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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I’m sure we all get this question after 1 or 2 messages but we always struggle on the answer.
How much detail is someone wanting?
Maybe we just over think haha.
I worry the answers may be too vague and that causes people to lose interest?
So when you ask this, what do you expect back? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I’m sure we all get this question after 1 or 2 messages but we always struggle on the answer.
How much detail is someone wanting?
Maybe we just over think haha.
I worry the answers may be too vague and that causes people to lose interest?
So when you ask this, what do you expect back? "
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
"So I’m sure we all get this question after 1 or 2 messages but we always struggle on the answer.
How much detail is someone wanting?
Maybe we just over think haha.
I worry the answers may be too vague and that causes people to lose interest?
So when you ask this, what do you expect back? sex "
It's the kind of question which to me indicates the correspondence is not going to go very far. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I usually feel like saying "read my profile". "
So do I !
I love it when people message saying ‘I see you have XYZ listed as your interests. I also like XYZ’
Is it too rude to say ‘read the profile’  ?! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So I’m sure we all get this question after 1 or 2 messages but we always struggle on the answer.
How much detail is someone wanting?
Maybe we just over think haha.
I worry the answers may be too vague and that causes people to lose interest?
So when you ask this, what do you expect back? sex "
Haha I like to think people know that but maybe we should be clearer in future  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I’m sure we all get this question after 1 or 2 messages but we always struggle on the answer.
How much detail is someone wanting?
Maybe we just over think haha.
I worry the answers may be too vague and that causes people to lose interest?
So when you ask this, what do you expect back? sex
It's the kind of question which to me indicates the correspondence is not going to go very far."
yes exactly their aren't that many variations of sex to be fair, different labels, different outfits, different pains and different positions but only a few ways to achieve the orgasm |
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"I usually feel like saying "read my profile".
So do I !
I love it when people message saying ‘I see you have XYZ listed as your interests. I also like XYZ’
Is it too rude to say ‘read the profile’ ?!"
Not at all....we say it....a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I find it a difficult question to answer, as what I'm into depends very much on who I'm with and what mood im in during the day, the question does automaticly put me off the person a little."
Precisely. For example we are into a whole world of weird and wonderful stuff but that doesn’t necessarily mean we want to take part in these acts with other people. Some are just for us because we are comfortable enough with each other. I’ve said this in a message before e.g I enjoy anal but that’s something I only do with my partner. Then people are just pushy about it if it’s something they want!
So I feel that with being honest or vague - you can’t win! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I usually feel like saying "read my profile".
So do I !
I love it when people message saying ‘I see you have XYZ listed as your interests. I also like XYZ’
Is it too rude to say ‘read the profile’ ?!
Not at all....we say it....a lot."
Maybe we should start too then! Thank you  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ohhhh I guess I could always embellish the truth and say I'm into dentistry porn, anal probing and knife play to send the undesirables running for the hills "
I love knife play!! But I’m not about to invite a stranger to join us in that haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ohhhh I guess I could always embellish the truth and say I'm into dentistry porn, anal probing and knife play to send the undesirables running for the hills "
Hahahahahahahahaha omfg brilliant! So going to try this!  |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
"I just put truck racing ... either kills the conversation or you end up having a really cool one! "
I raced cars for many years.When I talk face to face with women about it I have to watch out for their eyes glazing over ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We try to keep it vague when asked, most people spot stuff from our profile and kind of assume we will want to do all weird and painful stuff to them when in fact we fully believe in only ever doing what people feel comfortable with, we have had couples ask for some crazy stuff from us becuse they see we are a bit out there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just put truck racing ... either kills the conversation or you end up having a really cool one!
I raced cars for many years.When I talk face to face with women about it I have to watch out for their eyes glazing over ! "
Lol I'm just an adrenaline junkie in life with a wee dram of petrolhead thrown in  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just put truck racing ... either kills the conversation or you end up having a really cool one! do you race trucks? So cool 
I tried that once but the trucks kept on winning everytime.  "
Hahahahahahahahahahaha now can't stop thinking of collies! Wtf |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
Near Wells |
"I just put truck racing ... either kills the conversation or you end up having a really cool one! "
That's brilliant. I race motorbikes so I will try that next time and see what happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is just such a lazy question. If I hear it in a second message I tend to shut down and say something like "your mum" or something lazy like "concreteing"
The question really says "i haven't read your profile so I will try to wing it" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I’m sure we all get this question after 1 or 2 messages but we always struggle on the answer.
How much detail is someone wanting?
Maybe we just over think haha.
I worry the answers may be too vague and that causes people to lose interest?
So when you ask this, what do you expect back? "
Just be brief in saying what you do and do not sexually.
I think before a meet it is important everybody knows what you do and do not like sexually. Then you just do the things everybody likes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just don't understand people's reactions here?
I asked that very question last night, what's wrong with that?
Yes I understand some people put a lot of stuff they like/dislike in their profile but others don't. I have read the womans single profile and their couples profile multiple times, nothing really says what they like sexually.
I saw it as part of getting to know the person and where their interests lie. If it's something kept for their partner and wouldn't want to do with other people then they shouldn't mention it. Sorry but I feel sex isn't sex in they way there are a lot of different things out there and its important to discuss interests to gauge of you are compatible. If you only want sex then you say straight sex with a condom.
If you are saying it is only after a couple of messages then yes I can understand. But this is after many messages. Are you all really saying you never discuss sexual interests and kinks with people?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never ask the question surely if you've read profile and aren't the type that discusses sex in conversation unless it's brought up by the woman then it doesn't matter, sex only happens in person let's face it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had everything on our profile and still we received messages with the question what was very frustrating so we've changed it. There is no point as with every meet we enjoy something different. Flexibility of the scene is huge and we think what we like on the go. It's more about definite dislikes people should be aware of. Why to mention anal, or any form of sex if you know you won't do it with anyone else but your man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually feel like saying "read my profile".
I actually say that noooooo you don't do you "
I love it when the reply comes along the lines of it's too long to read. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually feel like saying "read my profile".
I actually say that noooooo you don't do you
I love it when the reply comes along the lines of it's too long to read. "
ha yes some are like novels |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually feel like saying "read my profile".
I actually say that noooooo you don't do you
I love it when the reply comes along the lines of it's too long to read. ha yes some are like novels "
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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago
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"I usually feel like saying "read my profile".
I actually say that noooooo you don't do you
I love it when the reply comes along the lines of it's too long to read. "
We just take that kind of answer as an indication of character. If they dont have the smallest bit of respect to make an effort to read what someone has written then how will they be in person. Without that tiniest bit if patience then they certainly aren't going do want to go through a social.and are usually the type that expect to meet to just satisfy themselves at the drop of a hat. Do I (M) really want that person in a bedroom with us and playing with my wife?. The answer is a definite No. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just put truck racing ... either kills the conversation or you end up having a really cool one!
That's brilliant. I race motorbikes so I will try that next time and see what happens "
Definitely it's great way for guys to become normal! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ohhhh I guess I could always embellish the truth and say I'm into dentistry porn, anal probing and knife play to send the undesirables running for the hills "
Anal probing and knife play, meh. But dentistry porn?? I need to know more dressing up or just getting hot together looking at pictures of teeth? Classy teeth, big girthy teeth, hillbilly broken and dirty inc*stual teeth  Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just don't understand people's reactions here?
I asked that very question last night, what's wrong with that?
Yes I understand some people put a lot of stuff they like/dislike in their profile but others don't. I have read the womans single profile and their couples profile multiple times, nothing really says what they like sexually.
I saw it as part of getting to know the person and where their interests lie. If it's something kept for their partner and wouldn't want to do with other people then they shouldn't mention it. Sorry but I feel sex isn't sex in they way there are a lot of different things out there and its important to discuss interests to gauge of you are compatible. If you only want sex then you say straight sex with a condom.
If you are saying it is only after a couple of messages then yes I can understand. But this is after many messages. Are you all really saying you never discuss sexual interests and kinks with people?
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I think the OP, might be going with the initial message asking it? If you're chatting then it makes sense to ask but not to start straight in with it (I think anyway) |
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"Ohhhh I guess I could always embellish the truth and say I'm into dentistry porn, anal probing and knife play to send the undesirables running for the hills
Anal probing and knife play, meh. But dentistry porn?? I need to know more dressing up or just getting hot together looking at pictures of teeth? Classy teeth, big girthy teeth, hillbilly broken and dirty inc*stual teeth Haha "
I was aiming to scare the buggers off, so was thinking of something like a kinky version of marathon man, nowt to do with the chocolate bar, I made that mistake  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes exactly their aren't that many variations of sex to be fair, different labels, different outfits, different pains and different positions but only a few ways to achieve the orgasm"
...well, we still constantly find new ways to excite each other. It isn’t all about the orgasm!!!
The way you look at each other, body language, what you say, it’s endless! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ohhhh I guess I could always embellish the truth and say I'm into dentistry porn, anal probing and knife play to send the undesirables running for the hills
Anal probing and knife play, meh. But dentistry porn?? I need to know more dressing up or just getting hot together looking at pictures of teeth? Classy teeth, big girthy teeth, hillbilly broken and dirty inc*stual teeth Haha
I was aiming to scare the buggers off, so was thinking of something like a kinky version of marathon man, nowt to do with the chocolate bar, I made that mistake "
Well chocolate and nuts are not a bad combination (should we update those that don't know marathon bars are now snickers). A good film + kinky, I'm not sure you've thought "scaring them off" through fully Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always say read our profile it state's what we looking for but as nobody actually reads it we have taken it off our profile and just say we will always try anything at least once x |
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