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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
If sex is a big element of that for you then find a local club with an established BDSM night.
Read up as much as you can around the things you find appealing, self education is a great thing, an experienced Dom can then help you to hone a practical technique if you're wanting to learn how to do something yourself. If you want them to play with you, it is best that you know the theory and most importantly how something can be done in as safe a way as possible. Even experienced people can make mistakes so you always have to be responsible for your own safety.
If sex isn't A big thing, head over to the other site and find some of the BDSM only events, less or no sex but often (not always) more experienced players that are willing to teach or play. |
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That site revolving around Fet...
Also munches and club nights at venues with BDSM equipment. There your can chat with people and sort out the experienced, knowledgeable ones who's style of play matches yours. |
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OP, I see you used to go to Kestrels... Which was usually a good place to meet kinky people due to the dungeon. The new Kestrels/abfabs may not yet be as well equipped (I'm going for the first time tonight) but it could be a good place for you. Especially on bi night  |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
The world of domination is a broad church. Asking fo a dom who knows what he is doing, is similar to asking for a really good car. What defines a really good car is your subjective requirements,i.e. your specification. Even if you know your specification then you have the issue of whether the cars put forward will perform in accordance with their specification. With apologies to car salesmen, there are as many dodgy doms as there are dodgy car salesmen.
In looking for a dom I would suggest that you will have as much luck finding a good dom here on Fab as you have at a munch or on FL. There are some knowledgeable people on this site, as well as predators but you have the same on FL and at munches. At least on Fab you have the advantage of checking verifications or asking for verifications. It may be trickier asking for verifications using other avenues.
I know you have asked for a male dom, but there are some very good dommes on this site, who would be able to give good advice or an initial experience. But that comes down to your specification.
One point I would make which couples can overlook, the person subject to the domination should be able to confirm directly and independently that they want to be dominated.
This can raise an interesting dilemma but I would suggest that no competent dom/domme would agree to play without going through at a minimum FRIES consent with the recipient of the domination.
Finally, in putting together your specification, speak to submissives or use submissive resources, they can be helpful.
Good luck |
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