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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m amazed you are struggling x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd suggest going to a club personally. No need to try to align diaries, whoever is there at the time is there. If you meet others who you click with on the night then you're onto a winner.

If you don't you can still have an awesome time. Winner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m amazed you are struggling x"

Wow really?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'd suggest going to a club personally. No need to try to align diaries, whoever is there at the time is there. If you meet others who you click with on the night then you're onto a winner.

If you don't you can still have an awesome time. Winner.

We have been to clubs bit I just meant off here in general x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd suggest going to a club personally. No need to try to align diaries, whoever is there at the time is there. If you meet others who you click with on the night then you're onto a winner.

If you don't you can still have an awesome time. Winner.

We have been to clubs bit I just meant off here in general x"

Yeah we struggle . We used to put in loads of effort with profile and description etc but couldn't find any couples that would float our boat so to speak .

And if we did we wouldnt float theres,

Or if it was a good match we couldn't find a mutual time we were all free . Or they would want a social meet and that's not really our thing .. not to mention arranging a meet and getting let down last minute .

So for reasons like those , I think we are just going to stick to club meets . Had our first club meet and loved it .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us..."

I’m very surprised you’re struggling to be totally fair. But there are a lot of time wasters and dreamers. I do like meeting couples, the dynamic is great.

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By *anda and CatCouple over a year ago

We've always struggled on here, it's the 4 way compatibility issue. Easier to all chat in a club. That's what we have found anyway

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple over a year ago

Cardiff

We get loads of messages off other couples...we don't meet couples.. or guys who haven't read profile sometimes its disheartening but we do talk to some really nice people here but it's not as easy as some think.

Clubs do not interest me at all.

Toyed with localish socials but never been yet

Hope your luck changes soon

Jo x

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By *ongueNcheek33Couple over a year ago

Manchester

We struggle on here but do attend socials and clubs so they make up for it

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple over a year ago

Camberley

Meeting other couples is not the easiest thing to arrange but we have met a few off here. Lots of conversations start but never materialise into anything, guess it’s just the way things are so sounds look you have the same problems as others.

Doubt it’s anything other than that as you look lovely xx

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

We are a couple and find it very difficult as my hubby is bi,not into anal just sucking and wanking which i put in my profile but i still get loads of straight guys message and think hubby will just stand back twiddle his thumbs and watch while they fuck me ,EH no we are a solid team ,or they suddenly say oh im not totally straight ,your hubby can suck me but i wont do it back ! ,HAD 2 MEETS so far in 3 months ,not what we had hoped we are upfront and honest or is that the problem ?

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By *acer962Man over a year ago

Wokingham

Its a two way thing. I talk to couples on here and get so far then silence and delete. Dreamers mostly I guess. J

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By *ickedgames88Couple over a year ago

stoke

We now only attend clubs as meets from fab weren’t working for us. Also, had problems with the 4 way attraction thing, but at least in a club even if one of us is not feeling it from a play perspective, then we’ve still had a good night out socialising dancing and some play together

T.x

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By *inkyCouple1927Couple over a year ago

Newcastle

We struggle, we might as well give up

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

Yes!! We get this loads!! We'll be chatting to people and they unfriend us or vanish in to thin air.

We don't have a club anywhere in Cornwall so have to rely on parties or when we travel for events away from home. That said we went the xtasia and a few people spoke but no remote chance of any play!!

It's knocked my confidence a bit (K female) however we've been chatting to a couple of couples just see where it leads, what happens.

We're fairly open to most things and all but given up on the elusive bi female. If happens great!!

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By *ndercover2016Couple over a year ago

turriff

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By *ndercover2016Couple over a year ago

turriff

"We are a couple and find it very difficult as my hubby is bi,not into anal just sucking and wanking which i put in my profile but i still get loads of straight guys message and think hubby will just stand back twiddle his thumbs and watch while they fuck me ,EH no we are a solid team ,or they suddenly say oh im not totally straight ,your hubby can suck me but i wont do it back ! ,HAD 2 MEETS so far in 3 months ,not what we had hoped we are upfront and honest or is that the problem ?

We get this as well! Straight blokes thinking we will make a special allowance for them because they are so fabulous and unmissable

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By *arryWxMan over a year ago

Bristol

Sound alike a lot of negative experiences. Surely there have to be a fair number of successful meets though?

I guess there are a large amount people here than ruin the experiences for the rest?

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By *hedireCouple over a year ago

wigan

Yes we struggle. We get winks we mail with a photo then its deleted so typically we block them or we get no replies. Then there's those conversations saying meet when free then they go cold turkey and don't reply. Seems everyone from single guys to couples struggle. Having said that we don't have safe sex ticked deliberately and know that puts a fair few off which is perfectly ok. But we always make that clear in messages.

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By *uncpl187Couple over a year ago

Ramsgate

We struggle to find meets.But we can understand why and have made a list of reasons we think that is.

1.We are both Bi

2.We are not super models

3.I don't have a big cock

4.Wife is to large for most

5.Can't accom due to kids etc

6.We will only soft play with opposite sex if all are comfortable.

Those are just a few reasons.But fingers crossed,things could still change for us.

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By *hat The CuckCouple over a year ago

Croydon Area

We’ve met one couple in 3 years. Finding couples where the Mrs is attracted to both and that are ok with me just watching is a huge struggle. Plus aligning diaries can be problematic and as mentioned people just vanish.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a single black female on here there are so many con people/fakes and timewasters on here it frustrated me so much! For weeks ive been trying to organise meets which isn't easy as im a single mother to a 4 month old. So dont have time for socials.. I have women message me and cpls and they talk the talk but usually dont wanna walk the walk.. Ugh!!

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By *arryWxMan over a year ago

Bristol

Is it ever worth reporting those who don’t turn up, or is it because the problem is so prevalent, it won’t change much?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It can be tricky to meet couple where everyone is happy we visiting a club next weekend with a couple we met on here so hoping everything goes well there

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman over a year ago

Victoria, London

You both say you're after single women (bi), I'm very straight btw. But there's no pics of him for me to decide whether I'd meet and not 'interests' listed to see if we're compatible.

Who accommodates btw?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it ever worth reporting those who don’t turn up, or is it because the problem is so prevalent, it won’t change much?"

In all honesty, what can/would the site do about it? We have had a few ‘no shows’, without reason or warning.

Reported profiles, only to see they are still on here, much further down the line, and they message us again.

I think it is ‘peaks and troughs’ for a vast majority on here, especially for couples like us, larger, have specific requests for type of people we want, etc.

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By *arryWxMan over a year ago

Bristol

Perhaps a bit of naivety on my part thinking that perhaps if some of the time wasters were removed, it would improve things. I think from reading various forum entries, I’m definitely wishful thinking!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps a bit of naivety on my part thinking that perhaps if some of the time wasters were removed, it would improve things. I think from reading various forum entries, I’m definitely wishful thinking!"

Sorry if our reply sounded a bit abrasive.

We have reported users, but, like we say, find them still around, further down the line.

Or, they just rejoin, different name.

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By *asmartsCouple over a year ago

sheffield

We have always had meets when wanted, single guys get a bad name but we have met a lot of very nice guys!

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

99% of people near us are single guys which we aren't against but I reckon 50% have playing away on their profile or can't accommodate with no explanation.

We get plenty of views from couples or winks but messages deleted!! Could be because of our size or interests. It's just frustrating as it knocks the confidence.

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By *he Ring WraithMan over a year ago

Bradford

"We have always had meets when wanted, single guys get a bad name but we have met a lot of very nice guys!"

That is a great post, after the bashing single guys get from 'some' couples on here.

where the issue of couples meeting couples is for me is the more people you introduce the more variations of compatibility (or not) you have; so one on one is easy (in theory); two on one gets harder, two on two harder still.

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By *reenleavesCouple over a year ago

North Wales

We get this too. We'll happily chat with anyone online but we do expect it to fizzle out after the initial interest.

Going to clubs and seeing who catches your eye is a much easier option. You'll also likely click with people you might have passed by online.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Since our return to Fabs, and decision to meet single guys, all our recent meets have been single guys.

Just find it difficult to match up diaries with couples, at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never thought couples had any problem meeting other couples, I know it can be hard to get meets sometime with us single guys, but when I had a fuck buddy we had loads of messages for meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Saturday nights are a near total dead loss of late for meets and cannot understand why ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not holding my breathe on ever meeting anyone on this site , loads start talking then disappear , not good for anyone's confidence but just take this site for what it seems to be , good for photo collectors

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yea we struggle. We put it down to us not kissing others. We struggle to understand why couples can’t just kiss their partner only and do everything else with the other couple lol.

Can’t even get a bloody social lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

this

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By *aughtyladyYummymanCouple over a year ago

In a place not far from Exeter

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us..."

We are having exactly the same problem!! Guessing people think we are too old or I am too large!

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By *hat The CuckCouple over a year ago

Croydon Area

"Yea we struggle. We put it down to us not kissing others. We struggle to understand why couples can’t just kiss their partner only and do everything else with the other couple lol.

Can’t even get a bloody social lol"

We can relate. The no-kissing (female-male) has lost us a lot of meets from both males and couples.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us..."

I’m at a loss to wonder why couples are inundated with requests. They seem to be hugely in demand.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Posts in this with “we struggle because.....”

If you are really motivated to meet you will meet people it takes effort, imagination and the actual will to do it.

Stop thinking about your own perceived negatives, be positive and get on with it.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Since you haven't asked for profile advice it can't be given. However, maybe think of starting there. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep. We are too!

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

"Yea we struggle. We put it down to us not kissing others. We struggle to understand why couples can’t just kiss their partner only and do everything else with the other couple lol.

Can’t even get a bloody social lol"

See we take no issue with that as long as it's clear from the outset. I have a bit of an issue with the couples who just want me to play with the female like a performing circus animal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We struggle. But put that down to us being a 40+ couple who are both bi. X

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

Your profile is a little sparse. Consider uploading more pictures of the chap and less of his chap! Also consider writing more. Around 150-200 words is good!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We struggle. But put that down to us being a 40+ couple who are both bi. X"

We have had reverse of that. Because male is straight, we get winks, but, messages at same time, along the lines of “Pity you are not looking for bi guys”....

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple over a year ago

Stockport

"I’m amazed you are struggling x"

We just said that too!

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

"Posts in this with “we struggle because.....”

If you are really motivated to meet you will meet people it takes effort, imagination and the actual will to do it.

Stop thinking about your own perceived negatives, be positive and get on with it.

Not necessarily!! We actively talk to and message people and half the time we get ignored! Cornwall is a nightmare!! Everyone wants a bi female pretty much nothing else. There's no club scene, not much scene at all!! We've had mostly meets at parties. But when you work shifts and the parties fall on you shift it could be months before another. I do take leave, etc but it's not always that easy.

We are trying and luck is looking up it's really not just as simple as that!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone wants a bi female pretty much nothing else. "

Couldn’t agree more with this comment. We have had absolutely loads of couples message us asking if the gf will play with their female half.

This is despite us stating on our profile she isn’t bi.

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

"Everyone wants a bi female pretty much nothing else.

Couldn’t agree more with this comment. We have had absolutely loads of couples message us asking if the gf will play with their female half.

This is despite us stating on our profile she isn’t bi. "

I am bi but my hubby likes to play too! I will meet with couples separately but when we meet together just watching doesn't do it for us. We like to play

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone wants a bi female pretty much nothing else.

Couldn’t agree more with this comment. We have had absolutely loads of couples message us asking if the gf will play with their female half.

This is despite us stating on our profile she isn’t bi.

I am bi but my hubby likes to play too! I will meet with couples separately but when we meet together just watching doesn't do it for us. We like to play "

To be honest a lot of the time that comes down to them not really being swingers but the male pushing the female for a threesome, sometimes she isn't even bi.

People can swing however they want and it can be that setup, but thats still not the same as a guy just using fab as a sex site for a threesome with two women, if that makes sense.

It didn't take long after joining to start picking up on the differences between the two to be honest by the way conversations grew

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By *layful Couple For YouCouple over a year ago

Lust

We constantly struggle to advance chatting with couples to actual meets. Doesn’t help that we only tend to be free a couple of days a month we guess.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us..."

That’s a common theme on this site. It’s too much like hard work sometimes!

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By *rK MrsJCouple over a year ago

Kidderminster

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us..."

We'd be interested shame your not closer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We struggle as well, tend to find Jez isn't most types.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We've got a bit stressed with the site and the amount of effort we put in with no reward, it seems there are too many fake profiles where someone wants to message and message and message because they're having a wank as they can never actually meet as they are not actually a real couple, or if they are a couple they don't want to take things as far as heading out for a drink to see if there is any mutual connections.

It has got to the point that we're not going to try and meet people from here and instead we are going to start going to clubs to actually find genuine people who we can keep in touch with on here.

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple over a year ago

Camberley

Guess it could be any number of reasons but I don't think the couples on here should consider it due to their size, age etc.

We are a large couple, approaching 50. Hubby has small cock and big belly (imagine the other way round would be preferable for swinging!!) but we’ve met a number of lovely couples on here and had great fun and pretty much all have developed into regular meets. It is hard work sometimes but we persevere and have had great fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Posts in this with “we struggle because.....”

If you are really motivated to meet you will meet people it takes effort, imagination and the actual will to do it.

Stop thinking about your own perceived negatives, be positive and get on with it.

Just to repeat...

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

"Everyone wants a bi female pretty much nothing else.

Couldn’t agree more with this comment. We have had absolutely loads of couples message us asking if the gf will play with their female half.

This is despite us stating on our profile she isn’t bi.

I am bi but my hubby likes to play too! I will meet with couples separately but when we meet together just watching doesn't do it for us. We like to play

To be honest a lot of the time that comes down to them not really being swingers but the male pushing the female for a threesome, sometimes she isn't even bi.

People can swing however they want and it can be that setup, but thats still not the same as a guy just using fab as a sex site for a threesome with two women, if that makes sense.

It didn't take long after joining to start picking up on the differences between the two to be honest by the way conversations grew"

Yes I agree people can swing how they like and we all have preferences. And I think it's the other way round the guy is happy to have sex with another woman but doesn't want his wife to have sex with another man. I know that's not always the case.

It's just about finding those people who you fit with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Persevere. It’s nothing to do with struggling, it’s more a case of there being an enormous amount of time wasters and dreamers on here. Don’t take it too personally, it’s really not worth that much emotion (if any!). At some point someone will come along that’s genuine. Keep messages on here very short and get to a pre-meet phone call very quickly. That helps out a few of the wankers. That’s our two penneth, although the phone call bit isn’t always fool proof but does help. Good luck.

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us..."

Question..

What were your expectations ?

Its not instashag.... You've been here 7 weeks.

Ask yourselves why would folk meet us, what makes you stand out from all of the other couples on here ?

Effort in =reward out.

Hope you find what you seek.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We struggle too! Xx

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By *bcums3Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us..."

Have the same experience on here, that’s why we thinking about clubs more often

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple over a year ago

Manchester

You’re not alone. We struggle; we always put it down to our age difference. Only luck we tend to have is in clubs, where people take you as they find you!

That said... still open to offers on Fab ;-

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By *OXO2018Couple over a year ago

Norfolk

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us..."

We did then started going to clubs and it’s turned our swinging experience around

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

We did then started going to clubs and it’s turned our swinging experience around

We went to two clubs which takes a mission and planning. Virtually no one spoke to us!! We had more success at a fetish night than a club night

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By *rivate roomMan over a year ago

Bracknell

I would like to meet couples for socials and maybe more if we were to meet regularly. I would be reliable and excited at the thought of spending time with couples.

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

When we were actually playing we rarely met anyone from Fab.

We prefer a club, Mr M doesn’t play with others so we find it far less hassle tbh.

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

"When we were actually playing we rarely met anyone from Fab.

We prefer a club, Mr M doesn’t play with others so we find it far less hassle tbh."

That said, we preferred non couples nights too.

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By *rivate roomMan over a year ago

Bracknell

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

We did then started going to clubs and it’s turned our swinging experience around

We went to two clubs which takes a mission and planning. Virtually no one spoke to us!! We had more success at a fetish night than a club night"

I am a bit shy to talk to couples in clubs as I do not know I if the are interested in single men. Also the couple may want to be alone or mix with other couples etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If we were close by we would meet you for sure

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By *ornysquirtingcoupleCouple over a year ago

somerset

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us..."

We would love to get to know you

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS over a year ago

Stockport

Difficult for couples... Not as difficult as it can be for a rainbow unicorn trans lesbian lol. Some good advice above though. My experience is that swinging clubs help a lot, i do appreciate though (as a regular visitor to Cornwall) that there is little close by to you.

One possibility - look at a cheap weekend break in Weston super Mare, and pop into Route69 club whilst there. Not huge but a nice place imho, and some lovely people there. I try to call in whenever I'm going past on my way north or south. No guarantee of meeting there, lol no guarantee of meeting anywhere, but possibly look at their calender and try to pick a date when they have a special party or event.

Good luck, hope you do find somebody nice soon. Best regards, Polly xx

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

Question..

What were your expectations ?

Its not instashag.... You've been here 7 weeks.

Ask yourselves why would folk meet us, what makes you stand out from all of the other couples on here ?

Effort in =reward out.

Hope you find what you seek.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"When we were actually playing we rarely met anyone from Fab.

We prefer a club, Mr M doesn’t play with others so we find it far less hassle tbh."

"Mr M doesn’t play with others"

This would put me off instantly. If I meet a couple, I would want to play with both halves, not just be there for the female's benefit with the male watching.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We struggle too! Xx"

Wow what is this site coming to ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think we’re going to start attending organised socials and clubs more often. Hopefully that’ll help.

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By *amesB66Man over a year ago

St Peter Port

I'm astonished to read how many of you ( couples ) are struggling to meet!

Interesting to read the reasons why though.

Best wishes to you all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We also struggle. We’re over 50 and both straight. That really limits our options despite many interactions.

Clubs will be the way forward for us but we won’t go to a local club and struggle to travel at this time due to work and family. But that should change soon and we’ll get down south to a club. Seems to be the general consensus as the best way to meet.

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By *lienrockMan over a year ago

Fife

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us..."

Just looked at your profile, I'm surprised you're having any issues, clean & tidy couple, a pretty female with amazing boobs! Yous have prob just been unlucky with who you've spoken to. I'd say give it time you guys will get heaps of fun

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By *blasiansCouple over a year ago

Wakefield

Lots of valid points

4 way mutual agreement and compatability primary challenge, timing always a massive headache. We enjoy socials but not everyone's cup of tea. However when it clicks its great.

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

"When we were actually playing we rarely met anyone from Fab.

We prefer a club, Mr M doesn’t play with others so we find it far less hassle tbh.

"Mr M doesn’t play with others"

This would put me off instantly. If I meet a couple, I would want to play with both halves, not just be there for the female's benefit with the male watching. "

I quite agree I really dislike the feeling of being a performing circus monkey

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"When we were actually playing we rarely met anyone from Fab.

We prefer a club, Mr M doesn’t play with others so we find it far less hassle tbh.

"Mr M doesn’t play with others"

This would put me off instantly. If I meet a couple, I would want to play with both halves, not just be there for the female's benefit with the male watching.

I quite agree I really dislike the feeling of being a performing circus monkey"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Chemistry is so hard to find through messages I think the club idea most have said allows a social interaction first so as the sw is short of clubs maybe social meets although take time to arrange as life is ridiculous probably is what you need to build up a small circle of friends who you click with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us..."

Agreed, get a good chat going and .... blank.... we dont get it.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple over a year ago

Chester

Clubs for us as it's our social lifestyle with benefits. I get not for everyone wants this as lots it's all about the sex. We enjoy catching up with friends, fun, flirting & banter with other couples. It's a layered approach as build up friendships and make future connections also xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We only meet in clubs now as we got sick and tired of people letting us down or having a chat and they just disappear. At least if we go to a club we meet friends and have good night no matter what play happens.

F x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone wants a bi female pretty much nothing else.

Couldn’t agree more with this comment. We have had absolutely loads of couples message us asking if the gf will play with their female half.

This is despite us stating on our profile she isn’t bi.

I am bi but my hubby likes to play too! I will meet with couples separately but when we meet together just watching doesn't do it for us. We like to play

To be honest a lot of the time that comes down to them not really being swingers but the male pushing the female for a threesome, sometimes she isn't even bi.

People can swing however they want and it can be that setup, but thats still not the same as a guy just using fab as a sex site for a threesome with two women, if that makes sense.

It didn't take long after joining to start picking up on the differences between the two to be honest by the way conversations grew"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like anything in life it takes alot of work and effort meeting the right people on here.

We have been lucky to meet some amazing couples and single females but we spend hours chatting to people.

Some turn into more some don't.

We also go to clubs and house parties and that can help as well.

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

"When we were actually playing we rarely met anyone from Fab.

We prefer a club, Mr M doesn’t play with others so we find it far less hassle tbh.

"Mr M doesn’t play with others"

This would put me off instantly. If I meet a couple, I would want to play with both halves, not just be there for the female's benefit with the male watching. "

It's how we choose to play.

He has no interest in others.

I used to go to the clubs as a single female also so that returns the favour for the odd couples that were looking for a fem to join them.

They had to tick all the right boxes though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im surprised any couples find it difficult to find someone.

I know couples do tend to look for other couples but couples looking for single males is as rare as a dodo

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

"Im surprised any couples find it difficult to find someone.

I know couples do tend to look for other couples but couples looking for single males is as rare as a dodo"

It's why we find the clubs better.

If we click with the right person / people then all good.

Far less hassle.

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

We did then started going to clubs and it’s turned our swinging experience around

We went to two clubs which takes a mission and planning. Virtually no one spoke to us!! We had more success at a fetish night than a club night"

Not being funny but when you say “no one spoke to us” did you er speak to them?

We are regular club goers and we usually see a few couples, possibly newbies, sitting around in corners on their own not looking particularly welcoming. We prefer to hang by the bar and make the effort to engage with those who look friendly.

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By *ogNMuseCouple over a year ago

Surrey

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

We did then started going to clubs and it’s turned our swinging experience around

We went to two clubs which takes a mission and planning. Virtually no one spoke to us!! We had more success at a fetish night than a club night

Not being funny but when you say “no one spoke to us” did you er speak to them?

Complete with a supply of squirty cream

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple over a year ago

Chester

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

We did then started going to clubs and it’s turned our swinging experience around

We went to two clubs which takes a mission and planning. Virtually no one spoke to us!! We had more success at a fetish night than a club night

Not being funny but when you say “no one spoke to us” did you er speak to them?

This exactly. Smile, make eye contact, be sociable is how we roll

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

We did then started going to clubs and it’s turned our swinging experience around

We went to two clubs which takes a mission and planning. Virtually no one spoke to us!! We had more success at a fetish night than a club night

Not being funny but when you say “no one spoke to us” did you er speak to them?

This exactly. Smile, make eye contact, be sociable is how we roll "

The first club we went to was a bit more complicated because we had a single male friend who followed like a puppy!! But we tried to talk to people all in groups and not much response.

The second time was xtasia. So we were miles from home! The ladies were chatty enough in the loos but that was about it! We tried to speak to people and we did speak to a few but everyone seemed there to socialise not play. It definitely felt like don't speak to outsiders!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd suggest going to a club personally. No need to try to align diaries, whoever is there at the time is there. If you meet others who you click with on the night then you're onto a winner.

If you don't you can still have an awesome time. Winner.

We have been to clubs bit I just meant off here in general x"

We very rarely meet via fab. Just find it incredibly difficult, as you've said. So we just bugger off for the weekend, go to somewhere with clubs, Blackpool, Manchester, Birmingham and play like that. If we find people to play with, excellent, if not, we've escaped home, work and kids for a well earned break

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple over a year ago

Chester

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

We did then started going to clubs and it’s turned our swinging experience around

We went to two clubs which takes a mission and planning. Virtually no one spoke to us!! We had more success at a fetish night than a club night

Not being funny but when you say “no one spoke to us” did you er speak to them?

This exactly. Smile, make eye contact, be sociable is how we roll

The first club we went to was a bit more complicated because we had a single male friend who followed like a puppy!! But we tried to talk to people all in groups and not much response.

We prefer couples nights as vibe is for us. It takes us good 90mins plus to Xtasia so we're deffo outsiders. We prop up the bar plenty lol. Tbh we pick out organised events alot, the hosts will take you under their wing if you tell them you'd like to mix. Infact last Xtasia one Bootymilf spent most of the night getting people chatting etc. Regular nights at any club can lack lustre, but it only takes one great couple you click with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In my experience of being on here and elsewhere with my ex wife and FB partner, is that couples tend not to have issues on finding a meet/match, there problem is normally more to do with dealing with the volume of messages etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We all have a spell like that on here the along comes a gem and all the previous hassle Is forgotten

There are so many things people want or don’t want there will be lots of profiles who don’t match for one reason or another so just keep typing away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We struggle..usually because a lot of people won't see past hubby's age...so find meeting in clubs is better and they see you as a person, not just a number

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

We did then started going to clubs and it’s turned our swinging experience around

We went to two clubs which takes a mission and planning. Virtually no one spoke to us!! We had more success at a fetish night than a club night

Not being funny but when you say “no one spoke to us” did you er speak to them?

Complete with a supply of squirty cream

Shh don’t tell everyone our secret

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

We did then started going to clubs and it’s turned our swinging experience around

We went to two clubs which takes a mission and planning. Virtually no one spoke to us!! We had more success at a fetish night than a club night

Not being funny but when you say “no one spoke to us” did you er speak to them?

This exactly. Smile, make eye contact, be sociable is how we roll

The first club we went to was a bit more complicated because we had a single male friend who followed like a puppy!! But we tried to talk to people all in groups and not much response.

Xstasia can be a funny place as it’s more setup as a nightclub we’d suggest somewhere a bit smaller and more intimate and particularly focus on a couples night

Appreciate you are quite remote from the main clubs but even we (near London) have to travel hundreds of miles a month to go to the events we want to go to. We plug our favourites a lot on here but a new one to us and ridiculously friendly was Purple Mamba in Nottingham.

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

We did then started going to clubs and it’s turned our swinging experience around

We went to two clubs which takes a mission and planning. Virtually no one spoke to us!! We had more success at a fetish night than a club night

Not being funny but when you say “no one spoke to us” did you er speak to them?

This exactly. Smile, make eye contact, be sociable is how we roll

The first club we went to was a bit more complicated because we had a single male friend who followed like a puppy!! But we tried to talk to people all in groups and not much response.

Xstasia can be a funny place as it’s more setup as a nightclub we’d suggest somewhere a bit smaller and more intimate and particularly focus on a couples night

It's not that easy when we have a child though!! Plus money, etc we have to stay over night. Plus I work shifts so we can't just up and go.

We do try to go to our local organised party where we've had lots of success but again it's travel, etc.

The council just need to let us have a license for a club in Cornwall!!

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By *asmartsCouple over a year ago

sheffield

"Yea we struggle. We put it down to us not kissing others. We struggle to understand why couples can’t just kiss their partner only and do everything else with the other couple lol.

Can’t even get a bloody social lol"

We do the same! Kissing is just for us

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

Although it’s not something I can see ourselves doing, we meet quite a few couples who do organise their own very successful house parties (or indeed hotel orgies).

Judging by the number of threads made by couples in the South West (there have been a few) a bit of networking (eg getting twenty couples interested in a hotel meet and expecting five to turn up) might pay off?

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By *bcums3Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us..."

Just happened to us again today...profile hidden and they have vanished...3rd time now so either we are really unlucky or just unattractive lol....faith has now been lost lol clubs it is!!...

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple over a year ago

Chester

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

Just happened to us again today...profile hidden and they have vanished...3rd time now so either we are really unlucky or just unattractive lol....faith has now been lost lol clubs it is!!...

Obviously not genuine, we're they well verid?

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By *bcums3Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

Just happened to us again today...profile hidden and they have vanished...3rd time now so either we are really unlucky or just unattractive lol....faith has now been lost lol clubs it is!!...

Obviously not genuine, we're they well verid? "

Yea

All veri'd profiles

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

Just happened to us again today...profile hidden and they have vanished...3rd time now so either we are really unlucky or just unattractive lol....faith has now been lost lol clubs it is!!...

Obviously not genuine, we're they well verid?

Yea

All veri'd profiles "

We had same with a single guy , 3/4 weeks of chat then silence... luckily we got chatting to a guy on day of planned meet and he was 100%... Hotwife has loads of fun and we are already planning to meet again

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple over a year ago

Chester

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

Just happened to us again today...profile hidden and they have vanished...3rd time now so either we are really unlucky or just unattractive lol....faith has now been lost lol clubs it is!!...

Obviously not genuine, we're they well verid?

Yea

All veri'd profiles "

Webcam or verid by well verid peeps, some have veris but are fakes, easy to fool

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By *bcums3Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

Just happened to us again today...profile hidden and they have vanished...3rd time now so either we are really unlucky or just unattractive lol....faith has now been lost lol clubs it is!!...

Obviously not genuine, we're they well verid?

Yea

All veri'd profiles

It’s so annoying...good that you got something better from it

wondering if it’s our time to step back for a while?...not sure how much more being annoyed I can take lol

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By *bcums3Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

Just happened to us again today...profile hidden and they have vanished...3rd time now so either we are really unlucky or just unattractive lol....faith has now been lost lol clubs it is!!...

Obviously not genuine, we're they well verid?

Yea

All veri'd profiles

Webcam or verid by well verid peeps, some have veris but are fakes, easy to fool"

Everything seemed ok from all!...after the first time we learned to check lol

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By *uncpl187Couple over a year ago

Ramsgate

We are lucky really.We don't get time wasters.We don't get that many offers to get that far.But we have fun looking

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By *bcums3Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"We are lucky really.We don't get time wasters.We don't get that many offers to get that far.But we have fun looking

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By *anda and CatCouple over a year ago

We have pretty tight filters on now which limits us and think we have pretty much dialed our profile text in so tight we scare most off lol.

I think you guys might be surprised how many messages we get from couples with the standard "hi", "how are you", "meet now" or "nice pics" messages, we do however suspect these to be singles masquerading as couples but could be wrong.

We still try on here but it's clubs for us, easier to build a 4 way dynamic and no photo filters that could potentially lead to disappointment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

Just happened to us again today...profile hidden and they have vanished...3rd time now so either we are really unlucky or just unattractive lol....faith has now been lost lol clubs it is!!...

Obviously not genuine, we're they well verid?

Yea

All veri'd profiles

It’s so annoying...good that you got something better from it

wondering if it’s our time to step back for a while?...not sure how much more being annoyed I can take lol

We were lucky as the guy was 100%.... still annoyed as we spent loads of time chatting to the other guy but his kids, first timewaster for us

How about contacting ppl you have met before so they don’t waste your time?? Or do u guys go to clubs or socials ? X

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By *bcums3Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

Just happened to us again today...profile hidden and they have vanished...3rd time now so either we are really unlucky or just unattractive lol....faith has now been lost lol clubs it is!!...

Obviously not genuine, we're they well verid?

Yea

All veri'd profiles

It’s so annoying...good that you got something better from it

wondering if it’s our time to step back for a while?...not sure how much more being annoyed I can take lol

We were lucky as the guy was 100%.... still annoyed as we spent loads of time chatting to the other guy but his kids, first timewaster for us

How about contacting ppl you have met before so they don’t waste your time?? Or do u guys go to clubs or socials ? X"

Have only been on here about 9 months so only had few meets 2 of which has left the site

now lol like everyone would be nice to meet few different people fun or not!!..only been to a club once, was our first time so I was a bit nervous (fem) but happy to go back again, money and family usually dictates so don’t get to go as often as we would like, though def planning in changing that...no socials as of yet

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By *inkyKittyWoman over a year ago

Swindon

Even as the unicorn it’s hard to find someone! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

Just happened to us again today...profile hidden and they have vanished...3rd time now so either we are really unlucky or just unattractive lol....faith has now been lost lol clubs it is!!...

Obviously not genuine, we're they well verid?

Yea

All veri'd profiles

It’s so annoying...good that you got something better from it

wondering if it’s our time to step back for a while?...not sure how much more being annoyed I can take lol

We were lucky as the guy was 100%.... still annoyed as we spent loads of time chatting to the other guy but his kids, first timewaster for us

How about contacting ppl you have met before so they don’t waste your time?? Or do u guys go to clubs or socials ? X

Have only been on here about 9 months so only had few meets 2 of which has left the site

Can understand that guys , family , work etc will always come first

What night did you go to as we are thinking of going to a couples/ single fem night after the summer , so looking for as much info as possible as both nervous x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us..."

Today we had to postpone a meet. Felt really terrible doing so but circumstances dictate. We prefer to plan meets in advance whereas the short notice ones tend to be easy come easy go.

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By *bcums3Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"Any other couples struggling to find anyone interested?

We talk to a few people who seem interested for a while and then when it comes to meeting just blank us...

Just happened to us again today...profile hidden and they have vanished...3rd time now so either we are really unlucky or just unattractive lol....faith has now been lost lol clubs it is!!...

Obviously not genuine, we're they well verid?

Yea

All veri'd profiles

It’s so annoying...good that you got something better from it

wondering if it’s our time to step back for a while?...not sure how much more being annoyed I can take lol

We were lucky as the guy was 100%.... still annoyed as we spent loads of time chatting to the other guy but his kids, first timewaster for us

How about contacting ppl you have met before so they don’t waste your time?? Or do u guys go to clubs or socials ? X

Have only been on here about 9 months so only had few meets 2 of which has left the site

Can understand that guys , family , work etc will always come first

What night did you go to as we are thinking of going to a couples/ single fem night after the summer , so looking for as much info as possible as both nervous x"

Was the couples/single fem night, wasn’t too busy and didn’t play (nerves ) lol but everyone was really friendly and had a great night