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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are saying you'd like a meet and looking for Male TV/Ts as welll as women and couples yet your profile says you're straight, so some honesty would go along way for starters.
You're only 21 too and many women like experienced guys and don't want to shag someone young enough to be their son.
You also can't accommodate and many women don't feel secure having strangers in their home.
And to top it all off there's thousands of guys all trying to get meets who are older, more experienced and can accommodate who have verifications with far fewer women.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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cheers for the input, unfortunately i cant help the fact that im 21 lol and i understand the accomodation thing thats why i usually ask if i get a meet if they would like to go hotel and meet in bar this way safer for everyone, i pay of course |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're only 21 too and many women like experienced guys and don't want to shag someone young enough to be their son.
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maybe hes not looking for someone old enough to be his mum 
there are young women on here too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hey people im a larger guy and therefore i have trouble getting meets, could you guys give me some feedback on my profile please
cheers"
noones for everyone, some people dont like larger some prefer a bit of meat
You just have to keep your chin up till you do find someone you like who likes you in return
your not a bad looking lad and to be honest your hardly huge, i think your main problem is the fact that men so greatly out number women on here thats its hard for any guy to get a meet rather than your size x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey Buddy
From one bigger guy to another I am not going to sugar coat it, most of the women on here want the toned athletic build in a guy, there are women who appreciate a more generously proportioned guy but they are rare - not unicorn single bi fem rare but close to it.
Luckily confidence and personality can and do interest women - so make sure your profile tells a woman what you're about and what they can expect from time with you - its your shop window so make sure it sells you. Then make sure your first message to them stands out, some women will look at your pictures and decline/ignore your offer right away, if they are unsure of there interest based on how you look a well constructed interesting message could well sway them.
But like Kinky says its not always about the looks, there will be other factors so dont focus on that one aspect, Most of all be positive and know that there WILL be someone on here who wants to spend time doing what we are all here to do
Good Luck buddy and if I can offer anymore help let me know
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's someone for everyone, as they say, you've just got to find them.
I've looked at your pic and as someone has already said, you're hardly huge. In fact if you were a woman, you'd be average, lol
You've got lots of competition and I'm afraid it's a case of the strong will survive.
Don't let your body shape put you off, if you look back on the search facility you'll see plenty of fit, toned guys asking the same questions as you |
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i think its more likely to be your age than your size, i like bigger men so do many others, but 21 is going to be against you.
What are you doing to get the best out of the site, are you using all of the tools it offers, getting to know people, going to socials so people can decide for themselves wheter you are mature or not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just the age for me too [ mrs ] I like a man with some meat on him....not into slim athletic at all, give me a rough builder type any day...bones are for the cemetery..lol  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Hey Buddy
From one bigger guy to another I am not going to sugar coat it, most of the women on here want the toned athletic build in a guy, there are women who appreciate a more generously proportioned guy but they are rare - not unicorn single bi fem rare but close to it.
Luckily confidence and personality can and do interest women - so make sure your profile tells a woman what you're about and what they can expect from time with you - its your shop window so make sure it sells you. Then make sure your first message to them stands out, some women will look at your pictures and decline/ignore your offer right away, if they are unsure of there interest based on how you look a well constructed interesting message could well sway them.
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actually... i am torn.... because the 2nd paragraph of what you said is spot on and is what i would have said.... and would say to the OP to think about that....
but the 1st paragraph is such complete and utter tosh..... I can't let it slide without commenting on it.....
the problem with people is they like to come up with an excuse for why people won't meet them and then use that as some sort of crutch...
oh people won't meet me because i am large.....
oh people won't meet me because i am black.....
oh people won't meet me because i am married and the mrs doesn't know...... ect ect ect....
no... the real reason is that people don't want to meet you is you.... same for me.... same for the op......
the difference is in effect I don't beat myself up about it... i get on and concentrate on the people that like me for me, as opposed to the people who don't....
you are never going to please everone.... and there aren't enough hours in the day to even try....
it feels as it it is "excuse de jour".... and using excuses isn't in the end helping anyone..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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but the 1st paragraph is such complete and utter tosh..... I can't let it slide without commenting on it....."
So do you disagree that most women on here want a slimmer guy? - I am not stating that as an excuse for bigger guys not to get meets - rare was maybe a strong word to use but the majority of women dont want a bigger guy
I agree that making excuses doesn't help - whining about not being getting meets isn't attractive - but if someone doesn't like you because your big then they wont meet you - if someone doesn't like you because your black they wont meet you
It sounds as if the OP has confidence issues with his body which may lead him to second guess himself and blame that as the cause but as a number of women have already suggested it isnt a problem.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people have a lot of "excuses" to define the type of person they want to meet (and use that as a whole set of crutches too... ), and as said in a thread yesterday, that corresponds to about 0.002% of the population - i.e one legged nicaraguan lesbians living in surbiton that speak fluent finnish and have a bank manager named Jim.
So if I was the OP I wouldn't always be thinking that 'it might be me...', because it probably isn't. Worry not and move on to the next set of prospectives
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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hey guys thanks for all the replys i appriciate it loads. Its not that i have massive confidence issues i just wanted some feedback and advice, but im not saying my confidence is through the roof lmao, but again thank you and im taking everything into account |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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but the 1st paragraph is such complete and utter tosh..... I can't let it slide without commenting on it.....
So do you disagree that most women on here want a slimmer guy? - I am not stating that as an excuse for bigger guys not to get meets - rare was maybe a strong word to use but the majority of women dont want a bigger guy
I agree that making excuses doesn't help - whining about not being getting meets isn't attractive - but if someone doesn't like you because your big then they wont meet you - if someone doesn't like you because your black they wont meet you
It sounds as if the OP has confidence issues with his body which may lead him to second guess himself and blame that as the cause but as a number of women have already suggested it isnt a problem.
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i agree with chunky, i think on the whole most women on here would go for toned over over weight, but then so would more guys on women, theres always going to be exceptions and there are people out there who genuinly prefer the ample body frame but over all people tend to go for smaller |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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alot of the younger lasses his age are looking for exception guys like, thats why they are on if they not into group fun.
not all of them, but canny few are, but usually they pretty fit themselves so its understandable really
maybe you help by more face pics and put your naked pic to private and send when asked for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For most of us this site is fantasy.
I don't see the op as large however, if I did want to meet a 21 year old, one posing with a fag in his mouth, cards in his hands and a pint by his side would be very off putting to me.
Just saying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At least he could be bothered to put a pic on his profile...so may be he'll need less luck than you ...  "
As I'm not looking and only here for the forums your point is?!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the reason iv put that pic as my main pic is because it shows what kind of person i am, im not gonna put up some fake picture"
Good for you putting up a picture that reflects you. Why would you change it? My point is if I were looking to meet someone - regardless of age or build - my fantasy man wouldn't be one that conveyed the image of a drinking, smoking gambler.
As we can never please everybody your picture is bound to appeal to "like minded people" and I wish you good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At least he could be bothered to put a pic on his profile...so may be he'll need less luck than you ...
As I'm not looking and only here for the forums your point is?!! "
I'd like to know what their point is too.... |
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I have to admit that I like a bigger man and if they are hairy well I have just reached heaven LOL.
Skinny men just do not do it for me. I had a look at your profile and have to admit for me it is your age.
I know this is not something you can change but hang in there. |
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"the reason iv put that pic as my main pic is because it shows what kind of person i am, im not gonna put up some fake picture"
Sorry I was talking about the 1st comment on your thread " mr naughty" who whilst being picky about your profile has no pics on his or anything useful..  |
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"At least he could be bothered to put a pic on his profile...so may be he'll need less luck than you ...
As I'm not looking and only here for the forums your point is?!! "
Sorry sassy that should have been a quote to mr- naughty at the start of the thread who has no pics but was quick in telling the op the faults in his and how he has no chance.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At least he could be bothered to put a pic on his profile...so may be he'll need less luck than you ...
As I'm not looking and only here for the forums your point is?!!
Sorry sassy that should have been a quote to mr- naughty at the start of the thread who has no pics but was quick in telling the op the faults in his and how he has no chance.. "
Got it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At least he could be bothered to put a pic on his profile...so may be he'll need less luck than you ...
As I'm not looking and only here for the forums your point is?!!
Sorry sassy that should have been a quote to mr- naughty at the start of the thread who has no pics but was quick in telling the op the faults in his and how he has no chance..
Got it. "
Me too |
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"Just the age for me too [ mrs ] I like a man with some meat on him....not into slim athletic at all, give me a rough builder type any day...bones are for the cemetery..lol "
Running off to hide in some cave...
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"At least he could be bothered to put a pic on his profile...so may be he'll need less luck than you ...
As I'm not looking and only here for the forums your point is?!!
Sorry sassy that should have been a quote to mr- naughty at the start of the thread who has no pics but was quick in telling the op the faults in his and how he has no
Got it.
Me too "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you thought about not being a larger guy? Hitting the gym and turning that fat into muscle? ... If you think being larger is holding you back then lose weight.
(disclaimer: I am not suggesting one body type is better than the other, just my take on the op) |
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I'd add more detail of your experience, your sexual interests, who you're looking to meet, as well as of yourself in the written profile section. Realise there's a section for 'interests' but think many people read the text, grab an impression of whether they may or may not be interested and could move quickly on, if you've not 'sold' yourself as well as you could. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile is ok. It doesn't stand out. I can only tell you why I personally wouldn't meet you based on your profile.
You write "loves to go out for a good night with anyone who can keep up."
This plus the picture of you drinking, smoking and gambling gives me the impression that you'd like to party hard with a lot of drink. Now that doesn't mean that's true, but that's the impression I get.
You previously said that this picture is a true representation of you. Fair enough. Don't change it.
But maybe my thought process gives you an idea what some people could think of your profile.
I also don't think that your size is a huge problem. You have a very nice face which would be important to me.
All the best and take care! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"IF UR NOT HAPPY GO GYM AND BECOME THIN ITS NOT IMPOSSIBLE"
Shhhh!!
He didn't say he wasn't happy with his body, he just asked if it would be a problem as regards meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile is ok. It doesn't stand out. I can only tell you why I personally wouldn't meet you based on your profile.
You write "loves to go out for a good night with anyone who can keep up."
This plus the picture of you drinking, smoking and gambling gives me the impression that you'd like to party hard with a lot of drink. Now that doesn't mean that's true, but that's the impression I get.
You previously said that this picture is a true representation of you. Fair enough. Don't change it.
But maybe my thought process gives you an idea what some people could think of your profile.
I also don't think that your size is a huge problem. You have a very nice face which would be important to me.
All the best and take care!"
*Nods in agreement*...your thought process the same as mine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"IF UR NOT HAPPY GO GYM AND BECOME THIN ITS NOT IMPOSSIBLE
Shhhh!!
He didn't say he wasn't happy with his body, he just asked if it would be a problem as regards meets. "
i was just thinking that
where does it say HES not happy with his body? hes just asking for advice regards meets but why should he change himself for people in here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My dear friend,
Trust me I have the same issue of being large and to make this more complicated I have facial hair and am Asian lolll so it doesn't get more difficult then that but you know what, like the fine ladies here have stated, maybe you just need to keep mixing around and I am sure there are wonderful ladies in this site that will want to take things further then just chatting . Keep your chin up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thanks again everyone, yes i am happy with the way i look and why should i change? i wouldnt want to meet someone whodoesnt like me for who i am."
If you're happy with your lott, why are you asking what we think?
Sometimes a little reassurance is all you need, and if this thread has given it to you, then I suppose I've got my answer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have the same issue of being large and to make this more complicated I have facial hair and am Asian lolll "
none of which will be a problem looking at your profile pic
apply within |
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