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Should Fantasies stay fantasies ?
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Definitely not unless you think they’ll hurt your relationship. I have a few I’d like to indulge in and a few I’ve managed to do 
Some I fancy trying again and maybe a few not anymore but I don’t regret anything  |
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"Definitely not unless you think they’ll hurt your relationship. I have a few I’d like to indulge in and a few I’ve managed to do
Some I fancy trying again and maybe a few not anymore but I don’t regret anything "
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I've kept mine fantasies as unless they happened in reality they would just seem fake and too contrived ... also I love fantasizing about them still lol |
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"Should fantasies stay fantasies ? Me and the wife have had this conversation a few times now and I'm more for the idea of sod it your only here once give it a go "
their aren't too many sexy things that in reality are better in practice, keep it a fantasy  |
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"I've kept mine fantasies as unless they happened in reality they would just seem fake and too contrived ... also I love fantasizing about them still lol "
It’s good having things to imagine isn’t it |
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"I've kept mine fantasies as unless they happened in reality they would just seem fake and too contrived ... also I love fantasizing about them still lol
It’s good having things to imagine isn’t it "
Oh those daydream moments always have a smile on my face  |
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For me it depends on the degree of acting out. If it’s a general idea then that great I’ve been all for it. If it’s the whole scenario however, then I find that it doesn’t work so well. In my mind the right thing happens at exactly the right time when in reality timing can be off etc which tends to spoil the moment for me. |
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Am interested, do the people who have commented on here or anyone who says "only live once do it" or "life's too short for regrets" live all parts of their lives with the same attitude? |
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"Should fantasies stay fantasies ? Me and the wife have had this conversation a few times now and I'm more for the idea of sod it your only here once give it a go "
My fantasy is rather tame but is staying a fantasy, as I’m a creature that rarely comes out of her comfort zone and my worry would be ‘what’s next’! Mr J is far more adventurous than I am!  |
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"Am interested, do the people who have commented on here or anyone who says "only live once do it" or "life's too short for regrets" live all parts of their lives with the same attitude? "
I think I do now as I get older. But this lifestyle only cemeted that saying into my mind after trying things that I thought I would never try. Whether that was through fear or being over optimistic. I go with the flow now and just enjoy the ride and if an opertunity exists to check things of the bucket/fantasy list I would not look back.
This is very much true in vanilla life too.. |
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"Am interested, do the people who have commented on here or anyone who says "only live once do it" or "life's too short for regrets" live all parts of their lives with the same attitude?
I think I do now as I get older. But this lifestyle only cemeted that saying into my mind after trying things that I thought I would never try. Whether that was through fear or being over optimistic. I go with the flow now and just enjoy the ride and if an opertunity exists to check things of the bucket/fantasy list I would not look back.
This is very much true in vanilla life too.."
Cool it's just so many seem to be fab adventurous but not life adventurous |
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There are some fantasises that are mentally very exciting and stimulating but which you have no intention of enacting in real life. These should stay fantasies that are perfect in your mind whereas acting them out in real life will be a let down.
Then there are fantasies which you are curious of experiencing. Having a threesome or going to a sex club started out that way for me. I'm glad I did as I enjoyed them so much that they are part of my sex life and no longer a fantasy. On the other hand, some fantasies turned out to be disappointing but at least I know I've tried them out. |
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"There are some fantasises that are mentally very exciting and stimulating but which you have no intention of enacting in real life. These should stay fantasies that are perfect in your mind whereas acting them out in real life will be a let down.
Then there are fantasies which you are curious of experiencing. Having a threesome or going to a sex club started out that way for me. I'm glad I did as I enjoyed them so much that they are part of my sex life and no longer a fantasy. On the other hand, some fantasies turned out to be disappointing but at least I know I've tried them out."
I think that's about right and common sense should be observed. |
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"Should fantasies stay fantasies ? Me and the wife have had this conversation a few times now and I'm more for the idea of sod it your only here once give it a go "
Go for it. We did. Talked about lots of things for a while. We know what we want and don’t. So far so good |
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"Should fantasies stay fantasies ? Me and the wife have had this conversation a few times now and I'm more for the idea of sod it your only here once give it a go "
As you have said you are only here once. Try your fantasies. If you like it do it again. If you don't like it at least you tried it. Don't have regrets. |
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"Am interested, do the people who have commented on here or anyone who says "only live once do it" or "life's too short for regrets" live all parts of their lives with the same attitude? "
Yes. I don't want to die with any regrets. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"Should fantasies stay fantasies ? Me and the wife have had this conversation a few times now and I'm more for the idea of sod it your only here once give it a go "
Depends on the fantasy, some are quite good to live out and sometimes fun. |
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"Should fantasies stay fantasies ? Me and the wife have had this conversation a few times now and I'm more for the idea of sod it your only here once give it a go their aren't too many sexy things that in reality are better in practice, keep it a fantasy "
Can't agree with that, some are far better than the fantasy version, some a total turn off when you try them.
If you can both go into it with the attitude that you are going to try it, if it doesn't work you'll just forget it and move on, then fine. Go for it.
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If you see single then go for it can be the attitude. If you are in a partnership, then go for it maybe potentially pushing someone beyond their comfort zone.
Seen a few people in a club trying their fantasy, when actually it was his.
Also not all fantasies are doable or advisable.
We get quite filthy between the sheets, but there is no way for a one off fantasy fulfilment, we would risk our health or safety.
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By *hangerMan
over a year ago
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It depends on what the fantasies are, as some may be impossible or maybe unwise, but others quite achievable. However always be prepared that reality may not live up to the fantasy.
I have been lucky and have experienced most of my fantasies and have loved them! |
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