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Should the size of the other male matter?
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By *andm93 OP Couple
over a year ago
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Hey guys it's Mr M here,
My wife and I are quite new to swinging we've been toying with the idea for over a year, we had our first meet a week ago, that went terrible (just wrong type of people)
We have started chatting to a few couples there both our types, I just have a really bad insecurity in my gentleman area! Check our page and give me a review of you like! But I am a little worried about what happens when we encounter a man with much larger cock than mine! And the few couples were chatting to the males bar 1 have bigger penis's than me!
My wife always says to me my penis is amazing and it's a good size! And that, she also said if I feel this way maybe we shouldn't start swinging properly... I'd love to hear from you guys! |
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over a year ago
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I’ve felt exactly the same and kind of still do. Luckily the gf doesn’t like big dicks so if anyone is over 8 inches then we won’t meet them.
We’ve met 5 or 6 single guys throughout our time here and all of them have had bigger dicks than me. I’m 6 inches and they’ve all been around 6-8 inches.
When we started swinging, this was a massive issue for me. I would constantly look at the other guys dick to size it up and then grill the gf after the meet to see if she enjoyed it better.
She’s always said that none of them have felt better. Different yes, but not better.
At the end of the day, I know that if she was to get fucked buy a guy 9 inches then that doesn’t mean she’s going to run off with him.
It’s all about communication and honesty. |
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By *andm93 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I’ve felt exactly the same and kind of still do. Luckily the gf doesn’t like big dicks so if anyone is over 8 inches then we won’t meet them.
We’ve met 5 or 6 single guys throughout our time here and all of them have had bigger dicks than me. I’m 6 inches and they’ve all been around 6-8 inches.
When we started swinging, this was a massive issue for me. I would constantly look at the other guys dick to size it up and then grill the gf after the meet to see if she enjoyed it better.
She’s always said that none of them have felt better. Different yes, but not better.
At the end of the day, I know that if she was to get fucked buy a guy 9 inches then that doesn’t mean she’s going to run off with him.
It’s all about communication and honesty. "
Thankyou for your input  I appreciate your honesty... I love the idea of her taking a bigger penis, I think I'm just being silly tbh :/ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it’s only natural for all of us to compare our bodies with others! women are the same about there bodies with other women but it would be boring if we were all the same I think it’s all part of the fun to try something different meaning different shapes & sizes |
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By *andm93 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I think it’s only natural for all of us to compare our bodies with others! women are the same about there bodies with other women but it would be boring if we were all the same I think it’s all part of the fun to try something different meaning different shapes & sizes "
That's a really good way of putting it tbh! Thankyou |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it’s only natural for all of us to compare our bodies with others! women are the same about there bodies with other women but it would be boring if we were all the same I think it’s all part of the fun to try something different meaning different shapes & sizes "
This.
The gf is the same in regards to other woman's breasts. She worries that if I get to play with another woman with big breasts, that i’ll Enjoy them more. I just reassure her as she does me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey guys it's Mr M here,
My wife and I are quite new to swinging we've been toying with the idea for over a year, we had our first meet a week ago, that went terrible (just wrong type of people)
We have started chatting to a few couples there both our types, I just have a really bad insecurity in my gentleman area! Check our page and give me a review of you like! But I am a little worried about what happens when we encounter a man with much larger cock than mine! And the few couples were chatting to the males bar 1 have bigger penis's than me!
My wife always says to me my penis is amazing and it's a good size! And that, she also said if I feel this way maybe we shouldn't start swinging properly... I'd love to hear from you guys! "
I think we all have insecurities of one kind or the other when we start. They do fade away though over time.
My husband has erectile dysfunction and was afraid at the beginning that I'll leave him for someone we'll meet during swinging. He failed to see that if I was to leave him for someone with a hard cock it wouldn't matter whether we swing or not.
After being on the swinging scene for over a year he's finally at peace as I haven't run off and have no intention to.
I think you just need some time to see the size truly doesn't matter to her. |
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All men are conscious of their cock size. And when planning to meet another couple it's uppermost in his mind. Its not so much the size, but the belief that bigger is better, and your Missus will prefer the other guy simply because he has a bigger cock. We'll, she has chosen you for all sorts of reasons, and cock size was way down on her list. One way of getting around the issue I'd to openly chat to the other guy about it, and have a laugh about your cocks! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"All men are conscious of their cock size. And when planning to meet another couple it's uppermost in his mind. Its not so much the size, but the belief that bigger is better, and your Missus will prefer the other guy simply because he has a bigger cock. We'll, she has chosen you for all sorts of reasons, and cock size was way down on her list. One way of getting around the issue I'd to openly chat to the other guy about it, and have a laugh about your cocks! "
I disagree that all men are self-conscious of their cock size, if that was what you meant, I'm not of mine, it's my cock, I've had it for 54 years and there's nothing I can do about it so it's size doesn't bother me in the slightest.
I agree with most of the rest of what you have said though, some men do believe bigger is better, which is rubbish, sex isn't about size, or even ability, it's about finding people you are sexually matched with and just because a guy has a bigger cock, or can bang all night, doesn't mean he's necessarily matched to all women.
OP a lot of guys worry about size, but for starters yours doesn't look particularly small - what you also have to remember is we're all different shapes and sizes, it's what makes us interesting as individuals, you can't do anything to change your size anyway, short of very drastic and unproven surgery, so is best to try and accept yours as it stands (pun intended ) and not compare to others. |
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As part of a couple with my ex, around 18 months ago, we went to meet a couple and my heart sank. She was so slim and trim, had lost a fair bit of weight from her pics, and I'm size 16 with a mum bod.
We had the best time, and they became a regular meet, five minutes in and I stopped worrying about my size.
My advice, don't worry, everyone is different, just have fun, don't think about size, doesn't lead to better sex, your pics are great by the way |
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"Hey guys it's Mr M here,
My wife and I are quite new to swinging we've been toying with the idea for over a year, we had our first meet a week ago, that went terrible (just wrong type of people)
We have started chatting to a few couples there both our types, I just have a really bad insecurity in my gentleman area! Check our page and give me a review of you like! But I am a little worried about what happens when we encounter a man with much larger cock than mine! And the few couples were chatting to the males bar 1 have bigger penis's than me!
My wife always says to me my penis is amazing and it's a good size! And that, she also said if I feel this way maybe we shouldn't start swinging properly... I'd love to hear from you guys! "
Surely you discuss that before the meet if you're unsure ?
I can't see that it really matters unless the other couple stipulate that they want a guy with a big cock and you lie about it
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"Hey guys it's Mr M here,
My wife and I are quite new to swinging we've been toying with the idea for over a year, we had our first meet a week ago, that went terrible (just wrong type of people)
We have started chatting to a few couples there both our types, I just have a really bad insecurity in my gentleman area! Check our page and give me a review of you like! But I am a little worried about what happens when we encounter a man with much larger cock than mine! And the few couples were chatting to the males bar 1 have bigger penis's than me!
My wife always says to me my penis is amazing and it's a good size! And that, she also said if I feel this way maybe we shouldn't start swinging properly... I'd love to hear from you guys! "
hi it looks a good size to me about my size we always used to ,if there was a bigger guy we would always do DP the bigger guy lay on is back my wife then lay on him and looking up to the ceiling and you enter from the front always works but not the other way around |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
Lancashire |
I used to worry about the size of mine but less so now. If your good with your tongue and good with your fingers, passionate, and sensual and love to give a woman pleasure, that means more to a lot of women than a big cock that's going to Jack hammer them for 10 minutes then run out of steam.
I dont have over 220 veris because of the size of my cock, I do have them because I'm friendly, good personality, and also other things that I bring to the table like a bag of toys 
Dunt get me wrong, some women are size Queens but most aren't xx
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There was a scene in the old TV series Ally McBeal where a woman is asked what size she needs to be pleasured, and she shows about two inches of her finger.
Penis size is way more important to men's egos than reality, just like breast size can be for women.
Fab will give you the wrong impression as there are profiles clearly stating they will only meet with size x inches but this does not apply to the majority of people. The enjoyment in swinging is the novelty and the enjoyment of having sex with a different partner. It should not be about comparing you with another man. If cock size was that important to her you would not be together. |
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Cookiekitten posted a great analogy that is relevant to this:
"Jump into a strange car and take it round a track. I can pretty much guarantee the owner will post a better time than you."
In other words don't worry about it.
Some posted above that all men are worried about the size of their cock but that is complete rubbish. Some of us don't give a shit! |
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I've been to parties, and have noticed that other gentleman are blessed in the trouser department.
I'd describe myself as on the larger side of average, but still average.
I've had plenty of fun, especially in situations such as DP & anal, where being very well endowed would be too much of a good thing.
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I always worry about my size.Compared to most on here I would say I was quite small.But what we have is a mental attraction as well as a physical one.What I lack in size I make up for in pleasuring her in other ways.
Don't worry about what you have,just enjoy what you do. |
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By *histlerMan
over a year ago
Guildford |
I wouldn’t worry. You wife is saying she’s happy so that’s all that matters.
I met a couple a little while back and ended up making her scream from a position I got her into. Afterwards her partner said that he hadn’t seen her like that before and wondered if he was doing something wrong lol. We had a laugh about it. In the end it comes down to new experiences and always learning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Look why worry about size, it’s about having fun you got what you got some have bigger cocks than others so what, most women enjoy the kissing and the touching and plenty of foreplay and oral, most woman orgasm though oral than anything else and that a true fact, so stop worrying about size and enjoy yourselves. Unless you got a very very small cock |
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I think the whole taboo around big black cocks has caused many men to question the size of their penis. The amount of adverts where the woman wants a big cock... They must have a lot that needs filling then in my view.
It's not all about having a huge cock and ramming the living day lights out of a woman. The social and connection side makes a meet in my view.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They must have a lot that needs filling then in my view."
The female anatomy doesn’t work like that.
Some women are probably looking for big cocks because they like the look, like a challenge or like the feeling of being “full”.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can I be completely honest. When i started swinging i worried about the size of my dick. I ain't huge but average. The more I've been with woman and couples it hasn't been an issue. God I've even cum really quick at a meet which thankfully they were ok with and played till I got hard again. Just be confident with what you have and enjoy it. By the way looks alright to me. |
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"As part of a couple with my ex, around 18 months ago, we went to meet a couple and my heart sank. She was so slim and trim, had lost a fair bit of weight from her pics, and I'm size 16 with a mum bod.
We had the best time, and they became a regular meet, five minutes in and I stopped worrying about my size. ,,,
My advice, don't worry, everyone is different, just have fun, don't think about size, doesn't lead to better sex, your pics are great by the way "
Whats a " mum bod? Im a mum i dont have the same shape or size as other mums... |
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OP.
If you meet the right people then size shouldn't ever be an issue. That applies to body and cock size.
We have been swinging for several years now, and have met very few guys with cocks as large or larger than Cal.
We are looking for extra experiences with others, not big cocks and have had lots of fun meets over the years.
Be happy with what you have and enjoy what the scene has to offer.
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When I was in my twenties/thirties there was a fairly common saying that anything more than 4 inches was a waste, as all of the really important areas for a lady are located in that first four inches. Double that and you are running the risk of banging THE head against what appears to be a wall. |
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guys are always asking me to put together a bi mmf session. I refuse, because they then start with;
- what size are they
- what build are they
- hairy chest?
- smooth, trimmed, hairy?
- hair length
Oh ffs, pick your own!!!! A cock is a cock to me!!! |
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Size matters in regards to sex despite people that say it doesn’t .
It’s not the end of the world having a tiny cock
There are plenty of jobs still on offer
But be proud and give your partner the choice. |
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By *andm93 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Size matters in regards to sex despite people that say it doesn’t .
It’s not the end of the world having a tiny cock
There are plenty of jobs still on offer
But be proud and give your partner the choice."
Wow wouldn't say it was tiny lol! |
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"When I was in my twenties/thirties there was a fairly common saying that anything more than 4 inches was a waste, as all of the really important areas for a lady are located in that first four inches. Double that and you are running the risk of banging THE head against what appears to be a wall."
I’d very strongly disagree with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am afraid you are...enjoy the moments and by all means admire the cock(s) you encounter.. There are some magnificent specimens that you both could enjoy... |
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Think of it as woman in terms of cake... most of the time they will be really happy with an average slice.
Occasionally they want a massive piece as a treat, but certainly not an everyday day occurrence.
This is how it was explained to me; average dicks are great, but a 9 incher loses its appeal when it’s rupturing a spleen at an unexpected 4am wake up lol |
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"As part of a couple with my ex, around 18 months ago, we went to meet a couple and my heart sank. She was so slim and trim, had lost a fair bit of weight from her pics, and I'm size 16 with a mum bod.
We had the best time, and they became a regular meet, five minutes in and I stopped worrying about my size. ,,,
My advice, don't worry, everyone is different, just have fun, don't think about size, doesn't lead to better sex, your pics are great by the way Whats a " mum bod? Im a mum i dont have the same shape or size as other mums..."
I guess its a way I describe my tummy, stretch marks etc to make myself feel better after years of being called fat! Of course I know not all mums have similar bodies but don't rob me of my euphemism! |
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"women are sexualy aroused through the brain , were men its visual , its a bigger brain men need not a Cock ??
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Not true
When I was single you could talk or laugh me into bed, now I’m happily married & just here for a bit of extra fun I’m all about the cock and what it looks like & the size most definitely does matter & I look for ones a similar size to MrB or bigger
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You look like you are smuggling a banana, hardly small!
You just need to get over your insecurity, no two guys are going to be the same size, isn't part of the fun just having someone new in the mix?
A lot of guys exaggerate about size, and women don't always find it comfortable having sex with a large cock. |
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