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By *yron100 OP Man
over a year ago
Newtown |
I have recently met with an old flame we used to date years ago, now we are both separated and divorced we began seeing one and other and have fantastic sex. I have experience of the swing scene mmf , mmff and would like to introduce this lady to the scene but not sure how to go about it.
I don't want to frighten her off by suddenly putting her in a position or turning up with a guy.
So any advice is welcome if you are in a similar position or were and been successful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Talk to her.
If she doesn’t like the idea, respect that and drop the subject.
DONT just turn up with someone or arrange something. If my husband had even dared to do that, I’d be kicking off. |
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"Talk to her.
If she doesn’t like the idea, respect that and drop the subject.
DONT just turn up with someone or arrange something. If my husband had even dared to do that, I’d be kicking off. "
Totally agree with this |
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"I have recently met with an old flame we used to date years ago, now we are both separated and divorced we began seeing one and other and have fantastic sex. I have experience of the swing scene mmf , mmff and would like to introduce this lady to the scene but not sure how to go about it.
I don't want to frighten her off by suddenly putting her in a position or turning up with a guy.
So any advice is welcome if you are in a similar position or were and been successful. "
Why would you ‘suddenly put her in a position or turn up with a guy’ without discussing it with her first? I don’t get this statement.
At the end of the day it’s her mind and her body, her choice OP...
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"Talk to her.
If she doesn’t like the idea, respect that and drop the subject.
DONT just turn up with someone or arrange something. If my husband had even dared to do that, I’d be kicking off. "
Agree 100% or you'll lose her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have recently met with an old flame we used to date years ago, now we are both separated and divorced we began seeing one and other and have fantastic sex. I have experience of the swing scene mmf , mmff and would like to introduce this lady to the scene but not sure how to go about it.
I don't want to frighten her off by suddenly putting her in a position or turning up with a guy.
So any advice is welcome if you are in a similar position or were and been successful.
Why would you ‘suddenly put her in a position or turn up with a guy’ without discussing it with her first? I don’t get this statement.
At the end of the day it’s her mind and her body, her choice OP...
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It genuinely worries me that some people (not just men) think this would be an okay way to introduce their partner to swinging |
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Have a full, frank and honest discussion (this means listening and talking on both sides) then take things from there.
I'm not sure why you even mentioned not suddenly turning up with another guy, no decent man would do that anyway it doesn't even need mentioning  |
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By *yron100 OP Man
over a year ago
Newtown |
Thanks for advice. No I would never put her or anyone else in an uncomfortable position. My question is how do I introduce the subject or when is the best time. As you can see it is a tricky Subject, wrong word or wrong phrase and your out.
More suggestions welcome |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for advice. No I would never put her or anyone else in an uncomfortable position. My question is how do I introduce the subject or when is the best time. As you can see it is a tricky Subject, wrong word or wrong phrase and your out.
More suggestions welcome"
Well my husband approached the subject when I was putting washing in the washing machine. Worked out for us.
There’s no right or wrong time. Just tell her you’d like to talk to her about something. |
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By *iss-louWoman
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"Thanks for advice. No I would never put her or anyone else in an uncomfortable position. My question is how do I introduce the subject or when is the best time. As you can see it is a tricky Subject, wrong word or wrong phrase and your out.
More suggestions welcome"
I was asked if I would ever consider attending an "adult party" by a guy I dated as he had been to one before...
Didnt end up going to one or even ending up with him
It sparked my interest enough to find out tho |
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Just talk, and keep on suggesting it if you get a slightly negative response, but don't demand.
My ex said "NO" when I suggested it, at first and on later occasions, whereas R said "YES PLEASE!" when I first asked her the same question. Some women will hate the idea, some love it. |
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"Thanks for advice. No I would never put her or anyone else in an uncomfortable position. My question is how do I introduce the subject or when is the best time. As you can see it is a tricky Subject, wrong word or wrong phrase and your out.
More suggestions welcome"
Work on your relationship until such a suggestion or certain words won't trigger the end of it. If you aren't at that stage you aren't ready to swing. |
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"Thanks for advice. No I would never put her or anyone else in an uncomfortable position. My question is how do I introduce the subject or when is the best time. As you can see it is a tricky Subject, wrong word or wrong phrase and your out.
More suggestions welcome
Work on your relationship until such a suggestion or certain words won't trigger the end of it. If you aren't at that stage you aren't ready to swing."
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Are we weird?
When we first met, part of our sexual experiences was not just horizontal grinding, it included lying next to each other and asking each other sexual questions like
What different places you have had sex.
What sex was like with other partners?
Best time, worst time, first kiss, first under t-shirt experience.
Sexual dreams or fantasies.
Sure neither of us confessed to everything on day one, but it opened that dialogue was a part of sex.
I confessed about reading porn magazines, she confessed to a 3 some. It ended up with us reading erotica about group sex.
This then leads to questions about trying it and how we would do it.
We still talk like this. Not every time but sometimes we just like to say what is going through our head as we fuck.
Unless it's the washing or i must paint that spot on the ceiling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Is she aware of you being on this site ?
When i 1st got together with my partner, i showed her another site i was on, let her browse & answered any questions she had. The following day, she sat down & chatted to various swingers & got the understanding of it all.....7 years later we are very active as a couple & its great that ive a partner who also enjoys the lifestyle....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have recently met with an old flame we used to date years ago, now we are both separated and divorced we began seeing one and other and have fantastic sex. I have experience of the swing scene mmf , mmff and would like to introduce this lady to the scene but not sure how to go about it.
I don't want to frighten her off by suddenly putting her in a position or turning up with a guy.
So any advice is welcome if you are in a similar position or were and been successful. "
If you like her don't do it that's my advice lol but hey good luck |
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By *yron100 OP Man
over a year ago
Newtown |
Yes I think this is the best approach. I did have a previous partner a few years ago. It started off normal enough then I asked her would she like a second cock she said yes. We had a few good meets with couples and single guys . Unfortunately she had to move away so that ended that.
More ideas welcome . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I think this is the best approach. I did have a previous partner a few years ago. It started off normal enough then I asked her would she like a second cock she said yes. We had a few good meets with couples and single guys . Unfortunately she had to move away so that ended that.
More ideas welcome ."
The best and only decent ‘idea’ is to talk to her |
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