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Difficulty with getting meets or socials
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Hi everyone, just wondered if there was something I’m doing wrong??
I think my profile is quite open and easy to read... I’ve got a few photos and only have my face pics hidden for work reasons.
But I’m finding it really difficult to get anyone open to a social or any meet.
I get the fact that I’m a hairy guy and most peoples tastes are smooth and muscular and that’s not me, so is there anything else I can do to bolster my chances of being noticed??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone, just wondered if there was something I’m doing wrong??
I think my profile is quite open and easy to read... I’ve got a few photos and only have my face pics hidden for work reasons.
But I’m finding it really difficult to get anyone open to a social or any meet.
I get the fact that I’m a hairy guy and most peoples tastes are smooth and muscular and that’s not me, so is there anything else I can do to bolster my chances of being noticed??
Thanks peoples "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are you ready? Here it goes (from my personal perspective) :
Age range left from default comes across as lazy. Would you really meet 99 years old?
You can't accomodate - married? Gf?
Your have some profile text but it doesn't tell much about you or what you're looking for. The paragraph about open minded couples is meaningless (come on - they're on a swingers site) as well as the one just after that. Also the one where you're explaining your reasons not to have face pic public. Just keep it on friends only or send with messages. Don't need a whole paragraph about it.
Do a forum search on profile advice, there are loads of it.
Been on the site for over a year and not meet verified would ring alarm bells for us. We wouldn't consider meeting you as already had our time wasted by arranging meet with someone who's been on here for over a year and not meet verified for him to just not tun up. Maybe get yourself to an organised social.
Don't know what you write in your messages but read the profiles carefully and pay attention to what is said in them before messaging.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi everyone, just wondered if there was something I’m doing wrong??
I think my profile is quite open and easy to read... I’ve got a few photos and only have my face pics hidden for work reasons.
But I’m finding it really difficult to get anyone open to a social or any meet.
I get the fact that I’m a hairy guy and most peoples tastes are smooth and muscular and that’s not me, so is there anything else I can do to bolster my chances of being noticed??
Thanks peoples "
nothing wrong with hair except it brings me out in a rash so it is not for me |
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"38 years old and can't accommodate that would set alarm bells off for us"
Yes I totally get that.
And whilst I don’t want to air my “life story” it basically boils down to the fact that at the moment I’m house sharing as the ex wife took everything I had. So I’m for the last 18 months Ive been trying to get on my feet as it were. |
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"38 years old and can't accommodate that would set alarm bells off for us
Yes I totally get that.
And whilst I don’t want to air my “life story” it basically boils down to the fact that at the moment I’m house sharing as the ex wife took everything I had. So I’m for the last 18 months Ive been trying to get on my feet as it were. "
Just add to your profile along the lines of "can't accommodate as house sharing at the moment". As simple as that. No need to go into details.
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"38 years old and can't accommodate that would set alarm bells off for us
Yes I totally get that.
And whilst I don’t want to air my “life story” it basically boils down to the fact that at the moment I’m house sharing as the ex wife took everything I had. So I’m for the last 18 months Ive been trying to get on my feet as it were.
Just add to your profile along the lines of "can't accommodate as house sharing at the moment". As simple as that. No need to go into details.
Mrs "
Totally agree. The fact it’s been briefly acknowledged goes a long way. |
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It's difficult to know what if anything you may be able to improve upon, without knowing more. It does involve a lot of effort from you single men, sometimes some luck.
Group socials and clubs would probably increase your circle of friends and possible partners. If you find certain aspects of your personal styling have narrow appeal, you could consider alternative styles, such as body hair trimming/grooming options - you may lose some people but gain others.
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone, just wondered if there was something I’m doing wrong??
I think my profile is quite open and easy to read... I’ve got a few photos and only have my face pics hidden for work reasons.
But I’m finding it really difficult to get anyone open to a social or any meet.
I get the fact that I’m a hairy guy and most peoples tastes are smooth and muscular and that’s not me, so is there anything else I can do to bolster my chances of being noticed??
Thanks peoples "
. I am a hairy guy who can’t accommodate I tend to go to organised socials and clubs.I have changed my profile around so that it is in the form of small sentences / bullet points and the forum advice I received was that it was better.If you feel it will help you can have a look at it in case you want to change anything around.With regards to getting a social look at attending a organised social if you look on the forums for the area you are in you will see details on there or on the meets & events page.There are 2 in the London area on the London forum have a look see if the dates are suitable.With regards to been too hairy I asked the same question over a year ago and the advice I received on the forums was to only have about 3 pictures showing how hairy I was which I now have.Yes many ladies may prefer smooth but if you are attending organised socials or clubs I find it’s not weather your are smooth or hairy but weather you can socialise and show you have manners and respect.Best of luck with everything. |
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