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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want? |
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Also, "why are they here if they just delete your message"?
There's nothing in the Fab terms that say that I'm obliged to reply to anyone. I could be here to look at pictures, talk on the forum, meet women or couples. Because it seemed like a good idea.
The idea that we should leave because we don't respond to certain people's messages is absurd. Again, we're our own people with our own desires using the site in our own way. |
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If you read the FAQ as you should when joing the site, it has the following for your question;
There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here? |
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Its really simple. Single women (and couples) who have single men unblocked will get inundated with messages. It would be a full time job and then some to reply to them all. People shouldn't feel obliged to respond. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?"
Of course you can write a bespoke message. Introduce yourself, be polite, ask some questions. If they don't reply after that effort then they don't want to speak to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mate your asking the million dollar question all us blokes want the answer to even my Mrs I can just go shop and get the wrong thing don't worry your little head about the female specious all the scientists in the world will never understand the woman's mind haha |
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"Mate your asking the million dollar question all us blokes want the answer to even my Mrs I can just go shop and get the wrong thing don't worry your little head about the female specious all the scientists in the world will never understand the woman's mind haha "
We're people. Just like you.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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what gets me is the sense of entitlement on here he/she getting this n that on here i should be getting the same erm no.... but ultimately its the numbers game men out number the women by ? x 5 ?? x 10 ?? sometimes feels like x 100.
i also see often on profiles .. ill fuck/meet anyone/anything .. and apart from beards thats my biggest turn off everyone should have a preference / attraction i could never be so desperate to fuck anything anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"oh and another thing is that sense that all us women are the same/want the same ie the one message fits all  "
So not all women on here are here for sex.....? |
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"oh and another thing is that sense that all us women are the same/want the same ie the one message fits all
So not all women on here are here for sex.....?"
Some are meeting, some are here for the social side.
Some aren't meeting men.
We're all individuals! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who knows what they want......
On here the same as men I'd expect...but no it's like a social site first....sex later...."
wrong thats what you assume im here for sex i dont do socials nor do the massive number of women that dont frequent the forums .... very very small amount of people use the forums so as such the forums should never be the mirror for the site as a whole |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"oh and another thing is that sense that all us women are the same/want the same ie the one message fits all
So not all women on here are here for sex.....?"
Yes but they can afford to be picky |
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"Who knows what they want......
On here the same as men I'd expect...but no it's like a social site first....sex later...."
I want to make sure that the person I'm talking to isn't psycho, and vaguely gives a shit about me, before I go somewhere private and give them access to my vulnerable naked body. I want to go home at the end of the night, not to the hospital or the police. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Us men just have to be patient and enjoy time spent on here.....so far I have had non replies....deleted....and some replies....chatted to a couple of ladies but not met them....keep on going....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who knows what they want......
On here the same as men I'd expect...but no it's like a social site first....sex later....
I want to make sure that the person I'm talking to isn't psycho, and vaguely gives a shit about me, before I go somewhere private and give them access to my vulnerable naked body. I want to go home at the end of the night, not to the hospital or the police. "
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No one wants your dick mate! No one seems to want mine either but fuck it let’s be respectful and allow people the choice to ignore you!
If you approached someone in a night out and they turned their back would you kick off and moan? Probs not ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?"
If they delete or read and delete.they aren't into you |
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"No one wants your dick mate! No one seems to want mine either but fuck it let’s be respectful and allow people the choice to ignore you!
If you approached someone in a night out and they turned their back would you kick off and moan? Probs not ! "
Maybe relying on the Internet for a sex life is not your best bet? |
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"oh and another thing is that sense that all us women are the same/want the same ie the one message fits all
So not all women on here are here for sex.....?"
Some women are nowhere specifically for sex. Sex just happens but is not something we need to go to a specific place for.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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- 6'3" (Minimum)
- A body to put the Rock to shame.
- A foot long, girthy cock.
- Smoldering good looks.
- A strong jawline with a healthy beard.
- Funny.
- Assertive.
- Always free to meet.
- Lives next door.
It's a short list, shouldn't be too hard to sort out |
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"I'm occasionally told to get off the site if I'm going to ignore or dismiss men. It's in equal parts funny and annoying. "
It is, isn’t it. It is that self-entitlement that we men have been brought up with.
Everyone has the right to decide who they respond to or if ignore. There should be no explanation whatsoever for it.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i want a dom sexy woman but they are gold dust these days maybe i should start crying and throwing my toys out the pram ..... but no i just eat cake instead  |
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?
Agreed
Of course you can write a bespoke message. Introduce yourself, be polite, ask some questions. If they don't reply after that effort then they don't want to speak to you. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?"
In that instance I wouldn't have a clue what they wanted. I wouldn't find out either as anyone with little more than "message me" in their profile I'd assume that if they weren't on a wind up then they'd be absolutely dull as dishwater and have fuck all in the way of imagination and/or thinking power. Which wouldn't be attractive to me in the slightest.
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"Who knows what they want......
On here the same as men I'd expect...but no it's like a social site first....sex later....
I want to make sure that the person I'm talking to isn't psycho, and vaguely gives a shit about me, before I go somewhere private and give them access to my vulnerable naked body. I want to go home at the end of the night, not to the hospital or the police. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm on fab to meet men I find interesting. I'm on fab to reply to messages which I find might lead to a chat and a possible meet.
I'm not on fab to reply to every single message and definitely not to meet everyone who wants to meet me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?"
Why can't you right a bespoke message? Just need to use some imagination |
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"No one wants your dick mate! No one seems to want mine either but fuck it let’s be respectful and allow people the choice to ignore you!
If you approached someone in a night out and they turned their back would you kick off and moan? Probs not !
Maybe relying on the Internet for a sex life is not your best bet? "
But what would I do with all my free time? Ha ha ha
I don’t rely on it! Was merely pointing out that the op shouldn’t be offended by lack of replies while maintaining some degree or respect for people who choose to ignore him |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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I think alot of men forget, this isn't a sex site, it's a swinging site, swinging is more a lifestyle choice than a quick shag.
While there are women on here that just want a quickie, alot of women want to meet someone for an ongoing fb or fwb situation or, shock horror, a relationship!
If more men stopped thinking with their dicks and started treating women like people instead of convenient holes to dump their load into, more men would get responses to messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think alot of men forget, this isn't a sex site, it's a swinging site, swinging is more a lifestyle choice than a quick shag.
While there are women on here that just want a quickie, alot of women want to meet someone for an ongoing fb or fwb situation or, shock horror, a relationship!
If more men stopped thinking with their dicks and started treating women like people instead of convenient holes to dump their load into, more men would get responses to messages. "
i see this different it is a sex site but a swinging sex site after all swinging is not swinging with out sex also most of the single women and couples on fab that do not come into the forums very much or at all see this as a sex site and are here for the sex when you think the forums cover a smidge of the site it way out numbers the fb fwb and want dates type meets.
the forums are definitely not a reflection of the majority of fab hence why most dont come into the forums.
and before i get shot down i prefer the fab of today and the bigger mix of people make swing more fun and open and the best bit is all the extra scenes that now exist.
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I think alot of men forget, this isn't a sex site, it's a swinging site, swinging is more a lifestyle choice than a quick shag.
While there are women on here that just want a quickie, alot of women want to meet someone for an ongoing fb or fwb situation or, shock horror, a relationship!
If more men stopped thinking with their dicks and started treating women like people instead of convenient holes to dump their load into, more men would get responses to messages.
i see this different it is a sex site but a swinging sex site after all swinging is not swinging with out sex also most of the single women and couples on fab that do not come into the forums very much or at all see this as a sex site and are here for the sex when you think the forums cover a smidge of the site it way out numbers the fb fwb and want dates type meets.
the forums are definitely not a reflection of the majority of fab hence why most dont come into the forums.
and before i get shot down i prefer the fab of today and the bigger mix of people make swing more fun and open and the best bit is all the extra scenes that now exist.
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I know loads of women who don't use the forums that don't just want a bloke using them for a quick shag which is what alot of men seem to think is what the site is all about. I honestly don't believe most single women on fab just want to meet for one off sex with random men that message them. |
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"oh and another thing is that sense that all us women are the same/want the same ie the one message fits all
So not all women on here are here for sex.....?"
Im not here for sex, im here for the social side and the forums. I very very rarely meet for sex. 2 times in the last year. Thankfully since i have become a bitch on my profile i havent been inundated with messages. I feel so sorry for the people who are getting hundreds of messages a day! |
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?"
Don't message someone who has "...little more than message me in the profile..."
If they can't be bothered to write a profile surely this tells it's own story. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?"
If you work out what women want, write a book.
I promise youll be a billionaire.
And 60% of your buyers will be female.
Then work out men.
The book will be much shorter, and 80% of your buyers will be female! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?
If you work out what women want, write a book.
I promise youll be a billionaire.
And 60% of your buyers will be female.
Then work out men.
The book will be much shorter, and 80% of your buyers will be female!"
This. Women tend to want the whole package when it comes to sex, whereas few men would seek this all the time, most will be happy with a few requirements met and some would shag anything that moves, depending on their arousal levels.
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By *iss-louWoman
over a year ago
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?"
Ok youre local to me and Ill be honest. Why be here if Ill delete your message?
Firstly women dont exist for you.. or any man. They are here, looking for whatever it is they are looking for.. that will be different for every woman.
Secondly if you messaged me I would check your profile and immediately I can see I dont find you visually appealing. If I dont fancy someone its not going to go any further. So Id just delete your message, if you (or any man) continued to message saying "Oh so am I not good enough" etc I just block them.
Its absolutely nothing personal and I dont understand why men treat it as if it is...women hwre get loads of messages every day and I dont have the time or energy to reply to them all... Ill only chat with men who fulfil what Im after.
So why are women here if we delete messages? Its very very simple if you think about it? |
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?
Ok youre local to me and Ill be honest. Why be here if Ill delete your message?
Firstly women dont exist for you.. or any man. They are here, looking for whatever it is they are looking for.. that will be different for every woman.
Secondly if you messaged me I would check your profile and immediately I can see I dont find you visually appealing. If I dont fancy someone its not going to go any further. So Id just delete your message, if you (or any man) continued to message saying "Oh so am I not good enough" etc I just block them.
Its absolutely nothing personal and I dont understand why men treat it as if it is...women hwre get loads of messages every day and I dont have the time or energy to reply to them all... Ill only chat with men who fulfil what Im after.
So why are women here if we delete messages? Its very very simple if you think about it? "
It requires understanding that we're our own people with our own desires. |
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Would you expect every woman in the real world to be interested in your advances and if she wasn’t would you get upset by it? Treat this the same with the addition that most women on here are getting bombarded by messages by blokes just trying there luck for a quick shag. |
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By *iss-louWoman
over a year ago
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It requires understanding that we're our own people with our own desires. "
If you check his profile hes been here 11 months and has 6 veris...more than A LOT of single men have on here...
Im confused. Are we all meant to fall at his feet or something?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think they just want a guy to show them a little respect in regards to reading what’s in the profile and to also understanding if they aren’t interested then they aren’t interested we all have different kinks and things we find attractive or unattractive, turn offs and turn ons, I know we all complain about this place from time to time but it’s also the beauty of it |
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It requires understanding that we're our own people with our own desires.
If you check his profile hes been here 11 months and has 6 veris...more than A LOT of single men have on here...
Im confused. Are we all meant to fall at his feet or something? "
It's a sex site innit. Make with the sex, bitches! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Or is it a woman will want any of a thousand things!
I love women. Lots of women in all sizes for various reasons. A sexy look. nice dress. Perfume, voice,mannerisms. Who knows the end to that. To be absolutely honest I'd love to have sex with all females on this earth. Prety much.
Isn't it so true men love sex. So why don't women
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"Or is it a woman will want any of a thousand things!
I love women. Lots of women in all sizes for various reasons. A sexy look. nice dress. Perfume, voice,mannerisms. Who knows the end to that. To be absolutely honest I'd love to have sex with all females on this earth. Prety much.
Isn't it so true men love sex. So why don't women
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Err... Lots of women love sex. |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
We blocked single men because we used to get endless messages of... Meet now. Wanna fuck? She's hot (couples profile be respectful). Why haven't you messaged me back? And our personal favourite a guy who messaged us every day for three weeks inviting us dogging!! |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
Beyond the shadows. |
"What do single women here really want?"
To wave their hands in the air like they just don't care?
I on the other hand am here for the cake. Ladies any of you got any cake for me? |
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"oh and another thing is that sense that all us women are the same/want the same ie the one message fits all
So not all women on here are here for sex.....?"
Yes. I know some women on here who only joined to use the chat rooms. I know some women who only joined to have sexy chat one on one chats with guys. I know some women who only joined to use the forums. Why people joined fab and how they use this website is up to them. There is no rule that says if you join fab you have to meet people. |
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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago
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Mate only a small percentage of women on this site are really single and thats probably less than 5%.The others portraying to be are in relationships,or are on to catch fb,s out.So with thousands of guys on here and very few genuine single women so chances of fun very very very slim
far easier on pof. |
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?"
I am sure I will get called a white knight in shining armour for this but so be it.
I think women want
To be wooed.
To be treated with respect.
To feel genuinely desired and not have you just blow smoke up their arse with false compliments that you hope will get you into her knickers.
To be treated as a unique individual that we all are.
For you to have read their profile fully and be what they are looking for.
To not receive a copy and paste message you have sent to hundreds of women.
To be enticed into getting to know you.
For you to stand out from the thousands of other guys.
For you to entice and woo them into meeting you.
For you not to be expecting an instant shag.
If you do meet, for you to not be selfish in bed and think of your own needs.
To not feel like you have a sense of entitlement.
for you to spend time getting to know her and find out what makes her laugh, what she enjoys doing outside of fab life, what her interests are, etc. For you to get to know her as the unique individual she is.
To not receive a message saying I am in your town or city on business fancy meeting me? To not feel like a free prostitute.
Just because this is a swingers website does not mean it is called ifuckanymanwhoasksme.com. What's wrong with trying to woo the woman? What's wrong with spending time getting to know the woman? What's wrong with givng her respect? Etc. |
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?
I am sure I will get called a white knight in shining armour for this but so be it.
I think women want
To be wooed.
To be treated with respect.
To feel genuinely desired and not have you just blow smoke up their arse with false compliments that you hope will get you into her knickers.
To be treated as a unique individual that we all are.
For you to have read their profile fully and be what they are looking for.
To not receive a copy and paste message you have sent to hundreds of women.
To be enticed into getting to know you.
For you to stand out from the thousands of other guys.
For you to entice and woo them into meeting you.
For you not to be expecting an instant shag.
If you do meet, for you to not be selfish in bed and think of your own needs.
To not feel like you have a sense of entitlement.
for you to spend time getting to know her and find out what makes her laugh, what she enjoys doing outside of fab life, what her interests are, etc. For you to get to know her as the unique individual she is.
To not receive a message saying I am in your town or city on business fancy meeting me? To not feel like a free prostitute.
Just because this is a swingers website does not mean it is called ifuckanymanwhoasksme.com. What's wrong with trying to woo the woman? What's wrong with spending time getting to know the woman? What's wrong with givng her respect? Etc. "
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?
I am sure I will get called a white knight in shining armour for this but so be it.
I think women want
To be wooed.
To be treated with respect.
To feel genuinely desired and not have you just blow smoke up their arse with false compliments that you hope will get you into her knickers.
To be treated as a unique individual that we all are.
For you to have read their profile fully and be what they are looking for.
To not receive a copy and paste message you have sent to hundreds of women.
To be enticed into getting to know you.
For you to stand out from the thousands of other guys.
For you to entice and woo them into meeting you.
For you not to be expecting an instant shag.
If you do meet, for you to not be selfish in bed and think of your own needs.
To not feel like you have a sense of entitlement.
for you to spend time getting to know her and find out what makes her laugh, what she enjoys doing outside of fab life, what her interests are, etc. For you to get to know her as the unique individual she is.
To not receive a message saying I am in your town or city on business fancy meeting me? To not feel like a free prostitute.
Just because this is a swingers website does not mean it is called ifuckanymanwhoasksme.com. What's wrong with trying to woo the woman? What's wrong with spending time getting to know the woman? What's wrong with givng her respect? Etc. "
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?
I am sure I will get called a white knight in shining armour for this but so be it.
I think women want
To be wooed.
To be treated with respect.
To feel genuinely desired and not have you just blow smoke up their arse with false compliments that you hope will get you into her knickers.
To be treated as a unique individual that we all are.
For you to have read their profile fully and be what they are looking for.
To not receive a copy and paste message you have sent to hundreds of women.
To be enticed into getting to know you.
For you to stand out from the thousands of other guys.
For you to entice and woo them into meeting you.
For you not to be expecting an instant shag.
If you do meet, for you to not be selfish in bed and think of your own needs.
To not feel like you have a sense of entitlement.
for you to spend time getting to know her and find out what makes her laugh, what she enjoys doing outside of fab life, what her interests are, etc. For you to get to know her as the unique individual she is.
To not receive a message saying I am in your town or city on business fancy meeting me? To not feel like a free prostitute.
Just because this is a swingers website does not mean it is called ifuckanymanwhoasksme.com. What's wrong with trying to woo the woman? What's wrong with spending time getting to know the woman? What's wrong with givng her respect? Etc.
Omg... this! This is what i want! "
I totally agree x |
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"I think alot of men forget, this isn't a sex site, it's a swinging site, swinging is more a lifestyle choice than a quick shag.
While there are women on here that just want a quickie, alot of women want to meet someone for an ongoing fb or fwb situation or, shock horror, a relationship!
If more men stopped thinking with their dicks and started treating women like people instead of convenient holes to dump their load into, more men would get responses to messages.
i see this different it is a sex site but a swinging sex site after all swinging is not swinging with out sex also most of the single women and couples on fab that do not come into the forums very much or at all see this as a sex site and are here for the sex when you think the forums cover a smidge of the site it way out numbers the fb fwb and want dates type meets.
the forums are definitely not a reflection of the majority of fab hence why most dont come into the forums.
and before i get shot down i prefer the fab of today and the bigger mix of people make swing more fun and open and the best bit is all the extra scenes that now exist.
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as a single woman I very rarely write in the forums when I do a lot of single guys think it's an open invitation to message me |
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"Or is it a woman will want any of a thousand things!
I love women. Lots of women in all sizes for various reasons. A sexy look. nice dress. Perfume, voice,mannerisms. Who knows the end to that. To be absolutely honest I'd love to have sex with all females on this earth. Prety much.
Isn't it so true men love sex. So why don't women
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Women love sex. Sex and not a fumble with a complete stranger they are not even attracted to. |
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single guys often get a bad rep on fab, and mostly with good reason, we meet single guys, but the amount of messages we get from people who havnt read our profile if unbelievable, we only meet the ones who stand out |
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By *iss-louWoman
over a year ago
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?
I am sure I will get called a white knight in shining armour for this but so be it.
I think women want
To be wooed.
To be treated with respect.
To feel genuinely desired and not have you just blow smoke up their arse with false compliments that you hope will get you into her knickers.
To be treated as a unique individual that we all are.
For you to have read their profile fully and be what they are looking for.
To not receive a copy and paste message you have sent to hundreds of women.
To be enticed into getting to know you.
For you to stand out from the thousands of other guys.
For you to entice and woo them into meeting you.
For you not to be expecting an instant shag.
If you do meet, for you to not be selfish in bed and think of your own needs.
To not feel like you have a sense of entitlement.
for you to spend time getting to know her and find out what makes her laugh, what she enjoys doing outside of fab life, what her interests are, etc. For you to get to know her as the unique individual she is.
To not receive a message saying I am in your town or city on business fancy meeting me? To not feel like a free prostitute.
Just because this is a swingers website does not mean it is called ifuckanymanwhoasksme.com. What's wrong with trying to woo the woman? What's wrong with spending time getting to know the woman? What's wrong with givng her respect? Etc. "
Absolutely this.... too many men treat women on here as free prostitutes.
Most women on here dont just want to be a hole for a shag...sadly an awful lot of men think women here are "up for it" with anyone or should be because they are here.
To stand out takes work and the sexy guys here are the ones who put the effort in |
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I feel your pain buddy,we often go to clubs and its like people have come to watch, i get loads of attention and my hubby is often lonesome ! Makes you wonder why some couples particularly are doing it x |
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By *iss-louWoman
over a year ago
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"I feel your pain buddy,we often go to clubs and its like people have come to watch, i get loads of attention and my hubby is often lonesome ! Makes you wonder why some couples particularly are doing it x"
For some couples thats the dynamic..
Im a lucky girl.. my favourite playmate is developing into a relationship (not counting my chickens) and hes a cuck..
He loves knowing Im getting male attention |
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Knowing what a woman wants from a man's perspective is a dangerous mystery. Any answers you give maybe seen to be inflammatory. It is a question that all men must avoid at all cost. If only I had telepathic abilities I would probably be the most successful beautiful human being living on planet Earth.
I have more chance of seeing my foreskin grow back, then know what a women really wants. |
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?"
I totally get your frustration.
Let me turn this around though OP. If the ladies you message don’t have anything on their profile, why are you even bothering to message?? Why not focus on the ones you actually have an attraction to and that have stirred that attraction from the write up of their profile??
Niki xx |
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"Knowing what a woman wants from a man's perspective is a dangerous mystery. Any answers you give maybe seen to be inflammatory. It is a question that all men must avoid at all cost. If only I had telepathic abilities I would probably be the most successful beautiful human being living on planet Earth.
I have more chance of seeing my foreskin grow back, then know what a women really wants. "
You're incapable of asking? |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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I can only speak for myself as bizarrely we all want different things.... go figure!
I mostly spend time on the forums, check friends and hotlist updates. I do meet people, but I already have an fwb and an active social and family life. Plus I work, so again bizarrely I don’t get that much time for new meets. One every 2 to 3 months maybe.
I am looking for top quality filthy fuckers basically.... Because I can..... and I am worth it
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"Knowing what a woman wants from a man's perspective is a dangerous mystery. Any answers you give maybe seen to be inflammatory. It is a question that all men must avoid at all cost. If only I had telepathic abilities I would probably be the most successful beautiful human being living on planet Earth.
I have more chance of seeing my foreskin grow back, then know what a women really wants.
You're incapable of asking? "
oh lady please: it's just banter darling. |
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"Knowing what a woman wants from a man's perspective is a dangerous mystery. Any answers you give maybe seen to be inflammatory. It is a question that all men must avoid at all cost. If only I had telepathic abilities I would probably be the most successful beautiful human being living on planet Earth.
I have more chance of seeing my foreskin grow back, then know what a women really wants.
You're incapable of asking?
oh lady please: it's just banter darling. "
It's gross. |
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"I feel your pain buddy,we often go to clubs and its like people have come to watch, i get loads of attention and my hubby is often lonesome ! Makes you wonder why some couples particularly are doing it x
For some couples thats the dynamic..
Im a lucky girl.. my favourite playmate is developing into a relationship (not counting my chickens) and hes a cuck..
He loves knowing Im getting male attention"
Yes iv come to see that now, some are just watchers with that being the thrill...i hate being watched when im in a room or gang bang situation but put me on cam and i love it! I feel like im being judged if im watched in a room x |
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By *iss-louWoman
over a year ago
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"I feel your pain buddy,we often go to clubs and its like people have come to watch, i get loads of attention and my hubby is often lonesome ! Makes you wonder why some couples particularly are doing it x
For some couples thats the dynamic..
Im a lucky girl.. my favourite playmate is developing into a relationship (not counting my chickens) and hes a cuck..
He loves knowing Im getting male attention
Yes iv come to see that now, some are just watchers with that being the thrill...i hate being watched when im in a room or gang bang situation but put me on cam and i love it! I feel like im being judged if im watched in a room x "
Interesting! I havent done any group play yet so I dont know if that will be how I feel... i had him stand by the bed and hold my hand... that was hot |
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found it ..went down into the kitchens to see what has been made fresh today and ive come away with one big slice of carrot cake and one big slab of honey oats choc chip flapjack think ill skip dinner lol |
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"found it ..went down into the kitchens to see what has been made fresh today and ive come away with one big slice of carrot cake and one big slab of honey oats choc chip flapjack think ill skip dinner lol "
So, single guys, the answer is - send cake pics not dick pics!!! If you include video of you making it too, you’re home and dry!!! |
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I'd really like a live in nanny. A hot bath with bubbles,all to myself and uninterrupted. A large glass of cold wine. A big bar of galaxy chocolate and a nice massage.... |
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I'd really like a live in nanny. A hot bath with bubbles,all to myself and uninterrupted. A large glass of cold wine. A big bar of galaxy chocolate and a nice massage.... |
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"found it ..went down into the kitchens to see what has been made fresh today and ive come away with one big slice of carrot cake and one big slab of honey oats choc chip flapjack think ill skip dinner lol
So, single guys, the answer is - send cake pics not dick pics!!! If you include video of you making it too, you’re home and dry!!! "
oh perfect |
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"I get that women here are out numbered by men but when you message a profile with little more than message me in the profile why are they here if they just delete your message. As a man you can’t write a bespoke message as nothing there. What do single women here really want?"
Either I should be a god (creator of women or philosopher) afraid I am neither one |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I totally get your frustration.
Let me turn this around though OP. If the ladies you message don’t have anything on their profile, why are you even bothering to message?? Why not focus on the ones you actually have an attraction to and that have stirred that attraction from the write up of their profile??
Niki xx"
Even the ones who stir my attraction with filled out profiles are rude in my area. Most looking for mr perfect but a vast majority of us aren’t that. So starting a conversation is very difficult. Once they respond it’s easy to chat and the ones I have met have left some nice veris. Perhaps I’m being to nice for them. |
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"- 6'3" (Minimum)
- A body to put the Rock to shame.
- A foot long, girthy cock.
- Smoldering good looks.
- A strong jawline with a healthy beard.
- Funny.
- Assertive.
- Always free to meet.
- Lives next door.
It's a short list, shouldn't be too hard to sort out "
My verifications disagree, I'm *none of those.
*possibly funny |
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I want to be able to eat cheese & pizza without putting on weight
I want chocolate to be classed as salad
I want 14 hours sleep a night and a buffet breakfast every morning
I want a holiday somewhere hot & peaceful
Oh, and I really want another kitten. Maybe two |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I totally get your frustration.
Let me turn this around though OP. If the ladies you message don’t have anything on their profile, why are you even bothering to message?? Why not focus on the ones you actually have an attraction to and that have stirred that attraction from the write up of their profile??
Niki xx
Even the ones who stir my attraction with filled out profiles are rude in my area. Most looking for mr perfect but a vast majority of us aren’t that. So starting a conversation is very difficult. Once they respond it’s easy to chat and the ones I have met have left some nice veris. Perhaps I’m being to nice for them. "
Rude in what way? If it's just deleting your message, it's not rude. You obviously aren't stirring their attraction. |
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