I’m relatively new to swinging and exploring my sexuality and what actually floats my boat. I have met so far single guys and guys part of couple but never both together. I would say I’m Bicurious as I have never been with a woman however I find them very sexy and would love to explore. I have been receiving messages from ladies and couples but I just find it twice as scary to meet them. There is couple I have been texting with on and off now for few weeks but have not had time to actually arrange meet due to being busy and them not living local. Any suggestions? Please share your personal experience. |
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over a year ago
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Hey Cunning,
Totally normal to be nervous!
Socials with drinks are always a good starting point to get to know people.
Then you can decide where to go from there.
Make sure your comfortable and feel "safe" with the couple your meeting.
Hopefully you'll feel like friends before you meet, and then if the chemistry is right those nerves will disappear.
It sounds like your doing the right things!
Ell x |
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"Hey Cunning,
Totally normal to be nervous!
Socials with drinks are always a good starting point to get to know people.
Then you can decide where to go from there.
Make sure your comfortable and feel "safe" with the couple your meeting.
Hopefully you'll feel like friends before you meet, and then if the chemistry is right those nerves will disappear.
It sounds like your doing the right things!
Ell x"
I have been to club three times and seem to chat with quite a lot of people. I was interested in few but seem to freeze up so i guess more socials and meets and it should help me to call my nerves  |
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As a couple we appreciate a woman may feel extremely nervous & possibly a little overwhelmed by the 2/1 dynamic, it's natural.
We always like to have a social meet somewhere in public initially (a drink/chat) as it's important that we all feel comfortable & happy.
Plus it gives you a chance to get to know someone a little without the pressure of playing straight away. I think a lot can be said for seeing how a couple interact together too.
I would've thought most people would be happy to alleviate any fears/concerns you may have.
Hope it all goes well for you!
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Just go for social first and try avoid couples who word it that they looking for single women as a treat for the husband always think that sounds like they want a sex toy rather than a living breathing person |
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Any first time experience is going to be nerve racking.
I’d look on Fab for a bi female who lives locally. Build up a rapport through messaging first, I’ve found that women are far happier to get to know you like this and don’t tend to push for a meet too fast.
Once there’s an attraction arrange to go for a social night out, have a few drinks and see what happens.
You’ll soon know if you have an genuinely bi leanings and believe me, the first fem/fem experience is mind blowing 
Good luck OP!
V x |
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Building confidence to try something new is always difficult.
It can sometimes be easier to break it into smaller steps.
Rather than planning for a full on swinging experience, if you have a good connection with a couple or a female why not suggest you would like to try something less intense to start with.
Holding hands
Kissing
Dancing sexually
A kiss and a grope.
Very few of us started our intimate relationships by jumping straight into fucking.
Most of us will have had dates were we kiss or get intimate in gradual steps.
I would suggest this is were you maybe in your bisexuality.
Some people can go from 0 to fucking in 1 step, for others the fear that it will be a bad experience means they need to be more cautious.
Clearly if when kissing you suddenly realise its fantastic and you want more then you can always reopen that discussion with your partner / partners.
But by only committing to a kiss or a dance you may feel more comfortable to back out if you find its not for you. |
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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago
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"Hey Cunning,
Totally normal to be nervous!
Socials with drinks are always a good starting point to get to know people.
Then you can decide where to go from there.
Make sure your comfortable and feel "safe" with the couple your meeting.
Hopefully you'll feel like friends before you meet, and then if the chemistry is right those nerves will disappear.
It sounds like your doing the right things!
Ell x
I have been to club three times and seem to chat with quite a lot of people. I was interested in few but seem to freeze up so i guess more socials and meets and it should help me to call my nerves "
We've been swinging at chams 3 1/2 years and we still get nervous and miss out on playing with people sometimes so I wouldn't worry too much. |
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