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"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please" It's quite likely, they wanted your number otherwise why not use the other popular chat app | |||
"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please" I just tell people that I keep it to fab.. | |||
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"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please" Your gut feeling is probably right, if they can't have a conversation in the messages then how is having your number going to help. | |||
"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please" I'd be wary too. Plus, where's the benefit of WhatsApp over chat on here... for one word answers? Cal | |||
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Not that I've ever had to do that before I must admit! | |||
"I ensure my social media isn't linked to my number, but I always ask for WhatsApp over the other apps to continue chat from here - generally I find those who are serious about get to know me are absolutely fine with it, those who just want a quick fuck or wank chat will get funny and try to insist on Kik. It's a trust step, I guess. And if it goes wrong...block Not that I've ever had to do that before I must admit!"I always insist on kik so I'm not giving out my number .... where is the funny business in that?? | |||
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"I ensure my social media isn't linked to my number, but I always ask for WhatsApp over the other apps to continue chat from here - generally I find those who are serious about get to know me are absolutely fine with it, those who just want a quick fuck or wank chat will get funny and try to insist on Kik. It's a trust step, I guess. And if it goes wrong...block Not that I've ever had to do that before I must admit!
I always insist on kik so I'm not giving out my number .... where is the funny business in that??"We use here or if moving elsewhere then use kik. Don't feel there's any need to swap numbers in this day & age. We'd rather protect our privacy as much as possible. Can't be too careful these days. Doesn't mean we're dodgy, just cautious  | |||
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"If you want to chat or arrange a meet use kik. No numbers exchanged and easy to block." Plus you can video call from Kik so you can make sure it really is the person or people you are expecting | |||
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"I ensure my social media isn't linked to my number, but I always ask for WhatsApp over the other apps to continue chat from here - generally I find those who are serious about get to know me are absolutely fine with it, those who just want a quick fuck or wank chat will get funny and try to insist on Kik. It's a trust step, I guess. And if it goes wrong...block Not that I've ever had to do that before I must admit!"WhatsApp is owned by Facebook by the way. | |||
"I ensure my social media isn't linked to my number, but I always ask for WhatsApp over the other apps to continue chat from here - generally I find those who are serious about get to know me are absolutely fine with it, those who just want a quick fuck or wank chat will get funny and try to insist on Kik. It's a trust step, I guess. And if it goes wrong...block Not that I've ever had to do that before I must admit!
WhatsApp is owned by Facebook by the way. "you're kidding that'll be why I don't have it then | |||
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"From my experience most that try to get you off fab and onto Kik, Skype, WhatsApp etc are just after wank chat and pic swaps. I keep everything on Fab. " I don't wank anymore do you have any of the above | |||
"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please" Go with your gut feeling. If you feel compelled to chat of this site, using the KiK app can be useful as you do not have to give away your mobile number. That being said, she could be a person that likes to text chat all the time. M | |||
"From my experience most that try to get you off fab and onto Kik, Skype, WhatsApp etc are just after wank chat and pic swaps. I keep everything on Fab. I don't wank anymore do you have any of the above" Yes I have all of them. For close friends and family only. | |||
"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please" just had a thought she maybe wanted to find out if their was a woman involved in your couple at an earlier rather than later date, which I think is a sensible thing to check on both sides | |||
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 possibly same fake?
they sent private face pic quite quickly after we explained we only share face pics after chatting and getting a ‘feel’ for each other, our chat is one word answers from them no matter what we ask them to instigate in further talk. We did search with the face pic online and got no results but the conversation is so forced it just don’t feel right. We like people than can hold a conversation at least! | |||
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"We are having a very similar thing at the moment and are quite local to you guys. Sounds dodgy to us possibly same fake?
they sent private face pic quite quickly after we explained we only share face pics after chatting and getting a ‘feel’ for each other, our chat is one word answers from them no matter what we ask them to instigate in further talk. We did search with the face pic online and got no results but the conversation is so forced it just don’t feel right. We like people than can hold a conversation at least! "We got this too today, got a wink , so messaged back then it's like pulling teeth so obviously not what it seemed...strange to think what people get out of it isn't it | |||
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"Also, as WhatsApp is linked to Facebook, you can put yourself at risk of being touted to all your facebook friends "Not if your whattsapp chats are encrypted nothing can be shown to everyone | |||
" We got this too today, got a wink , so messaged back then it's like pulling teeth so obviously not what it seemed...strange to think what people get out of it isn't it "We had a ff profile and the profile I mentioned earlier message us in the space of 5 mins. Either 2 fakes at once or I’m going to have the weekend of my life
Wonder if it’s one user multiple profiles? | |||
"Also, as WhatsApp is linked to Facebook, you can put yourself at risk of being touted to all your facebook friends
Not if your whattsapp chats are encrypted nothing can be shown to everyone "thats not true.... they can screenshot them | |||
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"You have to ask yourself why someone would want to chat away from fab. " | |||
"You have to ask yourself why someone would want to chat away from fab. " they want you all to themselves maybe | |||
"You have to ask yourself why someone would want to chat away from fab. " The message system. If people get lots of messages the reply may fall off the first page and they'll never see it. | |||
"You have to ask yourself why someone would want to chat away from fab. they want you all to themselves maybe " That in itself would ring a warning bell | |||
"You have to ask yourself why someone would want to chat away from fab. The message system. If people get lots of messages the reply may fall off the first page and they'll never see it." This problem has never troubled us  | |||
"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please" If it don't feel right or your unsure then make it a no. That's what we do x | |||
"You have to ask yourself why someone would want to chat away from fab. The message system. If people get lots of messages the reply may fall off the first page and they'll never see it. This problem has never troubled us "Me neither.  | |||
"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please" Always trust your instincts. If I'm chatting to someone here and they reply with one word answers, I'll leave them alone. I prefer to keep discussions here too | |||
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"You have to ask yourself why someone would want to chat away from fab. they want you all to themselves maybe That in itself would ring a warning bell" Well yes it would but some may enjoy that, so many permutations of what's liked and not here | |||
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"You have to ask yourself why someone would want to chat away from fab. they want you all to themselves maybe That in itself would ring a warning bellWell yes it would but some may enjoy that, so many permutations of what's liked and not here " You're right and a lot of frustration would be avoided if we all realised that | |||
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"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please I just tell people that I keep it to fab.. " Yeah best way and if they are genuine they would accept that and it’s only the same as a text or WhatsApp message anyway. | |||
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"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please Your gut feeling is probably right, if they can't have a conversation in the messages then how is having your number going to help. "
Some can't converse well, verifications don't make conversation as I've noticed. | |||
"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please" [ I couldn't have a one word conversation with someone on here, there's got to be more connection than that. Them, Hi Me,hi Them, Sex ? Me, yes Them, when Me, now Them, where Me, here Them, where Me, midlands Them, where Me, birmingham Them, whereabouts Me, b90 Them, when Me, Thursday Them, no Me, Tuesday Them, no Me, Monday Them, yes Me, time Them, 11am Me, no Them, oh Me, 8pm Them, 8.30 Me, ok Etc etc etc It could go on for weeks  | |||
They will create multiple profiles, do the hide and seek thing to spy, edit profile text and on and on. Coming back to this specific point because I experienced it...
"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please Always trust your instincts. If I'm chatting to someone here and they reply with one word answers, I'll leave them alone. I prefer to keep discussions here too" Short version: When I rejoined I was a like a newbie and had let my guard down chatting to a person with mostly one word answers. After a while I realised something is not right so best to end communication... but the person was saying let's carry on because can get on same page. So I thought give benefit of the doubt... After 4 weeks: That person turned out to be a sycophant!! Omg I could not believe it... the game unravelled and when "caught out" because the person had tripped up on own... it was all back tracking... but by that time it was too late. More and more negative things were coming out...
My word... even with all my experience/knowledge I did not see that coming! Luckily no harm done, but if things had gone like others have experienced I would have been annoyed with myself for not trusting my instincts!
Just goes to show if you have a good nature and come across people like that they can try to take advantage of you...
Having said that for those that have come across any form of negativity never ever allow that to change/stop you. Learn/adapt from it to become stronger and more knowledgable on the tell tell signs... carry on doing what you're doing with good intentions and Fab will take care of the rest...
Plenty of fun opportunities despite the timewasters/fakes and people pretending... tricking etc etc | |||
"You have to ask yourself why someone would want to chat away from fab. they want you all to themselves maybe " This, and to get wank fodder. | |||
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"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please I just tell people that I keep it to fab.. " Same here. Kik was too much trouble anyway..once we're all comfortable, we can exchange numbers for whatsapp. | |||
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"One word answers are a no no no for me. " We treat these as conversation killers anyway to be fair. More than one or two, we stop trying because it's evident the other person probably already has. If they message again, great. | |||
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"We had this with a woman recently, one word answers, honestly don't know how D kept the conversation going for so long haha I think he was seeing how far he could go before she would react.. But nothing. If you are not interested just say crikey.. " I tried this an lost my patience... And the person was ready to meet... But I felt like talking to a dead soul. Now imagine in person... Fck no no no | |||
"We had this with a woman recently, one word answers, honestly don't know how D kept the conversation going for so long haha I think he was seeing how far he could go before she would react.. But nothing. If you are not interested just say crikey.. I tried this an lost my patience... And the person was ready to meet... But I felt like talking to a dead soul. Now imagine in person... Fck no no no" Imagine if we all had the same person... she was so busy/popular can only do one word replies...  | |||
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"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please" Ask to speak to the female on the phone or webcam. Single guys will then run a mile. | |||
"I would say it's just good safe practise to never give out your number unless you've actually met, if at all. " Buy a very cheap mobile phone for £10 - £20. Get a pay as you go sim card for the phone. Use that for swinging. If you get a stalker or knobhead(s) simply get a new pay as you go sim for the cheap phone. | |||
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"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please Ask to speak to the female on the phone or webcam. Single guys will then run a mile. " And some fems will too. | |||
"Hi, So we where speaking to a woman, just for a day and all her answers where 1 word answers but she wanted to move the chat to whatsapp, are paranoid its some sort of scam, is that even a thing? Thoughts please" Does it matter if you're paranoid? | |||
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