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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
I had a date this weekend with an old school crush, it went fantastic. Yay.. except...
Hands wandered, kisses were intense but no sex and he wants to take it slow. Totally fair and I get it... kinda.
So why am I in such a horrible mood about it? I'm grumpy and peed off and I cant even explain why..
I dont think I'm ever destined for dating  |
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"Did you expext to have sex with him?
Honestly? Yes! Theres been a few coffee dates before this and lots of messaging where things have been spoken about xx"
Can only speak for myself but Id be grumpy af expecting sex and not getting it! |
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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
"Did you expext to have sex with him?
Honestly? Yes! Theres been a few coffee dates before this and lots of messaging where things have been spoken about xx
Can only speak for myself but Id be grumpy af expecting sex and not getting it!"
Glad it's not just me!  |
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Assuming that he is completely unaware of fab, and your presence on it, then maybe you should see this as a good omen.
It seems to me that maybe he has a little crush of his own and doesn't want to ruin it by being too forward.
The next date will probably move things forward that little bit more, and I'm sure the wait will build the anticipation. |
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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
"Assuming that he is completely unaware of fab, and your presence on it, then maybe you should see this as a good omen.
It seems to me that maybe he has a little crush of his own and doesn't want to ruin it by being too forward.
The next date will probably move things forward that little bit more, and I'm sure the wait will build the anticipation."
He knows nothing about fab, I hope you are right  xx |
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Um, when I was younger the rules were first date make it special but just finish with a kiss (leave them wanting more) don't ring straight away leave it a day after then ask for another date but make it for a week later (anticipation) make this date about her then finish the evening by following her lead, passionate kiss followed by eye to eye smile then kiss again ah I remember the game well, you chase a lover till they catch you. Do you really want a serious partner who thinks your a slut, no if he's playing the game of love which is often mistaken for the game of conquest then you will find anticipation of the sex makes it much more intense, god I love life. |
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It sounds like you are at different places in regards to your expectations for how quickly you get to sex. He's stated at first proper date he wants to go slowly and you'd already fancied it for today, feeling negative that it didn't.
Possibly you both want the same or different things longer term? If there's a minor mismatch now on sex needs, presumably it's inconsequential if you are generally well matched wanting something similar long term.
If you're not exclusive and you agree a longer wait for sex, you can solve this yourself - it's all probably showing how your lifestyle contrasts with this new deviation. Your motivations and priorities will ultimately be things you settle. And you both probably will be flexible, so it may only be days before you meet and shag. It would be painful as well as exciting for me, if I was in the same situation
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over a year ago
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A mans advice
We’re not all just after sex straight away although it’s nice  and for him to say what he did shows he respects you as a person and dosent see you as a conquest or just a number
I think your grumpy because as a woman you feel let down like he rejected you but he didn’t he has taken the step to resist temptation and make it about a connection mentally before physically so embrace it and be happy it turned out that way |
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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
"A mans advice
We’re not all just after sex straight away although it’s nice and for him to say what he did shows he respects you as a person and dosent see you as a conquest or just a number
I think your grumpy because as a woman you feel let down like he rejected you but he didn’t he has taken the step to resist temptation and make it about a connection mentally before physically so embrace it and be happy it turned out that way "
I think fab distorts your view of things sometimes and I think that's why I felt so disappointed. You are very right though, if a 'vanilla' relationship is going to happen then respecting boundaries are a must.
I'm a grumpy sod for expecting more, thank you all xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A mans advice
We’re not all just after sex straight away although it’s nice and for him to say what he did shows he respects you as a person and dosent see you as a conquest or just a number
I think your grumpy because as a woman you feel let down like he rejected you but he didn’t he has taken the step to resist temptation and make it about a connection mentally before physically so embrace it and be happy it turned out that way "
Best answer this ! |
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"I had a date this weekend with an old school crush, it went fantastic. Yay.. except...
Hands wandered, kisses were intense but no sex and he wants to take it slow. Totally fair and I get it... kinda.
So why am I in such a horrible mood about it? I'm grumpy and peed off and I cant even explain why..
I dont think I'm ever destined for dating "
Purely as an experiment I'd love to copy and paste this into a new thread, but change the gender references.
In answer to the question, he seems to be treating you with respect.
I'd say he wants you, isn't after just a shag and sees something potentially deeper in your relationship than just a fuck.
He'll remember the scooldays you, he's taking time to learn about the grown up you.
Enjoy!!!!
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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
"I had a date this weekend with an old school crush, it went fantastic. Yay.. except...
Hands wandered, kisses were intense but no sex and he wants to take it slow. Totally fair and I get it... kinda.
So why am I in such a horrible mood about it? I'm grumpy and peed off and I cant even explain why..
I dont think I'm ever destined for dating
Purely as an experiment I'd love to copy and paste this into a new thread, but change the gender references.
In answer to the question, he seems to be treating you with respect.
I'd say he wants you, isn't after just a shag and sees something potentially deeper in your relationship than just a fuck.
He'll remember the scooldays you, he's taking time to learn about the grown up you.
Enjoy!!!!
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Ooh byron!!  I'm just being honest! Fab distorts things for me. Xx |
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"I had a date this weekend with an old school crush, it went fantastic. Yay.. except...
Hands wandered, kisses were intense but no sex and he wants to take it slow. Totally fair and I get it... kinda.
So why am I in such a horrible mood about it? I'm grumpy and peed off and I cant even explain why..
I dont think I'm ever destined for dating
Purely as an experiment I'd love to copy and paste this into a new thread, but change the gender references.
In answer to the question, he seems to be treating you with respect.
I'd say he wants you, isn't after just a shag and sees something potentially deeper in your relationship than just a fuck.
He'll remember the scooldays you, he's taking time to learn about the grown up you.
Enjoy!!!!
Ooh byron!! I'm just being honest! Fab distorts things for me. Xx"
It's all about perspective.
I meet loads of lovely women and think "ooooow, I could date you"
Then I think of the fun I have on Fab and in clubs and think "No, I probably couldn't...."
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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
"I had a date this weekend with an old school crush, it went fantastic. Yay.. except...
Hands wandered, kisses were intense but no sex and he wants to take it slow. Totally fair and I get it... kinda.
So why am I in such a horrible mood about it? I'm grumpy and peed off and I cant even explain why..
I dont think I'm ever destined for dating
Purely as an experiment I'd love to copy and paste this into a new thread, but change the gender references.
In answer to the question, he seems to be treating you with respect.
I'd say he wants you, isn't after just a shag and sees something potentially deeper in your relationship than just a fuck.
He'll remember the scooldays you, he's taking time to learn about the grown up you.
Enjoy!!!!
Ooh byron!! I'm just being honest! Fab distorts things for me. Xx
It's all about perspective.
I meet loads of lovely women and think "ooooow, I could date you"
Then I think of the fun I have on Fab and in clubs and think "No, I probably couldn't...."
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Lol I would give it up for the right guy, I'd obviously see if it's a lifestyle he would enjoy though, that would be ideal but itsnot a deal breaker for me xx |
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"I had a date this weekend with an old school crush, it went fantastic. Yay.. except...
Hands wandered, kisses were intense but no sex and he wants to take it slow. Totally fair and I get it... kinda.
So why am I in such a horrible mood about it? I'm grumpy and peed off and I cant even explain why..
I dont think I'm ever destined for dating
Purely as an experiment I'd love to copy and paste this into a new thread, but change the gender references.
In answer to the question, he seems to be treating you with respect.
I'd say he wants you, isn't after just a shag and sees something potentially deeper in your relationship than just a fuck.
He'll remember the scooldays you, he's taking time to learn about the grown up you.
Enjoy!!!!
Ooh byron!! I'm just being honest! Fab distorts things for me. Xx
It's all about perspective.
I meet loads of lovely women and think "ooooow, I could date you"
Then I think of the fun I have on Fab and in clubs and think "No, I probably couldn't...."
Lol I would give it up for the right guy, I'd obviously see if it's a lifestyle he would enjoy though, that would be ideal but itsnot a deal breaker for me xx"
That's the dream ticket isn't it.
Someone you can enjoy the lifestyle with.
Alas, knowing that forever I'm destined to sail this ship alone.
In the meantime I'll just lick the salty tears of despair from my cheeks again.
And have a wank.  |
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By *mana OP Woman
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
"I had a date this weekend with an old school crush, it went fantastic. Yay.. except...
Hands wandered, kisses were intense but no sex and he wants to take it slow. Totally fair and I get it... kinda.
So why am I in such a horrible mood about it? I'm grumpy and peed off and I cant even explain why..
I dont think I'm ever destined for dating
Purely as an experiment I'd love to copy and paste this into a new thread, but change the gender references.
In answer to the question, he seems to be treating you with respect.
I'd say he wants you, isn't after just a shag and sees something potentially deeper in your relationship than just a fuck.
He'll remember the scooldays you, he's taking time to learn about the grown up you.
Enjoy!!!!
Ooh byron!! I'm just being honest! Fab distorts things for me. Xx
It's all about perspective.
I meet loads of lovely women and think "ooooow, I could date you"
Then I think of the fun I have on Fab and in clubs and think "No, I probably couldn't...."
Lol I would give it up for the right guy, I'd obviously see if it's a lifestyle he would enjoy though, that would be ideal but itsnot a deal breaker for me xx
That's the dream ticket isn't it.
Someone you can enjoy the lifestyle with.
Alas, knowing that forever I'm destined to sail this ship alone.
In the meantime I'll just lick the salty tears of despair from my cheeks again.
And have a wank. "
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"Did you expext to have sex with him?
Honestly? Yes! Theres been a few coffee dates before this and lots of messaging where things have been spoken about xx"
After meeting a few times I would of wanted a bit more than hands wandering to!!
Didn't you feel able to take it to the next level? |
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lol xx
