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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello fabbers,
would be very grateful for some profile advice....we are fairly new to this (i did set up the account a year ago, but never really invested time in it until a few weeks ago) and would love to find a bi lady to join us...
Any tips / advice or honest feedback would be lovely!
Thanks so much in advance
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why say "he's as straight as it gets" when you are not looking for men ?
Also maybe use the word ' woman' rather than 'girl'. "
Good points. I wrote the as straight as it gets as we had an early message conversation with a lady that wanted to peg? He's not into anything like that.... But maybe it's a bit over the top to write on profile. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Straight men can enjoy pegging. My partner does. "
Fair enough - maybe something we can put on "try" list! 
Thanks for your other tips, just tweaked the text on our profile! |
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"Straight men can enjoy pegging. My partner does.
Fair enough - maybe something we can put on "try" list!
Thanks for your other tips, just tweaked the text on our profile! "
Doubt a single women would meet unverified |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Straight men can enjoy pegging. My partner does.
Fair enough - maybe something we can put on "try" list!
Thanks for your other tips, just tweaked the text on our profile!
Doubt a single women would meet unverified "
Yes, I totally get that. It's just getting these first few verifications that's the tough one. I called a club for some information last week and lets say I didn't feel very welcome to attend as a newbie... Thankfully, there are a couple more around locally. |
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Personally I’ve played with women at clubs but haven’t yet had the opportunity to meet a woman 121 outside of clubs that I’ve organised via of Fab.
Also saying you aren’t interested in couples in the least... if it’s bi fem play you are looking for I wouldn’t discount couples as lots are quite happy to meet with the males sticking just to their own partners. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally I’ve played with women at clubs but haven’t yet had the opportunity to meet a woman 121 outside of clubs that I’ve organised via of Fab.
Also saying you aren’t interested in couples in the least... if it’s bi fem play you are looking for I wouldn’t discount couples as lots are quite happy to meet with the males sticking just to their own partners."
I see.... I'm already seeing that our profile sounds a little naive...  Can't hide that we are newbies (but genuine ones) though... Thanks... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyone reading your profile will see you have been here over a year without any verifications. Why not delete it and make a new one ?
I would also add more pics of you. We can only see your legs."
I've got a few pics for friends as well as some private face pics I tend to send with first message, though I'm feeling reluctant to do that having seen the stolen pics photo thread....
we have been photo verified as a couple, does that not make much of a difference? But again, I see your point. Something to discuss tonight with the OH... |
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"Personally I’ve played with women at clubs but haven’t yet had the opportunity to meet a woman 121 outside of clubs that I’ve organised via of Fab.
Also saying you aren’t interested in couples in the least... if it’s bi fem play you are looking for I wouldn’t discount couples as lots are quite happy to meet with the males sticking just to their own partners.
I see.... I'm already seeing that our profile sounds a little naive... Can't hide that we are newbies (but genuine ones) though... Thanks... "
The main issue that you will come up against is that single females don’t want to feel like performing monkeys meeting couples and putting on a “show” for you both. I’m not saying that’s your intention, but it’s a big hurdle you have to overcome if you are strictly only interested in meeting single women.
Some clubs do specific Couples and Single Female nights which you might like to try. I’m not sure which club you rang but Townhouse (Liverpool) is excellent and they welcome newbies. Sx (Blackpool) also gets great reviews but I’ve not tried it personally yet! The owners seem super friendly and are active on here, I’m sure they’d welcome you! |
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"Wednesday nights at Cupids is couples and single ladies and much quieter than at a weekend so good for newbies. I'm going on 24 July with a female friend. "
Oh that’s good to know. I’ve looked at this one but haven’t been personally. I might give it a try at some point! |
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Townhouse is Birkenhead, they are doing a couples and single ladies only event Friday 12th July.
Infusions is couples and single ladies only every Saturday evening,
Partners Sunday, Cupids Wednesday, No3 think every 1st Friday. Club Sx is mixed all the time, hope this helps. We've been to all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally I’ve played with women at clubs but haven’t yet had the opportunity to meet a woman 121 outside of clubs that I’ve organised via of Fab.
Also saying you aren’t interested in couples in the least... if it’s bi fem play you are looking for I wouldn’t discount couples as lots are quite happy to meet with the males sticking just to their own partners.
I see.... I'm already seeing that our profile sounds a little naive... Can't hide that we are newbies (but genuine ones) though... Thanks...
The main issue that you will come up against is that single females don’t want to feel like performing monkeys meeting couples and putting on a “show” for you both. I’m not saying that’s your intention, but it’s a big hurdle you have to overcome if you are strictly only interested in meeting single women.
Some clubs do specific Couples and Single Female nights which you might like to try. I’m not sure which club you rang but Townhouse (Liverpool) is excellent and they welcome newbies. Sx (Blackpool) also gets great reviews but I’ve not tried it personally yet! The owners seem super friendly and are active on here, I’m sure they’d welcome you!"
Twinkle fairy, I get that about the performing monkeys - that's not what we want at all, we want to all be able to join in and have fun, in a sexy but respectful way. If we wanted a performing monkey, I could think of much easier ways of getting one!!! 
Yeah, looked at SX, townhouse is a little bit further away for us but might consider it on a couples / ladies night.
Just need to find a night we are both child free and able to go... it sounds super scary going though... eek!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Socials are a great way to get verified. All but I’ve of mine are from just meeting to chat.
All but one !"
Haha! Just had a look at your gorgeous profile - love the sexy text...
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"Personally I’ve played with women at clubs but haven’t yet had the opportunity to meet a woman 121 outside of clubs that I’ve organised via of Fab.
Also saying you aren’t interested in couples in the least... if it’s bi fem play you are looking for I wouldn’t discount couples as lots are quite happy to meet with the males sticking just to their own partners.
I see.... I'm already seeing that our profile sounds a little naive... Can't hide that we are newbies (but genuine ones) though... Thanks...
The main issue that you will come up against is that single females don’t want to feel like performing monkeys meeting couples and putting on a “show” for you both. I’m not saying that’s your intention, but it’s a big hurdle you have to overcome if you are strictly only interested in meeting single women.
Some clubs do specific Couples and Single Female nights which you might like to try. I’m not sure which club you rang but Townhouse (Liverpool) is excellent and they welcome newbies. Sx (Blackpool) also gets great reviews but I’ve not tried it personally yet! The owners seem super friendly and are active on here, I’m sure they’d welcome you!
Twinkle fairy, I get that about the performing monkeys - that's not what we want at all, we want to all be able to join in and have fun, in a sexy but respectful way. If we wanted a performing monkey, I could think of much easier ways of getting one!!!
Yeah, looked at SX, townhouse is a little bit further away for us but might consider it on a couples / ladies night.
Just need to find a night we are both child free and able to go... it sounds super scary going though... eek!!! "
Yes please don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you are. But sadly much like with single guys, a small number spoil it for the rest!
I think that’s why I personally have had much better luck in person at clubs. Although my husband doesn’t partake so a slightly different scenario, but you know what I mean!
Clubs are scary initially, but awesome when you get there. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally love your performing monkey comment. So many couples give me a list of things they want me to do within a message or two. Not asking what I want |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Totally love your performing monkey comment. So many couples give me a list of things they want me to do within a message or two. Not asking what I want "
Thank you. I hope that does come across on our profile. Or maybe I should make it even more obvious?
Really? You get couples asking you to do specific things on messages? I always think go with the flow and just have fun on a meet. As long as all three happy, then it's bound to be good! |
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By far the best way is going to the right events and meeting people face to face.
Good clubs will happily except newbies.
Checkout the club review section and use that. Also when you get to said event be brave and just talk and chat.
In our experience ladies like to get to know you and build confidence that you are what they are looking for, doing that only on here is much harder than if they have net you out and about first.
We've got a few veri's and we've got some experience now too. Have played with single girls and very much include them in all aspects of any play and we still struggle on here.
Unfortunately there are a lot of people that say one thing and do another or aren't as genuine as they first seem. Convincing a single girl otherwise just on here is not very easy atall.
Good luck xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Wednesday nights at Cupids is couples and single ladies and much quieter than at a weekend so good for newbies. I'm going on 24 July with a female friend. "
Thanks for letting me know. I'm having a chat with the OH once we settle for evening... It's hard for both of us to be free due to children and work commitments... Plus it sounds scary just turning up, would be much easier if we could meet someone there that we've interacted with before! x Niki |
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" it sounds scary just turning up, would be much easier if we could meet someone there that we've interacted with before! x Niki"
Just think of it like going to a pub. Have a drink and chat to each other. Don't do any more than that the first time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Townhouse is Birkenhead, they are doing a couples and single ladies only event Friday 12th July.
Infusions is couples and single ladies only every Saturday evening,
Partners Sunday, Cupids Wednesday, No3 think every 1st Friday. Club Sx is mixed all the time, hope this helps. We've been to all"
Thanks so much for the info. Which one is your favourite one, or the one you felt more comfortable with going to on your first time? I think we might try and schedule something soon. We have children, so I think next nights we are both free are 11th to 14th.
Thanks again, hope you don't mind me looking at your profile, you look lovely. xx NIki |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"aspects of any play and we still struggle on here.
Unfortunately there are a lot of people that say one thing and do another or aren't as genuine as they first seem. Convincing a single girl otherwise just on here is not very easy atall.
Good luck xxx"
Thank you _hoenixcouplexx!! It's sad, we've already had bad experiences with profiles that were women, but obviously not actually women... I guess some people just can't be honest! We really can't stand dishonesty.
xx Niki |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just think of it like going to a pub. Have a drink and chat to each other. Don't do any more than that the first time. "
Yes, I think we will...Thanks! |
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"Townhouse is Birkenhead, they are doing a couples and single ladies only event Friday 12th July.
Infusions is couples and single ladies only every Saturday evening,
Partners Sunday, Cupids Wednesday, No3 think every 1st Friday. Club Sx is mixed all the time, hope this helps. We've been to all
Thanks so much for the info. Which one is your favourite one, or the one you felt more comfortable with going to on your first time? I think we might try and schedule something soon. We have children, so I think next nights we are both free are 11th to 14th.
Thanks again, hope you don't mind me looking at your profile, you look lovely. xx NIki"
Infusions was our 1st club and we still love going, only one with big indoor pool.
Can recommend Townhouse 12th couples and single fem night, we'll be there xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately there is a reason they are called unicorns. We have managed a few ffm meets and one fffm. These were people we met at a club or where we had mutual friends
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
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Unfortunately we've found looking for single females can be like looking for a needle in a haystack. But there again we're down in Cornwall with no club scene in the county.
Unfortunately lots of couples are looking for single females. We'd love one ourselves and are working on it. I've had a FFM a few months back when I went on a d*unken adventure at a party (I'm allowed to do what I like at parties and d*unk Kylie can be chaos haha) but C hasn't.
As others have said single women don't want to be made to feel like a circus monkey. I'll meet couples alone but I don't want to put on a show for the husband it's not my bag!!
Also being unverified can be an issue. We keep meaning to get phot verified even though we've been verified by several meets.
Go to clubs, relax and have fun and see what happens. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well. We’ve talked about it and we both agree it’s time to get networking. We are thinking of infusion and townhouse, this week and next respectively, subject to childcare. Will confirm when we have solid plans in case anyone going can hold our hand if already going!! Eeek!!!! |
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"Well. We’ve talked about it and we both agree it’s time to get networking. We are thinking of infusion and townhouse, this week and next respectively, subject to childcare. Will confirm when we have solid plans in case anyone going can hold our hand if already going!! Eeek!!!! "
Have a chat with Vicky who runs and owns Twonhouse she will set you on the right path. It's a great club.
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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My advice, as a bi woman, would be to stop calling them girls, stop calling them unicorns, and go out to places where bi women are likely to be looking for people to play with.
Couples nights at clubs are a good shout because single women interested in couples will often go to them.
But, stop with the unicorn thing. If you say "we're looking for a unicorn" to most bisexual women in the scene then you'll find that they run a mile. Many find it a nasty nickname that is very much unwanted.
Bisexual women aren't particularly rare. On the contrary. In my experience most women at swing clubs are willing to play with other women.
How much they actually like other women is a different question. Women like myself who will actually have relationships with other women, or have relationships with couples, are considerably rarer. But most women in the swing scene, in my experience, will play with other women and men. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately we've found looking for single females can be like looking for a needle in a haystack. But there again we're down in Cornwall with no club scene in the county.
Unfortunately lots of couples are looking for single females. We'd love one ourselves and are working on it. I've had a FFM a few months back when I went on a d*unken adventure at a party (I'm allowed to do what I like at parties and d*unk Kylie can be chaos haha) but C hasn't.
As others have said single women don't want to be made to feel like a circus monkey. I'll meet couples alone but I don't want to put on a show for the husband it's not my bag!!
Also being unverified can be an issue. We keep meaning to get phot verified even though we've been verified by several meets.
Go to clubs, relax and have fun and see what happens. "
Agree with this, hard as a single female to meet as well. We definately need a club in Cornwall. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Socials are a great way to get verified. All but I’ve of mine are from just meeting to chat.
All but one !
Haha! Just had a look at your gorgeous profile - love the sexy text...
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