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Women are ruthless

By *rblue38 OP Man over a year ago

Maidstone

I feel sometimes I come on here rather off putting women love to put men down. Unless your gym fit or black they do not want to know. I am in training at the min so not totally gym fit. Perhaps it's a London thing. Luckily the parties I attend is a totally different experience. I know I sound like a broken record. Luckily I am well loved at the swinger parties which is something not all men can say is true ha. Sorry I am a bit of a Victor meldrew at times.

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By *rtraymondo76Man over a year ago

Cheltenham

Only ruthless in pursuit of what they are after,

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By *rblue38 OP Man over a year ago

Maidstone

Exactly some are way too picky and judgemental. I had many women say no thanks then in the club they are completely different. Crazy

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

People have preferences. A key one will be to have sex and spend time with people that they find attractive. You don't cut it for some people? Find those who are attracted to you and completely ignore anything else. It's wasted energy to consider anything other than how you personally can improve your results and satisfaction here and why you aren't doing it.

Exhibiting positivity, rather than the alternative, is likely to enhance you, rather than discourage others from you.

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By *tarbeckCouple over a year ago

york

"I feel sometimes I come on here rather off putting women love to put men down. Unless your gym fit or black they do not want to know. I am in training at the min so not totally gym fit. Perhaps it's a London thing. Luckily the parties I attend is a totally different experience. I know I sound like a broken record. Luckily I am well loved at the swinger parties which is something not all men can say is true ha. Sorry I am a bit of a Victor meldrew at times. "
Works both ways , some men are just as bad

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mr here

Yea cause pepole are not allowed to be picky with who they want to play with

End day your either someone's cup of tea or not.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

What's new? Go to the gym. By the way, the black guys I know all do. Stop complaining and change something in your life.

And no, not everyone wants to meet the same kind of people.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

"Exactly some are way too picky and judgemental. I had many women say no thanks then in the club they are completely different. Crazy "

How is being picky bad?

Then what would you like to see? Women meeting everyone who asks? With you at the front of the queue?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Difference between here and at a party is competition. At a party you maybe competing with 5 or 6 other men. Here it’s ten thousand. Men have to be something special to stand out. If they don’t stand out, move on. Loads more to pick from to find someone you find attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This has really pissed me off (fella here). They are too picky?

We all have a right to play with whoever we see fit. Sex is not an equal opportunities employer. Maybe you’re setting your goals too high. Everyone knows there are different levels within swinging, just find your level and stick with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Online and real life are two totally different things! On here it's all fakery and unreality whereas obviously out there you do absolutely great! I find on here quite funny instead of annoying ... so just don't worry about it! Laugh! You're doing great on fab and let's face it, a single guy having a ball regularly at parties? What is there to moan about? Leave them to their happy place ... who knows, you'll laugh if they collide!

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

If you look at the guys who are successful on here, they aren't all gym fit (although some are) or all black (although some are)....they just know how to play the game.

Positivity is always going to be sexy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's simple really. If you don't like it on here, then don't come on moaning. Just stick to your meets where your having successful meets. Everyone has the right to meet who they want.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Just stick to parties then there's no problem.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you look at the guys who are successful on here, they aren't all gym fit (although some are) or all black (although some are)....they just know how to play the game.

Positivity is always going to be sexy."
I have a battery here ready to hook you up

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Just stick to parties then there's no problem."

I read that as panties...

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Just stick to parties then there's no problem.

I read that as panties...

It could very well of been with my phone it loves changing my word's and making me look dafter than I actually am. See it changed dafter to degree

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"If you look at the guys who are successful on here, they aren't all gym fit (although some are) or all black (although some are)....they just know how to play the game.

Positivity is always going to be sexy.I have a battery here ready to hook you up

Do I have to lick it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you look at the guys who are successful on here, they aren't all gym fit (although some are) or all black (although some are)....they just know how to play the game.

Positivity is always going to be sexy.I have a battery here ready to hook you up

Do I have to lick it?

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yes but ive forgotten what the question was now

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

I'm neither gym fit or black. I'm also of a certain age and don't have a massive cock.

I do ok.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Another women hating thread because OP can’t handle the fact that the women he’s interested in aren’t reciprocating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is nothing more unattractive and off putting as a man moaning about how hard done to he feels.. As previous comments stated, if your not what they look for, I either do something about it or move on.. Jees it's meant to be fun, but a laugh, banter, and who cares not everyone will be attracted to you and I am bloody sure you find some women not to your taste and if you say otherwise then your just desperate..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Work harder in the gym then,instead of complaining of other men being fit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is nothing more unattractive and off putting as a man moaning about how hard done to he feels.. As previous comments stated, if your not what they look for, I either do something about it or move on.. Jees it's meant to be fun, but a laugh, banter, and who cares not everyone will be attracted to you and I am bloody sure you find some women not to your taste and if you say otherwise then your just desperate.. "
I'm desperate............. For a buttered bacon bap

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Exactly some are way too picky and judgemental. I had many women say no thanks then in the club they are completely different. Crazy "

You messaged me 2yrs ago.

I polity declined your offer.

You didn't tahe note of my prefences, and it would still be no thanks in a club.

Picky & judgemental?

Not at all.

I know what I like, and what I'm looking for.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

According to the forum's most don't want a gym fit body anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Exactly some are way too picky and judgemental. I had many women say no thanks then in the club they are completely different. Crazy

You messaged me 2yrs ago.

I polity declined your offer.

You didn't tahe note of my prefences, and it would still be no thanks in a club.

Picky & judgemental?

Not at all.

I know what I like, and what I'm looking for. "
omg what a memory lol I can't even remember usernames for a week

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Exactly some are way too picky and judgemental. I had many women say no thanks then in the club they are completely different. Crazy

You messaged me 2yrs ago.

I polity declined your offer.

You didn't tahe note of my prefences, and it would still be no thanks in a club.

Picky & judgemental?

Not at all.

I know what I like, and what I'm looking for. "

Down for 10, game over everybody

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Immediately put off by the mankini.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Exactly some are way too picky and judgemental. I had many women say no thanks then in the club they are completely different. Crazy

You messaged me 2yrs ago.

I polity declined your offer.

You didn't tahe note of my prefences, and it would still be no thanks in a club.

Picky & judgemental?

Not at all.

I know what I like, and what I'm looking for. omg what a memory lol I can't even remember usernames for a week

A very good memory.. And private notes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Exactly some are way too picky and judgemental. I had many women say no thanks then in the club they are completely different. Crazy

You messaged me 2yrs ago.

I polity declined your offer.

You didn't tahe note of my prefences, and it would still be no thanks in a club.

Picky & judgemental?

Not at all.

I know what I like, and what I'm looking for. omg what a memory lol I can't even remember usernames for a week

A very good memory.. And private notes

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omg you're a platinum member

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Immediately put off by the mankini. "

Yeah I'm not sure that's a good opening pic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Complaining about women putting men down, aren't you putting women down in this thread???!

You only have a brief message and a photo or two to go by on here, a club is totally different as you are there in the flesh with them and socialising. If you have no problems in clubs then stick to them. This is only a bit of light hearted fun never to be taken seriously as far as I'm concerned.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Immediately put off by the mankini. "
yes I don't like mankinis but then I'm not a fan of blank avatars either

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By *ablo minibar123Woman over a year ago

Plenty of average bodied white guys over 50 with decent verifications on here. People can blame their colour and body shape for not getting meets if it makes it easier for them but it is obvouisly not true in alot of cases

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

‘Way too picky’ has really wound me up. Like they have no right to be.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Plenty of average bodied white guys over 50 with decent verifications on here. People can blame their colour and body shape for not getting meets if it makes it easier for them but it is obvouisly not true in alot of cases"

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

Most of my meets are with guys with average or dad bods, gym fit isnt a must for me and likewise I've never met a bbc. Thats MY preference.

Dont like it? Move on.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple over a year ago

Chester

What's ruthless in having to find someone attractive

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Immediately put off by the mankini. yes I don't like mankinis but then I'm not a fan of blank avatars either

Yeah but she's a woman different kettle of fish

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well respected very well known and highly thought after

well someone sounds like he puts himself on a pedestal

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple over a year ago

Broadstairs

Single men need a sense of humour on this site don’t take it seriously

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"According to the forum's most don't want a gym fit body anyway."

Perfectly true! A few of my meets have had hot bods but I actually prefer the rugby player type dad bod... N there is plenty of guys I don't reply to on here who I would happily play with in a club purely because it's so hard to narrow down the amount of msgs I get so go for the ones that tick the most of my boxes at the time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He messaged me a while back too, I don’t recognise usernames but I recognise pics - not even a single guy! If I remember correctly he’s got a mrs! Who he tried to get me to have a threesome with!

I would echo sentiments of entitlement etc, no one owes you anything OP, in the same way no one owes me anything either.

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By *heEvilWithinWoman over a year ago

Barnsley

Why are you all attacking the OP when he's just being honest? I agree with you. Women are picky because they can be. The ratio of women to men is about 10/1 so unfortunately women can be arseholes. I've had issues finding genuine couples so don't worry it's not just you. Men however is pretty easy

I don't think you guys should be having a go at him he didn't say anything bad. Just try and make an effort more. I know that sounds cliché but if I get a generic cut and paste message I don't reply. If I get hi, I don't reply. But if someone sends me a message that's well thought out and genuine then I'll reply just out of courtesy. I'd suggest going to clubs though, best way to meet people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the key thing with guys is a lot of the time they forget their limits. Bedford town very rarely play a team like Chelsea. It’s knowing what league you are in.

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

Flagrante

"Exactly some are way too picky and judgemental. I had many women say no thanks then in the club they are completely different. Crazy "

That's because a club is in the real world....the internet is a very different place.

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By *rblue38 OP Man over a year ago

Maidstone

Guys and girls please do not tell me to go to the gym. I have severe asthma I find it hard to exercise. I was only a mild state. I do apologies if people have take offence. I am not picky at all. It's just from what I have seen. I will eave it there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good idea, you're doing yourself no favours by continuing to type.

First, we're too picky (damn right I am).

Followed up with "I'm not picky at all". That'll really woo the ladies.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Why are you all attacking the OP when he's just being honest? "

I wouldn't say attacking.

From my point.

I read a thread, that was moaning how women are ruthless, picky & judgemental.

Pointing out that some of us have set preferences, and by messaging someone who's choices you don't meet, is an obvious waste of time.

Therfore I've been labelled one of those ruthless picky judgemental women, because I declined an offer.

I'd say the same to anyone, regardless of gender, status.

We all know the majority of people don't read profiles, they spot the pretty pics, get the horn & all rational thought goes out of the window.

Then they get aggy, wail & moan about us women, being rude, up our own arses, ignoring, deleting messages

When in reality the fault lies with them in the first place

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Most of my meets are with guys with average or dad bods, gym fit isnt a must for me and likewise I've never met a bbc. Thats MY preference.

Dont like it? Move on."

That's not attacking. That's saying my preference and if it's not liked then that's fine, move on to the next woman.

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By *rblue38 OP Man over a year ago

Maidstone

I am not saying any more clearly the word picky was the wrong word to use and I apologies for that. But I am what I am and I enjoy the club scene. Have a great day all

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Everybody has preference and if gym fit or black is what they are after then good luck to them.

What annoys me is the constant single guy bashing that happens on the forum. It's almost as if no single female or couple has ever sent a crude message, not read a profile before messaging or the heinous crime of sending a one word "hi" message.

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By *itsAndTaffCouple over a year ago

Grays, Essex

How can anyone be ‘way to picky’

Just because I’m on this site it doesn’t mean my legs are open to every guy that sends us a message

Everyone has a right to say no Male or Female

This post makes you sound entitled so my guess is the reason you do well at parties is your probably a nice bloke who comes across better in real life than you do in messages

MrsB

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Immediately put off by the mankini. yes I don't like mankinis but then I'm not a fan of blank avatars either

Yeah but she's a woman different kettle of fish

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yes women rule unless of course you're food and beverage

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Eye rolling OP

I’m a fussy fabber and don’t give a flying Fook what anyone thinks. Not going to fuck someone if I don’t find them hot... that’d be weird, think I’d rather swallow my own vomit

Picky... that’s choice!

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By *olden RatioWoman over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Am I “way too picky” because I don’t pityfuck people?

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple over a year ago

Chester

"Am I “way too picky” because I don’t pityfuck people?"

Gonna steal this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And that they are the superior gender... We mere males have no chance but we can play it 'our way' should the opportunity arise..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one's entitled to anything. You don't have a 'right' to meet anyone. If you don't tickle anyone's fancy then that's too bad. It's like this everywhere online. The men to women ratio means they can be picky.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you’re getting meets I don’t see the issue?

Women choosing who they want to have sex with is not ruthless, it’s reasonable.

Just stay in your well respected well loved group of parties and fun and don’t put others down or act bitter.

as a woman it’s personality first for me, then looks, and someone who thinks they’re better but being overlooked doesn’t ever appeal to me. Mrs Cagey.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everybody has preference and if gym fit or black is what they are after then good luck to them.

People bash single women, couples and everyone else in the forums too. This guy has made a very negative and entitled post so opened himself up to a bit of a bash

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By *dores blackmenWoman over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

This is where a guy with lots of verifications,think they will have woman falling over themselves to meet you on here

It's proof it's not always the case

At parties you show your personality and are successful,so stick with it,maybe who you meet there would lead to private meets

Use here to keep in touch with people,finding out what parties are on and to use forums in a more positive light

Just don't mention how picky woman are again,as it dosent go down well

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Everybody has preference and if gym fit or black is what they are after then good luck to them.

People bash single women, couples and everyone else in the forums too. This guy has made a very negative and entitled post so opened himself up to a bit of a bash

Rarely do you see single women or couples bashing in the forum, just guys with a sense of entitlement who wonder why they can't get a meet such as this one.

If you look at the forum list you will see three or four posts every day from single women and couple giving single guys their so called "advice".

This annoys me as 90% of the users of fab are not readers of the forum and moaning on about guys not reading their profile, sending them uninteresting emails etc is pointless.

Why b

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"Why are you all attacking the OP when he's just being honest? I agree with you. Women are picky because they can be. The ratio of women to men is about 10/1 so unfortunately women can be arseholes. I've had issues finding genuine couples so don't worry it's not just you. Men however is pretty easy

Spot on - everyone has a right to their own preferences but they also attack anyone who dares to contact them as well. Some terrible comments in this thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me the ‘...way too picky..’ comment got my back up. I’m not sure how a choice can be too picky; should I be working on being ‘less picky’ as it may enhance my experience!?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Exactly some are way too picky and judgemental. I had many women say no thanks then in the club they are completely different. Crazy "

There’s no such thing as “way too picky”.

Our bodies, our choice on who we decide to meet.

The same goes for anyone on here.

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By *lex D.Man over a year ago

London

This is a post I don't ordinarily comment on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Spot on - everyone has a right to their own preferences but they also attack anyone who dares to contact them as well. Some terrible comments in this thread "

If you are “attacked” block and report.

I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve been “attacked” when politely rejecting someone. No big deal, quick block solves the issue.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

"This is where a guy with lots of verifications,think they will have woman falling over themselves to meet you on here

It's proof it's not always the case

At parties you show your personality and are successful,so stick with it,maybe who you meet there would lead to private meets

Use here to keep in touch with people,finding out what parties are on and to use forums in a more positive light

Just don't mention how picky woman are again,as it dosent go down well

Well, I have never thought being picky is bad. There is no winning with guys.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

"I am not saying any more clearly the word picky was the wrong word to use and I apologies for that. But I am what I am and I enjoy the club scene. Have a great day all "

The problem with posts such as yours is that they say what they do not like or want but can never put into words what they do want. You do not like picky women, so would you like them to not be picky, or whatever synonym you may wish to use? What form would you like it to take? Women agreeing to meet everyone who asks, first come first serve? Women forming an orderly queue outside your door?

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

"Guys and girls please do not tell me to go to the gym. I have severe asthma I find it hard to exercise. I was only a mild state. I do apologies if people have take offence. I am not picky at all. It's just from what I have seen. I will eave it there"

Some people will like the shape you are in. Others won't. Especially if it is not something you can change, just like your skin colour, stop fretting over it and keep going to events and being nice to people. As one of those horrible women who have a strong preference for black men, although if they are very fit it is only an added bonus as I mainly go for brains and a certain look (a few of them), I can tell you there are a lot of profile asking for white men only or no black men or anything else. We are all different and have different tastes.

Good luck, and hope your health improves.

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By *asualandFeistyCouple over a year ago

Uxbridge

It make sense that people are more picky here than in the flesh.

Things will logically be more superficial when you can't factor in a personality, a conversation, the way someone moves, the look in their eye, the body language.

All things that can turn a 5/10 into an incredibly sexy and alluring individual.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm not putting anyone down by saying no. I'm just not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry op completely disagree !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What's new? Go to the gym. By the way, the black guys I know all do. Stop complaining and change something in your life.

And no, not everyone wants to meet the same kind of people."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Rarely do you see single women or couples bashing in the forum, just guys with a sense of entitlement who wonder why they can't get a meet such as this one.

If you look at the forum list you will see three or four posts every day from single women and couple giving single guys their so called "advice".

This annoys me as 90% of the users of fab are not readers of the forum and moaning on about guys not reading their profile, sending them uninteresting emails etc is pointless.

Why b"

But I’m just saying they all moan. Men moan about single women, couples fakes and time wasters, women and couples moan about lack of genuine people and time wasters and single men.

Moaning about people moaning doesn’t help. They’re not going to stop. Moaning is a British institution. There will always be more complaints about single men because there are a lot more single men to make the few bad eggs seem like there’s a lot more of them.

Single men even bash single men regularly on here.

And why is because they want to and many do read posts and some even reach out for advice and ideas and help. People can moan if they want, just like you can moan about them moaning. You won’t stop the repetitive posts on a forum like this same as those posts won’t ever stop.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The difference is in a club or at a party you can have a conversation and read body language I love people watching. Plus a girl can change their minds x

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

I'm going to keep being picky, I'm not interested in soothing bruised egos, I'm here for myself, to get what I want.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'm going to keep being picky, I'm not interested in soothing bruised egos, I'm here for myself, to get what I want. "

Tbh I treat people with far more dignity than I've been treated.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you considered playing the violin?

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

I don’t care what the ratio of men to women on here is.

If I don’t think someone is attractive I’d not meet them even if they were the last man standing.

And by attractive I don’t mean gym fit or any particular skin pigment.

It’s more about not moaning on the forums or wearing mankinis

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People have preferences. A key one will be to have sex and spend time with people that they find attractive. You don't cut it for some people? Find those who are attracted to you and completely ignore anything else. It's wasted energy to consider anything other than how you personally can improve your results and satisfaction here and why you aren't doing it.

Exhibiting positivity, rather than the alternative, is likely to enhance you, rather than discourage others from you. "

Totally agree with this. As a tranny I'm rejected both because I'm a tranny and because I'm not someone else's type even if they like trannies (for example they might like trannies who are blonde, younger, have big fake tits, are leggier, better looking, whatever.)

Don't take it to heart. Just move on. Some girls like muscle men. Others like dad bods. And I'm pretty sure most of the obsession with black men (or any racial feature) is down to low level racism, stereotyping and fetishisation of race anyway so I would outright ignore people like that.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I'm neither gym fit or black. I'm also of a certain age and don't have a massive cock.

I do ok. "

Yes but you’re lovely, positive and wouldn’t be seen dead in a mankini

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm neither gym fit or black. I'm also of a certain age and don't have a massive cock.

I do ok.

Yes but you’re lovely, positive and wouldn’t be seen dead in a mankini

And what is wrong with a mankini missy?? What is right with one I hear you saying!

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman over a year ago

Pontypridd

"Exactly some are way too picky and judgemental. I had many women say no thanks then in the club they are completely different. Crazy "

Are we not allowed to be picky? I get rejected by guys. They don’t fancy me because I’m not their type. That’s not being picky, that’s having a type or standard that I don’t fall into. No one likes it, but it’s part of being here. As for being judgemental- aren’t you being judgemental saying we’re too picky? Aren’t you at all picky? Will you fuck anyone? I’m sure you don’t, I’m sure you have your own standards. You’re obviously a great swinger, I’ve seen the veris, so maybe you need to review your sales pitch? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm going to keep being picky, I'm not interested in soothing bruised egos, I'm here for myself, to get what I want.

Tbh I treat people with far more dignity than I've been treated. "

this, always.

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

We like what we like and women,men and couples are entitled to ask for what they want.

I won't fancy lots of people and they me,but there is something for all on fab.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

my two now ex husband's put me down at every chance they got. Why do u think am single? I dont want to have same done to me again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Am I “way too picky” because I don’t pityfuck people?"

No one should feel obligated to do pity or munter fucks..attraction for all is key.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Exactly some are way too picky and judgemental. I had many women say no thanks then in the club they are completely different. Crazy "

Picky and judgemental? Why shouldnt anyone be picky? So cause we are on here we have to lower our standards?

MsC

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great thread header, OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Certain people are ruthless,doesn't matter what gender they are.We are all entitled,as consenting adults,to choose what we do,and who we do it with!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Certain people are ruthless,doesn't matter what gender they are.We are all entitled,as consenting adults,to choose what we do,and who we do it with!"
oh no you're not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Certain people are ruthless,doesn't matter what gender they are.We are all entitled,as consenting adults,to choose what we do,and who we do it with!oh no you're not

Haha,I most definitely am!

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Certain people are ruthless,doesn't matter what gender they are.We are all entitled,as consenting adults,to choose what we do,and who we do it with!"

How dare you believe you have a choice about who you have sex with! Didn't you know that women should just lie back and allow everyone to fuck us?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Didn't read the rest of the thread, maybe I should have, because might sound like an idiot now, but gym fit is far from what I'm looking for, but not easy to find in my local area

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Certain people are ruthless,doesn't matter what gender they are.We are all entitled,as consenting adults,to choose what we do,and who we do it with!

How dare you believe you have a choice about who you have sex with! Didn't you know that women should just lie back and allow everyone to fuck us? "

Haha!! Sorry,I forgot,silly me...(bows out with legs open)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just spoke to a guy who believes that he's entitled to shag anyone he asks just because this is a sex site. He got quite nasty and insulting when I put him right! Some people, men and women, need to be realistic and accept that the only way they're going to get guaranteed sex is if they pay for it!

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Certain people are ruthless,doesn't matter what gender they are.We are all entitled,as consenting adults,to choose what we do,and who we do it with!

How dare you believe you have a choice about who you have sex with! Didn't you know that women should just lie back and allow everyone to fuck us?

Haha!! Sorry,I forgot,silly me...(bows out with legs open)"

That's better, know your place woman!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im a new member here and i lust say women are very respectful and if they dont reply i bet it says on her profile..most people dont read profile and after come to complain..and if women likes gym guys or bbc thats a choise thank God for that..just replax yourself and someone will come along for you..patience is a virtude and politness a thing women appreciate here..

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By *ollycouple71Couple over a year ago

manchester

"I'm not putting anyone down by saying no. I'm just not interested. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Certain people are ruthless,doesn't matter what gender they are.We are all entitled,as consenting adults,to choose what we do,and who we do it with!

How dare you believe you have a choice about who you have sex with! Didn't you know that women should just lie back and allow everyone to fuck us?

Haha!! Sorry,I forgot,silly me...(bows out with legs open)

That's better, know your place woman! "

Haha,I just can't do it,might have tiny feet,but my place is definitely not at the kitchen sink!

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Certain people are ruthless,doesn't matter what gender they are.We are all entitled,as consenting adults,to choose what we do,and who we do it with!

How dare you believe you have a choice about who you have sex with! Didn't you know that women should just lie back and allow everyone to fuck us?

Haha!! Sorry,I forgot,silly me...(bows out with legs open)

That's better, know your place woman!

Haha,I just can't do it,might have tiny feet,but my place is definitely not at the kitchen sink!"

I bet you could make nice sandwiches!

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"This has really pissed me off (fella here). They are too picky?

Yes all of this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Certain people are ruthless,doesn't matter what gender they are.We are all entitled,as consenting adults,to choose what we do,and who we do it with!

How dare you believe you have a choice about who you have sex with! Didn't you know that women should just lie back and allow everyone to fuck us?

Haha!! Sorry,I forgot,silly me...(bows out with legs open)

That's better, know your place woman!

Haha,I just can't do it,might have tiny feet,but my place is definitely not at the kitchen sink!

I bet you could make nice sandwiches! "

Like,BLT is my speciality,got to love a good sandwich,club is my favourite ????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh I have messages like why am I online if I don't want to meet right now as they are horny and I'm not.. Why am I on fab if I am not willing to have sex with men who want to meet me.. I must be a lesbian if I don't find them attractive.. They tick my boxes so why am I not taking my knickers off already waiting by the front door? Or I am a racist..

Take your pick. I do.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Certain people are ruthless,doesn't matter what gender they are.We are all entitled,as consenting adults,to choose what we do,and who we do it with!

How dare you believe you have a choice about who you have sex with! Didn't you know that women should just lie back and allow everyone to fuck us?

Haha!! Sorry,I forgot,silly me...(bows out with legs open)

That's better, know your place woman!

Haha,I just can't do it,might have tiny feet,but my place is definitely not at the kitchen sink!

I bet you could make nice sandwiches!

Like,BLT is my speciality,got to love a good sandwich,club is my favourite ????"

BLT is good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Certain people are ruthless,doesn't matter what gender they are.We are all entitled,as consenting adults,to choose what we do,and who we do it with!

How dare you believe you have a choice about who you have sex with! Didn't you know that women should just lie back and allow everyone to fuck us?

Haha!! Sorry,I forgot,silly me...(bows out with legs open)

That's better, know your place woman!

Haha,I just can't do it,might have tiny feet,but my place is definitely not at the kitchen sink!

I bet you could make nice sandwiches!

Like,BLT is my speciality,got to love a good sandwich,club is my favourite ????

BLT is good

See how spoilt the right man might be,breakfast of Kings!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Certain people are ruthless,doesn't matter what gender they are.We are all entitled,as consenting adults,to choose what we do,and who we do it with!oh no you're not

Haha,I most definitely am!"
can you ere me mooother

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Certain people are ruthless,doesn't matter what gender they are.We are all entitled,as consenting adults,to choose what we do,and who we do it with!

How dare you believe you have a choice about who you have sex with! Didn't you know that women should just lie back and allow everyone to fuck us?

Haha!! Sorry,I forgot,silly me...(bows out with legs open)

That's better, know your place woman!

Haha,I just can't do it,might have tiny feet,but my place is definitely not at the kitchen sink!

I bet you could make nice sandwiches!

Like,BLT is my speciality,got to love a good sandwich,club is my favourite ????

BLT is good

See how spoilt the right man might be,breakfast of Kings!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Certain people are ruthless,doesn't matter what gender they are.We are all entitled,as consenting adults,to choose what we do,and who we do it with!

How dare you believe you have a choice about who you have sex with! Didn't you know that women should just lie back and allow everyone to fuck us?

Haha!! Sorry,I forgot,silly me...(bows out with legs open)

That's better, know your place woman!

Haha,I just can't do it,might have tiny feet,but my place is definitely not at the kitchen sink!

I bet you could make nice sandwiches!

Like,BLT is my speciality,got to love a good sandwich,club is my favourite ????

BLT is good

See how spoilt the right man might be,breakfast of Kings!

"
Like,I can make them for anyone,nobody seems keen to try...

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By *rblue38 OP Man over a year ago

Maidstone

I feel a bit hurtful now. I used the wrong word bad now I am been judged. Sorry if I offend. It was purely down to experience and now it's like let's have a dig at Dan day.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I feel a bit hurtful now. I used the wrong word bad now I am been judged. Sorry if I offend. It was purely down to experience and now it's like let's have a dig at Dan day. "

No offence but the 'poor me' attitude isn't great, YOU said what you said, at least own it and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

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By *uHorny1Man over a year ago

Cannock

Women aren't ruthless.

Success on Fab comes down to whether or not someone likes you.

I'm an overweight, 52 year old white guy and I have done very well on here. So it must be down to how I present myself and converse with women. Just stop whinging

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By *hiteroseredroseWoman over a year ago

Huddersfield

...so women should fuck whoever asks just because they asked!?! Wow

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By *rblue38 OP Man over a year ago

Maidstone

"...so women should fuck whoever asks just because they asked!?! Wow"

I never said that.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"...so women should fuck whoever asks just because they asked!?! Wow

I never said that. "

It was implied.

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By *hiteroseredroseWoman over a year ago

Huddersfield

"...so women should fuck whoever asks just because they asked!?! Wow

I never said that.

It was implied. "

Thank you...it definitely was implied

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By *rblue38 OP Man over a year ago

Maidstone

Well I never actually said that and it never even came into my mind that this was the case. I apologied for my wording. I was just expressing like alot of men I can send 100 messages out to geniune people but get told your not for me. Which is why I said I sound like a broken record. Everyone has there attraction and admit I am not an attractive bloke. Either way I obviously cause offence to my wording so thats all I can say is apologising for it

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

Spot on - everyone has a right to their own preferences but they also attack anyone who dares to contact them as well. Some terrible comments in this thread

If you are “attacked” block and report.

I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve been “attacked” when politely rejecting someone. No big deal, quick block solves the issue. "

I do block, thanks

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"Well I never actually said that and it never even came into my mind that this was the case. I apologied for my wording. I was just expressing like alot of men I can send 100 messages out to geniune people but get told your not for me. Which is why I said I sound like a broken record. Everyone has there attraction and admit I am not an attractive bloke. Either way I obviously cause offence to my wording so thats all I can say is apologising for it "

Don’t apologise for your feelings mate

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By *ettyboop61Woman over a year ago

St Neots

What it boils down to is that your(women) at t allowed to say no! I've had loads this week told me to FO when I've said no thanks I like to shag who I fancy so yes I am picky! And I have a right to be and so has any man on here too.....

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"What it boils down to is that your(women) at t allowed to say no! I've had loads this week told me to FO when I've said no thanks I like to shag who I fancy so yes I am picky! And I have a right to be and so has any man on here too....."

Superbly put - Gladstonian in its own way

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By *BWL80Woman over a year ago

Maidstone

Hi Guys,

I know MeBlue very well and I have to say one of the nicest guys you could ever meet. He does get judged because he doesn’t look a certain way to what SOME women want and I’ve seen the messages from women where all he has does it try to compliment them and there reply was not so nice and said nasty things about his appearance. People shouldn’t be quick to judge someone on there looks and literally get to know them. Yes I know we are on here for one thing but having a social, getting to know someone is s big thing for me. I just wanted to hop on here and back him up because he is a great guy. Give him a chance, thanks

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Hi Guys,

Nobody said anything about how he looks in this thread, we pulled him up about his comment about women being too picky. We are allowed to choose who we fuck, he could be the nicest man on the planet but that doesn't mean anything without attraction. I'm not here looking to fuck a personality.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"Hi Guys,

Good for you posting this - nice one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Exactly some are way too picky and judgemental. I had many women say no thanks then in the club they are completely different. Crazy "

Well said.

I'll fuck anything with a pulse.

Mrs

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"Hi Guys,

Well, at least one person had a go at him for wearing a mankini

I’m sure you have a lovely personality

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Exactly some are way too picky and judgemental. I had many women say no thanks then in the club they are completely different. Crazy

Well said.

I'll fuck anything with a pulse.

Mrs

Good, another woman who knows her place

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Hi Guys,

Well, at least one person had a go at him for wearing a mankini

I’m sure you have a lovely personality "

Telling someone a mankini isn't a great choice isn't an attack on his appearance.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"Hi Guys,

Well, at least one person had a go at him for wearing a mankini

I’m sure you have a lovely personality

Telling someone a mankini isn't a great choice isn't an attack on his appearance.

I think it is

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Hi Guys,

Well, at least one person had a go at him for wearing a mankini

I’m sure you have a lovely personality

Telling someone a mankini isn't a great choice isn't an attack on his appearance.

I think it is "

It was an attack on the mankini.

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By *rblue38 OP Man over a year ago

Maidstone

"Hi Guys,

Well, at least one person had a go at him for wearing a mankini

I’m sure you have a lovely personality "

I removed my mankini photo over that then I thought why am I doing this. I wore that for a summer swingers party for the host as a personal request.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Hi Guys,

Well, at least one person had a go at him for wearing a mankini

I’m sure you have a lovely personality

I removed my mankini photo over that then I thought why am I doing this. I wore that for a summer swingers party for the host as a personal request. "

If you like the picture, keep it.

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"Hi Guys,

Well, at least one person had a go at him for wearing a mankini

I’m sure you have a lovely personality

Telling someone a mankini isn't a great choice isn't an attack on his appearance.

I think it is

It was an attack on the mankini."

Ah well, glad that’s all cleared up

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Hi Guys,

Well, at least one person had a go at him for wearing a mankini

I’m sure you have a lovely personality

Telling someone a mankini isn't a great choice isn't an attack on his appearance.

I think it is

It was an attack on the mankini.

Ah well, glad that’s all cleared up "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi Guys,

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By *arkb73Man over a year ago

Cheshire/Staffs

"Hi Guys,

Well, at least one person had a go at him for wearing a mankini

I’m sure you have a lovely personality

Telling someone a mankini isn't a great choice isn't an attack on his appearance.

I think it is

It was an attack on the mankini.

Ah well, glad that’s all cleared up

Yes really important stuff

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