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What is the best way to start a convo on here
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not been here long but could really do with advice from both parties as to what usually gets the attention more because i know just saying hi isnt going to get far.
Also what can you put as a subject because i cant seem to think of anything good.
Thanks in advance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not been here long but could really do with advice from both parties as to what usually gets the attention more because i know just saying hi isnt going to get far.
Also what can you put as a subject because i cant seem to think of anything good.
Thanks in advance."
Polite. Respectful message. Definitely not.
Hi hows your day. Week. Weekend.
Short 1 liners a no no.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" could really do with advice from both parties as to what usually gets the attention more
What do you mean by both parties ? You are only looking for women. "
Basically would like a opinion from guys what they put and an opinion from lasses on what they like to see when they get messaged for the first time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Read the profile. Use it as a guide. Women will like different things."
Tried that, try to be spontanious and yet still all i get is instant delete. Times it feels asif you cant win no matter what you do on here |
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"Read the profile. Use it as a guide. Women will like different things.
Tried that, try to be spontanious and yet still all i get is instant delete. Times it feels asif you cant win no matter what you do on here "
There's no way to guarantee a response. You're not owed one. But trying to suit what the woman wants is your best bet. |
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"Thanks for all the advice.
Also caan anyone shed some light on what to put as a subject because some people say to add a special word yet some dont."
If they have one, use it. If they don't, don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't really have a problem with a polite " Hello, how are you? "
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What is wrong with it? Perhaps include something from my profile but is a nice opener.
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I don't understand the problem  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't really have a problem with a polite " Hello, how are you? "
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What is wrong with it? Perhaps include something from my profile but is a nice opener.
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I don't understand the problem "
Tried it but still no use. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't really have a problem with a polite " Hello, how are you? "
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What is wrong with it? Perhaps include something from my profile but is a nice opener.
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I don't understand the problem
Tried it but still no use."
Most women think its laziness.
Maybe read a profile and select something from it and comment on it  |
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"I don't really have a problem with a polite " Hello, how are you? "
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What is wrong with it? Perhaps include something from my profile but is a nice opener.
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I don't understand the problem
Tried it but still no use."
A lot of guys message every woman they can within a 30 mile radius. I want to know why me, apart from that I have a vagina. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP maybe you should tweak your profile because as it stands now you say “you don’t care who you meet” to me that doesn’t sound very appealing & makes you look desperate sorry to sound harsh |
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"OP maybe you should tweak your profile because as it stands now you say “you don’t care who you meet” to me that doesn’t sound very appealing & makes you look desperate sorry to sound harsh "
Yeah. Women often look at profiles before messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A polite, hello, enjoyed reading your profile. (Add something of interest clearly from it that you liked).
Maybe it made you laugh, or you empathised with the frustrations (often a long list of don'ts in some).
Maybe you're into the same thing, or liked their photos as it clearly demonstrated a creative side not often seen.
Maybe it was something you seen in a comment she made in the forums.
Add that you'd be interested in knowing more if and when she has the time.
Leave it at that and don't keep returning. There are more to view and chat too.
At the end of the day most of your messages will be deleted and it can become frustrating. Bare it or just let them contact you if they are interested, a few do. |
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" A lot of guys message every woman they can within a 30 mile radius. I want to know why me, apart from that I have a vagina. "
Exactly this. Don’t just message every woman when they come online. Be honest with yourself as to what you’re looking for, and only message those women who tick those boxes. Let every woman that you message know how they fit in with your aspirations and what you can offer towards their’s. |
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" A lot of guys message every woman they can within a 30 mile radius. I want to know why me, apart from that I have a vagina.
Exactly this. Don’t just message every woman when they come online. Be honest with yourself as to what you’re looking for, and only message those women who tick those boxes. Let every woman that you message know how they fit in with your aspirations and what you can offer towards their’s. "
And don't lie. Trust me, we've seen it all, you're not the first, it won't work. |
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"What _naswingdress said is most important!!
Read the profile properly!!!
At least that shows you are paying a bit of attention "
And fitting in with my last post, don't just say you've read my profile. If you haven't, I'll know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some good advice on this thread.
Just to add I'm not sure of your username is the best choice as who wants to be someone's rebound. I'd maybe consider changing it. Some more pictures would possibly help.
Good luck
KJ x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What _naswingdress said is most important!!
Read the profile properly!!!
At least that shows you are paying a bit of attention
And fitting in with my last post, don't just say you've read my profile. If you haven't, I'll know. "
Yh that is literally the first thing i do soon as i go on a profile. Read up about the person, take in every detail and try to relate through a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's difficult to say but if there's something witty written in their profile I try and pick up on that or even if they update a status.
Sometimes I'll really like someone's profile after reading it and let them know that it caught your attention for x y or z reason |
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"What _naswingdress said is most important!!
Read the profile properly!!!
At least that shows you are paying a bit of attention
And fitting in with my last post, don't just say you've read my profile. If you haven't, I'll know.
Yh that is literally the first thing i do soon as i go on a profile. Read up about the person, take in every detail and try to relate through a message."
Heaps of people say "I've read your profile" followed by stuff that shows they haven't. |
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"Thanks for all the advice.
Also caan anyone shed some light on what to put as a subject because some people say to add a special word yet some dont."
Personally I dont ask for special words and its very rare I even look at the subject.
I like a message to show they have at least looked at my profile and something more than just hi how are you or have you had a good day etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not been here long but could really do with advice from both parties as to what usually gets the attention more because i know just saying hi isnt going to get far.
Also what can you put as a subject because i cant seem to think of anything good.
Thanks in advance."
I always start .. hi I'm Pap fancy a fuck?.... always works for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not been here long but could really do with advice from both parties as to what usually gets the attention more because i know just saying hi isnt going to get far.
Also what can you put as a subject because i cant seem to think of anything good.
Thanks in advance.
I always start .. hi I'm Pap fancy a fuck?.... always works for me "
Hi I'm Justin. Fancy a fuck? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone who I just replied to apparently had read my profile, he hadn’t!!
So I’d suggest really actually reading whoever’s profile you’re sending a message to and if they’re looking for single men then send them a polite message tailored to their likes x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just read the persons profile then start conversation around something you found intriguing or something you wish to know more on from their profile.
But some will straight up write you off for your username or you may not be attractive to them or what they’re after at that precious minute. But just plough on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Id say just be yourself and be honest... And try not to take things too seriously. As a single guy on here you will get more no thank you's than yes pleases its just the way fab is take it on the chin and move on dont get all shitty and nasty like some guys on here do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A polite message addressed to both people in the couple . Say something about their profile and send a recent face picture or two.Keep it short and to the point but don't drivel on .. It gets boring . Have a look right at the bottom of my bio for some great advice for single guys on here. Copy and paste and then search it in the forums. Happy Fabbing |
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"What about the profiles that have no content and a few pictures! Those are the hardest for me!!! You can only comment so much on a picture lol  "
Don’t message them! If you can’t tell what they’re hoping for from fab then what’s the point of making contact? Be choosy. Only message women that match YOUR specifications, and be totally honest with yourself about what those are. Don’t treat every female in a 30 km radius as a potential FB, just those who’s profiles genuinely speak to you. Make your requirements every bit as important as their’s. If they haven’t put any work in on their profile then why on earth should you put any work in on a message? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In my experience receiving a reply can be just down to luck. Ladies and Couples get so many messages that they have no real chance of reading everything. I tend to find that I get more response if the message receiver happens to be on line, and/or Ive attached a picture (which is generally a face shot, although that often kills it stone dead anyway!). After that, an imaginative title helps, a simple Hello isn't going to get any attention. |
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