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New timewaster behaviour

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Noticed a new odd timewaster ploy. We are in the middle of chatting, exchanged face pics etc then they suddenly HIDE THEIR PROFILE for a few weeks !?. Talk about rude. Anyone else witnessed this new annoying trend ?.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Noticed a new odd timewaster ploy. We are in the middle of chatting, exchanged face pics etc then they suddenly HIDE THEIR PROFILE for a few weeks !?. Talk about rude. Anyone else witnessed this new annoying trend ?."
Lots hide their profiles, they maybe got a freaky message from someone or something not great came up in their everyday lives or their phone just packed up etc

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Nope. What's wrong with them taking a break and hiding their profile for a few weeks? It's not time wasting. That's when they don't turn up for an arranged meet. People to have real lives outside of fab where you are way down the list of their priorities. I still talk to people if I hide my profile. Sometimes I not only do this, but also block all new people from messaging too. This way I can take a break and still chat with my friends. I don't see your problem at all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me, real life takes priority over Fabs. All day long. If people take a break, I assume it's because they have more important things going on in their lives. No big deal.

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

You say in a previous thread that you have had 13 cancelled meets in a row and before that 11. Maybe there is something about you that causes meets to timewaste or hide their profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can still email them even if the profile is hidden and they can mail you, Did you know that ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You can still email them even if the profile is hidden and they can mail you, Did you know that ?"

Yes but 9/10 don't reply.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"You can still email them even if the profile is hidden and they can mail you, Did you know that ?

Yes but 9/10 don't reply."

Then take that as a no thanks or they've changed their minds for some reason and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You say in a previous thread that you have had 13 cancelled meets in a row and before that 11. Maybe there is something about you that causes meets to timewaste or hide their profile. "

Lol that's quite negative. Maybe it says something about how many folk behave on this site !, it is certainly worse than it used to be and others mention that in other posts too.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"You can still email them even if the profile is hidden and they can mail you, Did you know that ?

Yes but 9/10 don't reply."

Maybe cos they are looking for a couple and not a single male.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Real life comes before Fab. I hide my profile when things are seriously wrong. I'm sorry that comes before a potential meet!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are they still exchanging messages of just gone off grid?

If they like you, messae you, and don't feel the need to look elsewhere, they may hide their profile to concentrate on you.

Or they are just doing what they want with their profile.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"You can still email them even if the profile is hidden and they can mail you, Did you know that ?

Yes but 9/10 don't reply.

Maybe cos they are looking for a couple and not a single male."

Yes, I just read that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You can still email them even if the profile is hidden and they can mail you, Did you know that ?

Yes but 9/10 don't reply.

Maybe cos they are looking for a couple and not a single male."

Nope, latest one was looking for a male.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

To me time-wasting only comes into it when a meet has been arranged and at that point you're stuffed around. Before that, you take your chances.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"To me time-wasting only comes into it when a meet has been arranged and at that point you're stuffed around. Before that, you take your chances."

I believe not turning up for a meet to be timewasting. Unless I have contact on the day of the meet I don't leave my house. I only meet very locally too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahhh yes and their be your answer if cherry is out of action you're a single male and hence the difficulty of getting replies, you're one of us now my friend a single guy it's not easy ya know

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By *uicylucy19Woman over a year ago

maidstone

My profile is currently hidden. I get too many messages to answer them all, and I’ve got a bit of a stalker situation going on so I’ve blocked him and am taking a break. I’m still talking to people in my inbox and will put my profile back on public when I’m ready. Doesn’t mean I’m fake just means I have a life...

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"You can still email them even if the profile is hidden and they can mail you, Did you know that ?

Yes but 9/10 don't reply.

Maybe cos they are looking for a couple and not a single male.

Nope, latest one was looking for a male."

So if you are only playing as a single male your profile should be a single male.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"To me time-wasting only comes into it when a meet has been arranged and at that point you're stuffed around. Before that, you take your chances.

I believe not turning up for a meet to be timewasting. Unless I have contact on the day of the meet I don't leave my house. I only meet very locally too. "

Yes, that's what I mean, sorry. Not turning up, radically changing terms, etc.

If messages stop... shit happens.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"My profile is currently hidden. I get too many messages to answer them all, and I’ve got a bit of a stalker situation going on so I’ve blocked him and am taking a break. I’m still talking to people in my inbox and will put my profile back on public when I’m ready. Doesn’t mean I’m fake just means I have a life..."

Sorry, to hear this, I've been in a similar situation myself. Feel free to pm if you need a chat. X

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Sorry, to hear this, I've been in a similar situation myself. Feel free to pm if you need a chat. X"

I've hidden mine for reasons including being in hospital awaiting surgery. Shame on me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry, to hear this, I've been in a similar situation myself. Feel free to pm if you need a chat. X"
or pm me my advice is far superior and I have an FaQ's page

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By *uicylucy19Woman over a year ago

maidstone

Thank you x

It’s made me check up and tighten up my social media privacy settings which is probably not a bad thing - but sad I need to feel that way x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ahhh yes and their be your answer if cherry is out of action you're a single male and hence the difficulty of getting replies, you're one of us now my friend a single guy it's not easy ya know

Lol no saw this new trend start before Cherry was out of action.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My profile is hidden because of school holidays. I have kids at home so can't be on here too much and its also nice to have a break.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You can still email them even if the profile is hidden and they can mail you, Did you know that ?

Yes but 9/10 don't reply.

Maybe cos they are looking for a couple and not a single male.

Nope, latest one was looking for a male.

So if you are only playing as a single male your profile should be a single male."

Only a temporary situation and I'm not a single male lol, Cherry will be back in action at some point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you x

It’s made me check up and tighten up my social media privacy settings which is probably not a bad thing - but sad I need to feel that way x"
Lucy it is sad but on a more positive note I saw the film Lucy the other day with scarlett johanson and Morgan Freeman great film

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can still email them even if the profile is hidden and they can mail you, Did you know that ?

Yes but 9/10 don't reply.

Maybe cos they are looking for a couple and not a single male.

Nope, latest one was looking for a male.

So if you are only playing as a single male your profile should be a single male.

Only a temporary situation and I'm not a single male lol, Cherry will be back in action at some point."
Good glad to hear it .........cherryO cherryO baby

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"You can still email them even if the profile is hidden and they can mail you, Did you know that ?

Yes but 9/10 don't reply.

Maybe cos they are looking for a couple and not a single male.

Nope, latest one was looking for a male.

So if you are only playing as a single male your profile should be a single male.

Only a temporary situation and I'm not a single male lol, Cherry will be back in action at some point.Good glad to hear it .........cherryO cherryO baby

Mmmm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can still email them even if the profile is hidden and they can mail you, Did you know that ?

Yes but 9/10 don't reply.

Maybe cos they are looking for a couple and not a single male.

Nope, latest one was looking for a male.

So if you are only playing as a single male your profile should be a single male.

Only a temporary situation and I'm not a single male lol, Cherry will be back in action at some point.Good glad to hear it .........cherryO cherryO baby

Mmmm

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you're on my level are you 42 by any chance?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

That's not time wasting.

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"You're on my level are you 42 by any chance? "

Level pegging ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I may have missed something

What's rude about hiding their profile?

You have already seen it,you been chatting for s few weeks?

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"You say in a previous thread that you have had 13 cancelled meets in a row and before that 11. Maybe there is something about you that causes meets to timewaste or hide their profile.

Lol that's quite negative. Maybe it says something about how many folk behave on this site !, it is certainly worse than it used to be and others mention that in other posts too."

Common denominator in this is you op, if its happening a lot and I'd say 11 and 13 was a lot, change something your selection criteria your checks and balances

If the others have hidden their profile their profile their choice.

Delete( block if you think they're timewasters) move on.

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By *elshsunsWoman over a year ago

Flintshire

Mines hidden at the moment cos I’m in one of those should I leave or stay moods

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"You can still email them even if the profile is hidden and they can mail you, Did you know that ?

Yes but 9/10 don't reply."

It's funny. If a single bloke had written that there'd be a long line of people saying "no reply is no thanks" and it's in the site FaQs.

It's that time of year when the schools are on holiday. I'm expecting a lot of people to hide their profiles for a few weeks.

*life outside of Fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You say in a previous thread that you have had 13 cancelled meets in a row and before that 11. Maybe there is something about you that causes meets to timewaste or hide their profile.

Lol that's quite negative. Maybe it says something about how many folk behave on this site !, it is certainly worse than it used to be and others mention that in other posts too.

Common denominator in this is you op, if its happening a lot and I'd say 11 and 13 was a lot, change something your selection criteria your checks and balances

If the others have hidden their profile their profile their choice.

Delete( block if you think they're timewasters) move on. "

Lol that was a while back, common denominator is the mainstream folk on here. We have manners, our checks and balances are just fine.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"You say in a previous thread that you have had 13 cancelled meets in a row and before that 11. Maybe there is something about you that causes meets to timewaste or hide their profile.

Lol that's quite negative. Maybe it says something about how many folk behave on this site !, it is certainly worse than it used to be and others mention that in other posts too.

Common denominator in this is you op, if its happening a lot and I'd say 11 and 13 was a lot, change something your selection criteria your checks and balances

If the others have hidden their profile their profile their choice.

Delete( block if you think they're timewasters) move on.

Lol that was a while back, common denominator is the mainstream folk on here. We have manners, our checks and balances are just fine."

Your own anecdotal evidence suggests otherwise.

People hiding their profiles are not timewasters.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"You say in a previous thread that you have had 13 cancelled meets in a row and before that 11. Maybe there is something about you that causes meets to timewaste or hide their profile.

Lol that's quite negative. Maybe it says something about how many folk behave on this site !, it is certainly worse than it used to be and others mention that in other posts too.

Common denominator in this is you op, if its happening a lot and I'd say 11 and 13 was a lot, change something your selection criteria your checks and balances

If the others have hidden their profile their profile their choice.

Delete( block if you think they're timewasters) move on.

Lol that was a while back, common denominator is the mainstream folk on here. We have manners, our checks and balances are just fine."

Mainstream folk? What does that even mean?

I love these threads 'so and so doesn't want to meet me, it couldn't possibly be anything to do with me, it's their fault, they must be *insert insult here*'.

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"You say in a previous thread that you have had 13 cancelled meets in a row and before that 11. Maybe there is something about you that causes meets to timewaste or hide their profile.

Lol that's quite negative. Maybe it says something about how many folk behave on this site !, it is certainly worse than it used to be and others mention that in other posts too.

Common denominator in this is you op, if its happening a lot and I'd say 11 and 13 was a lot, change something your selection criteria your checks and balances

If the others have hidden their profile their profile their choice.

Delete( block if you think they're timewasters) move on.

Lol that was a while back, common denominator is the mainstream folk on here. We have manners, our checks and balances are just fine."

Clearly not as people are doing that. Maybe just step back and look at your profile. There might just be something that hindering you or maybe your verifications as some do a paper trail of who they are potentially meeting have met before them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"People hiding their profiles are not timewasters. "

Did I say that ?, no. Read my first post again lol.

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"People hiding their profiles are not timewasters.

Did I say that ?, no. Read my first post again lol."

No you state that it’s a new trend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On a positive note as I am a pretty optimistic person that although it is hard to find peeps amongst all the 1000s and 1000s of profiles on here, there are, 1 or 2 gold nuggets and these are couple's that you gel with and love to play with when the opportunity arises.

Thanks to Fabs and the people that thought of this website for those opportunities. x

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"People hiding their profiles are not timewasters.

Did I say that ?, no. Read my first post again lol.

No you state that it’s a new trend "

Insert see thread title

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"People hiding their profiles are not timewasters.

Did I say that ?, no. Read my first post again lol."

That's actually exactly what you said.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"People hiding their profiles are not timewasters.

Did I say that ?, no. Read my first post again lol."

Er, that's exactly what you said.

Your thread title; "New timewaster behaviour"

From your very first post; "Noticed a new odd timewaster ploy. XXXXXXXXX then they suddenly HIDE THEIR PROFILE XXXXXXXX"

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"People hiding their profiles are not timewasters.

Did I say that ?, no. Read my first post again lol.

Er, that's exactly what you said.

Your thread title; "New timewaster behaviour"

From your very first post; "Noticed a new odd timewaster ploy. XXXXXXXXX then they suddenly HIDE THEIR PROFILE XXXXXXXX"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep do get that on a regular basis chat, flirt, exchange pictures, get wet then no signs of a reply at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That isn’t time wasting?

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By *ollycouple71Couple over a year ago

manchester

"People hiding their profiles are not timewasters.

Did I say that ?, no. Read my first post again lol.

Er, that's exactly what you said.

Your thread title; "New timewaster behaviour"

From your very first post; "Noticed a new odd timewaster ploy. XXXXXXXXX then they suddenly HIDE THEIR PROFILE XXXXXXXX"

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"People hiding their profiles are not timewasters.

Did I say that ?, no. Read my first post again lol."

Yes.....yes you did. Blatantly. Unmistakably that's what you said.

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"You say in a previous thread that you have had 13 cancelled meets in a row and before that 11. Maybe there is something about you that causes meets to timewaste or hide their profile.

Lol that's quite negative. Maybe it says something about how many folk behave on this site !, it is certainly worse than it used to be and others mention that in other posts too.

Common denominator in this is you op, if its happening a lot and I'd say 11 and 13 was a lot, change something your selection criteria your checks and balances

If the others have hidden their profile their profile their choice.

Delete( block if you think they're timewasters) move on.

Lol that was a while back, common denominator is the mainstream folk on here. We have manners, our checks and balances are just fine."

often folk lay the blame for their perceived lack of success at the feet of others when in reality the problem is far closer to home

Hope you find what you seek.

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By *uicylucy19Woman over a year ago

maidstone

Its against the rules for pm contents to be posted..

Ooh I didn’t know that - thank you - at least I have in no way identified the user.

I’ve reported myself lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

Yes we've had those who hide profiles due to having breaks, fed up of the timewasters and fakes here or their kids discover what they're doing lol. They usually tell us beforehand though, consideration and good manners go a long way.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

I think you are answering your own post with your replies.

If someone choses to hide their profile, for whatever reason, that is their choice. They don't have to notify a random single male why. The ability to message is still there. Why they have hidden is nobodies business.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

We can read, we just disagree, nobody owes you an explanation after just a conversation or two. A timewaster is someone who agrees a time and place for a meet then is a no show.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

You say "the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean."

How exactly?

People disagreeing with you, pointing out your own erroneous comments have absolutely nothing to do with timewasters, which is the subject of your thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

I will say it again IT IS NOT TIMEWASTING , hopefully putting it on bold will help it sink in

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

It’s actually possible to still send someone a. message when they’ve hidden their profile, so you could easily just pop them a message and ask if they’re still interested. I wouldn’t take a hidden profile as a sign of timewasting, I’ve hidden mine on a few occasions, either because I wanted a break or because I wasn’t interested in communicating with anyone new. If you had arranged to meet someone and then they had hid their profile and not turned then I would agree with you, but not just after chatting a bit.

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By *elshsunsWoman over a year ago

Flintshire

Those who matter will have my number or other way of contacting me .... maybe real life gets in the way sometimes .... I don’t feel the need to go round explaining why I’m hidden

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, is it the male posting?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"OP, is it the male posting?"

Very probably.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"OP, is it the male posting?"

Based on what the profile says I'd guess yes...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP, is it the male posting?

Based on what the profile says I'd guess yes..."
That was my assumption...

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

OP, you can still chat to a hidden profile. How does not seeing it waste your time?

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple over a year ago

Taunton

"People hiding their profiles are not timewasters.

Did I say that ?, no. Read my first post again lol."

I did. You explicit describe hiding a profile as a time-waster ploy. Then you start arguing the toss with everyone.

To us you come across as a very angry person , and one we'd steer very clear of. It comes as no surprise to me you get a lot of cancellations.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It's clearly stated here in your OP that you class people hiding their profiles as timewasters. You couldn't have been any clearer. A true timewaster is a no show at an arranged meet, not so one who decides for whatever reason, to hide their profile. It's also not rude and it's certainly not a new thing on fab.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Not forgetting hiding a profile doesn't stop the continuance of message exchanges. Only a block stops messaging.

Methinks the threads not going the way the OP thought.....

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
Forum Mod

My Own Little World

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

No one on this thread has given you any attitude.

They are all correct in stating that people can change their mind about replying to messages at any time, they can hide their profiles and this ISN'T time wasting. When a person arranges a meeting and doesn't show or cancel is time wasting.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

OP, to clarify, what would NOT wasting your time look like then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not forgetting hiding a profile doesn't stop the continuance of message exchanges. Only a block stops messaging.

Methinks the threads not going the way the OP thought....."

Lol you could say that again. Many false assumptions being made, some clearly can't read, others just have a clearly bad attitude.

We know you can still message yet they don't in general, don't read our last message etc. We've been here a long time and seen all kinds of fakes, pic collectors and timewasters. This is a new one on us (last one hid their profile after I asked to see photos as none at all on their profile). Yes in most cases a lot of time wasted chatting before the profile hide. It's obviously not personal as not a block and also stops all others finding them.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Not forgetting hiding a profile doesn't stop the continuance of message exchanges. Only a block stops messaging.

Methinks the threads not going the way the OP thought.....

Lol you could say that again. Many false assumptions being made, some clearly can't read, others just have a clearly bad attitude.

If they've decided to stop speaking to you for whatever reason, the likelihood is that it is personal. It still isn't time-wasting though.

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman over a year ago

Pontypridd

The other person hides their profile after swapping face pics. Could just be a no thanks. Given your niche requirements (You’re a single guy, using a couples profile, looking for a woman who is at least 20 years younger than you), I would question how genuine the other people are. If they aren’t recently verified as genuine I would assume they’re fake.

Breaking communication is not time wasting, unless you presumed that chat meant guaranteed action. Time wasting is not showing up for a meet. Chatting is chatting. The two are not the same.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Unless there has been a 'guaranteed' timetable for the progression of interaction between you, then there's nothing that really says 'timewaster', if someone takes things at their own pace. This could include moving things away from Fab, deciding not to pursue things any further with other users etc.

People are at liberty to stop chatting completely at any point, without saying 'thanks, but no thanks' too - and it's reasonable to assume that most interactions that get started won't complete to become an actual meet as well as sex. Others have different ways of managing their situations and communication, as well as very different lifestyles.

It may be that someone has had their hidden fab use at risk of discovery or just that the rest of their life, which is going to be more important, has taken a turn that they didn't foresee.

Timewasters would be those who never had any intention of meeting, people who arrange meets but don't notify you, before they fail to turn-up, etc. We all have to develop our own sensitivity to picking out those who aren't likely to be meeting us.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Not forgetting hiding a profile doesn't stop the continuance of message exchanges. Only a block stops messaging.

Methinks the threads not going the way the OP thought.....

Lol you could say that again. Many false assumptions being made, some clearly can't read, others just have a clearly bad attitude.

I don't think you've read your own post or given a seconds thought to consider everyone who's posted's comments.

Hiding a profile isn't time wasting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can still email them even if the profile is hidden and they can mail you, Did you know that ?

Yes but 9/10 don't reply.

Maybe cos they are looking for a couple and not a single male.

Nope, latest one was looking for a male.

So if you are only playing as a single male your profile should be a single male.

Only a temporary situation and I'm not a single male lol, Cherry will be back in action at some point."

You should have a separate single profile for meeting alone regardless of wether Cherry will be back in action soon or not. You are trying to meet females off the back of your couples verifications.

Charlie and I are not often available together, he takes his chances, on his single profile. x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

WE GOT THAT BIT but it still DOESN'T MAKE THEM TIME WASTERS why don't you get that bit?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What are you accusing people of not reading?? Is there a hidden message in your post OP?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

WE GOT THAT BIT but it still DOESN'T MAKE THEM TIME WASTERS why don't you get that bit?"

CLEARLY NOT!!!

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple over a year ago

Camberley

Yeah experienced it twice recently, very odd people about

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

WE GOT THAT BIT but it still DOESN'T MAKE THEM TIME WASTERS why don't you get that bit?

CLEARLY NOT!!!

TBH if we were in the middle of the conversation and suddenly they just hid there profile without a word, that would be an instant block for us, etiquette and good manners are a prerequisite to meeting us, end of. These people are not time wasters, they are just rude arseholes who you should forget about, after all you wouldn’t in the middle of a conversation in a club just turn around and walk away? That would be rude, the same rules for politeness, social etiquette and being decent human beings should apply here too. Shamefully as seen in this post with some of the responses it does not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

WE GOT THAT BIT but it still DOESN'T MAKE THEM TIME WASTERS why don't you get that bit?

CLEARLY NOT!!!

Can I clarify as I'm a bloke and can only think with my penis...

Is the issue with if they stop dead the conversation and then hide the profile, or continue the conversation but with a hidden profile?

I'm struggling to collelate a right to privacy with rudeness.

But then I'm a simple guy who fafs and wanks off over everyone's pictures.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

WE GOT THAT BIT but it still DOESN'T MAKE THEM TIME WASTERS why don't you get that bit?

CLEARLY NOT!!!

Can I clarify as I'm a bloke and can only think with my penis...

Is the issue with if they stop dead the conversation and then hide the profile, or continue the conversation but with a hidden profile?

I'm struggling to collelate a right to privacy with rudeness.

But then I'm a simple guy who fafs and wanks off over everyone's pictures."

Stop dead the conversation and hide the profile.....

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

WE GOT THAT BIT but it still DOESN'T MAKE THEM TIME WASTERS why don't you get that bit?

CLEARLY NOT!!!

To be fair, we have only had one side of the story, it seems the op has issues with 'timewasters', it makes me wonder what they are doing/saying to keep having these issues.

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"You say in a previous thread that you have had 13 cancelled meets in a row and before that 11. Maybe there is something about you that causes meets to timewaste or hide their profile.

Lol that's quite negative. Maybe it says something about how many folk behave on this site !, it is certainly worse than it used to be and others mention that in other posts too."

Your short descriptions class both of you as bi-curious and bisexual. Yet on your profile text you say you are 100% straight...maybe that confuses people? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"TBH if we were in the middle of the conversation and suddenly they just hid there profile without a word, that would be an instant block for us, etiquette and good manners are a prerequisite to meeting us, end of. These people are not time wasters, they are just rude arseholes who you should forget about, after all you wouldn’t in the middle of a conversation in a club just turn around and walk away? That would be rude, the same rules for politeness, social etiquette and being decent human beings should apply here too. Shamefully as seen in this post with some of the responses it does not."

At last lol, yet they do waste our time, time we could spend chatting or arranging meets with genuine and well mannered folk. In some cases it's weeks or months of chatting suddenly terminated without explanation. Beautiful photos by the way x

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"You say in a previous thread that you have had 13 cancelled meets in a row and before that 11. Maybe there is something about you that causes meets to timewaste or hide their profile.

Lol that's quite negative. Maybe it says something about how many folk behave on this site !, it is certainly worse than it used to be and others mention that in other posts too."

My sincere apologies. I misread your profile. I’ve had my contacts in my eyes for too long today

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yeah experienced it twice recently, very odd people about"

Thank you x

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By *ersiantugMan over a year ago

Cardiff

Funnily enough I just had two exciting prospects at the same time over on AFF - genuine accounts too (like gold dust over there). I thought yay, at least one of these is surely guaranteed! But though both contacted me first and both asked to meet me - they both suddenly shut down their profiles.

There could be any number of reasons why of course, from changing their minds to, well anything. It's not that much of a coincidence it happening twice either, as you have to accept that it happens all the time.

Some blokes (even straight blokes) can meet up after barely grunting at each other online, and stand in a park mutually wanking. Other people have to go through various message grinding, failed timings, weird negotiations and social-only meets before they eventually get their oats. But suddenly it can happen too. It's just the way it is.

I'm outside of the swing scene though (not really a swinger). If you are properly in it though, I don't know.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Messaging that ultimately goes nowhere is just a risk you take. Not everyone will be for everyone, circumstances don't always align etc. To call it time wasting seems quite entitled to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My sincere apologies. I misread your profile. I’ve had my contacts in my eyes for too long today

No worries sir

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Real life comes before Fab. I hide my profile when things are seriously wrong. I'm sorry that comes before a potential meet! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they are hiding it because of shit from other people they were chatting to, you are assuming they are hiding it from you. Likely you weren't they only profile they were chatting to.

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By *hatterbox 2Couple over a year ago

Wakefield

maybe changed their mind it does happen deal with it or even still if you block people how are people supposed to message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

I frequently hide my profile but carry on chatting to those I'm chatting to ... hiding your profile doesn't prevent communication only prevents being viewed?

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By *b_LIVI_ousWoman over a year ago

Wigan

Hidden my profile today. Nothing sinister or ‘fake’ about it. Simply personal choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Assuming you were chatting to couples, maybe one of them got cold feet?

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"My sincere apologies. I misread your profile. I’ve had my contacts in my eyes for too long today

No worries sir

In any case I’m sorry you have experienced this attitude. Playing on your own currently shouldn’t be an issue. I have gladly played with the one-halves of couples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You say in a previous thread that you have had 13 cancelled meets in a row and before that 11. Maybe there is something about you that causes meets to timewaste or hide their profile.

Lol that's quite negative. Maybe it says something about how many folk behave on this site !, it is certainly worse than it used to be and others mention that in other posts too."

I don't see it as negative. The common denominator in this is you, so it might be helpful to reflect on how you interact with others on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP are you moaning about ‘time wasters’ again? I think your definition of ‘time wasters’ varies to mine, I’ve been here over 6yrs and I have always thought the term time waster was a no show...........

It’s a site for choices, you choose who to send a message to and they choose whether to reply! If they choose not to reply and to hide their profile that’s their choice

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By *ersiantugMan over a year ago

Cardiff

Thinking about this again, I do think it can be rude to let people hang on something. I'd like to think I could close up a properly ongoing conversation, even if I had to get off here for a bit (which is why a lot of people shut the shop I think). I say this with the obvious proviso that all conversations do need to end at some point too of course. (Obviously blocking someone purely to end a convo is pretty pathetic).

I have quite a lot of chats with people, prob mainly new members, who do get frustrated by messages ending too soon in some way. I always say you'll get used to it though.

I gave two examples above from AFF (of vanishing profiles like the OP's), and though I took them on the chin, they were both pretty rude to do it the way they did. But then as I thought, what could they say? I tend to dot all my i's myself, you never know when you'll bump into someone again.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Messaging that ultimately goes nowhere is just a risk you take. Not everyone will be for everyone, circumstances don't always align etc. To call it time wasting seems quite entitled to me. "

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Messaging that ultimately goes nowhere is just a risk you take. Not everyone will be for everyone, circumstances don't always align etc. To call it time wasting seems quite entitled to me.

A lot of my messaging goes nowhere, but most of the time I've had a lovely chat anyway, all good.

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By *he Ring WraithMan over a year ago

Bradford

"To me time-wasting only comes into it when a meet has been arranged and at that point you're stuffed around. Before that, you take your chances."

This is my view as well, till then its just part of the way fab works. (or does not sometimes)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To me time-wasting only comes into it when a meet has been arranged and at that point you're stuffed around. Before that, you take your chances.

This is my view as well, till then its just part of the way fab works. (or does not sometimes) "

This

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By *adMerWoman over a year ago

Sandwich

What I am wondering is why you are wasting more of your time moaning about time wasters rather than spending the time usefully employed creating a single profile. I have been on this site over 10 years and I would find a profile like yours very suspect.

Also there are people that spend their time chatting to people on dating sites and the like trying to get personal information from them ( or money) so possibly some of your “timewasters” are of that ilk.

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

If I'm talking to a "couple" and it then transpires it's just a bloke I'm instantly not interested.

False advertising

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

must be because they are married perhaps or do not want people to look at their profile I had a few times on here where it is hidden. Each to their own but hidding it will not get meets still their choice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and Op I hide mine

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By *ersiantugMan over a year ago

Cardiff

"If I'm talking to a "couple" and it then transpires it's just a bloke I'm instantly not interested.

False advertising

I hope you made him feel embarrassed.

I do, but the excuses are always rubbish when they are not honest up front. I've seen single men use their Couple profile for years on AFF, some even with all the pictures in. I've seen it for so long they've forgotten that they've spoken to me, and promised me they'd change it! It's just gets them more contact I'm afraid, and without it they are lost in the soup of single men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We always hide our profile when not online, we just prefer to be incognito unless online.

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By *ersiantugMan over a year ago

Cardiff

"We always hide our profile when not online, we just prefer to be incognito unless online."

That makes perfect sense to me.

I've just wanted to be on the forum tonight really (though the forum is quite useful when you are also looking of course) and people have contacted me asking to go out. I'm happy to reply and say sorry, but it would be just as useful to go 'offline' somehow. Otherwise it looks like you are fully online yet ignoring someone's message - which I personally don't like to do.

I'm not sure that you can hide your profile but still use things like the forum though tbh. I don't think I've hidden it at all as yet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No. Maybe their decision to hide their profile was due to another reason, perhaps they saw someone the knew or where getting grief from another site member? You can still message people who have hidden their profiles. I wouldn't take it personally or assume they are time wasters just because they hid their profile. If it us happening a lot to you maybe you are doing something to cause it? To suggest this is a trend based on one incident would appear to be a little extreme in my humble opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Noticed a new odd timewaster ploy. We are in the middle of chatting, exchanged face pics etc then they suddenly HIDE THEIR PROFILE for a few weeks !?. Talk about rude. Anyone else witnessed this new annoying trend ?.Lots hide their profiles, they maybe got a freaky message from someone or something not great came up in their everyday lives or their phone just packed up etc

Agreed x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

WE GOT THAT BIT but it still DOESN'T MAKE THEM TIME WASTERS why don't you get that bit?

CLEARLY NOT!!!

You do not know that they weren't also chatting to someone else. Honestly your attitude is dreadful I am not suprised they hid their profile, I am suprised you weren't blocked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol the attitude of some of the replies demonstrates exactly what I mean.

I'll say again. IN THE MIDDLE OF CHATTING THEY SUDDENLY HIDE THEIR PROFILE. Hopefully putting in bold will help it to sink in.

WE GOT THAT BIT but it still DOESN'T MAKE THEM TIME WASTERS why don't you get that bit?

CLEARLY NOT!!!

Can I clarify as I'm a bloke and can only think with my penis...

Is the issue with if they stop dead the conversation and then hide the profile, or continue the conversation but with a hidden profile?

I'm struggling to collelate a right to privacy with rudeness.

But then I'm a simple guy who fafs and wanks off over everyone's pictures."

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To me time-wasting only comes into it when a meet has been arranged and at that point you're stuffed around. Before that, you take your chances.

This is my view as well, till then its just part of the way fab works. (or does not sometimes)

This

I totally agree. It is not time wasting if people are chatting on hete and then decide the person or persons are not for them, however a polite no thanks I dont think you are what i am looking for is all that is required. Manners cost nothing after all do they?

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

I don’t know if there is a universal definition for the term ‘timewaster’, with regards to promising false dates to somebody or whether it’s just an unspoken agreement for the fabswingers website. But I absolutely get where CherryEaters and others who have posted similar complaints are coming from.

This morning I got blocked from everywhere by somebody from a website who had given me their mobile phone and WhatsApp, out of their own free will....I think, oddly enough, I got blocked because they got bored of me due to the fact that I wasn’t sending them enough sexy messages, you know, due to my partner and house chores and work etc...so, yeah ok. They haven’t stood me up somewhere waiting for them, but it does feel like they made me waste my precious time chatting to them in the first place when I could have done something else instead...it is the rudeness above everything, not the fact that somebody has changed their minds.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Thought I'd post this from my profile this may help the OP and others.

*** TOP TIPS FOR MEETING ***

1. Don't take things off fab

2. Don't engage in wank chat

3. Don't swap endless pics

4. Don't travel ridiculous distances

5. Do pay a bit extra so you can cancel the hotel if needed

6. Do listen to your gut instinct, it's normally right

7. Do arrange a social in a public place before any sex

8. Do report any no show to admin

9. If a couple, speak to both halves.

10. Use common sense, if it's too good to be true, it probably is.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

"I don’t know if there is a universal definition for the term ‘timewaster’, with regards to promising false dates to somebody or whether it’s just an unspoken agreement for the fabswingers website. But I absolutely get where CherryEaters and others who have posted similar complaints are coming from.

And what would NOT wasting your time look like? Not chatting? Meeting you even if they have lost interest?

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

There's no universal definition. But I think any expectations before an agreement to meet, including a date and time, will lead to disappointment.

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

And what would NOT wasting your time look like? Not chatting? Meeting you even if they have lost interest?"

NEITHER OF THE OPTIONS you mentioned. Just politely and honestly telling somebody that they are not interested should be sufficient enough for a civilised person who can take rejection like a civilised adult...

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

And what would NOT wasting your time look like? Not chatting? Meeting you even if they have lost interest?

Isn't that an issue though? The amount of people who don't take rejection like a civilised adult?

There are so many people that become abusive if you reject them that it's easier and less hassle just to ignore them. Whether that is right or wrong is irrelevant, that's what happens and it isn't going to change anytime soon.

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x"

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

And what would NOT wasting your time look like? Not chatting? Meeting you even if they have lost interest?

Isn't that an issue though? The amount of people who don't take rejection like a civilised adult?

Totally agree with you Keely. It's got beyond a joke on here. You give people a decent 'thank you but no thanks' kind of message and it unleashes hell. Alot of damaged people on here that can't take rejection, that most now chose to just ignore rather than message back (and of course we are arrogant for doing that).

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude. "

Erm, I think we are talking—in my example—about being rude after you have willingly given your phone number to a polite guy—me—in the first place. So, no; in my example, preventing abuse does not trump not being rude, because simply I wasn’t being rude.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x"

So how are YOU going to change it so I don't get abuse for rejecting people? You can't! I can - by not replying and blocking. I'm happy with that. If you aren't then YOU must try harder to stop me getting abusive messages.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"If I'm talking to a "couple" and it then transpires it's just a bloke I'm instantly not interested.

False advertising

I see what you did there.

Singles "advertising" as a couple is wrong.

Using a non playing F partner as a lure...... Poor form.

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

If YOU had blocked me and ignored me flatly AFTER you had chosen to give me your WhatsApp to communicate with you, then the behaviour would say a lot more about YOU then about me. X

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

If YOU had blocked me and ignored me flatly AFTER you had chosen to give me your WhatsApp to communicate with you, then the behaviour would say a lot more about YOU then about me. X"

I would:1. Not give anyone my whatsapp 2. If I did there would be a reason for the block, namely their behaviour.

So come on - how are you going to stop ladies receiving abuse on here? The site provides the tools for us to protect ourselves. You are saying we are rude to use those tools. So how are you going to stop the abuse. This is for on site only, for all the abuse that ladies receive, not off site, I can't hold you responsible for that. But if we are not to use the tools the site provides I look forward to hearing your suggestion to stop the abuse.

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

If YOU had blocked me and ignored me flatly AFTER you had chosen to give me your WhatsApp to communicate with you, then the behaviour would say a lot more about YOU then about me. X

I would:1. Not give anyone my whatsapp 2. If I did there would be a reason for the block, namely their behaviour.

Please do not distort my words. I never generalised; I never said you are being rude for not replying to somebody in whom you are not interested. In my example I was the recipient of unprovoked rudeness, I didn't send abusive messages to somebody who had clearly stated in their profile 'if we don't respond, we're not interested'.

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

If YOU had blocked me and ignored me flatly AFTER you had chosen to give me your WhatsApp to communicate with you, then the behaviour would say a lot more about YOU then about me. X"

Not forgetting people who send abusive messages by PM, purely because they disagree with something your reply to on a thread, and then block you so you can't reply.

Cowards.

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

If YOU had blocked me and ignored me flatly AFTER you had chosen to give me your WhatsApp to communicate with you, then the behaviour would say a lot more about YOU then about me. X

Not forgetting people who send abusive messages by PM, purely because they disagree with something your reply to on a thread, and then block you so you can't reply.

Cowards."

Or people with obnoxious ignorant attitudes who deliberately antagonise other people, about issues from past threads...cowards! xx

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

If YOU had blocked me and ignored me flatly AFTER you had chosen to give me your WhatsApp to communicate with you, then the behaviour would say a lot more about YOU then about me. X

I would:1. Not give anyone my whatsapp 2. If I did there would be a reason for the block, namely their behaviour.

The issue is not taking rejection like a civilised adult. Unfortunately you can never tell who is and who isn't, so many of us chose to block. That's the tools the site gives us and protects us. If that's an issue for you then I hope you get it resolved.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

If YOU had blocked me and ignored me flatly AFTER you had chosen to give me your WhatsApp to communicate with you, then the behaviour would say a lot more about YOU then about me. X

Not forgetting people who send abusive messages by PM, purely because they disagree with something your reply to on a thread, and then block you so you can't reply.

Cowards."

Exactly the behaviour I am on about.

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

If YOU had blocked me and ignored me flatly AFTER you had chosen to give me your WhatsApp to communicate with you, then the behaviour would say a lot more about YOU then about me. X

I would:1. Not give anyone my whatsapp 2. If I did there would be a reason for the block, namely their behaviour.

And once again, what YOU are talking about is not what I am talking about. If you want to block outright people in whom you are not interested, please carry on x

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

If YOU had blocked me and ignored me flatly AFTER you had chosen to give me your WhatsApp to communicate with you, then the behaviour would say a lot more about YOU then about me. X

I would:1. Not give anyone my whatsapp 2. If I did there would be a reason for the block, namely their behaviour.

And once again, what YOU are talking about is not what I am talking about. If you want to block outright people in whom you are not interested, please carry on x"

I will. Thank you for your permission

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

If YOU had blocked me and ignored me flatly AFTER you had chosen to give me your WhatsApp to communicate with you, then the behaviour would say a lot more about YOU then about me. X

I would:1. Not give anyone my whatsapp 2. If I did there would be a reason for the block, namely their behaviour.

And once again, what YOU are talking about is not what I am talking about. If you want to block outright people in whom you are not interested, please carry on x

I will. Thank you for your permission

no problem x

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

They weren't to know you wouldn't become rude if they told you they weren't interested anymore so the easy thing is to block. That's the point here, nobody knows if someone will become rude so they block to prevent it happening.

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

No; the whole point of my example i that they were sending me sex videos and photos of theirs, and telling me they w e r e interested. And then, I got outright blocked from everywhere without the slightest indication....

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

I know what you're trying to say but I'm telling you they might have changed their mind, their circumstances might have changed etc then they blocked you to prevent any nastiness.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

So... the issues would be solved by not getting invested before an in person meeting is agreed?

Cool cool

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

I know what you're trying to say but I'm telling you they might have changed their mind, their circumstances might have changed etc then they blocked you to prevent any nastiness."

So, what would have been your thoughts if you were in a nice conversation with somebody and then they just blanked you, just to prevent any nastiness from you?

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

I know what you're trying to say but I'm telling you they might have changed their mind, their circumstances might have changed etc then they blocked you to prevent any nastiness.

So, what would have been your thoughts if you were in a nice conversation with somebody and then they just blanked you, just to prevent any nastiness from you?"

Them's the breaks. Happens a lot.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

I know what you're trying to say but I'm telling you they might have changed their mind, their circumstances might have changed etc then they blocked you to prevent any nastiness.

So, what would have been your thoughts if you were in a nice conversation with somebody and then they just blanked you, just to prevent any nastiness from you?"

Loads of men have suddenly gone silent on me, some even after we had arranged a place and time to mert, I just pulled up my big girl pants and moved the fuck on. It's not difficult.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

I know what you're trying to say but I'm telling you they might have changed their mind, their circumstances might have changed etc then they blocked you to prevent any nastiness.

So, what would have been your thoughts if you were in a nice conversation with somebody and then they just blanked you, just to prevent any nastiness from you?

Loads of men have suddenly gone silent on me, some even after we had arranged a place and time to mert, I just pulled up my big girl pants and moved the fuck on. It's not difficult."

Meet, not mert lol.

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By *bcums3Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

It’s just all so very rude!!...totally understand people may not be confident enough to meet or shy but respect for someone else isn’t a lot to ask for?...we have just spent weeks chatting to someone then they vanished. Would rather it ended at the beginning with honesty rather than getting invested and then ignored

Total waste of time

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

There will have been a reason for the blocking - maybe you said something they didn't like, maybe you were overbearing, maybe women talk and something has been said about you. Who knows? Only the person doing the blocking. Does it matter in the grand scheme of things - no. Unless Fab is your life time to move on.

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

No; there was no reason to have blocked me and it was completely unprovoked. Please don't make personal assumptions. I don't need to copy-paste all my whatsapp conversations to prove my honesty in the forums of websites. x

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

There was a reason. There always is. Just because it's not obvious to you doesn't mean there is one. The reason is decided by the blockee not you.

They were not personal assumptions they were general reasons people block and only a few, there are many more. So please do not assume they are personal assumptions.

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

There was a reason. There always is. Just because it's not obvious to you doesn't mean there is one. The reason is decided by the blockee not you.

They were not personal assumptions they were general reasons people block and only a few, there are many more. So please do not assume they are personal assumptions. "

"maybe you said something they didn't like, maybe you were overbearing" that seemed quite personal and it wasn't true in my case

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

There was a reason. There always is. Just because it's not obvious to you doesn't mean there is one. The reason is decided by the blockee not you.

They were not personal assumptions they were general reasons people block and only a few, there are many more. So please do not assume they are personal assumptions.

"maybe you said something they didn't like, maybe you were overbearing" that seemed quite personal and it wasn't true in my case"

General examples. You are v sensitive. I will leave you to you opinions. Bye.

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

There was a reason. There always is. Just because it's not obvious to you doesn't mean there is one. The reason is decided by the blockee not you.

They were not personal assumptions they were general reasons people block and only a few, there are many more. So please do not assume they are personal assumptions.

"maybe you said something they didn't like, maybe you were overbearing" that seemed quite personal and it wasn't true in my case

General examples. You are v sensitive. I will leave you to you opinions. Bye."

*waves warmly goodbye to you*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow, just read the comments and I’ll say it again .........

It’s a site for choices, you choose who to send a message to and they choose whether to reply! If they choose not to reply and to hide their profile that’s their choice, you are NOT entitled to a reply!

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

There was a reason. There always is. Just because it's not obvious to you doesn't mean there is one. The reason is decided by the blockee not you.

They were not personal assumptions they were general reasons people block and only a few, there are many more. So please do not assume they are personal assumptions.

"maybe you said something they didn't like, maybe you were overbearing" that seemed quite personal and it wasn't true in my case"

How do you know that? You don't know what they might be offended by it what they might find overbearing. They had a reason to block you, there's never no reason for someone doing something.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

There was a reason. There always is. Just because it's not obvious to you doesn't mean there is one. The reason is decided by the blockee not you.

They were not personal assumptions they were general reasons people block and only a few, there are many more. So please do not assume they are personal assumptions.

"maybe you said something they didn't like, maybe you were overbearing" that seemed quite personal and it wasn't true in my case

How do you know that? You don't know what they might be offended by it what they might find overbearing. They had a reason to block you, there's never no reason for someone doing something.

Or, not it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It’s just all so very rude!!...totally understand people may not be confident enough to meet or shy but respect for someone else isn’t a lot to ask for?...we have just spent weeks chatting to someone then they vanished. Would rather it ended at the beginning with honesty rather than getting invested and then ignored

Total waste of time

Here here

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks sir

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Entitlement is an ugly trait

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

There was a reason. There always is. Just because it's not obvious to you doesn't mean there is one. The reason is decided by the blockee not you.

They were not personal assumptions they were general reasons people block and only a few, there are many more. So please do not assume they are personal assumptions.

"maybe you said something they didn't like, maybe you were overbearing" that seemed quite personal and it wasn't true in my case

How do you know that? You don't know what they might be offended by it what they might find overbearing. They had a reason to block you, there's never no reason for someone doing something.

"They had a reason to block you, there's never no reason for someone doing something"...and how do YOU know that?

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

There was a reason. There always is. Just because it's not obvious to you doesn't mean there is one. The reason is decided by the blockee not you.

They were not personal assumptions they were general reasons people block and only a few, there are many more. So please do not assume they are personal assumptions.

"maybe you said something they didn't like, maybe you were overbearing" that seemed quite personal and it wasn't true in my case

How do you know that? You don't know what they might be offended by it what they might find overbearing. They had a reason to block you, there's never no reason for someone doing something.

"They had a reason to block you, there's never no reason for someone doing something"...and how do YOU know that?"

Because nobody ever does something without a reason, have you ever made a decision based on nothing at all?

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

People frequently do things without reason, just because they feel like it.

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By *adyJayneWoman over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

""They had a reason to block you, there's never no reason for someone doing something"...and how do YOU know that?"

Science and psychology. There is always a reason behind someone's actions and reactions. If someone blocked you, they in their own decision making process, decided to block you.

Noone here can possibly know the reason but your sensitivity and sense of entitlement might give a few of us grounds for suspicion

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By *he Happy ManMan over a year ago

Merseyside

"Of course it is an issue; it is wrong but then so is the other. I don’t think one rude thing justifies another, at least not indiscriminately x

I think preventing abuse ("what did you expect, why didn't you protect yourself?") trumps not being rude.

They didn't block you for no reason. Whenever anybody blocks somebody they do it for a reason. When I block somebody it is for a reason.

It may have been something you said that made them change their mind about you. I don't know why they blocked you but I do know they will have blocked you for a reason.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"People frequently do things without reason, just because they feel like it. "

That's a reason, because they felt like it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

how do you know they haven't been knocked down ,family crisis .Theres all manner of reasons people disappear and whilst it might be frustrating you dont know its intentionally rude .

just move on and hope for better luck

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