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Think about what you writing

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So since being on this site ( especially the forum ), I’ve noticed so many threads from men asking where they are going wrong ( including myself ).

Where most are going wrong is your forgetting that the women are real everyday women. Just because they are on a swingers site doesn’t mean they will appreciate a doc pic and a comment about how you’d love to eat their pussy! They are on a swingers site! The chances they already know most men would certainly eat their pussy ( given half the chance).

Just think how much of an insult and complete lack of respect you’ve shown by messaging in such a way! As much as we all have real healthy appetite for sex, it’s not just all about sex! It’s about socialising with like minded people.

I’m a fab virgin but have quickly discovered how to stand out from the 100001 messages woman receive daily, hope this helps and please add to this thread as you feel is appropriate,

Have a great day folks

Daz x

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

"Just because they are on a swingers site doesn’t mean they will appreciate a doc pic and a comment about how you’d love to eat their pussy! They are on a swingers site! The chances they already know most men would certainly eat their pussy ( given half the chance "

But some will appreciate it. It's called knowing your audience.

Although how some can guarantee a good noshing without even seeing it I don't know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

But some will appreciate it. It's called knowing your audience.

Although how some can guarantee a good noshing without even seeing it I don't know."

I think what I should of said was, don’t be so keen and eager to express them comments, I’d be right in saying that right?

Would I be right I’m also saying that there’s nothing wrong in getting to know the person your chatting with a little first, just so you can read a little more if the person would appreciate that kind of talk after 2-3 messages?

Again these are my opinions and feel conflicted in voicing my opinion as I’m so new to this, lol

Thanks for your input

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By *n_thy_kneesMan over a year ago

Ipswich

"Think about what you writing" - The irony.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

""Think about what you writing" - The irony.

Ffs sake, just noticed that mate ( embarrassing)

Brb need more coffee, lmao

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

""Think about what you writing" - The irony.

I chose to keep quiet

lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

""Think about what you writing" - The irony.

Must be a teacher, lmao

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

But some will appreciate it. It's called knowing your audience.

Although how some can guarantee a good noshing without even seeing it I don't know.

I think what I should of said was, don’t be so keen and eager to express them comments, I’d be right in saying that right?

Again these are my opinions and feel conflicted in voicing my opinion as I’m so new to this, lol

Thanks for your input "

Sometimes it comes as a first message, never mind 3nd or 3rd lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I missed the R out lads! Jeez

Do I have detention, lines??

Stand in the corner, lmao

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

But some will appreciate it. It's called knowing your audience.

Although how some can guarantee a good noshing without even seeing it I don't know.

I think what I should of said was, don’t be so keen and eager to express them comments, I’d be right in saying that right?

Again these are my opinions and feel conflicted in voicing my opinion as I’m so new to this, lol

Thanks for your input

Sometimes it comes as a first message, never mind 3nd or 3rd lol. "

You're letting yourself down with your think what you're writing philosophy

Only joking

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

I think what I should of said was, don’t be so keen and eager to express them comments, I’d be right in saying that right?

Again these are my opinions and feel conflicted in voicing my opinion as I’m so new to this, lol

Thanks for your input "

Spot on

And newbies are entitled to opinions too.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"I missed the R out lads! Jeez

Do I have detention, lines??

Stand in the corner, lmao "

Love that you can laugh at yourself

it's the best way on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

But some will appreciate it. It's called knowing your audience.

Although how some can guarantee a good noshing without even seeing it I don't know.

I think what I should of said was, don’t be so keen and eager to express them comments, I’d be right in saying that right?

Again these are my opinions and feel conflicted in voicing my opinion as I’m so new to this, lol

Thanks for your input

Sometimes it comes as a first message, never mind 3nd or 3rd lol. "

But that’s so crazy! Would they go straight up to a woman in a club and say things like that? Probably not! So why do they think it will work here, lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I missed the R out lads! Jeez

Do I have detention, lines??

Stand in the corner, lmao

Love that you can laugh at yourself

it's the best way on here."

Mate it’s the only way I know!

Lmao

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By *n_thy_kneesMan over a year ago

Ipswich

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Proof read Mr Darren PROOF READ!

Another tip... Proof read your messages, women are not impressed if u rite like dis!

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By *uzzy NavelWoman over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

""Think about what you writing" - The irony.

Love this and the OPs response, with the input by Sam....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Proof read Mr Darren PROOF READ!

Another tip... Proof read your messages, women are not impressed if u rite like dis! "

Yeah my bad, still early and not enough coffee, lol

Would you agree it’s important to smile in your pictures too, lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Proof read Mr Darren PROOF READ!

Another tip... Proof read your messages, women are not impressed if u rite like dis!

Yeah my bad, still early and not enough coffee, lol

Would you agree it’s important to smile in your pictures too, lol "

Now now Darren, play nicely

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By *ohnjones3210Man over a year ago

Chester

"Just because they are on a swingers site doesn’t mean they will appreciate a doc pic and a comment about how you’d love to eat their pussy"

I thought this was the best bit. "Hey love, this is me, and this is my doctor! I don't go often, but here he is!"

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By *atonMan over a year ago

barnet

White lighting at its finest

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By *uzzy NavelWoman over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"Proof read Mr Darren PROOF READ!

Another tip... Proof read your messages, women are not impressed if u rite like dis!

Yeah my bad, still early and not enough coffee, lol

Would you agree it’s important to smile in your pictures too, lol

Now now Darren, play nicely "

tis amusing to read...

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By *atonMan over a year ago

barnet

Typo..white knighting

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Proof read Mr Darren PROOF READ!

Another tip... Proof read your messages, women are not impressed if u rite like dis!

Yeah my bad, still early and not enough coffee, lol

Would you agree it’s important to smile in your pictures too, lol

Now now Darren, play nicely "

Sorry bro it’s my dominant ways, lmao

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just because they are on a swingers site doesn’t mean they will appreciate a doc pic and a comment about how you’d love to eat their pussy

I thought this was the best bit. "Hey love, this is me, and this is my doctor! I don't go often, but here he is!""

Ffs, I will leave the class right away, god damn the auto correct

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who reads.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But some will appreciate it. It's called knowing your audience.

Although how some can guarantee a good noshing without even seeing it I don't know.

I think what I should of said was, don’t be so keen and eager to express them comments, I’d be right in saying that right?

Again these are my opinions and feel conflicted in voicing my opinion as I’m so new to this, lol

Thanks for your input "

I love this and wish all the men who message me would take note x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But some will appreciate it. It's called knowing your audience.

Although how some can guarantee a good noshing without even seeing it I don't know.

I think what I should of said was, don’t be so keen and eager to express them comments, I’d be right in saying that right?

Again these are my opinions and feel conflicted in voicing my opinion as I’m so new to this, lol

Thanks for your input

Sometimes it comes as a first message, never mind 3nd or 3rd lol. "
3nd?

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By *RR68BMan over a year ago

Bournemouth

"I’m a fab virgin but have quickly discovered how to stand out from the 100001 messages woman receive daily, hope this helps and please add to this thread as you feel is appropriate,

Wow, thanks for the lecture, you've helped IMMENSLEY!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So since being on this site ( especially the forum ), I’ve noticed so many threads from men asking where they are going wrong ( including myself ).

I’m a fab virgin but have quickly discovered how to stand out from the 100001 messages woman receive daily, hope this helps and please add to this thread as you feel is appropriate,

Have a great day folks

Daz x"

From a personal POV I am not offended it’s just very very very boring..... ooohhhh!! You gonna finger me around the bike sheds too!!

Don’t get me wrong I am LOVE oral although I hope that the people who are messaging me are sexually experienced enough that for that to be an opener would be almost like stating the obvious!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But some will appreciate it. It's called knowing your audience.

Although how some can guarantee a good noshing without even seeing it I don't know.

I think what I should of said was, don’t be so keen and eager to express them comments, I’d be right in saying that right?

Again these are my opinions and feel conflicted in voicing my opinion as I’m so new to this, lol

Thanks for your input

Sometimes it comes as a first message, never mind 3nd or 3rd lol.

But that’s so crazy! Would they go straight up to a woman in a club and say things like that? Probably not! So why do they think it will work here, lol "

ACTUALLY.... if a very hot man made eye contact with me in a club, confidently (real confidence not because they are pissed) walked over to me. Was dressed well ect, leaned over to me like he was offering to buy me a drink but instead whispered that in my ear.

WELL! I think I would need to sit down for a bit although I would worry about the upholstery! Confidence, class and respect makes all the difference, then guys, bring on the filth!

Just keep it our little secret

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By *he Happy ManMan over a year ago

Merseyside

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By *he Happy ManMan over a year ago

Merseyside

The problem a lot of men on here have is they think this site is called instantshags.com or ifuckanybodywhoasksme.com

Just because this is a sex/swingers website doesn't mean you can't woo the woman/couple and treat her/them with respect. Spend time getting to know the woman/couple. Entice her/them into meeting you. Give her/them reasons to meet you.

I often spend a few months getting to know somebody before we meet. I prefer to get to know people online first. then you out the idiots, fakes, timewasters, weirdoes, axe murderers, etc.

If I was a woman on here I would make men wait to meet me. I would make them spend time getting to know me online. Then you get rid of the guys looking for an instant fuck, the guys looking for another notch on the bedpost, the disrespectful guys, the idiots, the fantasists, the timewasters, the weirdoes, the axe murderers, etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The problem a lot of men on here have is they think this site is called instantshags.com or ifuckanybodywhoasksme.com

I often spend a few months getting to know somebody before we meet. I prefer to get to know people online first. then you out the idiots, fakes, timewasters, weirdoes, axe murderers, etc.

There are still gentlemen out there!

I completely agree!

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By *ara JTV/TS over a year ago

Bristol East

Cool post.

Whether people are here for sex, socialising, none or both, we all deserve respect first and foremost as another human being.

It's called empathy. Some people are more endowed with it than others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

100% agreed first impression always last. But every body to there own.

Well done Daz