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By *ethRyan OP Couple
over a year ago
Preston |
I (Ryan) have enjoyed some soft bifun over the years and recently changed my status from bi curious to bisexual after some thought. I enjoy mm interaction when it feel right for all involved only.
It's made me wonder what people's perception is of the bi curious and bisexual status. Especially as there are lots of profiles stating no bi makes but many more where the guy is bi but posts as straight... |
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I wudnt worry too much about what other people on here think to your sexuality , it's yours so own it , if ppl don't like it then are they worth your time ? Not in my opinion
Regards to the dilemma of straight men profiles but secretly bi , it's rife , just such a shame so many men feel they need to conform to please the majority , weak men in my estimation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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honesty best policy ... might shut doors to some but open doors to people more receptive .. decent non pushy and without a secret agenda guy is hard to find ... and a no no if says str8 on their profile  |
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"I (Ryan) have enjoyed some soft bifun over the years and recently changed my status from bi curious to bisexual after some thought. I enjoy mm interaction when it feel right for all involved only.
It's made me wonder what people's perception is of the bi curious and bisexual status. Especially as there are lots of profiles stating no bi makes but many more where the guy is bi but posts as straight..."
Personally we have pondered over this one over the years too. Lulu has gone from straight to curious to bi and monkey from straight to Curious I'm terms of profile labels. Personally also feel that some gents of a certain age particularly struggle with any bi/gay label. Harks back to attitudes of parents and contemporaries and even mainstream media etc.
Lu is definitely fully bi, monkey situationally so and getting more and more comfortable playing that way 
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By *ethRyan OP Couple
over a year ago
Preston |
We are with the honestly is the best policy approach. Quite happy with straight meets but if someone has a harsh prejudice against bi then they are not for us anyway.
Also do worry if some people are not honest about their sexuality can we trust their approach to safe sex etc.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went through same thing when going from straight to curious only so many dicks you can suck before accepting curious or bisexual I think people know what they coming into generally |
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"Also do worry if some people are not honest about their sexuality can we trust their approach to safe sex etc.."
That’s a whole different conversation.... imo being comfortable and confident with your sexuality is a whole ball park away from practicing safe sex.
If they refuse to play safe then it’s the end of the meet - i would say it’s more of a respect issue than honesty. |
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Totally proud to be bi here and agree if people don't like it, they were never for us anyway.
Can't help but fab your pics Beth and Ryan every time I stumble across them my thumb hits fab!...just saying  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sadly your meet prospects probably just got cut by about 90%.
You'll still do alright as you're a very attractive couple but the fact is that the prejudice is so thick on this site you can cut it with a knife.
Doesn't affect us, but the amount of female profiles who refuse outright to meet any guy who might have even thought about touching another man (bi-curious) is breathtaking. |
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As a bi couple I can’t understand the problem with bi men! I’ve seen prejudice in non-lifestyle areas as well. When we got together, so many people asked me if I was worried he’d cheat on me.
No, because someone is either a cheat or they’re not. Sexuality has nothing to do with it.
If more men ‘came out’ on here, it would do so much to fight the prejudice. We call people out on it now. If they’re listed as straight but tell us they’re bi, we won’t meet. Bi visibility matters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have come across this myself as I have gone from straight to bi-curious to bisexual.
What I find a challenge is when does preference become prejudice?
How some profiles express their preference of no bi-males is verging on the insulting and derogatory.
If I come across those profiles they find their way into my block list and I move on - however it is becoming apparent that more males are putting straight whilst being bi. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think, if your attracted to the same sex, that's normal, even for straight people. But you will never know if your bi or if someone else is bi, til you try! |
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"Sadly your meet prospects probably just got cut by about 90%.
You'll still do alright as you're a very attractive couple but the fact is that the prejudice is so thick on this site you can cut it with a knife.
Doesn't affect us, but the amount of female profiles who refuse outright to meet any guy who might have even thought about touching another man (bi-curious) is breathtaking. "
I couldn't tell you the last couple who wanted to play with us who had a straight man. Tbf we don't want to play with them either tho  |
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By *2699Man
over a year ago
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"I have come across this myself as I have gone from straight to bi-curious to bisexual.
What I find a challenge is when does preference become prejudice?
How some profiles express their preference of no bi-males is verging on the insulting and derogatory.
If I come across those profiles they find their way into my block list and I move on - however it is becoming apparent that more males are putting straight whilst being bi. "
I feel the same especially that other quote , not looking for single guys , but we know where to find you if we need you !!!, ready made man of the peg ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve recently come out as bi-curious, I have the same amount of knockbacks as I did when straight! Maybe the key is just to be really, really good looking? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Since openly stating on my profile that I am bisexual, it has only resulted in meeting people who are right for me and being ignored by those who I wouldn't click with anyway. Win-win |
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I’ve had bi male on my profile from day one and I don’t block any sex from sending me messages, although I do have it in my profile that I don’t meet single males.
While I am bisexual I only play with couples as that is my preference but people do assume that when you are a single bi male then you will jump on any cock that presents itself to you.
I am happy if a couple says no bi males as I know that’s not for them and not for me either.
Just like everything in life we all have a preference and I’ll live my life my way and them their way I guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always difficult, I have had bicurious on my profile because I felt it represented my oral bi side and that I am not fully bi. I have bisexual on my profile because I can't stay curious forever. An orally bi label would be useful. Like others have said I am more situationally bi in mf situations and don't meet single men.
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Like others on here I’m happy for the people that contact me knowing what’s on my profile - and relaxed that plenty won’t contact me because I’m not their mug of horlicks.
Because I’m interested in bi-male action I don’t have any expectation that straight blokes will contact me (although quite a few have done but that’s another topic...) and there seem to be plenty of great couples where both parties are equally excited by the bi-male aspect of a meet. So I’ve never felt I was missing out by being upfront about my interests. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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It is a difficult one to answer. Like you we agonized over whether to change from bi-curious to full bi but a friend pointed out that there had been too many bi encounters for her to remain a bi-curious and yet it does not always happen. We feel that often there is an expectation that the females will play but for us there has to be an attraction we have met and played with couples where there has been no female play because whilst we fancy each others partner there has been no attraction between the ladies. We make clear prior to meeting that if there is an expectation that the ladies will definitely, 100% play then we will not meet. |
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