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"To each their own. " Thanks _naswingdress..each to their own indeed but it is kinda weird that people participate in a swinging site yet put odd limits on playing with experienced people..c'est la vie! | |||
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"Thanks _aven red..appreciate your comment" Some people won't chat if there are no veris, some moan if there are loads. Can't please or be attractive to everyone. Don't be worrying about it. As long as you are enjoying yourselves and not hurting anybody, keep doing as you are x | |||
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"The first meet you've got published is from early 2009 so over 10 years ago. You've only got verification's from 40 people so that's 4 verification's per year on average. The people who are saying you have too many either shouldn't be on a swingers site or maybe they're just using that as an excuse to not meet you. Either way, I wouldn't worry about it and just carry on using the site how you want to. " Thanks Lee.. am not worried but wonder if my profile needs a facelift/refresh! | |||
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"Thanks _aven red..appreciate your comment Some people won't chat if there are no veris, some moan if there are loads. Can't please or be attractive to everyone. Don't be worrying about it. As long as you are enjoying yourselves and not hurting anybody, keep doing as you are x" I intend to red Raven thanks | |||
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"Wouldn’t worry what anyone says ... either too Little or too many ... block and move on " Thanks Welshuns.. | |||
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"Lots of veris....how very dare you, this is a swing site...You should have none Some people need to get a grip on reality " My sentiments entirely Sparkles thanks | |||
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"First people say they won’t meet you unless you have a verification now people are saying they won’t meet you because you have too many.Personally I have no problem meeting someone with a lot of varied verifications.I tend to display my verifications so that any one interested can see for themselves and make there own decisions." Appreciate your comments Costas | |||
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"20 over a 10yr period? What's the issue?" Well i thought i was doing OK..its all fun anyway! | |||
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"The first meet you've got published is from early 2009 so over 10 years ago. You've only got verification's from 40 people so that's 4 verification's per year on average. The people who are saying you have too many either shouldn't be on a swingers site or maybe they're just using that as an excuse to not meet you. Either way, I wouldn't worry about it and just carry on using the site how you want to. Thanks Lee.. am not worried but wonder if my profile needs a facelift/refresh!" Always good to keep changing things around as far as your profile goes. I very rarely bother as I don't often meet through FAB, I use it to keep in contact with people that I meet at clubs or to arrange events at different clubs. I've got something like 155 veri's this time around here on FAB in 5 years or so. The last time I was on I had over 200 in 5 years. But then I do have a tendency to go to quite a few clubs and actually meet people | |||
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"I'd have to agree I'm afraid" ??? but you dont meet! | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " Tell them to feck off, miserable trouts! | |||
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"Wouldn’t worry what anyone says ... either too Little or too many ... block and move on Thanks Welshuns.." | |||
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"Not had that one get but do seem to be amassing the Veri's eeek!!!" US too but I think verifications are good also introduces you to potentially other people .. | |||
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"First people say they won’t meet you unless you have a verification now people are saying they won’t meet you because you have too many.Personally I have no problem meeting someone with a lot of varied verifications.I tend to display my verifications so that any one interested can see for themselves and make there own decisions. Appreciate your comments Costas" . No problem mate.You said that perhaps your profile could do with a facelift.If you decide to go that way have a look at some of the other guys profiles with recent verifications to give you some ideas on how to refresh your profile or dare I say it ask for some profile advice.Best of luck with whatever you decide | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " Some go back to 2009 think it's more to do with guys and TVs | |||
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"Ignore and move on, it’s a swinging site at the end of the day and swinging generally involves group sex or swopping of partners." | |||
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"Don't like the number of veris I have? Tough shit. I try not to meet judgemental cockwombles." l Totally, we’ve never worried about people who dislike the fact we’ve had a fair few meets, we make no excuses, we are here for fun, simple x | |||
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"I don’t see the problem with it either, this is a swingers website so people will meet at some point. Lucky you I say!! I can’t get a social never mind a verification ????" Stay with it and keep an open mind and you will have some fun! | |||
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"Wouldn't worry about it and move on. The last thing I ask ... In fact I never ask anyone how many verifications they have had when I play in clubs. " Thanks eski for your comment--i dont get my fun at clubs, virtual desert down here! | |||
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"Those who have not got the verifications just jealous lol" Thats an interesting spin on this, hadnt really occurred to me..thanks. | |||
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"One of the problems is fab only says you've been on over a year. I've been on 5yrs and have 234 veris off 164 people so a lot are repeats and as I dj at cupids I get a lot that are just social xx" Well i guess then that the real players and swingers would be aware of that time thing.. | |||
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"Fuck em, that's what I say " A woman of similar mind..thanks for your comment Minne x | |||
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"Wouldn't worry about it and move on. The last thing I ask ... In fact I never ask anyone how many verifications they have had when I play in clubs. Thanks eski for your comment--i dont get my fun at clubs, virtual desert down here!" I'd feel a lot more comfortable with someone with many verification over time that someone with none if I was looking to play private btw. Only because someone who's a swinger who understands the etiquette of swinging is going to understand me better than someone who's only been here 3 ticks and doesn't have a clue Which ought to be a thread in its own rights as the etiquette is very different to when I started. | |||
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"I'd have to agree I'm afraid ??? but you dont meet!" Irony......... | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " On average you have 2 meets per year. That is not excessive. | |||
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"I really don't think you have that many veris OP, I have quite a few more than that. It's spaced out quite a lot. If anything, if someone isn't happy with it it shows you're not compatible so it's good that you find out know. I'd agree and echo the general "you'll never please everyone so keep being true to you" sentiment. " This one speaks with wise words. | |||
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"I really don't think you have that many veris OP, I have quite a few more than that. It's spaced out quite a lot. If anything, if someone isn't happy with it it shows you're not compatible so it's good that you find out know. I'd agree and echo the general "you'll never please everyone so keep being true to you" sentiment. This one speaks with wise words. " Agreed! | |||
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"I had the same comment off a couple I was chatting to. I said ok and blocked them. If anyone doesn't like it they can block me or move on x" Agreed! If people are looking for a relationship then maybe. But we see FABs as a swinging site. Veris are great as we can see what you are into & what you like. If it matches us we'll take if further, if not there's no point trying to meet. So the more veris the better as far as we are concerned. We'd rather meet experienced swingers than 'daters'. | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " It’s daft to make a decision based on numbers. | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " Probably best I don't show my verification summary then. *is there a tart emoji? | |||
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"Wouldn't worry about it and move on. The last thing I ask ... In fact I never ask anyone how many verifications they have had when I play in clubs. Thanks eski for your comment--i dont get my fun at clubs, virtual desert down here!" Loads of clubs in and around London | |||
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"I can't see your profile but it seems a little strange for someone to say too many veris! If a person goes to socials, clubs, or parties you can amass a lot of veris without having actually played with them all! Maybe a bad call or an excuse on their part? " I said some veris going back to 2009 that's almost the 20th century | |||
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"Don't like the number of veris I have? Tough shit. I try not to meet judgemental cockwombles." I'm one of those. I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris showing on their profile. | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " If they are saying you have too many.... then we are screwed lol! | |||
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"Are they worried about your health? From our point of view, there is increased risk of catching something from the person who has a lot of verifications... but from the other side, you can play with the person with one verification and catch something too. But We do not know why, we personally do not want to play with someone who has over 60 verification. And we do not check how these are spread in the time. Just checking the number. Maybe because we are here little bit over a year and this will change in the future. I know the couples who have earned 100 in one year. For us this is way to much. Even if organising a private party every week. Maybe we would just feel shy when approaching a people with huge experience. How we could surprise them if they tried everything already? We would feel like a piece of meat. Plus increased chance of catching something." Like getting pregnant only takes once to get an sti! Lol | |||
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"Are they worried about your health? From our point of view, there is increased risk of catching something from the person who has a lot of verifications... but from the other side, you can play with the person with one verification and catch something too. But We do not know why, we personally do not want to play with someone who has over 60 verification. And we do not check how these are spread in the time. Just checking the number. Maybe because we are here little bit over a year and this will change in the future. I know the couples who have earned 100 in one year. For us this is way to much. Even if organising a private party every week. ***Maybe we would just feel shy when approaching a people with huge experience. How we could surprise them if they tried everything already? *** We would feel like a piece of meat. Plus increased chance of catching something." *** | |||
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"Wouldn't worry about it and move on. The last thing I ask ... In fact I never ask anyone how many verifications they have had when I play in clubs. " Totally with you there | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " Fuck them | |||
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"Don't like the number of veris I have? Tough shit. I try not to meet judgemental cockwombles. I'm one of those. I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris showing on their profile. " You're not judgemental. | |||
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"I can see the logic. The more veris, the more meets, the more meets, the greater the chance one of them had an sti. In reality it only takes one meet to get an sti. I'd be more concerned with those that are openly into bareback but that's a whole new can o worms!" Do you honestly believe that those into casual sex are only meeting for sex through fab? Really?? I get what you're saying about bareback sex though,that's a big no no from us | |||
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"Don't like the number of veris I have? Tough shit. I try not to meet judgemental cockwombles. I'm one of those. I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris showing on their profile. You're not judgemental. " But you agree I'm a cockwomble. | |||
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"Don't like the number of veris I have? Tough shit. I try not to meet judgemental cockwombles. I'm one of those. I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris showing on their profile. " Does the meant let's say they have 30 verifications (over half from socials and spread over many years) but the only display 3 sex veris are they then ok to meet? Or is it once the get to 4 sex veris in total then they are no good? Or is it a per year thing so if they have had 4 sex veris in a 1 year period then I guess they are no good but say it's only 3 sexual meets per year would that then be ok? Sorry genuinely curious and trying to get my head around it. We consider ourselves still new to swinging only since March 19 and we have approx 6 sex veries so even though we are new and still relatively inexperienced if we go by the 4 sex veris max then we would mean we are no good by my understanding. Cheers KJ x | |||
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"Are they worried about your health? From our point of view, there is increased risk of catching something from the person who has a lot of verifications... but from the other side, you can play with the person with one verification and catch something too. But We do not know why, we personally do not want to play with someone who has over 60 verification. And we do not check how these are spread in the time. Just checking the number. Maybe because we are here little bit over a year and this will change in the future. I know the couples who have earned 100 in one year. For us this is way to much. Even if organising a private party every week. Maybe we would just feel shy when approaching a people with huge experience. How we could surprise them if they tried everything already? We would feel like a piece of meat. Plus increased chance of catching something." I would perhaps suggest that those meeting and playing more regularly -experienced and well seasoned swingers- are also more likely to get regularly tested? If you are hardly meeting or rarely playing (and only ever safe sex) the perception could be that the risk of sti is also lower, therefore less need for testing? As previously stated by others, low number of veris only gives an indication of people met through Fabs. They could be hooking up on tinder every week for bb sex. I like to read veris as it gives you a bit of a picture of what they are like & who they like. There will always be risk associated with this lifestyle and each of us choose differently how to rationalise and manage it. But I love my veris, as they make me smile with some happy, hot memories! | |||
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"Are they worried about your health? From our point of view, there is increased risk of catching something from the person who has a lot of verifications... but from the other side, you can play with the person with one verification and catch something too. But We do not know why, we personally do not want to play with someone who has over 60 verification. And we do not check how these are spread in the time. Just checking the number. Maybe because we are here little bit over a year and this will change in the future. I know the couples who have earned 100 in one year. For us this is way to much. Even if organising a private party every week. Maybe we would just feel shy when approaching a people with huge experience. How we could surprise them if they tried everything already? We would feel like a piece of meat. Plus increased chance of catching something." lol we would bet that all our meets don’t feel like a piece of meat, hence multiple hook ups with the same people, to intimate that you are more likely to catch something from people with loads of verifications, doesn’t equate, we are tested regularly, practise safe sex and people can see who we’ve played with, we’d actually avoid people with little veris who play infrequently as they are less likely to take there sexual health seriously (our opinion) or try to initiate unsafe sex (our experience) than seasoned well verified swingers It’s fine we can reduce our verifications down to 59 and hide our summary, you’d have been non the wiser!!! But we are honest people and honestly you’d be of no interest to us xxx | |||
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"Don't like the number of veris I have? Tough shit. I try not to meet judgemental cockwombles. I'm one of those. I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris showing on their profile. Does the meant let's say they have 30 verifications (over half from socials and spread over many years) but the only display 3 sex veris are they then ok to meet? Or is it once the get to 4 sex veris in total then they are no good? Or is it a per year thing so if they have had 4 sex veris in a 1 year period then I guess they are no good but say it's only 3 sexual meets per year would that then be ok? Sorry genuinely curious and trying to get my head around it. We consider ourselves still new to swinging only since March 19 and we have approx 6 sex veries so even though we are new and still relatively inexperienced if we go by the 4 sex veris max then we would mean we are no good by my understanding. Cheers KJ x " No it doesn't mean you're 'no good'. It just means I wouldn't meet you. 4 sex veris showing, whatever the time frame. 10 days or 10 years. | |||
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"Gangbangs aren't for everyone. If you contacted me asking to meet, one quick look at your veris would tell me we're not compatible as I prefer someone regular who has the time to give me, not just in person, but in conversation too, which someone who meets more prolifically wouldn't have. It's no judgement on your choices, just an acknowledgement of incompatibility. " I am a gangbang girl yet also manage to have the conversation and intimacy with numerous people... so it doesn't mean that just because someone is into one thing... they don't so other things x | |||
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"Don't like the number of veris I have? Tough shit. I try not to meet judgemental cockwombles. I'm one of those. I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris showing on their profile. Does the meant let's say they have 30 verifications (over half from socials and spread over many years) but the only display 3 sex veris are they then ok to meet? Or is it once the get to 4 sex veris in total then they are no good? Or is it a per year thing so if they have had 4 sex veris in a 1 year period then I guess they are no good but say it's only 3 sexual meets per year would that then be ok? Sorry genuinely curious and trying to get my head around it. We consider ourselves still new to swinging only since March 19 and we have approx 6 sex veries so even though we are new and still relatively inexperienced if we go by the 4 sex veris max then we would mean we are no good by my understanding. Cheers KJ x No it doesn't mean you're 'no good'. It just means I wouldn't meet you. 4 sex veris showing, whatever the time frame. 10 days or 10 years. " Apologies no good was a poor choice of words none compatible would have been better. Thank you for replying again I'm just curious. So you said anybody who has had 4 sexual meets be it in 10 months or 10 years that's to many to meet. Does that then not rule out 99% of swingers? The only people who haven't had 4 sexual meets are going to be those who are literally brand new to swinging and just starting out on their swinging journey. So is it just those new to the game people that you would meet? Or is it about the number of sexual veris displayed and not the number of sexual veris someone has had. For example if somebody had a verification summary saying 20 verifications but they only actually display 2 of those verifications that were for sexual meets and the other 18 veris were hidden. Would the example be compatible? Cheers KJ x | |||
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"Don't like the number of veris I have? Tough shit. I try not to meet judgemental cockwombles. I'm one of those. I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris showing on their profile. Does the meant let's say they have 30 verifications (over half from socials and spread over many years) but the only display 3 sex veris are they then ok to meet? Or is it once the get to 4 sex veris in total then they are no good? Or is it a per year thing so if they have had 4 sex veris in a 1 year period then I guess they are no good but say it's only 3 sexual meets per year would that then be ok? Sorry genuinely curious and trying to get my head around it. We consider ourselves still new to swinging only since March 19 and we have approx 6 sex veries so even though we are new and still relatively inexperienced if we go by the 4 sex veris max then we would mean we are no good by my understanding. Cheers KJ x No it doesn't mean you're 'no good'. It just means I wouldn't meet you. 4 sex veris showing, whatever the time frame. 10 days or 10 years. " You stick to your guns, you always do x | |||
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"Are they worried about your health? From our point of view, there is increased risk of catching something from the person who has a lot of verifications... but from the other side, you can play with the person with one verification and catch something too. But We do not know why, we personally do not want to play with someone who has over 60 verification. And we do not check how these are spread in the time. Just checking the number. Maybe because we are here little bit over a year and this will change in the future. I know the couples who have earned 100 in one year. For us this is way to much. Even if organising a private party every week. Maybe we would just feel shy when approaching a people with huge experience. How we could surprise them if they tried everything already? We would feel like a piece of meat. Plus increased chance of catching something." , be prepared to reap what you sow. | |||
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"Don't like the number of veris I have? Tough shit. I try not to meet judgemental cockwombles. I'm one of those. I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris showing on their profile. Does the meant let's say they have 30 verifications (over half from socials and spread over many years) but the only display 3 sex veris are they then ok to meet? Or is it once the get to 4 sex veris in total then they are no good? Or is it a per year thing so if they have had 4 sex veris in a 1 year period then I guess they are no good but say it's only 3 sexual meets per year would that then be ok? Sorry genuinely curious and trying to get my head around it. We consider ourselves still new to swinging only since March 19 and we have approx 6 sex veries so even though we are new and still relatively inexperienced if we go by the 4 sex veris max then we would mean we are no good by my understanding. Cheers KJ x No it doesn't mean you're 'no good'. It just means I wouldn't meet you. 4 sex veris showing, whatever the time frame. 10 days or 10 years. Apologies no good was a poor choice of words none compatible would have been better. Thank you for replying again I'm just curious. So you said anybody who has had 4 sexual meets be it in 10 months or 10 years that's to many to meet. Does that then not rule out 99% of swingers? The only people who haven't had 4 sexual meets are going to be those who are literally brand new to swinging and just starting out on their swinging journey. So is it just those new to the game people that you would meet? Or is it about the number of sexual veris displayed and not the number of sexual veris someone has had. For example if somebody had a verification summary saying 20 verifications but they only actually display 2 of those verifications that were for sexual meets and the other 18 veris were hidden. Would the example be compatible? Cheers KJ x" Yes, 'non compatible' is what I meant anyway. It's your second example- the number of veris showing. I'm happy meeting people who have met 1 or 1,000 people. People don't just meet on here. They may have no veris but have met many at clubs. It's just that the veris are showing, that's all. I'm not the type of person that they are looking for. | |||
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"Don't like the number of veris I have? Tough shit. I try not to meet judgemental cockwombles. I'm one of those. I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris showing on their profile. You're not judgemental. But you agree I'm a cockwomble. " I never said a word. You know I luvs yer. | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " I'm not hear to get laid. I got a blow job a few days ago conviniently offline. I didn't need to travel to Nottingham. | |||
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"Are they worried about your health? From our point of view, there is increased risk of catching something from the person who has a lot of verifications... but from the other side, you can play with the person with one verification and catch something too. But We do not know why, we personally do not want to play with someone who has over 60 verification. And we do not check how these are spread in the time. Just checking the number. Maybe because we are here little bit over a year and this will change in the future. I know the couples who have earned 100 in one year. For us this is way to much. Even if organising a private party every week. Maybe we would just feel shy when approaching a people with huge experience. How we could surprise them if they tried everything already? We would feel like a piece of meat. Plus increased chance of catching something. I would perhaps suggest that those meeting and playing more regularly -experienced and well seasoned swingers- are also more likely to get regularly tested? If you are hardly meeting or rarely playing (and only ever safe sex) the perception could be that the risk of sti is also lower, therefore less need for testing? As previously stated by others, low number of veris only gives an indication of people met through Fabs. They could be hooking up on tinder every week for bb sex. I like to read veris as it gives you a bit of a picture of what they are like & who they like. There will always be risk associated with this lifestyle and each of us choose differently how to rationalise and manage it. But I love my veris, as they make me smile with some happy, hot memories!" This | |||
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"Don't like the number of veris I have? Tough shit. I try not to meet judgemental cockwombles. I'm one of those. I won't meet people with more than 4 sex veris showing on their profile. You're not judgemental. But you agree I'm a cockwomble. I never said a word. You know I luvs yer. " | |||
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"I can see the logic. The more veris, the more meets, the more meets, the greater the chance one of them had an sti. In reality it only takes one meet to get an sti. I'd be more concerned with those that are openly into bareback but that's a whole new can o worms! Do you honestly believe that those into casual sex are only meeting for sex through fab? Really?? I get what you're saying about bareback sex though,that's a big no no from us " I didn't say I agreed with the logic, just that a understand the logic. Aside from that though your counter logic doesn't really hold water either. If someone has 500 veris on fab, they have probably met a lot on other sites too. Conversely if they have 2 veris, the chances are they've not had 500 meets through Tinder / POF etc. | |||
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"I received a message from a female who had 99 veris (maxed out). My spidey sense started tingling .... put me right off. Landmines " Did you read them or count them? | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? I'm not hear to get laid. I got a blow job a few days ago conviniently offline. I didn't need to travel to Nottingham. " What an achievement! | |||
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"I received a message from a female who had 99 veris (maxed out). My spidey sense started tingling .... put me right off. Landmines Did you read them or count them? " Hehe I read a couple and in case you wasn’t aware there is a counter present on the profiles ..... The crazy thing is she sounded like my kind of playmate. But alas I’ve grown very attached to my dick over the years and call me sentimental but I wouldn’t like to see it drop off one day | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " Fuck ‘em (Pun intended ) | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " No problem here | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " We like to think even if we swing the people we swing with wouldn’t fuck just anyone. That they would go to a club have a nice time chatting and leave happy but if they pull great. Just don’t want to be just another shag. If you shag 20 people a month we don’t really fancy that. | |||
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"The first meet you've got published is from early 2009 so over 10 years ago. You've only got verification's from 40 people so that's 4 verification's per year on average. The people who are saying you have too many either shouldn't be on a swingers site or maybe they're just using that as an excuse to not meet you. Either way, I wouldn't worry about it and just carry on using the site how you want to. " exactly correct ... verifications are one window into who you are , people on this site should be the adults they say they are | |||
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"If you have an odd number of veris them I'm not interested. Even them out and I'll show interest " Just meet couples. | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " m It dose put me off some profiles | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " I agree it is a turn off | |||
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"20 over a 10yr period? What's the issue?" People do not know from reading tge profile the figure is over a 10 year period though do they? | |||
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"The first meet you've got published is from early 2009 so over 10 years ago. You've only got verification's from 40 people so that's 4 verification's per year on average. The people who are saying you have too many either shouldn't be on a swingers site or maybe they're just using that as an excuse to not meet you. Either way, I wouldn't worry about it and just carry on using the site how you want to. " In order to establish tbis they have to read a little further, the initial number is the first thing they will notice and i imagine this stops them from wanting to get know the OP further. Just hide your verification summary and post 4 or 5 of your most recent verifications. Nobody needs to know what happened 10 years ago, it seems that you wear them like a badge of honour and May be this is putting people off.... Just a suggestion but you couod try it and see what happens x | |||
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"Don’t give a crap that some judgemental idiots don’t like we have loads of verifications it’s great as they will avoid us, most are play meets, a small amount from when we ran a club night, always cracks us up on these threads when people say “I’ve got loads but most are social” blah blah blah, why are you justifying yourself to anyone? To be honest maybe we could hide loads of them but cannot be bothered spending hours doing that and we have what we have so just concentrate on other stuff...." It makes me sad when people feel they need to say X amount are just socials. If they don't like them they're just not compatible. I like people having their profile how they want it. Like attracts like. You will attract people who are similar, and put off those who aren't. | |||
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"More veris the better. Better chance of a meet. And prob say if they great in bed! I have a few in a short time!" Agreed.. | |||
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"20 over a 10yr period? What's the issue? People do not know from reading tge profile the figure is over a 10 year period though do they?" Yes they can. Every veri has a date. What is it you can’t see? | |||
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"20 over a 10yr period? What's the issue? People do not know from reading tge profile the figure is over a 10 year period though do they? Yes they can. Every veri has a date. What is it you can’t see? " I think they are referring to the bit on the profile that says over a year, doesn't specify how long in years you've been on fab. Would be good if it did though. | |||
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"20 over a 10yr period? What's the issue? People do not know from reading tge profile the figure is over a 10 year period though do they? Yes they can. Every veri has a date. What is it you can’t see? I think they are referring to the bit on the profile that says over a year, doesn't specify how long in years you've been on fab. Would be good if it did though. " I get that but a quick look at the veri’s, which is what we talking about here, would show that. If you’re looking at a profile, you’re going to read the verifications, surely.. | |||
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"If you have no veris you are fake. And then you can have too many and have been "ridden like fuck" - or at least thats what I've been told. Cant win " | |||
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"Veris and status updates for some are a way of bragging, I personally would rather not know and Base decisions on social meets and chatting, they don't matter too much for guys anyway, for women they are meant to tell them the guy was reliable, pleasant and accurate to his profile, details of the fun that was had are not needed, so in summing up yes dependent on what's written and how many veris and the timescale the veris are given in is a definite factor in whether you would want to meet them irrespective of the lifestyle, organised social event meets are obviously an exception " Yes but if every very is full on grim graphic description, meets with dubious people ie barebackers a no for us and also no social meets (shag n go only) then we'd have no interest | |||
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"Veris and status updates for some are a way of bragging, I personally would rather not know and Base decisions on social meets and chatting, they don't matter too much for guys anyway, for women they are meant to tell them the guy was reliable, pleasant and accurate to his profile, details of the fun that was had are not needed, so in summing up yes dependent on what's written and how many veris and the timescale the veris are given in is a definite factor in whether you would want to meet them irrespective of the lifestyle, organised social event meets are obviously an exception Yes but if every very is full on grim graphic description, meets with dubious people ie barebackers a no for us and also no social meets (shag n go only) then we'd have no interest " Well yes my point exactly | |||
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"Veris and status updates for some are a way of bragging, I personally would rather not know and Base decisions on social meets and chatting, they don't matter too much for guys anyway, for women they are meant to tell them the guy was reliable, pleasant and accurate to his profile, details of the fun that was had are not needed, so in summing up yes dependent on what's written and how many veris and the timescale the veris are given in is a definite factor in whether you would want to meet them irrespective of the lifestyle, organised social event meets are obviously an exception Yes but if every very is full on grim graphic description, meets with dubious people ie barebackers a no for us and also no social meets (shag n go only) then we'd have no interest Well yes my point exactly " | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " These numpties need to look up swinging in the Oxford. My question is, what are they doing on here? | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? " You are such a man whore with all of those verifications ha ha . | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? These numpties need to look up swinging in the Oxford. My question is, what are they doing on here? " Absolutely this! | |||
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"Frankly the more verifications the better. Personally we are looking to meet swingers not born again Christians. " How many verifications do proper swingers have? More than 10? | |||
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"Frankly the more verifications the better. Personally we are looking to meet swingers not born again Christians. How many verifications do proper swingers have? More than 10?" That's a reasonable number if they've only been on the site for 2 days | |||
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"Frankly the more verifications the better. Personally we are looking to meet swingers not born again Christians. How many verifications do proper swingers have? More than 10?" The more the better | |||
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"Frankly the more verifications the better. Personally we are looking to meet swingers not born again Christians. How many verifications do proper swingers have? More than 10?" Do you remember a fair few years ago when BrightonSteve asked if anyone had the magic 500 veris on a forum post ? At the time we had about 475 so I posted we weren’t far off , and two weeks later we hit it so I bumped it . We got loads of grief for that as I recall , particularly as we accumulated the last ten in a graveyard one night | |||
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"Frankly the more verifications the better. Personally we are looking to meet swingers not born again Christians. How many verifications do proper swingers have? More than 10? Do you remember a fair few years ago when BrightonSteve asked if anyone had the magic 500 veris on a forum post ? At the time we had about 475 so I posted we weren’t far off , and two weeks later we hit it so I bumped it . We got loads of grief for that as I recall , particularly as we accumulated the last ten in a graveyard one night " It appears that might put some folks with a delicate disposition off. However we are intrigued | |||
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"Frankly the more verifications the better. Personally we are looking to meet swingers not born again Christians. How many verifications do proper swingers have? More than 10? Do you remember a fair few years ago when BrightonSteve asked if anyone had the magic 500 veris on a forum post ? At the time we had about 475 so I posted we weren’t far off , and two weeks later we hit it so I bumped it . We got loads of grief for that as I recall , particularly as we accumulated the last ten in a graveyard one night It appears that might put some folks with a delicate disposition off. However we are intrigued " I had put a post on here suggesting outdoor fun may be further enhanced by doing it in a graveyard . To cut a long story short it didn’t go down well with some of the forum at the time . The thread was pulled and I was severely chastised . C’est la vie as they say , this was a long time ago . Anyway I put some pics of the fun we had in a graveyard a week or two later , and surprise surprise they were reported and deleted too . But we did get about ten veris from fellow fab members after that night of fun | |||
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"Frankly the more verifications the better. Personally we are looking to meet swingers not born again Christians. " Well said | |||
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"Does bother us if people dont want to meet us and want to judge us. Ours have built up over 10 years. Why do some think they are holier than Thou on here. They need to look in a mirror and realise it's actually them, the same person on their profile actually on a SWINGING site. " Agreed, but we don’t care if people are bothered by the amount we have, we don’t want to meet those type of people anyway xx | |||
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"Frankly the more verifications the better. Personally we are looking to meet swingers not born again Christians. How many verifications do proper swingers have? More than 10? Do you remember a fair few years ago when BrightonSteve asked if anyone had the magic 500 veris on a forum post ? At the time we had about 475 so I posted we weren’t far off , and two weeks later we hit it so I bumped it . We got loads of grief for that as I recall , particularly as we accumulated the last ten in a graveyard one night " I thought you got to 499 then made a new profile. | |||
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"Frankly the more verifications the better. Personally we are looking to meet swingers not born again Christians. How many verifications do proper swingers have? More than 10? Do you remember a fair few years ago when BrightonSteve asked if anyone had the magic 500 veris on a forum post ? At the time we had about 475 so I posted we weren’t far off , and two weeks later we hit it so I bumped it . We got loads of grief for that as I recall , particularly as we accumulated the last ten in a graveyard one night I thought you got to 499 then made a new profile. " We did that the time before we left ! And that’s the truth . This time we hit the 500 then left and made a new profile . And not one social veri on either | |||
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"Frankly the more verifications the better. Personally we are looking to meet swingers not born again Christians. How many verifications do proper swingers have? More than 10? Do you remember a fair few years ago when BrightonSteve asked if anyone had the magic 500 veris on a forum post ? At the time we had about 475 so I posted we weren’t far off , and two weeks later we hit it so I bumped it . We got loads of grief for that as I recall , particularly as we accumulated the last ten in a graveyard one night I thought you got to 499 then made a new profile. We did that the time before we left ! And that’s the truth . This time we hit the 500 then left and made a new profile . And not one social veri on either " Disgusting. X | |||
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"Frankly the more verifications the better. Personally we are looking to meet swingers not born again Christians. How many verifications do proper swingers have? More than 10? Do you remember a fair few years ago when BrightonSteve asked if anyone had the magic 500 veris on a forum post ? At the time we had about 475 so I posted we weren’t far off , and two weeks later we hit it so I bumped it . We got loads of grief for that as I recall , particularly as we accumulated the last ten in a graveyard one night I thought you got to 499 then made a new profile. We did that the time before we left ! And that’s the truth . This time we hit the 500 then left and made a new profile . And not one social veri on either Disgusting. X " I’d expect nothing less from someone who won’t meet anyone with more than 4 play meets !!! | |||
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"Interested in other Fabbers view on this--have had some replies recently saying no thanks too many meets and verifications on my profile.. What do you think?? If they are saying you have too many.... then we are screwed lol! " Holy crap you are even worse lol. | |||
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"Frankly the more verifications the better. Personally we are looking to meet swingers not born again Christians. How many verifications do proper swingers have? More than 10? Do you remember a fair few years ago when BrightonSteve asked if anyone had the magic 500 veris on a forum post ? At the time we had about 475 so I posted we weren’t far off , and two weeks later we hit it so I bumped it . We got loads of grief for that as I recall , particularly as we accumulated the last ten in a graveyard one night I thought you got to 499 then made a new profile. We did that the time before we left ! And that’s the truth . This time we hit the 500 then left and made a new profile . And not one social veri on either Disgusting. X I’d expect nothing less from someone who won’t meet anyone with more than 4 play meets !!! " I'd love to meet you both for a coffee. | |||
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"Frankly the more verifications the better. Personally we are looking to meet swingers not born again Christians. How many verifications do proper swingers have? More than 10? Do you remember a fair few years ago when BrightonSteve asked if anyone had the magic 500 veris on a forum post ? At the time we had about 475 so I posted we weren’t far off , and two weeks later we hit it so I bumped it . We got loads of grief for that as I recall , particularly as we accumulated the last ten in a graveyard one night " Oh yeah, I recall. It was for the ultra VIP section of my swingers club. I also enjoyed the graveyard fallout It reminded me of when I was a goff. | |||
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"To each their own. Thanks _naswingdress..each to their own indeed but it is kinda weird that people participate in a swinging site yet put odd limits on playing with experienced people..c'est la vie!" They should fuck whoever asks. | |||
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