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So Ive been on here a good few days now, I have read various posts about the do's and dont's etc. I've messaged only people Ive genuinely liked, ive been curtious and nice, I am not crude or pushy.
I have profile photo and friend only photo, i dont send dick pics and include a normal picture with the messages. My profile is honest with no blurb ....
I dont get any replies and i get that it means they not interested and probably get 100+ messages from guys just like me! It makes me wonder is the site very unbalanced in Men - Woman ratio that we are all competing that hard for a message?
Or am I just a complete idiot?
Any advice would be appreciated!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So Ive been on here a good few days now, I have read various posts about the do's and dont's etc. I've messaged only people Ive genuinely liked, ive been curtious and nice, I am not crude or pushy.
I have profile photo and friend only photo, i dont send dick pics and include a normal picture with the messages. My profile is honest with no blurb ....
I dont get any replies and i get that it means they not interested and probably get 100+ messages from guys just like me! It makes me wonder is the site very unbalanced in Men - Woman ratio that we are all competing that hard for a message?
Or am I just a complete idiot?
Any advice would be appreciated!
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Very VERY unbalanced. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is just my personal views (female) obviously do not speak for all of the lovely ladies here!
I like a profile with public pictures. Let be honest, we all look at them before we respond/message.
I also think a lot of women/couples etc are very cautious when it comes to both new profiles and profiles with no verifications, which I know is not something you can change immediately.
Other than that, patience is key im afraid! |
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"This is just my personal views (female) obviously do not speak for all of the lovely ladies here!
I like a profile with public pictures. Let be honest, we all look at them before we respond/message.
I also think a lot of women/couples etc are very cautious when it comes to both new profiles and profiles with no verifications, which I know is not something you can change immediately.
Other than that, patience is key im afraid! "
Thanks Ill upload some more public photo's the question is should the be naughty or real? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you asking for profile feedback?
Any help would be appreciated  "
Photos would be the top change. Your photo caught my eye but there’s only one. To get a wink I’d be looking for more showing a hint of what’s underneath.
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"Are you asking for profile feedback?
Any help would be appreciated
Photos would be the top change. Your photo caught my eye but there’s only one. To get a wink I’d be looking for more showing a hint of what’s underneath.
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Thank you ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also the graphic description is off putting - keep it simple and honest. I tend to be put off by graphic photos, text and status updates.
I do look at verifications, because I only meet verified men.
Check out the profiles of successful SM. |
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"Are you asking for profile feedback?
Any help would be appreciated
Photos would be the top change. Your photo caught my eye but there’s only one. To get a wink I’d be looking for more showing a hint of what’s underneath.
Thank you ... "
Remember its early dats. Good luck  |
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"Are you asking for profile feedback?
Any help would be appreciated
Photos would be the top change. Your photo caught my eye but there’s only one. To get a wink I’d be looking for more showing a hint of what’s underneath.
Thank you ...
Remember its early dats. Good luck "
Seriously thank you !!! i really appreciate it.... |
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"Are you asking for profile feedback?
Any help would be appreciated
Photos would be the top change. Your photo caught my eye but there’s only one. To get a wink I’d be looking for more showing a hint of what’s underneath.
Thank you ...
Remember its early dats. Good luck "
Would you mind haing another little look for me? |
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"Wishing you good luck dude!
I'm in the same boat so I know the woe.
Gotta keep that chin up, and I think in my case, wait for the stars to align!"
Thanks Bud, good luck lets hope we all start seeing results..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For single guys it's a numbers game. You are in a sea of other guys. Rejection goes with the territory along with being ignored, it's just the way it is. You need a very thick skin and the patience of a saint. The best advice we can offer is get away from the screen and meet real people in real places. Good luck. |
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"This is just my personal views (female) obviously do not speak for all of the lovely ladies here!
I like a profile with public pictures. Let be honest, we all look at them before we respond/message.
I also think a lot of women/couples etc are very cautious when it comes to both new profiles and profiles with no verifications, which I know is not something you can change immediately.
Other than that, patience is key im afraid!
Thanks Ill upload some more public photo's the question is should the be naughty or real? "
A bit of both really. We all get that not everyone likes to show their face so that’s understandable if you don’t. 1 or 2 dick pics should be suffice! |
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"This is just my personal views (female) obviously do not speak for all of the lovely ladies here!
I like a profile with public pictures. Let be honest, we all look at them before we respond/message.
I also think a lot of women/couples etc are very cautious when it comes to both new profiles and profiles with no verifications, which I know is not something you can change immediately.
Other than that, patience is key im afraid!
Thanks Ill upload some more public photo's the question is should the be naughty or real?
A bit of both really. We all get that not everyone likes to show their face so that’s understandable if you don’t. 1 or 2 dick pics should be suffice!"
I updated them ... thank you |
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"So Ive been on here a good few days now, I have read various posts about the do's and dont's etc. I've messaged only people Ive genuinely liked, ive been curtious and nice, I am not crude or pushy.
I have profile photo and friend only photo, i dont send dick pics and include a normal picture with the messages. My profile is honest with no blurb ....
I dont get any replies and i get that it means they not interested and probably get 100+ messages from guys just like me! It makes me wonder is the site very unbalanced in Men - Woman ratio that we are all competing that hard for a message?
Or am I just a complete idiot?
Any advice would be appreciated!
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the way you've approached it is the only way you can do it, put personality into messages, send a face pic but send tasteful body pics to, good luck  |
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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago
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There is a HUGE imbalance between single men vs couples and single ladies.
We received about 300 messages in the first 48 hours of joining fab over a year ago. We still get a lot of poor quality messages or just ones that obviously haven't read even part of our profile.
As a single male your profile, photos and messages have to stand our from the crowd if you are going to get anyones attention. It is so much harder for a guy than it is for a woman or a couple, where you can get a lot of sexy photos in different lingerie and outfits.
You will just have to persevere and have patience if you really want results. Also try sole group socials, parties or club events as they can be a better way to just get chatting to others and introductions to others. |
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"There is a HUGE imbalance between single men vs couples and single ladies.
We received about 300 messages in the first 48 hours of joining fab over a year ago. We still get a lot of poor quality messages or just ones that obviously haven't read even part of our profile.
As a single male your profile, photos and messages have to stand our from the crowd if you are going to get anyones attention. It is so much harder for a guy than it is for a woman or a couple, where you can get a lot of sexy photos in different lingerie and outfits.
You will just have to persevere and have patience if you really want results. Also try sole group socials, parties or club events as they can be a better way to just get chatting to others and introductions to others."
Thanks for the advice im going to give a club or two a try too |
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over a year ago
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As a couple we prefer to meet single guys, just our thing, you’re a good looking guy, I know it may be daunting but maybe add couples to your looking for, you’d be amazed at the number of guys who love seeing their wives with other men xx |
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"As a couple we prefer to meet single guys, just our thing, you’re a good looking guy, I know it may be daunting but maybe add couples to your looking for, you’d be amazed at the number of guys who love seeing their wives with other men xx "
Thanks for that, ive updated it ( i do like the Hotwife scenario.... ) |
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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago
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"Are you asking for profile feedback?
Any help would be appreciated
Photos would be the top change. Your photo caught my eye but there’s only one. To get a wink I’d be looking for more showing a hint of what’s underneath.
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agree ... it is combination of photos, writing and responsiveness ... some guys with great photos/narrative have woeful engagement skills ... but some couples can also be quite "dismissive" ... it is a very broad spectrum like anything else |
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"Are you asking for profile feedback?
Any help would be appreciated
Photos would be the top change. Your photo caught my eye but there’s only one. To get a wink I’d be looking for more showing a hint of what’s underneath.
agree ... it is combination of photos, writing and responsiveness ... some guys with great photos/narrative have woeful engagement skills ... but some couples can also be quite "dismissive" ... it is a very broad spectrum like anything else"
Thanks, i put more photos on changed the wording of my profile .. so lets see what happens. Thanks to everyone like you |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
Put in the leg work in the forums. Witty well written posts, that are spelt properly will show you in a good light.
As for pictures...suits, smiles and a shot of your eyes, are oldies but goldies. |
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"Put in the leg work in the forums. Witty well written posts, that are spelt properly will show you in a good light.
As for pictures...suits, smiles and a shot of your eyes, are oldies but goldies."
Thanks man ill have a look at that too |
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Most people have given great advice, so instead of repeating what they’ve said, I’ll tell you from my perspective.
I can go through a month without a single meet, then I can have 5 socials/meets in a week. I can send 20 messages, even to people I’ve been in the middle of a conversation with, and 15 could be left unopened, and 3 or 4 get opened but ignored. Every now and then I’ll get a polite “no thank you”, I’ll always reply with a polite appreciation of them taking the time to reply to me. Manners cost nothing, and once or twice it’s led to actually meeting that same person!!!!
I’ve noticed that when I’m quiet in the forums, my profile visits drop, and when I’m more active, I get more visits (currently on 47 as I type this cause I’ve been quiet over the last few days).
The forums can only go so far though cause I type as I speak, so my humour doesn’t always come across and I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve been banned on here lol
I now try and stay active in the local clubs. Cause not only does this help with getting to socialise, but people get to know the real me.
Now I get messages asking ME to meet! I’m an ugly fucker, old, I have no hair, no money, and I’m really shy.....so I must be doing something right! Haha
Good luck and stick with it, I’ve met some amazing people through FAB. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
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Put in the leg work in the forums. Witty well written posts, that are spelt properly will show you in a good light.
As for pictures...suits, smiles and a shot of your eyes, are oldies but goldies. |
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