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By *ister195 OP Man
over a year ago
Stoke-on-Trent |
Hi all,
I came across a very sexy friend on fab about a year ago that I've had a crush on for several years prior. I thought best to keep secret as to not harm our friendship as with any others I've come across
Over time since, she has got into more and more stuff finding we are into the same things which would be amazing to share
Should I not contact and leave as is or contact?
If I did get in touch how best should I approach the subject?
Any advice is much appreciated |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all,
I came across a very sexy friend on fab about a year ago that I've had a crush on for several years prior. I thought best to keep secret as to not harm our friendship as with any others I've come across
Over time since, she has got into more and more stuff finding we are into the same things which would be amazing to share
Should I not contact and leave as is or contact?
If I did get in touch how best should I approach the subject?
Any advice is much appreciated "
are you in contact with her outside of fab? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all,
I came across a very sexy friend on fab about a year ago that I've had a crush on for several years prior. I thought best to keep secret as to not harm our friendship as with any others I've come across
Over time since, she has got into more and more stuff finding we are into the same things which would be amazing to share
Should I not contact and leave as is or contact?
If I did get in touch how best should I approach the subject?
Any advice is much appreciated are you in contact with her outside of fab? "
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By *ister195 OP Man
over a year ago
Stoke-on-Trent |
"As the others have said, go for it and I hope it works out for you
If she saw your profile would she know that it's you? "
Thank you,
Not sure if she would reconise me but would probably suspect from my pic with my hair down.
I've set it as my profile pic which may help her notice. May add a pic wearing a particular shirt she would reconise it as mine |
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By *ister195 OP Man
over a year ago
Stoke-on-Trent |
"Im a bit confused. Are you friends with her outside Fab ? "
Sorry, yes we are friends outside of fab. We meet up every three months, 10-20 of us meet up to have a few drinks some food and a good catch up before hitting town for a night out. |
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I’d suggest not coming straight out to her and saying something like ‘I saw you on fab” cause that could sound a bit stalkerish.
Better would be to drop casually into conversation that you’re on fab, having a great time, and judge her reaction. She might not react straight away but it will get her thinking. |
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By *ister195 OP Man
over a year ago
Stoke-on-Trent |
"Try a simple wink and see how it goes from there.
You’ll regret the things you don’t do, far more than the things you do & get wrong. One life, live it!"
Thanks, she ignores winks and asks for a message with pictures |
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Over time since, she has got into more and more stuff finding we are into the same things which would be amazing to share
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I needed a dictionary to understand some of the things listed on your profile that you are into ! |
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How about messaging her, saying who you are and asking if she'd like to chat. Make it clear that unless she is interested in taking things any further you are happy just to be open with each other about the fact that you're both on here. You will need to make two things crystal clear
1. You will not mention that she's on fab to anyone else, especially your friends in common
2. You will wait for a clear sign from her to take things any further and won't mention it unless she does
Having a bunch of internet strangers knowing your sexual tastes is one thing, personal friends quite another. Tread carefully |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This sort of thing ruins many a perfectly good friendship. I get that you fancy her OP, but you have to ask yourself why you're still just friends. Perhaps she doesn't fancy you back.
If she's looking for an encounter on this site, perhaps that just indicates that she's not found what she wants in her group of friends and people she knows already.
I don't think you should contact her online. That will be awkward. I would just try and spend more time with her in the real world and ask her on a 1:1 date. Meeting with a bunch of friends is not the same and not the time to talk about this stuff.
I would be really careful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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How about messaging her direct and saying I've looked at all your public pics and you're stunning and sending your face pic with message and that's it, if she deletes and blocks you theirs your answer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How about messaging her direct and saying I've looked at all your public pics and you're stunning and sending your face pic with message and that's it, if she deletes and blocks you theirs your answer "
Or maybe the OP should just walk up behind her and grab her tits. It would likely yield the same violent ending to their friendship.
This sort of stuff is just classic fantasy fare. Man fancies woman and so dreams up all sorts of scenarios where she might fancy him.
Fact is. If she fancied you already you would know it already.
It also wasn't the brightest thing in thr world putting the question on here. What if she reads the forums? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you know her in real life, approach her in real life. Approaching her via Fab implies you don’t have the courage to talk to her about sex face to face, and that’s not a good start, especially when you are both sexually adventurous, on fab, and need to have some direct conversations about what each of you wants. Be cautious though, she may not have looked at you before in a fab light, so as above open up a little and give her time to digest. Let her decide whether she wants to let you know anything. And be prepared for it not going the way you hoped, which is why you need to give her the option to believe her presence on here is unknown to you if you want to have a chance of preserving your friendship.
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"It also wasn't the brightest thing in thr world putting the question on here. What if she reads the forums? "
It might resolve the issue if she does read the thread 
If you go through with it OP, please update the thread, I think there are a few folk on here that would in interested in finding out how it went.
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I would message her saying "OMG this awkward, ive agnst for ages about messaging you on here but feel we can both trust each other to keep our Fab lives private.
As we hace so much in common would you consider extending our friendship?
Would love to chat but understand if you prefer to block and move on"
Whatever you decide i hope our xxx meets will be the same"
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If she doesn’t know you’re on here, drop her a message to say hello.
Also reassure her that you will respect her privacy.
We found my sister-in-law on here many years ago, we told her in person in private that we’d seen her and we’d blocked her (for obvious reasons!) but reassured her that we wouldn’t be saying a word.  |
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