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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Years ago about 23/25 years ago we allowed men into our home we meet via Gumtree personal ads as no mobiles/internet widely used. We were young and naive.
Meeting men from this site, especially if they have only been verified via another user or picture, would you as for a picture/proof of their address, eg council tax, rent receipt, drivers licence/etc?
Another question, my wife Tej feels she is too old for any fit guy to be interested in her - I thought of role play, EG, call in a builder/etc from this site even a pretend one that comes over to give us a quote and in the process he discretely chats her up, seduces her and hopefully take things from there by building up her confidence.
TIA
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What would be the point of you having proof of their address |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Years ago about 23/25 years ago we allowed men into our home we meet via Gumtree personal ads as no mobiles/internet widely used. We were young and naive.
Meeting men from this site, especially if they have only been verified via another user or picture, would you as for a picture/proof of their address, eg council tax, rent receipt, drivers licence/etc?
Another question, my wife Tej feels she is too old for any fit guy to be interested in her - I thought of role play, EG, call in a builder/etc from this site even a pretend one that comes over to give us a quote and in the process he discretely chats her up, seduces her and hopefully take things from there by building up her confidence.
TIA
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lol you want utility bill ID omg I think I'm actually going to die laughing please somebody call an ambulance now........ Help |
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By *uckfunCouple
over a year ago
North Coast |
Would the utility bill have to have been recent? Past 6 or 12 months?
What about points on the driving licence? Would that work against the man? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone was verified by another user, why would you need any more confirmation than that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another forum post where it looks like your putting on your wife again. She clearly doesn’t want to fuck other guys or she’d be actively involved.
Time to turn it in..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What about a note,from their mother  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I noted the other day as we get quite a few contacts that the user that contaed us one of many had only been on-line for a week and bee verified by another user via video only - a year ago or so when we had a joint account me and the wife, couple of memebers verified us watching us on video but we never showed our face - so you could be anyone
clarification re my OP - i would insist on two recent id's and a name and check these as after all the would be coming to our home - you can laugh, your perogative but we know what we wnat and the luck guy coimg over would have my phone and our address.
TIA |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A note "from their mother." You really asked for that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You'll be waiting a long time, I'll be amazed if any guy would agree to those demands. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some of the resposne here are the type that drive couple, newer people off the site. The others by some that may feel that they want to hide their details as wife may find out - the dozens of blokes we are contacted by and many dozens when we had the joint accout are married and/or have girl friends, so I understand why you don't want id asked for |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's one of the weirdist things I've read on here. And I've seen some freaky shit over the years.
If a potential meet is looking for ID verification I'd run a mile. |
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I didn't realise you need a DBS (criminal check for those not in the known) to meet people off here... That's where we were going all wrong then! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Graham, if you had nothing to hide and were to visit our home, we would be foolish not to check you out beforehand and those that have let you in and i guess none, you see where i am coming from. I too would run a mile from those that refused id |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why pm me regarding my comment?
I will discuss via here only OP |
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By *j48Man
over a year ago
Wigan |
And the reverse of that op is, you phone your "friend" with the visiting man's address, he's out as he's with you and he gets burgled..
I'm not saying you would obviously, but it's a possible intention.
Be realistic OP- if you're that scared of someone visiting your home you don't know. Arrange a meet in a club. Then you'll know if your partner really does want to swing and so would the other people there 
Why do people on here make it so difficult for themselves? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Years ago about 23/25 years ago we allowed men into our home we meet via Gumtree personal ads as no mobiles/internet widely used. We were young and naive.
Meeting men from this site, especially if they have only been verified via another user or picture, would you as for a picture/proof of their address, eg council tax, rent receipt, drivers licence/etc?
Another question, my wife Tej feels she is too old for any fit guy to be interested in her - I thought of role play, EG, call in a builder/etc from this site even a pretend one that comes over to give us a quote and in the process he discretely chats her up, seduces her and hopefully take things from there by building up her confidence.
TIA
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am sure she would not take it very well the builder senario |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Years ago about 23/25 years ago we allowed men into our home we meet via Gumtree personal ads as no mobiles/internet widely used. We were young and naive.
Meeting men from this site, especially if they have only been verified via another user or picture, would you as for a picture/proof of their address, eg council tax, rent receipt, drivers licence/etc?
Another question, my wife Tej feels she is too old for any fit guy to be interested in her - I thought of role play, EG, call in a builder/etc from this site even a pretend one that comes over to give us a quote and in the process he discretely chats her up, seduces her and hopefully take things from there by building up her confidence.
TIA
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that would be a breach of the data protection act if you asked for proof of address
plus if your wife does not want to meet a certain type that is up to her and her choice I would be annoyed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why pm me regarding my comment?
I will discuss via here only OP"
Perhaps he thinks you might just be that builder,to seduce his wife  |
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The easy answer is don't meet people in your home. If you are so concerned as to go to such lengths, don't do it! Lol |
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"Is this a joke ?
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It had to be. Surely nobody would agree to this. |
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Why would someone trust you have a wife, you’ve a single status? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In response to the op:
Do whatever you think is appropriate to ensure the wellbeing of both yourself and your wife.
There is an element of risk and a leap of faith required if you are inviting someone not only into your home, but into your bed and your wife. However, I would imagine that there would be very few people willing to give up their anonimity to meet your needs.
Perhaps a club meet may be an option you (and her) would be more appropriate?
There are only 3 people on the whole of fab that know my real name, my occupation and where I live. That was a result of well over a year of chatting to get to that stage.
I wouldn't hand over proof of snything. |
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"You'll be waiting a long time, I'll be amazed if any guy would agree to those demands."
I would for you lol
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"Years ago about 23/25 years ago we allowed men into our home we meet via Gumtree personal ads as no mobiles/internet widely used. We were young and naive.
Meeting men from this site, especially if they have only been verified via another user or picture, would you as for a picture/proof of their address, eg council tax, rent receipt, drivers licence/etc?
Another question, my wife Tej feels she is too old for any fit guy to be interested in her - I thought of role play, EG, call in a builder/etc from this site even a pretend one that comes over to give us a quote and in the process he discretely chats her up, seduces her and hopefully take things from there by building up her confidence.
TIA
that would be a breach of the data protection act if you asked for proof of address
plus if your wife does not want to meet a certain type that is up to her and her choice I would be annoyed "
It wouldn't be a breach of DPA at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why pm me regarding my comment?
I will discuss via here only OP"
You can only pm me if you include a copy of your driver's licence and your last three leccy bills  |
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Surely a club or hotel meet would be much easier and less time consuming.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Years ago about 23/25 years ago we allowed men into our home we meet via Gumtree personal ads as no mobiles/internet widely used. We were young and naive.
Meeting men from this site, especially if they have only been verified via another user or picture, would you as for a picture/proof of their address, eg council tax, rent receipt, drivers licence/etc?
Another question, my wife Tej feels she is too old for any fit guy to be interested in her - I thought of role play, EG, call in a builder/etc from this site even a pretend one that comes over to give us a quote and in the process he discretely chats her up, seduces her and hopefully take things from there by building up her confidence.
TIA
that would be a breach of the data protection act if you asked for proof of address
plus if your wife does not want to meet a certain type that is up to her and her choice I would be annoyed
It wouldn't be a breach of DPA at all."
quote of the day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why pm me regarding my comment?
I will discuss via here only OP
You can only pm me if you include a copy of your driver's licence and your last three leccy bills "
Surely long card number, expiry date and 3 digits off the back of a card would be better proof of ID  |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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Thank you for this thread OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you require a credit check and previous employment references too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sign the official secrets act? |
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Op if you invite people from the internet into your home you have the right to ask for anything that makes you and Tej feel safe. Single women are advised to take car registration and inform a friend of the address they're going to but as you've discovered single women are treated very differently on fab.
The thing is though that the people coming to your house have the right to refuse to give you the information you ask for. Put yourself in a man's position. You ask him to come to your home pretending to be a builder to try and seduce your wife. You have his full name and address. Tej gets upset because a stranger is in her home behaving inappropriately and calls the police. That guy is in a lot of trouble. Then there's identity theft. Utility bills are a common way to steal someone's id.
If Tej is genuinely on board with all this take her to a club. If she's not stop putting her and the guys you're trying to invite home into precarious positions.
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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I would suggest you get to know them socially in a public place before inviting them back to your home.
Have two or three (our more) socials and use your instincts as to whether you can trust them.
Put no pressure on your wife, give her time to see if she likes 'him'.
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"Op if you invite people from the internet into your home you have the right to ask for anything that makes you and Tej feel safe. Single women are advised to take car registration and inform a friend of the address they're going to but as you've discovered single women are treated very differently on fab.
The thing is though that the people coming to your house have the right to refuse to give you the information you ask for. Put yourself in a man's position. You ask him to come to your home pretending to be a builder to try and seduce your wife. You have his full name and address. Tej gets upset because a stranger is in her home behaving inappropriately and calls the police. That guy is in a lot of trouble. Then there's identity theft. Utility bills are a common way to steal someone's id.
If Tej is genuinely on board with all this take her to a club. If she's not stop putting her and the guys you're trying to invite home into precarious positions.
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The voice of sanity..... |
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"Op if you invite people from the internet into your home you have the right to ask for anything that makes you and Tej feel safe. Single women are advised to take car registration and inform a friend of the address they're going to but as you've discovered single women are treated very differently on fab.
The thing is though that the people coming to your house have the right to refuse to give you the information you ask for. Put yourself in a man's position. You ask him to come to your home pretending to be a builder to try and seduce your wife. You have his full name and address. Tej gets upset because a stranger is in her home behaving inappropriately and calls the police. That guy is in a lot of trouble. Then there's identity theft. Utility bills are a common way to steal someone's id.
If Tej is genuinely on board with all this take her to a club. If she's not stop putting her and the guys you're trying to invite home into precarious positions.
The voice of insanity....."
FTFY  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another forum post where it looks like your putting on your wife again. She clearly doesn’t want to fuck other guys or she’d be actively involved.
Time to turn it in....."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would someone trust you have a wife, you’ve a single status?"
Fair point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I noted the other day as we get quite a few contacts that the user that contaed us one of many had only been on-line for a week and bee verified by another user via video only - a year ago or so when we had a joint account me and the wife, couple of memebers verified us watching us on video but we never showed our face - so you could be anyone
clarification re my OP - i would insist on two recent id's and a name and check these as after all the would be coming to our home - you can laugh, your perogative but we know what we wnat and the luck guy coimg over would have my phone and our address.
TIA"
Maybe take some fingerprints also, can't ever be to sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would someone trust you have a wife, you’ve a single status?
Fair point. "
To be fair,when setting up a profile,there isn't an option to say married but playing alone or without consent.
It's single male or married,and it would be very deceitful to say mf couple when only one half is on the site |
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Single profile, claiming to be a couple whilst asking others to provide verification of who they are? No irony in that at all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My concerns would be...
What are you doing with info
Why checking
Are you storing info
Data protection gdpr rules should apply to you too.
What are you seeking info for..
Too many questions..
Dont meet at your home.. do hotel meet as long as shes consented |
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Haha, I've been blocked by OP for my comment in here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Haha, I've been blocked by OP for my comment in here. "
He blocked me too lol. ... ah well |
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This is the most ridiculous post ever
If you are that worried about bringing people into your home meet at a club or get a hotel or meet at their home
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Haha I got in first |
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By *j48Man
over a year ago
Wigan |
Ha ha.. Well done you..
I'll bet the profile will dissappear soon as I think we've all realised it's a bloke with a partner that has no interest in swinging whatsoever
Hard luck OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve not posted, just gone to check out the profile and I can’t view it either so you might not have been blocked. Could be down to another reason....
Miss V |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't understand what they are trying to protect themselves against.
No face pics on profile yet link to x hamster shows more than their faces. ... |
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By *j48Man
over a year ago
Wigan |
Fair point
Maybe admin have blocked his profile for being fake or similar |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve not posted, just gone to check out the profile and I can’t view it either so you might not have been blocked. Could be down to another reason....
Miss V"
He blocked me at 8am |
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By *j48Man
over a year ago
Wigan |
Was there a link to another website on the profile? X gerbil or similar
If so, admin will have blocked the profile I'd guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've just tried to look at op. I get the blocked message but I don't recall ever speaking to him before so I've not blocked him or he blocked me, so admin must have blocked him. |
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As the op is obviously no longer able to post I'll close this now |
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