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Meeting educated, in shape couples

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Some people like BBC and some are turned on by BBW.

We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. Oh and we’re both straight so don’t do girl/girl.

However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?

We don’t see this preference as different from any other preference so no abuse please though we are expecting some.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I think you can establish if people are the type you're after quite quickly. The problem we find with our preferences is finding the mutual attraction once those preferences are identified.

Good luck in your search,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you discuss their degrees and thesis while you’re getting banged?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Extremely attractive and well educated. One would imagine they have better places to be than slumming it here with all the fat stupid people. "

There's no problem with stating preferences and the op has not called anybody fat or stupid

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Do you discuss their degrees and thesis while you’re getting banged?"

Do you discuss your preferences with people while you're getting banged?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Do you discuss their degrees and thesis while you’re getting banged?"

No they can talk about things on a social meet which can get you into bed. Oh and they’re generally pretty respectful on a meet and in communication so more likely to get to that meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Extremely attractive and well educated. One would imagine they have better places to be than slumming it here with all the fat stupid people.

There's no problem with stating preferences and the op has not called anybody fat or stupid "

To be honest we were waiting for some abuse. We didn’t even mention the ‘p’ word though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, there’s absolutely nothing wrong in having preferences. We all have them. Sometimes if they fall out of line with the more popular ones it takes time to find exactly what you’re looking for.

Keep looking OP, we’ve found that posting on the forums can help in finding people you’d like to meet and most definitely with those you don’t,

Miss V x

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By *hetalkingstoveMan over a year ago

London

"Extremely attractive and well educated. One would imagine they have better places to be than slumming it here with all the fat stupid people.

There's no problem with stating preferences and the op has not called anybody fat or stupid "

They haven't called anyone fat and stupid, but if you say you want people who are clever and in shape and that you can't find any one like that here, I'm afraid people are going to draw the conclusion that OP thinks a lot of people on Fabs are fat and stupid.

There's no getting away from that, really.

So I'm not sure what the OP is really hoping to get out of this topic - if you're not meeting the right people here then try elsewhere - clubs, socials, etc.

Moaning that your high standards aren't being met really isn't going to endear you to anyone.

I'd suggest that part of being educated is having a bit of tact...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No, there’s absolutely nothing wrong in having preferences. We all have them. Sometimes if they fall out of line with the more popular ones it takes time to find exactly what you’re looking for.

Keep looking OP, we’ve found that posting on the forums can help in finding people you’d like to meet and most definitely with those you don’t,

Miss V x"

Thanks and you’re right. We find our block list definitely increases after these types of threads. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most people have their preferences on here and rightfully so. I do and I wouldn’t want to fuck someone that I’m not attracted to. Ignore the idiots OP. This journey is yours and no one has the right to get arsey about you wanting and looking for people that do it for you both. Good luck with your search x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Extremely attractive and well educated. One would imagine they have better places to be than slumming it here with all the fat stupid people.

There's no problem with stating preferences and the op has not called anybody fat or stupid

There's no getting away from that, really.

So I'm not sure what the OP is really hoping to get out of this topic - if you're not meeting the right people here then try elsewhere - clubs, socials, etc.

Moaning that your high standards aren't being met really isn't going to endear you to anyone.

I'd suggest that part of being educated is having a bit of tact...

My high standards certainly aint bein' met

I'm having to really slum it recently

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

You can be "educated and in shape" but, pretty dam ugly

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Extremely attractive and well educated. One would imagine they have better places to be than slumming it here with all the fat stupid people.

There's no problem with stating preferences and the op has not called anybody fat or stupid

There's no getting away from that, really.

So I'm not sure what the OP is really hoping to get out of this topic - if you're not meeting the right people here then try elsewhere - clubs, socials, etc.

Moaning that your high standards aren't being met really isn't going to endear you to anyone.

I'd suggest that part of being educated is having a bit of tact...

One of the purposes of threads is to put out feelers, to learn and get educated.

We aren’t moaning. We’re saying it’s difficult and is it just us or are other people finding the same issue.

Also it allows other people with similar preferences to interact and give advice.

For example, “get yourselves to London as there’s lots of fit, educated people at such and such club down here” might be a decent answer.

If someone posted ‘where are all the BBCs and why can’t we find any’ then we might suggest a BMFC event.

Part of being educated is constant learning so we’re looking to learn and perhaps meet similar people, who might be coming to Scotland over the summer, by our post. We’re putting our the feelers to improve our chances.

The purpose of the thread is not to put people down but if you want to have a go at us then by all means feel free.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You can be "educated and in shape" but, pretty dam ugly

You can and that’s where attraction comes in.

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By *astyEricMan over a year ago

Hull

"Some people like BBC and some are turned on by BBW.

We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. Oh and we’re both straight so don’t do girl/girl.

However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?

We don’t see this preference as different from any other preference so no abuse please though we are expecting some. "

Educated I am, attractive for some i will be

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By *mm and HerCouple over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"Some people like BBC and some are turned on by BBW.

We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. Oh and we’re both straight so don’t do girl/girl.

However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?

We don’t see this preference as different from any other preference so no abuse please though we are expecting some.

Educated I am, attractive for some i will be

Yoda are you speak like?

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By *astyEricMan over a year ago

Hull

"Some people like BBC and some are turned on by BBW.

We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. Oh and we’re both straight so don’t do girl/girl.

However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?

We don’t see this preference as different from any other preference so no abuse please though we are expecting some.

Educated I am, attractive for some i will be

Yoda are you speak like?

Intencional it was

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can be "educated and in shape" but, pretty dam ugly

You can and that’s where attraction comes in. "

They may have meant on the inside

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You can be "educated and in shape" but, pretty dam ugly

You can and that’s where attraction comes in.

They may have meant on the inside

Anyone can be ugly on the inside or the outside but it is in the eye of the beholder . Don’t think it’s restricted to a particular education level or body shape.

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By *mm and HerCouple over a year ago

Hertfordshire

I suspect a slightly different phrasing might have helped you, but I understand where you are coming from. We should remember we all swing in slightly different ways and look for different things. That said, we should also remember which are parameters for looking and which are hard rules, particularly if you only want to meet a small number of people.

For our searches (and no, not going to set ourselves up for a fall by saying what that is!), I guess we cast a pretty wide net in terms of distance - we've driven 6 hours before now for the right meet. We read the profiles carefully and look at the pictures to see if we may be compatible. We spend as much time looking in the forums as we do searches, as they give probably better insights than the carefully created profiles - the little green arrow often is more revealing of a person. We have met some people triggered initially by something they posted that tickled us! This may be something that you're not doing...?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, I do find the way you are suggesting that there does not appear to be many that suit your preferences as bad as the people who ask "does anyone meet here!?" type of statement.

There are a few clubs not too far away, and there has been quite a few socials, perhaps you could have engaged in either at some point?

I'd rather appreciate conversing with people before labelling their intelligence measurement.

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By *appy_hedonistMan over a year ago

Islington

"We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. "

You're just being choosy, which is as it should be. The difficulty is that there are bound to be fewer people in your preferred age range who are university educated, and remain slim and athletic.

Fortunately, I'm here

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP, I do find the way you are suggesting that there does not appear to be many that suit your preferences as bad as the people who ask "does anyone meet here!?" type of statement.

There are a few clubs not too far away, and there has been quite a few socials, perhaps you could have engaged in either at some point?

I'd rather appreciate conversing with people before labelling their intelligence measurement."

We’ve don’t visit local clubs, there’s only one in Glasgow and a vanilla friend lives in flats across the road from it so too risky. Can’t travel due to kids at home but that might change soon.

We’ve been to a social and a party. The party had was 6 couple. None floated our boat. The one social had 40-50 people but they were mostly sat at tables in groups and all seemed to know each other. We mingled with the standing people but again we didn’t hit it off.

We’ll probably try one of the clubs down south in autumn and see how that works out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic.

You're just being choosy, which is as it should be. The difficulty is that there are bound to be fewer people in your preferred age range who are university educated, and remain slim and athletic.

Fortunately, I'm here

Lol. Thanks but we are looking for couples. We already have one guy we meet occasionally who ticks all the boxes we are looking for.

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By *astyEricMan over a year ago

Hull

"We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic.

You're just being choosy, which is as it should be. The difficulty is that there are bound to be fewer people in your preferred age range who are university educated, and remain slim and athletic.

Fortunately, I'm here

Lol. Thanks but we are looking for couples. We already have one guy we meet occasionally who ticks all the boxes we are looking for. "

Crap and, hopeful I was

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think some are nit picking at what the OP said, should just be taken at face value.

When you think about it, something like 2/3rds of the UK are considered overweight, the remaining people might not necessarily be:

Fit

In a couple

In to swinging

Anywhere near the OP

So chances are, the OP may struggle to find what they are after, theyre allowed to have a preference, anyone who doesn't meet that preference shouldn't get offended, after all, everyone's different.

Take a look at everyone you see around you today, how many of them do you find physically attractive at first glance? Not many I'd imagine, but that's what makes finding someone you do find attractive so much better. When you find them OP, you'll be glad you held out for what YOU wanted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm in shape. Round is a shape right...?

But seriously, this is Fab. We get to choose who we meet and who we don't want to meet. Everyone has preferences, dont hate, celebrate.

OP, you do what is best for YOU.

C Xx

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

I don’t think your preferences are strange or demanding as such.... but it’s the kind of thing you might write to a dating agency.

As a couple who loves the social side, our priority is having a laugh with friendly flirty communicative people who know what they like and want an evening of giggling in bed, so to speak.

Whether they have a degree in Astrophysics hasn’t been a priority, although in life generally you’ll often be surprised when you discover people’s hidden talents.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

We totally get where you are coming from OP, though posts like this usually don't end well. There seems to be a culture of reverse snobbery on here. God forbid somebody declaring themselves a professional with a healthy lifestyle. Rose West would receive a warmer welcome! Just use it as a filter. We prefer people we have common ground with, that winds some people up but that is their issue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We totally get where you are coming from OP, though posts like this usually don't end well. There seems to be a culture of reverse snobbery on here. God forbid somebody declaring themselves a professional with a healthy lifestyle. Rose West would receive a warmer welcome! Just use it as a filter. We prefer people we have common ground with, that winds some people up but that is their issue. "

Oh dear now you’ve gone and used the ‘p’ word. It can only get worse from here on in. Lol

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

It's a totally fair request. I think this is simply a cry out for people they are attracted to.

However I think the stipulations on university education maybe be a bit narrow minded if what they seek is worldly, knowledgeable and intelligent people. Some of the most knowledgeable, intelligent, worldly and succesful people I know have had no university education (like my self). University education isn't a gaureentee of the quality of a person or what they bring to the table (unless all you want to talk about is your times at uni). Sometimes university education is simply an indication of someones avility to jump through hoops, their cultural capital, actual capital, personal choices and/or ability to play the game ticking boxes. In my book it's not a great measure of intelligence, values or quality character per se.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I can be drawn to intelligent people. But I've found for me that intelligence (or at least the qualities I associate with intelligence) doesn't always correlate with higher education. I've met/ spoken to many people here who are, as I've seen it put, interested and interesting, who lack or seem to lack higher education, but they have that instinct and curiosity.

I've also met many people, on and off Fab, with higher education/ advanced degrees, who were boring, self obsessed, and wouldn't understand decorum, manners, or respect if it bit them.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

... Which is not to knock highly educated people. I'm highly educated!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

Oh dear now you’ve gone and used the ‘p’ word. It can only get worse from here on in. Lol"

Somebody had to lol. Get your tin hat ready......

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Some people like BBC and some are turned on by BBW.

We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. Oh and we’re both straight so don’t do girl/girl.

However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?

We don’t see this preference as different from any other preference so no abuse please though we are expecting some. "

I tried to reply to you privately for a reason but you’ve blocked single males. I was going to offer my suggestion

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's a totally fair request. I think this is simply a cry out for people they are attracted to.

Yes we agree but we’re just trying to give a steer. Clever, good conversation, etc is the general guide. Being in shape is relative too. Don’t have to be a sculpted god/goddess but we’d expect the couple are not pretty overweight either.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

I personally don't see anything wrong with what the op is asking, they haven't been derogatory or insulting to people they aren't wanting to meet.

Good luck with your search!

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By *astyEricMan over a year ago

Hull

Are you looking for someone with PhD, Masters? , how high is higher education for you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Some people like BBC and some are turned on by BBW.

We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. Oh and we’re both straight so don’t do girl/girl.

However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?

We don’t see this preference as different from any other preference so no abuse please though we are expecting some.

I tried to reply to you privately for a reason but you’ve blocked single males. I was going to offer my suggestion "

We haven’t block single males but have blocked unverified users otherwise we get lots of messages. Just reply in the forum. We’re open to anything as you can see from the comments

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Are you looking for someone with PhD, Masters? , how high is higher education for you? "

It’s flexible but we’d rather meet someone who is a doctor than a labourer just from an education point of view and how much we would have in common with them. No disrespect to anyone who is a labourer but we have met both and have a lot more in common with doctors and click more with them. The conversation is more interesting in our heads anyway.

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By *ltcouple666Couple over a year ago

cheshire

"Some people like BBC and some are turned on by BBW.

We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. Oh and we’re both straight so don’t do girl/girl.

However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?

We don’t see this preference as different from any other preference so no abuse please though we are expecting some. "

Of course, it's your prerogative as a preference OP. I agree with what some others have said though regarding education. You may be missing out on some great people. I (fem) have been to university and am in a profession, my OH hasn't. Yet I consider him to be more intelligent than me in so many ways. A university degree doesn't always signify intelligence. Maybe it would be better to give people a chance to speak with you if you are physically attracted to them, you would be able to tell alot more if they are what you are looking for that way.

Not us though, because our current shape is spherical

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Some people like BBC and some are turned on by BBW.

We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. Oh and we’re both straight so don’t do girl/girl.

However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?

We don’t see this preference as different from any other preference so no abuse please though we are expecting some.

Not us though, because our current shape is spherical

We don’t ever ask if someone is university educated or not. It’s just clever and can have interesting conversations. It’s just an indicator for us .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One of us is Cambridge university educated, one of us got no further than O level....

Never have we ever placed any relevance on anyone’s education we’ve met, because in the main we don’t know, simple as that.

Not sure swinging has got anything to do with educational level, if you like someone, trust them, click with them and find them fun, then does it matter what there educational level is, are you hoping to engage in complex debate? What about if your degrees are in very opposite subjects?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

"It's a totally fair request. I think this is simply a cry out for people they are attracted to.

Of course. It's just that physical attractiveness is easy to establish, you just have to look. But when it comes to mental attraction or qualities I don't think that can be measured in qualifications alone, however I understand that university education may be a good indication of someone mat be in the right ball park for you. But there is folly in making qualifications a must have.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's a totally fair request. I think this is simply a cry out for people they are attracted to.

It’s not that we’re discussing quantum mechanics. Qualifications are not a must. We’ve a regular couple and a regular single guy. Well travelled, good conversation, good sense of humour, well educated and look after themselves. They’re reasonably close to people we’d hang out with in the real world.

We have also had socials with people with no qualifications, not well travelled, pretty overweight and not great talkers. We just weren’t attracted. Nice people but we had absolutely nothing in common with them and they were so out of shape there was no attraction.

Maybe it’s a bit like couples saying they want to meet a guy with a 9 inch penis. They might meet someone with a 7 inch penis but between the lines they’re saying that someone with a 3 inch penis wouldn’t float their boat.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"One of us is Cambridge university educated, one of us got no further than O level....

Never have we ever placed any relevance on anyone’s education we’ve met, because in the main we don’t know, simple as that.

Nobody is asking you to understand anybody elses preferences. Preference and how people chose to meet are up to the individual concerned. What swinging is and how people play is their choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think what the OP is looking for in meets is perfectly reasonable. It's all about preference. The trouble with threads like this is persons not fitting the description get offended and start to argue about it. There are plenty of threads for BBW ectx

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Some people like BBC and some are turned on by BBW.

We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. Oh and we’re both straight so don’t do girl/girl.

However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?

We don’t see this preference as different from any other preference so no abuse please though we are expecting some.

I tried to reply to you privately for a reason but you’ve blocked single males. I was going to offer my suggestion

We haven’t block single males but have blocked unverified users otherwise we get lots of messages. Just reply in the forum. We’re open to anything as you can see from the comments

I’m outside your age range so I can’t give you my recommendation privately x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Some people like BBC and some are turned on by BBW.

We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. Oh and we’re both straight so don’t do girl/girl.

However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?

We don’t see this preference as different from any other preference so no abuse please though we are expecting some.

I tried to reply to you privately for a reason but you’ve blocked single males. I was going to offer my suggestion

We haven’t block single males but have blocked unverified users otherwise we get lots of messages. Just reply in the forum. We’re open to anything as you can see from the comments

I’m outside your age range so I can’t give you my recommendation privately x"

Think we’ve switched off our filters

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

I havnt got a digree but me m8s say im the cleverist persun at sports direct soo wurf a 2and luuk?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think what the OP is looking for in meets is perfectly reasonable. It's all about preference. The trouble with threads like this is persons not fitting the description get offended and start to argue about it. There are plenty of threads for BBW ectx"

Agree with this...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One of us is Cambridge university educated, one of us got no further than O level....

Never have we ever placed any relevance on anyone’s education we’ve met, because in the main we don’t know, simple as that.

Nobody is asking you to understand anybody elses preferences. Preference and how people chose to meet are up to the individual concerned. What swinging is and how people play is their choice. "

Not trying to understand, just giving our opinion, using the “preferences and how people choose to meet” line is frankly overused, tedious and just a cop out on the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"One of us is Cambridge university educated, one of us got no further than O level....

Never have we ever placed any relevance on anyone’s education we’ve met, because in the main we don’t know, simple as that.

Nobody is asking you to understand anybody elses preferences. Preference and how people chose to meet are up to the individual concerned. What swinging is and how people play is their choice.

Not trying to understand, just giving our opinion, using the “preferences and how people choose to meet” line is frankly overused, tedious and just a cop out on the forums

You’re saying that education is not a consideration for you. Surely that’s a preference and if we have a preference for educated people would you not respect that preference. Or are you right and we wrong ? Or do we just have different tastes?

Think it’s fair enough to say that people’s personal preferences are just that and the line “preferences and how people choose to meet” is not a cop out. It’s surely just showing respect.

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By *inkyfun2013Couple over a year ago

lewisham

"I personally don't see anything wrong with what the op is asking, they haven't been derogatory or insulting to people they aren't wanting to meet.

Good luck with your search! "

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By *ain n MableWoman over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Maybe you're struggling to find the type of people you are attracted to because you don't state your preference on your profile. The Oxbridge brigade might be able to split an atom but the vicarious transmission of information from one mind to another is a weakness among them pesky elitists.

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

I do like my mind to be stimulated with interesting conversation that isn’t always related to sex. I’m not educated to degree level but I can hold a conversation on many topics.

We are all attracted to different types of people but stipulating that your meets should be well educated and good looking may put people off messaging.

You may be pleasantly surprised how well educated people can be without a degree.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One of us is Cambridge university educated, one of us got no further than O level....

Never have we ever placed any relevance on anyone’s education we’ve met, because in the main we don’t know, simple as that.

Nobody is asking you to understand anybody elses preferences. Preference and how people chose to meet are up to the individual concerned. What swinging is and how people play is their choice.

Not trying to understand, just giving our opinion, using the “preferences and how people choose to meet” line is frankly overused, tedious and just a cop out on the forums

Think it’s fair enough to say that people’s personal preferences are just that and the line “preferences and how people choose to meet” is not a cop out. It’s surely just showing respect. "

Just don’t see how education has any bearing on how you connect with and have sex with other people just for fun ie swing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do like my mind to be stimulated with interesting conversation that isn’t always related to sex. I’m not educated to degree level but I can hold a conversation on many topics.

We are all attracted to different types of people but stipulating that your meets should be well educated and good looking may put people off messaging.

You may be pleasantly surprised how well educated people can be without a degree. "

^ Well said ^

I am educated to higher level, but don't get the relevance within the lifestyle. Never comes up in any interaction I have with fellow Fabbers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe you're struggling to find the type of people you are attracted to because you don't state your preference on your profile. The Oxbridge brigade might be able to split an atom but the vicarious transmission of information from one mind to another is a weakness among them pesky elitists.

Boooooooooooom !!

Now that is one cracking post!

Love it

Eduuuuuuuuucation haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do like my mind to be stimulated with interesting conversation that isn’t always related to sex. I’m not educated to degree level but I can hold a conversation on many topics.

We are all attracted to different types of people but stipulating that your meets should be well educated and good looking may put people off messaging.

You may be pleasantly surprised how well educated people can be without a degree.

^ Well said ^

I am educated to higher level, but don't get the relevance within the lifestyle. Never comes up in any interaction I have with fellow Fabbers."

Exactly the point and with one of us with a Degree from Cambridge and one with nothing higher than O levels we manage to communicate, click and have sexy fun.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"One of us is Cambridge university educated, one of us got no further than O level....

Never have we ever placed any relevance on anyone’s education we’ve met, because in the main we don’t know, simple as that.

Nobody is asking you to understand anybody elses preferences. Preference and how people chose to meet are up to the individual concerned. What swinging is and how people play is their choice.

Not trying to understand, just giving our opinion, using the “preferences and how people choose to meet” line is frankly overused, tedious and just a cop out on the forums

Think it’s fair enough to say that people’s personal preferences are just that and the line “preferences and how people choose to meet” is not a cop out. It’s surely just showing respect.

Just don’t see how education has any bearing on how you connect with and have sex with other people just for fun ie swing

Just because it has no bearing for you, it doesn't mean that it's irrelevant for everyone else. Live and let live.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Eye of the beholder x

Finding intelligence attractive is definitely a thing, a turn on

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By *cCooperMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"Do you discuss their degrees and thesis while you’re getting banged?

No they can talk about things on a social meet which can get you into bed. Oh and they’re generally pretty respectful on a meet and in communication so more likely to get to that meet. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just because it has no bearing for you, it doesn't mean that it's irrelevant for everyone else. Live and let live."

This is a valid point. One that we all can forget at some point. Nothing wrong with disagreeing in a respectful manner. We all have some sort of preferences that are important to us.

The education topic is one those touchy subjects because some people e.g. spelling/grammar police use it to put others down. I personally don't like to see that at all. Luckily for all of us there are enough Fabbers to enjoy the lifestyle with like minded people.

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By *cCooperMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"Some people like BBC and some are turned on by BBW.

We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. Oh and we’re both straight so don’t do girl/girl.

However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?

We don’t see this preference as different from any other preference so no abuse please though we are expecting some. "
My place it’s in Glasgow and I’m staying here in Wirral

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do like my mind to be stimulated with interesting conversation that isn’t always related to sex. I’m not educated to degree level but I can hold a conversation on many topics.

We are all attracted to different types of people but stipulating that your meets should be well educated and good looking may put people off messaging.

You may be pleasantly surprised how well educated people can be without a degree.

^ Well said ^

I am educated to higher level, but don't get the relevance within the lifestyle. Never comes up in any interaction I have with fellow Fabbers.

Exactly the point and with one of us with a Degree from Cambridge and one with nothing higher than O levels we manage to communicate, click and have sexy fun.

That makes you the perfect couple to post in here. I am going to read your lengthy profile because it appears you're cheeky Fabbers

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By *rufinWoman over a year ago

notts

Sapiosexuals then?

Me too.

Sadly, I am a bit plump and like girls as well.

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By *uenevereWoman over a year ago

Scunthorpe

It is often difficult to meet couples where there is mutual attraction. Be that physically or intellectually.

OP maybe you would have a better chance of meeting the people you are interested in, at the higher end of the club scene.

I'm always more likely to get naked with people who I can easily converse with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just because it has no bearing for you, it doesn't mean that it's irrelevant for everyone else. Live and let live.

This is a valid point. One that we all can forget at some point. Nothing wrong with disagreeing in a respectful manner. We all have some sort of preferences that are important to us.

There are touchy subjects on here and we have always tried to be respectful.

Just because you have a preference for one thing doesn’t mean the opposite is inferior.

If we said we were looking for blonde, busty single women we wonder if people would be saying ‘what does hair colour have to do with sex’ ? They probably would just accept you’re attracted to blondes.

However if you mention slim, educated or , dare we say, professional then you get a kicking for somehow being elitist. For some things you’re not allowed to have a preference because someone disagrees with it.

PS we actually prefer brunettes so no abuse please

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It is often difficult to meet couples where there is mutual attraction. Be that physically or intellectually.

OP maybe you would have a better chance of meeting the people you are interested in, at the higher end of the club scene.

I'm always more likely to get naked with people who I can easily converse with. "

You’re absolutely right. Clubs are the next step for us and we agree that interesting conversationalists are more likely to get us naked.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've been on this site for 10 years and in that 10 years it has come into decline the more media it has attracted (unfortunately)

I have actually started backing off from it as it is just not meeting my standards of who I would like to meet, in fact I haven't even had sex for over 2 years because I won't drop my standards either.

I also hate the way that people put down others, for example, any thread that is not in appreciation for a BBW is shot down in flames and it pisses me off, but showing your love for BBW's also puts down the slim women with comments, only 'REAL WOMEN' have curves, grow up people!

If you are truly confident in your body, you wouldn't need to put down someone else and the same goes for men, you can love what you love without putting anyone else down, and this thread is a perfect example! They are looking for what they want and all you can focus on is that YOU don't fit the description, so you try and knock them off as just the usual way of FAB of late

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just because it has no bearing for you, it doesn't mean that it's irrelevant for everyone else. Live and let live.

This is a valid point. One that we all can forget at some point. Nothing wrong with disagreeing in a respectful manner. We all have some sort of preferences that are important to us.

There are touchy subjects on here and we have always tried to be respectful.

Just because you have a preference for one thing doesn’t mean the opposite is inferior.

PS we actually prefer brunettes so no abuse please

Haha oooops... 'p' word. Careful because "professional" is a trigger for some. Sets them right off! See it all the time.

Be cool everyone and enjoy the lifestyle.

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"I've been on this site for 10 years and in that 10 years it has come into decline the more media it has attracted (unfortunately)

Ditto, swingers come in various shapes and sizes. Some people like one type, some people like another type and some like various types. No need for nastiness

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've been on this site for 10 years and in that 10 years it has come into decline the more media it has attracted (unfortunately)

Ditto, swingers come in various shapes and sizes. Some people like one type, some people like another type and some like various types. No need for nastiness

Amen.

There is someone for everyone out there. It’s just finding them and matching preferences. No one should be ashamed of who they are or what they want and most of all we should try to respect each other.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

I've got degrees in applied physics and in mathematics.... But I'm fat so not for you.

It takes all sorts. Personally i go for Mon-judgemental types who are laid back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's your preference so stick to it

I have my preferences too as I'd guess most of us do.

However i do find it slightly odd you chose to make a thread about it, but then i think that about 50% of the threads

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've got degrees in applied physics and in mathematics.... But I'm fat so not for you.

It takes all sorts. Personally i go for Mon-judgemental types who are laid back. "

I'm the same, i like laid back people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people like BBC and some are turned on by BBW.

We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. Oh and we’re both straight so don’t do girl/girl.

However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?

We don’t see this preference as different from any other preference so no abuse please though we are expecting some. "

If we weren’t so modest, that would be our profile!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can be "educated and in shape" but, pretty dam ugly

Oh shit! You’ve ruined it for me now!!

I was ticking all the boxes....good looks weren’t mentioned!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a totally fair request. I think this is simply a cry out for people they are attracted to.

I like this answer. University education does not equal intelligence or an indicator of one’s ability to hold an interesting conversation. Opportunities are obviously limited to the working classes. Next PM 24th from Erin and a private education. Does anyone think he’s more intelligent than most people in the country?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I personally don't see anything wrong with what the op is asking, they haven't been derogatory or insulting to people they aren't wanting to meet.

Good luck with your search! "

Apart from non university education being a contraindication to their choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do the people need to have gone to a “proper university”? Does John Moore’s count? Does the OU count?

What if they studied sociology?

Need specifics now. Size 10 or below?

Must have been to Peru?

What type of degree? A first ?

What if they went to oxbridge as daddy went? No specific entrance passes needed you know....see a few royal family members....

It’s all getting to be a cv rather than a friendly conversation with a fingering .....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Extremely attractive and well educated. One would imagine they have better places to be than slumming it here with all the fat stupid people. "

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OMG you’re brave mentioning the P-word

For me it’s a rounded approach of various preferences I have. When I’ve gone off that track it hasn’t resulted in a successful meet.

@OP there are definitely people on here that meet your criteria, I’ve met some!! - whether they come packaged as a couple is a different matter - it’s always harder to find 2 people that tick all the boxes.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Extremely attractive and well educated. One would imagine they have better places to be than slumming it here with all the fat stupid people. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We find people with specific preferences helpful makes it easier to skip by them without reading too much of profile not a dig at op just when profile is clear that we not what they looking for saves wasting time

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Rolls eyes

So we expressed a preference and asked if these preferences are easy to find or are we looking in the wrong place. The preferences are not absolute. You don’t have to be a uni graduate or super slim. We’re fluid and we’re just trying to state a preference as meeting these types of people generally results in a social going to a play meet. We have really really tried to be respectful. It’s not educated=good and uneducated = bad. Just a preference guideline... for us.... personally.

We’ve had people call our profile dull and lacking humour, even although we didn’t ask for a profile review, and somebody suggested we are up our own arse.

But we had a lot of people support our freedom to ask for what we want. To those people we thank you for your kindness and respect.

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By *_MariusMan over a year ago

Currently Faraway

If I met you two and I liked you, and you didn’t like me because of my looks, I would be justifiably disappointed but never resort to rudeness because of your tastes. Kindness doesn’t cost ANYTHING, yet sometimes it’s the hardest thing for some people to give. I hope you two keep having nice experiences and never mind the those who are not worth it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If I met you two and I liked you, and you didn’t like me because of my looks, I would be justifiably disappointed but never resort to rudeness because of your tastes. Kindness doesn’t cost ANYTHING, yet sometimes it’s the hardest thing for some people to give. I hope you two keep having nice experiences and never mind the those who are not worth it x"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Rolls eyes

We’ve had people call our profile dull and lacking humour, even although we didn’t ask for a profile review, and somebody suggested we are up our own arse.

But we had a lot of people support our freedom to ask for what we want. To those people we thank you for your kindness and respect. "

Rolling eyes reminded me of the time I was in a late night thread recently... just kept on rolling! I got dizzy even when I put the shades on was still rolling

they had a newbie in charge so you can imagine it was chaos

You have been respectful and handled this really well. Kept your cool while discussing preference guideline that is personal to you.

No doubt you will find what you're looking for. Only a matter of time because those you seek are on here. On a side note:

Let the record show that is a great arse! So not a bad thing you know

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"To be fair the op do sound a bit up their own arses.. we are well educated but as long as people are friendly and polite it doesn't matter surely "

As long as people are friendly and polite......but you have then said the OP sounds up their own arse. That is downright rude. They have stated a preference politely. If that stirs something in you, then take a good long look at yourself. Your issue to deal with, not theirs.

Continue to look for what makes you happy OP.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"I've been on this site for 10 years and in that 10 years it has come into decline the more media it has attracted (unfortunately)

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By *orkscouple2003Couple over a year ago

Dewsbury

"Extremely attractive and well educated. One would imagine they have better places to be than slumming it here with all the fat stupid people. "

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Extremely attractive and well educated. One would imagine they have better places to be than slumming it here with all the fat stupid people.

Only one person has mentioned fat, stupid people and it wasn't the op.

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By *ucy LewdWoman over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

Most of the people I've met from here over the years have been university educated.

A variety of body types though.

I guess if you have patience then you'll find the people you want to find.

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By *ibob300Couple over a year ago

north east

University education does not equate to intelligence as often as you may think. I find the normal person on the street is far more intellectual when it comes to life in general.

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By *plpxp2Couple over a year ago

Middlesbrough

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By *nnocentimesMan over a year ago

over there by that tree

I’ve never understand the snobbery around university degrees....

Most of the people I know are highly intelligent and interesting and have never been to university, even the most wealthy friends are self made - I find that drive to succeed far more attractive.

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By *irkydirkyMan over a year ago

Stevenage

"You can be "educated and in shape" but, pretty dam ugly

You can and that’s where attraction comes in.

They may have meant on the inside

And also educated, university level and not very bright.

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By *-4pleasureCouple over a year ago

Belfast

"Rolls eyes

We’ve had people call our profile dull and lacking humour, even although we didn’t ask for a profile review, and somebody suggested we are up our own arse.

But we had a lot of people support our freedom to ask for what we want. To those people we thank you for your kindness and respect. "

Are you a couple or fuckbuddies?

Genuine question

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Rolls eyes

We’ve had people call our profile dull and lacking humour, even although we didn’t ask for a profile review, and somebody suggested we are up our own arse.

But we had a lot of people support our freedom to ask for what we want. To those people we thank you for your kindness and respect.

Are you a couple or fuckbuddies?

Genuine question

We’re a couple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people like BBC and some are turned on by BBW.

We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. Oh and we’re both straight so don’t do girl/girl.

However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?

We don’t see this preference as different from any other preference so no abuse please though we are expecting some. "

Our preferences (similar to yours) and the fact we are both Straight are certainly detrimental to getting meets on here. Thankfully our other fetishes and kinks keep us occupied.

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By *-4pleasureCouple over a year ago

Belfast

"Rolls eyes

We’ve had people call our profile dull and lacking humour, even although we didn’t ask for a profile review, and somebody suggested we are up our own arse.

But we had a lot of people support our freedom to ask for what we want. To those people we thank you for your kindness and respect.

Are you a couple or fuckbuddies?

Genuine question

We’re a couple. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've got degrees in applied physics and in mathematics.... But I'm fat so not for you.

It takes all sorts. Personally i go for Mon-judgemental types who are laid back.

I'm the same, i like laid back people

Degree from Loughborough Uni here

Work in Nuclear Fusion research

MENSA member

However, I associate with the cleaners and 'labourers' at work so fail..

Off to Newport Chams to discuss Tritium and Deuterium fusion.... Or maybe go at it like rabbits.... takes all sorts innit

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've got degrees in applied physics and in mathematics.... But I'm fat so not for you.

It takes all sorts. Personally i go for Mon-judgemental types who are laid back.

I'm the same, i like laid back people

Degree from Loughborough Uni here

Work in Nuclear Fusion research

MENSA member

However, I associate with the cleaners and 'labourers' at work so fail..

Off to Newport Chams to discuss Tritium and Deuterium fusion.... Or maybe go at it like rabbits.... takes all sorts innit

We associate with cleaners and labourers at work and all sorts of people at work.

We’ve met builders, lawyers, doctors, labourers, police, nurses, council workers. All sorts of people. Lovely people but we tend to end up in bed with slimmer and more educated people. It’s not deliberate or snobbery. Just a pattern we’ve noticed to the people we play with and a preference. We’re just more attracted to them.

In the same way that some people are more attracted to black men or busty women.

A preference not a social statement.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This post says more about the op than any of the chubby, uneducated people on here

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"This post says more about the op than any of the chubby, uneducated people on here

What exactly does it say? The OP hadn't said people are chubby or uneducated. You have tho - why?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This post says more about the op than any of the chubby, uneducated people on here

What exactly does it say? The OP hadn't said people are chubby or uneducated. You have tho - why?"

It’s a patronising post at best!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"This post says more about the op than any of the chubby, uneducated people on here

What exactly does it say? The OP hadn't said people are chubby or uneducated. You have tho - why?

It’s a patronising post at best!

If that is how you see it then that is your issue. The OP has not called anyone chubby or uneducated. You have tho, which is rude.

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By *AYENCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You were expecting some and they didn't disappoint did they OP!

Good luck with your search but the further away from the 'swinging middle ground' you are the harder it will be and the longer you will have to wait, but it can of course happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is a prime example of what I have said before.

There are people who are always going to have different wants and needs on here.

Just because you don't agree you don't have to bash them for it.

Yes I would say that not everyone that has been to you is educated. And there are some that are educated that have not been to university.

But in the long run the sort of people the OP want to meet is up to them. We all turn people down at one point of another on here for many reasons.

In the long run it's up to individuals who or who they don't meet.

Chill out people let's stop the hate

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This post says more about the op than any of the chubby, uneducated people on here

What exactly does it say? The OP hadn't said people are chubby or uneducated. You have tho - why?

It’s a patronising post at best!

Not sure how our post is patronising . We never meant it to be.

We expressed two preferences; slim and well educated.

Let’s change that to another two preferences; bbw and bi

Or; gym fit and hung

If the first is patronising then we assume the other preferences are too ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You were expecting some and they didn't disappoint did they OP!

Good luck with your search but the further away from the 'swinging middle ground' you are the harder it will be and the longer you will have to wait, but it can of course happen."

We have not been disappointed. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This post says more about the op than any of the chubby, uneducated people on here

What exactly does it say? The OP hadn't said people are chubby or uneducated. You have tho - why?

It’s a patronising post at best!

Not sure how our post is patronising . We never meant it to be.

We expressed two preferences; slim and well educated.

Let’s change that to another two preferences; bbw and bi

Or; gym fit and hung

If the first is patronising then we assume the other preferences are too ? "

Your going to find sad to say but there are always going to be people on here who will pick fault with anything you put.

We learnt to just ignore them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This post says more about the op than any of the chubby, uneducated people on here

What exactly does it say? The OP hadn't said people are chubby or uneducated. You have tho - why?

It’s a patronising post at best!

Not sure how our post is patronising . We never meant it to be.

We expressed two preferences; slim and well educated.

Let’s change that to another two preferences; bbw and bi

Or; gym fit and hung

If the first is patronising then we assume the other preferences are too ? "

Quote ‘However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?’

Unicorn refers to a minority group like bi single women ............ you're clearly saying slim and well educated are a minority, Bi single women doesn’t need defining because there’s not a shape, size or level to it.......... define well educated or slim?

If this was a post about BBW or VWE (for example) you’d get similar comments, it is patronising

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the OPs come across as very nice people actually. And I wish them well in their search.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"This post says more about the op than any of the chubby, uneducated people on here

What exactly does it say? The OP hadn't said people are chubby or uneducated. You have tho - why?

It’s a patronising post at best!

Not sure how our post is patronising . We never meant it to be.

We expressed two preferences; slim and well educated.

Let’s change that to another two preferences; bbw and bi

Or; gym fit and hung

If the first is patronising then we assume the other preferences are too ?

Your going to find sad to say but there are always going to be people on here who will pick fault with anything you put.

We learnt to just ignore them "

So true. Threads like these tend to bring out peoples insecurities. Surely if people want to meet a 25 year old, blonde size 8 lady I shouldnt have a dickie fit cos I'm none of those things. Some need to seriously get a grip. Preference - like BBW, bi or hung like a horse, it's a personal thing.

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Interesting thread with responses very similar to all other where people have started preferences.

Our take is that everybody has preferences and when you find somebody who matches those preferences then wow.

Having said that we never ask what educational level was attained we just look for attraction and stimulating conversation.

We calculated recently that roughly only 1 in 5 of those we meet socially ever goes any further than the social, not sure if that is good, bad or average.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This post says more about the op than any of the chubby, uneducated people on here

What exactly does it say? The OP hadn't said people are chubby or uneducated. You have tho - why?

It’s a patronising post at best!

Not sure how our post is patronising . We never meant it to be.

We expressed two preferences; slim and well educated.

Let’s change that to another two preferences; bbw and bi

Or; gym fit and hung

If the first is patronising then we assume the other preferences are too ?

Quote ‘However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?’

If this was a post about BBW or VWE (for example) you’d get similar comments, it is patronising

Gym fit and hung is a minority too surely. In society in our age group 70% of people are overweight or obese so technically slim people are in a minority according to government figures. We’re not making a judgement it’s just the truth. If we were looking for a black, bi, bbw woman then we don’t think that would be called patronising.

BBW and hung are also as difficult to define accurately as slim and well educated but most people have a rough idea what they mean.

We’ve never seen anyone call hung or BBW posts patronising but maybe we’re not reading the forums in enough detail. Obviously you have your view and we have ours so we’ll respectfully agree to disagree.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t think you said anything offensive OP. Obviously, that’s just my opinion.

People fancy who they fancy. You shouldn’t have to feel shy about trying to find people who tick your boxes and, more so, shouldn’t feel ashamed for saying who doesn’t tick them.

Keep your chin up, hope you find what you’re looking for x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This post says more about the op than any of the chubby, uneducated people on here

What exactly does it say? The OP hadn't said people are chubby or uneducated. You have tho - why?

It’s a patronising post at best!

Not sure how our post is patronising . We never meant it to be.

We expressed two preferences; slim and well educated.

Let’s change that to another two preferences; bbw and bi

Or; gym fit and hung

If the first is patronising then we assume the other preferences are too ?

Quote ‘However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?’

If this was a post about BBW or VWE (for example) you’d get similar comments, it is patronising

BBW and hung are also as difficult to define accurately as slim and well educated but most people have a rough idea what they mean.

Threads about BBW, BBC, VWE etc get a lot more negative comments

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

off course you do

you always talk about planning your next essay with them

kidding of course

whatever floats peoples boats who knows what is talked about whilst banging the brains out of an inteligent slim person

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a degree in life

I study at the open university

but I am fabulous and proud of being so

levels of intelligence is this the site to have a high IQ for sex

thought it was just for bodies to get together and have some pleasure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We may have some things in common. Unfortunately, I’m a little beneath your ideal age preference.

I see nothing wrong with your preferences either.

It’s probably best that you don’t rely on a degree to deduce how intelligent one is. There’s lots of poly-tech art students rubbing their hands together at this outdated stereotype.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a degree in life

I study at the open university

but I am fabulous and proud of being so

levels of intelligence is this the site to have a high IQ for sex

thought it was just for bodies to get together and have some pleasure

Do you fuck everyone who asks? If not, why not?

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By *igJandTheBlondeCouple over a year ago

Kings Hill

A preference is a preference, we all fancy different people and that’s a good thing otherwise there wouldn’t be enough to go around.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t think you said anything offensive OP. Obviously, that’s just my opinion.

People fancy who they fancy. You shouldn’t have to feel shy about trying to find people who tick your boxes and, more so, shouldn’t feel ashamed for saying who doesn’t tick them.

Keep your chin up, hope you find what you’re looking for x"

OP maybe look up Killing Kittens parties. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP, I do find the way you are suggesting that there does not appear to be many that suit your preferences as bad as the people who ask "does anyone meet here!?" type of statement.

There are a few clubs not too far away, and there has been quite a few socials, perhaps you could have engaged in either at some point?

I'd rather appreciate conversing with people before labelling their intelligence measurement.

We’ll probably try one of the clubs down south in autumn and see how that works out. "

Hi,

never realised you responded. I dont think your not going to cj's is a valid reason, I doubt your friend will be looking out the window hoping to catch you, thats if they even know what it is.you could arrive by taxi/leave by taxi.

As for going to a social with 40-50 people and you stood near the bar or with those that were standing?- what you could have done before the social was see who was going and may have sparked an interest beforehand.Your both well educated but fear making a sociable hello with the seated,there was 40-50 of them, but I'll have to assume you approached very very few.

Personally I don't think you have tried hard enough,perhaps your own barriers to communication have hindered your fab life.

There are literally hundreds of couples in glasgow,and thousands across scotland and a good amount could be described as 'fit'- I'm unsure what their education is, but I'd wager if someone started talking about my education/work in a few messages I would be like,"naww get tae fuck!"-or poshly "get to fuck right out of here!"- So my question is why have you not met more at least socially?

Clubs are great down south, though I fear you might have the same issues.

I'd say finally,I just find it a bit strange,knowing people I have met(even just socially),knowing other things about them(through friendships),that you appear incapable of finding suitable people on a more frequent basis.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP, I do find the way you are suggesting that there does not appear to be many that suit your preferences as bad as the people who ask "does anyone meet here!?" type of statement.

There are a few clubs not too far away, and there has been quite a few socials, perhaps you could have engaged in either at some point?

I'd rather appreciate conversing with people before labelling their intelligence measurement.

We’ll probably try one of the clubs down south in autumn and see how that works out.

Hi,

Personally I don't think you have tried hard enough,perhaps your own barriers to communication have hindered your fab life.

Clubs are great down south, though I fear you might have the same issues.

I can’t even remember there being any flats across from cj’s

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By *pannerman1Man over a year ago

Rugby's

OP did ask if there are looking in the right place, are there any alternative sites,apps, groups more suitable for them.

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By *m3232Man over a year ago

maidenhead

For myself some of the most stupid people I have met have technical been the most educated. Being able to hold a well balanced and interesting conversion does not need to be educated only engaging.

Totally agree on the fitness style look as it’s great to see someone who looks after themselves and also adds to the conversion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP, I do find the way you are suggesting that there does not appear to be many that suit your preferences as bad as the people who ask "does anyone meet here!?" type of statement.

There are a few clubs not too far away, and there has been quite a few socials, perhaps you could have engaged in either at some point?

I'd rather appreciate conversing with people before labelling their intelligence measurement.

We’ll probably try one of the clubs down south in autumn and see how that works out.

Hi,

Personally I don't think you have tried hard enough,perhaps your own barriers to communication have hindered your fab life.

Clubs are great down south, though I fear you might have the same issues.

We don’t go to CJs because we have friends close to it AND we don’t want to go to a swinging club too close to home. We value our privacy and don’t want to risk bumping into someone we know in our home city.

We’ve met well into double figures people from the site. Played with about maybe a third of these. Met a few more than once. The ones we’ve met a few times fulfil the preferences we expressed. We don’t explicitly ask for qualifications as you can generally tell and you can look at them to see how in shape they are.

There are 1000s of swingers in Scotland. Let’s assume 1000 couples. Let’s assume 800 are bi fem so that leaves 200 straight couples who might meet us. At our age then age ranges kick in. Let’s say we’re then beyond the age range of about 75% of these people which leaves 50 couples. 70% are not in decent shape at our age (government figures). That might leave 15 couples from that initial 1000.

If you have preferences it limits choice then when you do have socials you might not click with the people.

At the social we did speak to a few people, maybe 10 to 15 in passing, but no one floated our boat. They just weren’t what we were looking for.

We don’t think it’s strange but you might.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP, I do find the way you are suggesting that there does not appear to be many that suit your preferences as bad as the people who ask "does anyone meet here!?" type of statement.

There are a few clubs not too far away, and there has been quite a few socials, perhaps you could have engaged in either at some point?

I'd rather appreciate conversing with people before labelling their intelligence measurement.

We’ll probably try one of the clubs down south in autumn and see how that works out.

Hi,

Personally I don't think you have tried hard enough,perhaps your own barriers to communication have hindered your fab life.

Clubs are great down south, though I fear you might have the same issues.

I can’t even remember there being any flats across from cj’s

On the main road outside to the right. There are flats.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

Hi,

never realised you responded. I dont think your not going to cj's is a valid reason "

Wow, that's not your decision to make, if they don't want to go to a club they don't have to, regardless of whether you think the reason is valid.

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By *yesbeenopened2Couple over a year ago

Rugby

We are a rare breed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi,

never realised you responded. I dont think your not going to cj's is a valid reason

Wow, that's not your decision to make, if they don't want to go to a club they don't have to, regardless of whether you think the reason is valid. "

well my point was, they went to a social, which was in scotland and people from all over scotland go to socials even if it's outside their town.

As for going to the local club,there isn't an easy way to see who's going in, the only reason they gave was that a friend stays in a huge amount of flats that I know and the friend would have to be on the lookout on that particular night,so in my opinion it's a lame reason.

They are the ones finding it difficult to meet people who may be their type.

So WOW!- I gave them the straight advice,I never decided what or who they should do.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

Hi,

never realised you responded. I dont think your not going to cj's is a valid reason

Wow, that's not your decision to make, if they don't want to go to a club they don't have to, regardless of whether you think the reason is valid. "

So now people need to satisfy strangers with valid reasons not to go to clubs. Can't make this shit up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you discuss their degrees and thesis while you’re getting banged?

No they can talk about things on a social meet which can get you into bed. Oh and they’re generally pretty respectful on a meet and in communication so more likely to get to that meet. "

Like it. And intelligent conversation leading to naughty one.

Mr is a huge history buff, bores me to death when he starts but he conveniently moves to erotic stories and makes me horny .

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

From what I can tell, you it is not education that a preference - profession is. Many people nowadays are Uni educated but you are not interested in this as you want to meet Dr's, lawyers, architects, lecturers and the like; an education is not the requisite that attracts you. It is going to be difficult for you to meet good looking peeps that are willing to disclose personal information that both get along with you and are attracted to you too. For the most part I'd say people enjoy privacy and fun, it's going to be a very small circle that mix business and pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This post says more about the op than any of the chubby, uneducated people on here

What exactly does it say? The OP hadn't said people are chubby or uneducated. You have tho - why?

It’s a patronising post at best!

Not sure how our post is patronising . We never meant it to be.

We expressed two preferences; slim and well educated.

Let’s change that to another two preferences; bbw and bi

Or; gym fit and hung

If the first is patronising then we assume the other preferences are too ?

Quote ‘However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?’

If this was a post about BBW or VWE (for example) you’d get similar comments, it is patronising

BBW and hung are also as difficult to define accurately as slim and well educated but most people have a rough idea what they mean.

Threads about BBW, BBC, VWE etc get a lot more negative comments"

I disagree - threads about preferences for slim ladies, gym fit and / or professional people get waaaaay more negative comments.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m surprised OP that you haven’t met more people that fit your requirements. There are plenty of in-shape coupes around that make good conversation. I tend to agree with Fucktographer that you perhaps need to give the socials another go. Selecting couples from profiles and messaging is a much more imperfect process than meeting in real life and makes you reliant on slightly arbitrary criteria (education) when actually what you’re looking for is a good social connection.

Shame that you don’t want to try your local club, but try a few in different areas. And maybe revisit the straight fem stipulation. I’m pretty sure most bi women would be able to keep their hands to themselves if they were meeting a couple where fem-fem play was out of bounds.

Keep plugging away and good luck!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Some people like BBC and some are turned on by BBW.

We’re pretty much turned on and attracted to people who are well educated, say university level, and quite fit/slim/athletic. Oh and we’re both straight so don’t do girl/girl.

However we really struggle to meet these types of people on the site. Can we assume they’re the unicorns of the couple scene or are we just looking in the wrong place ?

We don’t see this preference as different from any other preference so no abuse please though we are expecting some.

I tried to reply to you privately for a reason but you’ve blocked single males. I was going to offer my suggestion "

You can post it here??

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I’m surprised OP that you haven’t met more people that fit your requirements. There are plenty of in-shape coupes around that make good conversation. I tend to agree with Fucktographer that you perhaps need to give the socials another go. Selecting couples from profiles and messaging is a much more imperfect process than meeting in real life and makes you reliant on slightly arbitrary criteria (education) when actually what you’re looking for is a good social connection.

Keep plugging away and good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Extremely attractive and well educated. One would imagine they have better places to be than slumming it here with all the fat stupid people. "
my thoughts exactly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

By educated do you really mean rich?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By educated do you really mean rich? "

Precisely this me thinks

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Extremely attractive and well educated. One would imagine they have better places to be than slumming it here with all the fat stupid people. my thoughts exactly

As I said before the only people calling anyone on here fat and stupid are the ones who posted this and those agreeing with them.

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By *idnightxBrownCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

You can be well educated and still lack a basic level of common sense

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

Absolutely fine to have your preferences and to search for likeminded people, there are plenty out there. No need to apologise for what you are looking for and no need for people to give you a hard time either. We all have our preferences. Good luck.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"You can be well educated and still lack a basic level of common sense

I don't think anyone has said you can't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"By educated do you really mean rich? "

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

It’s hard to explain without stereotyping but there are people who have a degree of education, look after themselves, are well travelled so have interesting stories to share, meet in nice sexy bars for meets and then play in nice sexy hotels and are respectful and good company. These are the people who we like to meet.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

Hi,

never realised you responded. I dont think your not going to cj's is a valid reason

Wow, that's not your decision to make, if they don't want to go to a club they don't have to, regardless of whether you think the reason is valid.

well my point was, they went to a social, which was in scotland and people from all over scotland go to socials even if it's outside their town.

They are the ones finding it difficult to meet people who may be their type.

So WOW!- I gave them the straight advice,I never decided what or who they should do."

But why does their reason have to be valid to you? It's their reason, you don't need to validate it.

You didn't just give them advice, you told them that their reason isn't valid, and now that it's lame.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I'd stop trying to defend yourselves, you are entitled to look for what you like without judgement, I really hope you find what you're looking for!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

If you’re expecting the man to pay the bill for all of these expensive outings then, it’s sounding rather similar to escorting. It also proves the fact that yes, your wish for an educated man = rich.

I’m not trying to come across as judgemental in my post, (Though, I understand that it may sound as such) as I’d love a lady to take me to expensive restaurants and hotels also

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I recently got called shallow on here because I don’t meet without seeing pics/cam first, for me physical attraction is important! For some wealth is important

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I’m not trying to come across as judgemental in my post, (Though, I understand that it may sound as such) as I’d love a lady to take me to expensive restaurants and hotels also

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I’m not trying to come across as judgemental in my post, (Though, I understand that it may sound as such) as I’d love a lady to take me to expensive restaurants and hotels also

You disagree? They are essentially only willing to meet those that are, in other words: paying a certain price for them. Which is the same as the sugar daddy concept, which is escorting....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I’m not trying to come across as judgemental in my post, (Though, I understand that it may sound as such) as I’d love a lady to take me to expensive restaurants and hotels also

Good god !

We’re bloody looking for couples !

Always read the initial post .

We’re not out for a free lunch/night. We’ve got enough money to pay for anything we want ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I'd stop trying to defend yourselves, you are entitled to look for what you like without judgement, I really hope you find what you're looking for! "

Thanks we probably should stop defending ourselves but some people !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I’m not trying to come across as judgemental in my post, (Though, I understand that it may sound as such) as I’d love a lady to take me to expensive restaurants and hotels also

Good god !

We’re bloody looking for couples !

Always read the initial post .

We’re not out for a free lunch/night. We’ve got enough money to pay for anything we want ourselves.

You’re post made it sound as if you were. I apologize then. Surely you can simply offer them to meet at the haunts in which you find desireable. If they can’t afford to pay their own way, you don’t meet?

I mean, you’ve gone from wishing for an educated couple to, pretentious show offs. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a McDonald’s, they have Aberdeen Angus. That’s rather posh

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I’m not trying to come across as judgemental in my post, (Though, I understand that it may sound as such) as I’d love a lady to take me to expensive restaurants and hotels also

You disagree? They are essentially only willing to meet those that are, in other words: paying a certain price for them. Which is the same as the sugar daddy concept, which is escorting...."

They have not asked anybody to "pay a certain price". They are asking to meet a certain type of person in certain types of location. Implying that they are escorts is insulting.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I'd stop trying to defend yourselves, you are entitled to look for what you like without judgement, I really hope you find what you're looking for!

Thanks we probably should stop defending ourselves but some people ! "

We have a never explain, never justify policy. Some people get it, some don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I’m not trying to come across as judgemental in my post, (Though, I understand that it may sound as such) as I’d love a lady to take me to expensive restaurants and hotels also

You disagree? They are essentially only willing to meet those that are, in other words: paying a certain price for them. Which is the same as the sugar daddy concept, which is escorting....

They have not asked anybody to "pay a certain price". They are asking to meet a certain type of person in certain types of location. Implying that they are escorts is insulting.

I never implied that they were, I merely stated that their expectation was similar. (From how I read the post at least)

I mean, anyone can go to a fancy hotel/bar. It’s not reserved for the “educated” so I have no understanding of why they aren’t able to find what they’re looking for. Unless of course, they were expecting it to be paid for. (Which I wrongly? Had originally thought)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I'd stop trying to defend yourselves, you are entitled to look for what you like without judgement, I really hope you find what you're looking for!

Thanks we probably should stop defending ourselves but some people !

We have a never explain, never justify policy. Some people get it, some don't.

I have this too - wise words indeed!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I’m not trying to come across as judgemental in my post, (Though, I understand that it may sound as such) as I’d love a lady to take me to expensive restaurants and hotels also

You disagree? They are essentially only willing to meet those that are, in other words: paying a certain price for them. Which is the same as the sugar daddy concept, which is escorting....

They have not asked anybody to "pay a certain price". They are asking to meet a certain type of person in certain types of location. Implying that they are escorts is insulting.

I never implied that they were, I merely stated that their expectation was similar. (From how I read the post at least)

Your logic is flawed and you should think carefully before saying how, where and who another person chooses to meet is similar to escorting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I’m not trying to come across as judgemental in my post, (Though, I understand that it may sound as such) as I’d love a lady to take me to expensive restaurants and hotels also

You disagree? They are essentially only willing to meet those that are, in other words: paying a certain price for them. Which is the same as the sugar daddy concept, which is escorting....

They have not asked anybody to "pay a certain price". They are asking to meet a certain type of person in certain types of location. Implying that they are escorts is insulting.

I never implied that they were, I merely stated that their expectation was similar. (From how I read the post at least)

We meet wherever a couple are comfortable. We’ve played in houses, Premier Inns and some really nice hotels. We like nice hotels; shoot us. Sometimes we pay for the hotel sometimes we split. We’re not looking for handouts.

Anyone can go into a nice bar, you are right, but they don’t have the conversation that engages us. Being able to intelligently engage in interesting conversation in a nice environment is a sexy and attractive thing for us before playing.

Maybe we are posh. Whoops! Sorry . But it doesn’t mean we’re better or worse than anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I’m not trying to come across as judgemental in my post, (Though, I understand that it may sound as such) as I’d love a lady to take me to expensive restaurants and hotels also

You disagree? They are essentially only willing to meet those that are, in other words: paying a certain price for them. Which is the same as the sugar daddy concept, which is escorting....

They have not asked anybody to "pay a certain price". They are asking to meet a certain type of person in certain types of location. Implying that they are escorts is insulting.

I never implied that they were, I merely stated that their expectation was similar. (From how I read the post at least)

You’re not allowed to comment on a public forum if your opinion even slightly differs from the OP and or any of their followers

#clique

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I’m not trying to come across as judgemental in my post, (Though, I understand that it may sound as such) as I’d love a lady to take me to expensive restaurants and hotels also

You disagree? They are essentially only willing to meet those that are, in other words: paying a certain price for them. Which is the same as the sugar daddy concept, which is escorting....

They have not asked anybody to "pay a certain price". They are asking to meet a certain type of person in certain types of location. Implying that they are escorts is insulting.

I never implied that they were, I merely stated that their expectation was similar. (From how I read the post at least)

Maybe we are posh. Whoops! Sorry . But it doesn’t mean we’re better or worse than anyone else. "

Just keep looking and although it may take a while I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for.

You don't need to justify your preferences and there will always be those who will desperately try to find something negative about whatever you say.

Good luck.

Mrs

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By *agermeisterMan over a year ago

Leeds

Intelligence and in shape is as rare as unicorn poop on here.

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By *tarbeckCouple over a year ago

york

"I don’t think your preferences are strange or demanding as such.... but it’s the kind of thing you might write to a dating agency.

As a couple who loves the social side, our priority is having a laugh with friendly flirty communicative people who know what they like and want an evening of giggling in bed, so to speak.

Whether they have a degree in Astrophysics hasn’t been a priority, although in life generally you’ll often be surprised when you discover people’s hidden talents.

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By *-4pleasureCouple over a year ago

Belfast

"Intelligence and in shape is as rare as unicorn poop on here."

You know what to do then don’t you ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Gosh hasn’t this debate just gone on and on, from accusing the OP of snobbery brigade via its your preference brigade finishing up in the OP trying to justify there choices.

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"Gosh hasn’t this debate just gone on and on, from accusing the OP of snobbery brigade via its your preference brigade finishing up in the OP trying to justify there choices.

Ending with the OP thinking they be posh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By educated do you really mean rich?

Not really though well educated people might have more cash. But a lecturer or teacher would not be regarded as rich. Though don’t know what people class as rich.

This profile is very like our vanilla friends except they’re not swingers. Damn! We think you’re more likely to be attracted to the sort of people you’d hang out with in real life.

I’m not trying to come across as judgemental in my post, (Though, I understand that it may sound as such) as I’d love a lady to take me to expensive restaurants and hotels also

You disagree? They are essentially only willing to meet those that are, in other words: paying a certain price for them. Which is the same as the sugar daddy concept, which is escorting....

They have not asked anybody to "pay a certain price". They are asking to meet a certain type of person in certain types of location. Implying that they are escorts is insulting.

I never implied that they were, I merely stated that their expectation was similar. (From how I read the post at least)

You’re not allowed to comment on a public forum if your opinion even slightly differs from the OP and or any of their followers

#clique "

Just because people agree with the OP doesn’t make them followers and / or members of the clique...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Gosh hasn’t this debate just gone on and on, from accusing the OP of snobbery brigade via its your preference brigade finishing up in the OP trying to justify there choices.

You missed the bit where someone accused us of being like escorts

lol

We certainly won’t be asking this question again.

Next thread - “What does it mean when people put prufffesionel on their profile?”

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