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How do I let him down??
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."
It was a lot of fun but I like variance so I'm not saying never again but for right now I'm happy with the one night stand x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful....
It was a lot of fun but I like variance so I'm not saying never again but for right now I'm happy with the one night stand x"
Yes, I like that....x |
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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago
The South |
"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."
Does he use the forums?
If he does, you just did.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't just block or ignore him because that would be like kicking a puppy.
Ween him off slowly by saying you are busy or traveling away for a holiday/work trip.
Eventually the messages will stop. |
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It was a lot of fun but I like variance so I'm not saying never again but for right now I'm happy with the one night stand x"
I'd prefer to hear this instead of fabricated excuses. Will add to the excitement rather than an insult through lies |
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It was a lot of fun but I like variance so I'm not saying never again but for right now I'm happy with the one night stand x
I'd prefer to hear this instead of fabricated excuses. Will add to the excitement rather than an insult through lies"
This is what I'd want to read if I was in that situation. No mind games just a nice, honest response so I'd know exactly where I stood. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't just block or ignore him because that would be like kicking a puppy.
Ween him off slowly by saying you are busy or traveling away for a holiday/work trip.
Eventually the messages will stop.don't do this ha ha,just say you enjoyed it but you just like one offs,I go to a club and I use the same answer if am asked again. "
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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago
The South |
"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful....
It was a lot of fun but I like variance so I'm not saying never again but for right now I'm happy with the one night stand x"
I'd probably say "one off" as opposed to "one night stand", but definitely this.
It's a soft let down with a positive to take away.
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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago
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"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."
Be honest  |
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"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."
Just be honest that you enjoyed the night but it was only a one off for you. |
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"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."
There’s being honest and there’s being honest
No one wants anyone to feel hurt
If I was you say that although you had the horny encounter, you would prefer to not meet anyone for a second time at present
Therefore he’s not going to have his ego damaged and you don’t have to feel trapped into another meet
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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago
East Northamptonshire |
This isnt a dating site. Some people want regular meets, some want the excitement of different people.
Just explain that you enjoyed meeting him but you are here to experience fun with different people and you're not looking for another meet but maybe paths will cross again in the future.
There is never any guarantee that meets with one person become a regular thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."
tell him straight..... Make up a rhyme with the punch line you'll never be mine  |
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I think clear polite honesty is always the best way for everybody. But remember to make it clear that this is the end of the road. If he doesn't drop it and persists then you can quite legitimately block him. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."
Do what most women do on here ignore him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I (her) had a single profile and found myself in this situation I would contact the individual sooner rather than later, be honest and decent about it.
In my experience I never received a bad response back and was always happy to remain friendly through any messages.
In other words treat him as you would like to be treated.... with respect
Good luck OP
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with the sentiment of:
Thanks for last night. You're a decent guy but I'm not really up for another meet. If things change then I'll let you know otherwise good luck on here.
Personally I'd prefer to know that I wasn't being ignored and knew where I stood. |
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"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."
I think a gentle polite let down would be best, particularly if he is being respectful. It’s how I would want to be told. I think if you just ignore him he might persist. |
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"Have to agree with most comments here. Nice veri and say thanks was great but not looking to repeat
And as someone else mentioned. He would have seen the forum by now "
And don't forget the 'don't miss out ladies' in the veri. Sort of code for 'yeh, n8ce fella but you can have him, not my cup of tea'. |
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I do know I wouldn't want to see it here first. I had a meet years ago that went south...It put me right off Fab when I saw her post about it (indirectly) in the forums.
Just get on with it and tell him. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey all....sorry for delay in replying...I had a 48 hour forum timeout...oooppps...my bad..
Took on board all the suggestions and resolved the issue..
Thanks! xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey all....sorry for delay in replying...I had a 48 hour forum timeout...oooppps...my bad..
Took on board all the suggestions and resolved the issue..
Thanks! xxx"
Lol i was thinking some of the messages disappeared from this thread. I guess it's to do with the timeout. |
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"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."
Best thing is just to be honest and say it how it is and leave no confusion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Help! So had a very unwise late night meet with a young guy...regretted it the next day....but that's another story... now he's super keen for a repeat...I'm not but how do I let him down gently? Don't tell me to just block because that's mean... I would if he became a problem but so far has nothing but respectful...."
Welcome to Dumpsville, population:- YOU!
That should do it....  |
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