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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"First impression... remove the silly black things from your face and comb your hair."
Thank you for the advice, its a cosplay im wearing in the profile pick so i shall look at a different photo for the profile thank you again for the advice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You need some nice photos and your profile needs work try telling people what it is you want from the site as it's a bit vague. Also tell people what you bring to the table. Try a social at your local club. Always read profiles before messaging and be honest and a little originality in your first message always helps. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You need some nice photos and your profile needs work try telling people what it is you want from the site as it's a bit vague. Also tell people what you bring to the table. Try a social at your local club. Always read profiles before messaging and be honest and a little originality in your first message always helps."
Ah lovely thank you so much for the tips i shall have a look into all of that and get it updated asap, thanks again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you like older ladies,curvy ladies,slim ladies,bbws, get it on your profile. Do you like toys, blindfolds,mmf,ffm, do you like to be in control or being told what to do? People like specifics. Never use vulgar language to a lady. Cock pics private only unless they ask. Well maybe just one but that's it.hope it helps. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"One more thing be realistic with your interests maybe start small and tick them when you've tried them. You are only 23 for crying out loud."
Thank you for all the help i have started to update it and shall continue to do so thanks again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have a look at my profile and try to incorporate your interests into your life story. Dont just list them. What kind of personality do you have,are you funny,outgoing,explain why you want do certain things. Maybe you like older ladies because you had a crush on you friends. Mom,if so tell people.peoe want to know about you not a list of sexual preferences. I have only been here a short time and have had some success and I ain't that good looking. Write a message on paper to get it right before sending it. Being honest and respectf does help in my opinion. Good luck |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
Hull |
You don't accommodate but don't say why. That can put people off, so you need to say why you don't.
Get into socials or to clubs in your area. Involve yourself in the Forums.
It's all about being noticed. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"Hello everyone,
Just looking for some profile advice on what to improve on any comments will be appreciated.
Have a lovely day / night"
. Like you I am a single guy that can’t accommodate which can make it tricky as no matter how genuine your reason are some people just won’t believe you. I tend to do is attend socials and I am a member of a club which works for me and that would be my advice to you.Also I would adjust the age range that you are looking to meet unless you want to meet a 99 year old.The way you have formatted your profile into bullet points I think is good as I when I reformatted my profile into short sentences / bullet points and asked for advice on the formatting of my profile the advice I got was positive. |
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This is getting there. You’re clearly considering it and that will always shine through. Here’s my tuppence:
Set an age range from the women you’d like to meet. 18-99 smacks of desperation or laziness.
There’s no real need to mention all of your kinks, you could hone it down a touch, or just indicate that you are looking to explore. Specifics can always wait until you are chatting. Be careful of looking either too desperate (“I’ll do anything”) or too inexperienced. You already have your age against you, and not everyone will want to hold your hand through your voyage of discovery. Remember that most of the users of this site have years of experience.
There’s quite a lot of repetition and superfluous information. Distil it down to its essentials.
Other than that, it’s certainly above the norm for advice seekers. Spend some time on it. There’s a lot of single male competition, so it needs to be right, and that won’t happen with just a couple of revisions.
Good luck.
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"I wouldnt bother trying to improve your profile, women just dont seem to be interested nomatter what you do. "
Well thats tosh most of us read profiles and then avoid the lazy ones that people can't be arsed to fill one out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldnt bother trying to improve your profile, women just dont seem to be interested nomatter what you do. "
Erm i think you need to take a look at your non existent profile before dashing the lads hopes. At least he is
Making an effort. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is your user name supposed to say desert, like the Sahara, or dessert like chocolate pudding ?"
Yeaaa that was a spelling error i made the account at 3am and didnt notice  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can’t be the only one truly terrified by your profile pic  "
Thank you for that i see it could be quite horrifying, i have now changed it so a cake is covering my face instead of a mask xx |
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Your profile smacks of desperation if I am honest.... I just had a quick look and immediately saw several things wrong.
You say no face pic because of your job.... You're 23, what job exactly do you have that doesn't allow a public face pic? I presume you have face pics on Facebook and Instagram etc?? They are public social media accounts, so what's wrong with this casual sex site? When you can't show a face pic and can't accommodate also, it immediately looks like you're not single.
You have only 2 photos, neither of which show any naked flesh. Women will want to see and enjoy your body from photos so they can imagine what you'd be like in person.
Your profile is too long for someone without any experience/verifications.
Near the start of your bio, you state you'd like to be a servant to women/couples.... And then the next line down you put you'd also like to be a dom sometimes. 2 opposites close together make you look desperate for anyone/anything, and also being a servant to women/couples doesn't make you out to be the young stud you'd like to be.
Am sure I could find more if you wanted me to.
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"Waterplay is something i have always wanted to try along with squirting just being dominated is one of my messier fantasies
Using toys is something i have always done and quite often will end up making you cum before i even attempt to start myself, its the build up using them that turns me on that and using them during sex is a great way to increase the pleasure."
Again, you speak of being dominated...this doesn't make you very attractive to women seeking a confident lover!
You then speak of how you'll make a woman cum way before you get anywhere near to cumming.... Yet a few lines down you say "if you like semen then I cum quickly"....
You say you are in a relationship and she knows you are on here....yet you hide your face (job related, what job exactly?! As this is one of the biggest bullshit excuses people use when they hide their face).
My profile isn't the best, but I have been on this site for a decade now (hidden profile during some relationships) and I have met some nice women and couples and had lots of fun times and look forward to lots more. Take a look at my profile and the verifications written and then make yours better. |
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It's a good profile overall, as you cover a lot in it. There's a little bit of repetition, such as cos-play and accommodation boundaries - that's quick to rearrange.
Your photos would benefit from expansion and variety - so that others could form a better impression of how you look and if they could fancy you. Fuller physique would let people evaluate if they could imagine being with you and attraction levels. You've mentioned frequent driving routes but could potentially include likely geographic areas you'll meet others in.
You're really new here, so keep at improving it, so it better reflects you and your interests, experience - it's really tough for single men to become established, so make realistic expectations.
Good luck! |
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"I wouldnt bother trying to improve your profile, women just dont seem to be interested nomatter what you do. "
If a profile doesn't contain much, including having no photos, that's largely true. It's very hard for you single men, so whatever is done to become perceived as a better match than the others, wins more interest. Never any guarantees on fab but nothing invested is always going to gain next to nothing . |
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"Waterplay/anal/fisting/dp/squirting/dogging"....all these things you want to try, that's put you out there with several thousand other guys looking for the same things!
Same with "Older women/cougars I adore you...." some older women/cougars want a young boy toy they can meet and use at their whim, however that's the minority. Most older women/cougars, want an experienced confident lover who will treat them as an equal and enjoy meets out of the bedroom as well as in, not a sex toy to learn from and gain experience from.
Roleplay/cosplay....you mention it near top of your bio, and again half way down, same info in both paragraphs, get rid of one.
You work in a coffee shop, and are worried about your face being shown??! Having a profile on here with face pics might actually increase your chances of meeting women that have seen your face pic and then get their morning/lunchtime coffee at your shop. Why are you so worried about being recognised??
There are tens of thousands of single guy profiles on here.... You need to stand out and be different to the rest. Show your face, don't ramble on about your inexperience, show your body in pics, be confident. Don't make your profile a long boring read, don't come across (like you do at the moment) of being desperate for anyone to teach/show you the things you'd like to try.
And lastly, don't put that Sydney University or Facebook public traded bollocks... (you haven't yet, but lots of profiles have it and its the modern day equivalent of a chain letter... i.e. Complete rubbish!
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As someone previously mentioned, your username refers to a sandy area like Sahara/Gobi etc, but your name refers to a dessert and you have a cake as your face pic.... So either change your profile username (easily done from account settings) or change your cake and name. |
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By *ycallMan
over a year ago
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Your profile sounds a bit confused, basically you sound like you enjoy the idea of being submissive but keep throwing occasional dominant traits into the mix.
Also from reading your profile I would assume you to be bisexual or bi curious. Not sure if this is what you intended.
If I were you I would reduce the length of the text. You could just say you want to explore your submissive side with dominant women or couples and leave out some of the specific details.
Do think it is good that you come across as honest. Don’t change that it will go in your favour.
Basically I would say shorten and refine your text whilst keeping the important information and take a few more interesting pictures.
A little tip would also be to regularly change your profile and try different ideas to see what works.
One word of warning. There are a lot of fairly submissive guys on here looking for similar things. You will have to come across well to stand out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Instead of a massive list of wants why not just say willing to explore my sexuality or up to experience new things. No one wants to see a big list of wants. Cries of desperation. I'm sure it will improve but you need to think would a woman be intrigued by my profile. Check out some guys who are successful on here. Why are the successful? |
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