Self confidence is sooo hard to give someone.
I got around (most of) my shyness by gradually putting myself in situations where I was a little out of my comfort zone. Hopefully, you learn to cope.
Um, would he prefer a nice BJ from a bloke? Or, as the saying goes, a blowjob is a blowjob... |
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confidence is one of those things which is extremely difficult to give, it has to be earnt.
Rather than getting a woman who will give him a bj and a good time, it woudl be better for his confidence if he was to get the girl himself. maybe its better for you to intorduce him to a woman and let him to the leg work. But i feel by giving him the woman on a plate is not going to help, but rather hold him back.
earning something has more value and will give him the confidence he needs rather than having it handed to him. |
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I have a camera and i am shy!!!!!!!!! so will you give me a BJ or fuck me please, sure it will give me confidence and help reduce "red eye" in my shots lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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"I have a camera and i am shy!!!!!!!!! so will you give me a BJ or fuck me please, sure it will give me confidence and help reduce "red eye" in my shots lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
x x x "
Would you really want to be 'exposed' to that kind of thing ? |
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"MyI photography assistant is so shy he has trouble speaking to ppl in regular situations do you think getting him laid or even a bj by a nice lady would help? "
No,but it might make him happy
One shag or bj isnt going to change his self esteem /self confidence issues, in fact they could make them worse as he sees himself as someone people take pity on.
He is 20, plenty of time to grow and develop at his own speed. |
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if he too shy to meet people get him to go on fish dating site, you could help him write a good profile and take some pics then sure if he a nice person and looks alright then will find some people to go out with easily enough.
that would be better for him than finding someone to simply fuck him, he might actually meet someone and get what he wants, if it dont go well just tell him to get straight back on the horse and speak to someone new, it will do his confidence much more good as will find out what people like about him etc and that he probs aint as useless with lasses as he thinks, plus wont have to worry about meeting people in person and chatting them up first |
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well im sure the dating site will help him loads to find himself, it helped me alot.
i used to be 25 stone you see, only lost it after i turned 30 and dropped 11 stone in 18 months to get to the shape i am now (alot of hard work but changed my life so much!) ive got a old pic of me on private pictures if anyone wants to see the difference just message me and ill show you!
when i was really big im not ashamed to say it didnt do much for my confidence or my love life, i used to be engaged but ended it when i was 21. even then i was probs still about 20 stone, and over the years just put more and more on, 25 stone is when i stopped weighing myself (as the scales went around once and landed on 2 stone, so i knew i wasnt 2 stone, i never went on again until i knew i had lost a few stone!)
but since i left her i hardly had anyone till i was probs 31 and had dropped to like 16/17 stone. sometimes going years inbetween dates let alone proper relationships, had no confidence to chat people up and never used to tell people how i felt thinking they not be interested and i only embarrass them and not get anywhere.
so really over that 10 years i didnt really get much experience dating or having fun with anyone and its not nice, but its made me a much better and apprechiative person.
and as i got fitter and saw people change towards me that helped give me confidence to loose more and get back into dating, and the dating sites really did help me get that confidence, just like this site has done alot for my confidence too with all the friends ive made. but its a really good way to meet new people, espiecally if you dont meet anyone when your out and a good genuine guy, im sure if he nice to look at and a nice genuine person he will do well, if you dont know the site to recomenned thats free i can send you it privatley.
if he finds someone he likes on there his V problem will take care of its self and probs be alot better for his confidence and everything than you just hooking him up with something meaningless for him, i did have a mate who used to try to do that for me, and sometimes you just dont have the confidence to go with the flow when your in that rut of not getting anywhere and can be a bit intimidating.
im glad i worked it out even if it took me 10 years to realise it was my weight holding me back, im a different person totally than i used to be apart from my nice personality thats still with me |
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