!).
sure it works once in a blue moon at the right place and right time (mixed with the right profile of course haha!)
but when your just like most of the other men on here, then your in compitition with most of the other men on here too!
if your different then it helps you stand out from the crowd, then your in compition with a much smaller group of men thats much more in demand.
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as for refain from messing for a meet the same day,
well if its a single woman and you want more meets id say yes refrain from it, most women want to make friends/get to know you first, if they want to meet you the same day most women will tell you so or at least make it obvious!
maybe they an exepcetion if they asking for same day on profile or meet request, but even then they may want to go with someone they know, women need to trust their meets as they are meeting them one on one and you could be anyone with any intention!
couples are much more relaxed for last minute things, due to people letting them down more and also sometimes they come on looking for a man for a short notice meet, but even still it dont hurt to come accross as more normal and wait a day or two before bringing it up.
what ever works best for you, but i think its alot easier to get sex if you dont bang on about it all the time and arent pushy! most women dont want instant meets but they do want hot meets with a connection, and you not going to get that by asking for a meet or being dead forward straight away!
in my expierence, if a woman |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You're very young which isn't for a lot of people here and as you can probably see from the numerous threads about it, Bi or bi curious can often be a deal breaker for some...
Your preferences aren't particularly discriminating-perhaps narrow it down a little so the people you message feel that you are actually looking for them, not just anything anywhere..."
i think the bi curious thing though it closes some doors but opens others if your genuine about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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but then i do think it depends who the bi curious person is, i think some people might be borderline yes and that takes them on a no, but some people maybe have more to offer and it gets overlooked! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i think calling yourself killer abs as well even though they are killer abs creates a bit of a impression thats not going to sit well with everyone! that maybe you love yourself a little too much and thats not a character trait that everyone takes too
maybe something more fun or personal would be better, as they must be more to you than the abs, and people going to see them straight away on your photos so not like you have to have name which kinda gives impression your full of yourself. after all you might not be you could be a great guy
facepics would help alot too, if you cant show your face it gives a dishonest impression to some people.
just two ideas that i think could help you out to get that first meet!"
Totally agree with these comments, plus you are VERY young!!! l've got shoes older than you and l know we aren't the only couple who would rather have fun with blokes a bit more mature. Also the Bi sexual bit will put a lot of couples off. I'm sure l've been fucked by bi sexuals but l won't knowingly fuck someone who puts it on his profile. It's a case of risk management for me. Good luck with your conquests x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Think the problem might be you are expecting attention, you might have to do some leg work and put up with a lot of rejection to find what you are looking for. If you plan to sit back and wait for the action to happen, you might be waiting a while, there are thousands of single guys on here.
Iv got to sort of sell my self and yeah i do send messages. just don't get a reply back. There probably just not attracted to me. Tough times. Would taking more picture be a good idea? and is there anything i can add to my profile?"
What kind of thing are you saying in messages? cause if it's corny stuff, the chances are you won't get a response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think your pics are great love the back pic too, if you are to take more may i suggest a bum pic 
In terms of your profile maybe you could expand a little on your experience, what you enjoy what you want/dont want.
Just be YOU, there will be people for you here, it just takes time for you to find them and likewise for them to find you. Good luck and in the mean time enjoy your time on fab and join in in the forums thats one way to get who you are across...
Sarah xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"if you subscribe to premium member you can easily change your username, plus you can see who has been looking at your profile, so if you see the same women or couple looking at you then you can think maybe i'll message them and get in touch.
it says your after tv/ts that might put some off from meeting, and its upto you if you show a face pic, but even if it is for your job alot of people like to see it in public as means you not got anything to hide and one thing about getting a single woman into bed via the internet, well without trust it will never happen, some will take a pic in private but alot may just goto the next message who has their picture on show.
ive not got as nice as body as yourself, but think ive got a decent one to get by with alot of the site,
i just got nice pics that show me in a good light,
anything rudes set to friends only as if someone wants to see they know to add me or ask to send privatley,
i just describe myself and try to come accross how i am, i nice genuine friendly guy whos into being naughty
as you can see it works for me, as my profile sells me as a person not as just a body, and maybe thats another way you been going wrong, after all your photos probs sell that side of you without really mentioning it
and once you get a few meets your verifications should back thing up "
Just read Robbie's profile and it's very nice, he describes himself and what he is looking for and what he is offering very clearly and he has pics which really help. And although l don't fuck bi guys, l appreciate his honesty because it gives us the option of deciding if he's for us or not. If you see one of these women out your league that you fancy a bit off, try sending a wink, if they wink back, that's the go ahead to message them. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Awesome pics. Great size. Look thick. Solid. Tight. Keep us all posted on your continued progress with any new progress pics or vid clips. Show us what you got man. Wanna see how freakin' huge, solid, thick and tight you can get. Thanks for the motivation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well i love your pics xx need a face as well .... and i know you would like open air sex and on a bus maybe others things too and little more about you as a person xx my thing is fit looking younger men and you do look lovely xx jo |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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SORRRY PEOPLE
i got carried away my neighbour accidently hit my windows with a footie ended up playing keepie uppies.
Yeah iv got to put alot more stuff down. I have never ever done anything with a guy before and iv put down bi because I would like to try it some day. But it dosent mean id go bareback.
BIG THANKS TO EVERYONE!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I guess your current profile is the updated one. It's not too bad, maybe a bit more detail about the bi-curious side as mentioned before.
The pics are great, bless the young ones. Sigh! 
I understand that you don't put up a face pic. I wouldn't do it either. Great you have one in private, so you're ready to send it when you're comfortable in doing so.
Ok, the name is a bit off putting as others mentioned. But then your abs are fantastic lol.
Main issue you may will have is your age, because the majority on here likes to meet older guys. So you have to work even harder!
All the best. I like your attitude so far. You express yourself well and have shown good manners on this thread. Not something you see that often. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Most important is to sell yourself think of your profile as a shop window. You only have one chance to make a first impression. This goes for when you message someone too. Pop some face pics into your private gallery. I like your username and some ladies do enjoy a yummy toyboy. You have a great attitude which is refreshing be sociable forums and chatrooms great way to meet people and have a bit of banter social nights are great too and bi nights at chams are great too. Be lucky and happy swinging. |
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