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I'm curious how did ya'll first get started in this lifestyle?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Did ya'll meet from within the lifestyle?
Did one of you have to talk the other into it?
Not putting any tags on anyone but um.... was your wife sexually outgoing before ya'll met.
Are any of ya'll religious? Or were religious before? Just wondering
I run a wife sharing Tumblr and I'm always ask how the question "how do I get my wife interested".
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I got into the lifestyle when a lovely gentleman on here took me for who i was and said what he saw was beautiful.
I then got wined and dined, taken to clubs and generally treated like a female being properly courted.......
Been hooked ever since as its such a fun lifestyle.
Its definitely not for everyone though so you just have to accept that too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Did ya'll meet from within the lifestyle?
Did one of you have to talk the other into it?
Not putting any tags on anyone but um.... was your wife sexually outgoing before ya'll met.
Are any of ya'll religious? Or were religious before? Just wondering
I run a wife sharing Tumblr and I'm always ask how the question "how do I get my wife interested".
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I was recommended to site by female friend and what's a wife sharing tumblr? |
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"Did ya'll meet from within the lifestyle?
Did one of you have to talk the other into it?
Not putting any tags on anyone but um.... was your wife sexually outgoing before ya'll met.
Are any of ya'll religious? Or were religious before? Just wondering
I run a wife sharing Tumblr and I'm always ask how the question "how do I get my wife interested".
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Firstly, can you PM me details of your Tumblr?
I got started when I was innocently at a bar where a couple (quite well known in Liverpool swinging circles) invited me to a house party after chatting to them.
The first time I played sink or swim I knew this was something I was going to enjoy. After that, was invited to a lot of private parties and events.
Left the scene for a while due to a vanilla relationship but back raring to go. |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
We had spoken about it for years!! We always talked about threesomes because of my being bi and it kinda developed from there. Apparently I had a few too many one night and came home and mentioned swinging haha. We talked about it for over a year after that.
We were looking for something to do on new year's eve just gone and I found a party. Took me a week to talk to C about it! And we were unsure then we decided to just do it!!
Long story short the party was epic!! We've been hooked ever since |
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Fantasy that we had discussed together, then mr caught me checking out the clubs online while we were on holiday, he persuaded me to go on the basis we could leave at any point and we were abroad so chances of anyone finding out if it was a disaster were remote! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were both single at the time, I (female) was on a dating site and a guy I was chatting with told me that he led an alternative sex life. I asked him lots of questions and he told me about Fab, I decided to do my own "research" and created a profile.
My boyfriend found the site online, created a profile and found me.... the rest is history  |
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I was on holiday, I’d been a member of fab for a few months, told my wife I was going for a run.
I contacted a guy on here, went to his. By the time he’d shut the front door, his cock was out and I was on my knees. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For us it was after wife finished cancer treatment made us realise you only here once "
Similar for us, certainly puts everything in perspective. Hope all is ok now  |
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Female here
I was on a dating site after my 14 year marriage ended. Was sick of crap sex where he wouldn’t listen. I hooked up with a bloke as fwb and he told me about fab. I joined fab and meet some great lads. From here I heard about clubf, so I thought why not! I love sex, I have fantasies so off to club I went. 6 months later I meet a gorgeous bloke at club who showed me just what amazing sex is! Fast forward and we’re now married and enjoying the lifestyle together |
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Two main things for us....I (fem) wanted to explore my bi side as I never had...and I learnt of OH's past experiences..which really turned me on instead of making me jealous...so we talked about it and took it from there x |
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Interesting to read people's stories. Married friends F (m) and V (f) asked me to help them out. F was much older than V who wanted a little more in life and had a fancy for me, so F recruited my help on a regular basis for best part of a year before work took me away. Never looked back really. Sadly both gone now and still miss them. But, keeping my end up in all sorts of ways. lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had spoke about this for over two years but we lived on a small island in Spain where there was not a swinger community, we finally moved back to the UK and joined Fab and now living all our fantasy’s from the past 3 years now xxx |
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I once got very d*unk at a party. Woke up in a bed and was locked in.. my mate asleep at too.
I asked him what had happened. He told me I'd taken on the whole rugby team. I was at the time mortified... but eventually he and the rest of my not so funny friends admitted that I'd actually just got d*unk and they had locked me in a room because I was so d*unk.
As time went on I realised the idea of a group of men appealed to me... this then coupled with an ex bf who asked for a 3sum with a woman ( which was a disaster) and then me getting my first mfm and well... that was that...
So 23 years now  |
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The wife and I met online way back in 1997. Before we even met in person she told me she'd be interested in MMF threesomes, and in having a male lover.
A few years down the road we started exploring non-monogamy, at first via threesomes with a male friend. After a few months i decided I'd like to see other women and we entered the world of swinging and sex parties.
Monogamy was never really an option. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think i found the lifestyle by accident. I had a few bad experiences out dressed in London in my late teens and found a degree of safety and security in pvt sex clubs, a kind of refuge in a sense.
Made friends, was exposed to every kink on planet earth over the next 26 years and haven't looked back really. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m part of a couple too and when we started to get serious he told me about what he enjoyed doing. I said I’d give it a go and here we/I am. I imagine it was a pretty tough conversation for him to start as I may not have taken it as well as I did |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always knew I wanted to be in the scene.
Was in a sexless, eventually loveless relationship for many years.
So ended it before I considered cheating.
Boom. Here I am. Never looked back |
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Picked up by a couple in a bar in town went back to their hotel still wasnt sure where it was going but, i soon found out so you see it was they who introduced me to this and clubs so its all their fault |
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"Told my partner when we first got together that I was bi but took me a year to talk him around to swinging. "
One of the main reasons I got with my ex is she was also bi and I kinda foolishly assumed that she would be up for a more playful lifestyle but it tuned out otherwise in fact she ended up being the most jealous and controlling person I've ever been with :/ |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
We talked about it, talked some more and then talked again. This went on for many years. Then one day walking along the beach Mrs just said "look if we are going to do this, I want to do it before I get too old."
That let to a load more talking about how, where, whom etc |
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I Jeff was having sex with a cleaner at work she also worked in a hotel and would bring sex magazines from the rooms. One was a contact mag, long before the internet. We met a bloke and I’ve been hooked ever since. First question I asked Karen when we started seeing each other was about sex clubs. She didn’t have a clue what I was going on about!! She does now ?? |
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"Sexually outgoing" is a nice way of describing her needs! (And mine too!) R and her ex were swingers for the first few years of their marriage (in the 1980s, contact mag days as mentioned above) and she hotwifed when he lost interest later on. I hadn't done any swinging but had plenty of extramarital during my former marriage.
A few weeks after we met, we were watching a porn DVD on the bedroom TV, featuring 'real' people orgying in La Chambre. I asked if she'd like to do that and she said "yes please!" so we went to the club the next Saturday. No orgy on that visit, but we loved the scene, became regulars at the club and in a while started doing home foursomes too.
We first met at a Pagan camping event, so are 'religious' but not in the usual way. Pagans believe sex is natural and joyful, nothing to be ashamed about. Monogamy isn't required and sex outside relationships isn't seen as sinful.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We talked about it on and off for most of our time together. I've been interested since I was a teenager. As we discovered each other and our kinks Missy Brought it up first and this year we finally decided that now was the time, so here we are and there's no going back ?? XX J |
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By *d4ugirlsMan
over a year ago
Green Cove Springs |
Had a interest in swinging for a number of years, not sure how I wound up meeting my first couple; think it probably was personals in craigslist.
But met a couple with a hotwife and it went from there, learning the different sides of it and learning to be part of what the couple is looking for so it is spontaneous.
Have experienced club visits which were enjoyable but can be tough as a newbie.
Have stayed in touch with one male friend over the years and have enjoyed us sharing different ladies who have wanted to explore 3 sums.
Great times, visit Wales and England around Christmas holidays each year, have chatted with several fruends in Uk but still hoping to actually have a meet at some point. |
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and I'm glad he did 
no clubs as yet 