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Wasting our time

By *bcums3 OP Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

We are a genuine couple that’s been on here a few months, we Have had a couple of meets at the beginning but now it’s just seems to be people wasting our time, we have kids at home so arranging meets means arranging babysitters. I (female) take the time to chat and make arrangements but then they just disappear?? Beginning to wonder if it’s something I am doing wrong? At the point now it feels that woman are just not interested? We have blocked single males and tried to be honest but even at that we can still get comments about how I am not interested in playing with other men. (Mainly couples) Sadly it can hard to project yourself and who you are on here x

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By *ozzytruck69Couple over a year ago

Kingston upon Hull

We are also a bit fem couple,and like you I am the female and do the chatting and arrangement for meeting.

I fully understand what your saying about time wasters, obviously we get them too.

I don't however understand why you seek couples? Unless I am reading it wrong you expect your man to be allowed to join in? It clearly states that,yet the male of the other couple ain't allowed? What's his role then? Making the tea? Lol.

Why aren't you seeking females only??

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By *bcums3 OP Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"We are also a bit fem couple,and like you I am the female and do the chatting and arrangement for meeting.

I fully understand what your saying about time wasters, obviously we get them too.

Why aren't you seeking females only??

I "

Because like everyone on here, we have different preferences, that would assume then that all couples on here are happy to both play and that’s clearly not the case as some profiles do say male/female will watch or not get involved and we just try to be honest that I don’t sleep with males. we never assume that In a couples scenario my husband will always get to play, again we try and be honest when conversation starts with couples so everyone knows. what we don’t expect is to be abused for it. What’s wrong with a simple sorry not interested lol Maybe we are just being too polite lol at the moment there just seems to be a huge amount of time wasters and it get very frustrating. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would make it clearer that in a couples situation you are happy for your partner to just watch the two women then own partners after that might help

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By *bcums3 OP Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"I would make it clearer that in a couples situation you are happy for your partner to just watch the two women then own partners after that might help "

Thank you

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By *bcums3 OP Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"I would make it clearer that in a couples situation you are happy for your partner to just watch the two women then own partners after that might help

Thank you

We are still fairly new and interested in social side aswell as meets so all advice is welcome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There will be couples that are into what you are seeking. I have not read your profile but wonder does it make it clear the male of other couple can fuck his own partner on meets? Or is he not allowed?

There are a lot of men who would be happy just to watch x x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There will be couples that are into what you are seeking. I have not read your profile but wonder does it make it clear the male of other couple can fuck his own partner on meets? Or is he not allowed?

There are a lot of men who would be happy just to watch x x"

i would not be happy to just watch but then i suppose i am not a lot of men

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you new it might be worth looking for organised socials in your area excellent way to meet new people very informal way of seeing if you have things in common

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

We are a bi from couple and we have this all the time

The wife only plays with women but we both play we don't really meet couples due to this as we would have to agree own partners only and we do like to share a women so meeting a couple would be awkward for us I'd imagine

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By *bcums3 OP Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"If you new it might be worth looking for organised socials in your area excellent way to meet new people very informal way of seeing if you have things in common "

Yea that’s def something we want to look into

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By *bcums3 OP Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

There are a lot of men who would be happy just to watch x x"

Good advice, looked at the wording of the profile and changed it a bit x

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

There are a lot of men who would be happy just to watch x x"

Apologies again

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

I guess it's preference. We're a bi fem couple I'm the female. We prefer to all play together. Even if it's just soft swap.

We prefer full swap couples and those into group fun.

However that said I'm also allowed to play separately if the couple just wants a female. But hubby would drop me off, meet the couple first and pick me up. Purely for my safety!!

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

"I guess it's preference. We're a bi fem couple I'm the female. We prefer to all play together. Even if it's just soft swap.

We prefer full swap couples and those into group fun.

However that said I'm also allowed to play separately if the couple just wants a female. But hubby would drop me off, meet the couple first and pick me up. Purely for my safety!! "
. That's a great hubby lol drop you here

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By *bcums3 OP Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"I guess it's preference. We're a bi fem couple I'm the female. We prefer to all play together. Even if it's just soft swap.

We prefer full swap couples and those into group fun.

However that said I'm also allowed to play separately if the couple just wants a female. But hubby would drop me off, meet the couple first and pick me up. Purely for my safety!! . That's a great hubby lol drop you here

And that’s exactly why we have couples on our profile everyone looks and enjoys different things so trying to be honest is always first for us."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are a lot of men who would be happy just to watch x x

Apologies again

Accepted and apologies in return also

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

There are a lot of men who would be happy just to watch x x

Apologies again

Accepted and apologies in return also

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think if you are honest right up front about what you want it's up to the other couple to decide.

Myself and my OH have a couple profile and we both have single ones too. If we meet a couple at a party or club and one of us isnt interested, usually me

, we have an agreement that if the other couple want either one of us we can go off with them, play then come back. This ONLY happens at clubs etc NEVER at a private meet.

On my single profile I dont meet couples. I'm looking for men only.

However if a couple send us a message, on OUR profile, and we chat and they say 'Girls playing only. Guys watch and then separate off into couples' or ' My wife/girlfriend will only play with women and kiss the other woman' we will say no thanks. We are equal opportunity swingers. Everyone plays or no-one plays on a private meet.

Everyone does this their own way and the way it works for them. C Xx

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

The other thing and this might just be is I don't want to feel like a performing circus monkey!

I'm bi I know I'm bi but I don't wanna feel like I'm just putting on a show for the bloke to get his kicks! I'm happy to play with a couple with everyone involved or as a foursome with everyone involved. But the blokes just watching the ladies for their kicks isn't for me. That said I have no problem with people peeking at a club... I'm complicated hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The other thing and this might just be is I don't want to feel like a performing circus monkey!

Ain't we all

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

It seems so everyday on here. With my partner we have only met others in clubs and genrally if we were to arrange a meet outside of a club it would be with people we'd met first in a club. This works for us at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are a lot of men who would be happy just to watch x x

Apologies again

Accepted and apologies in return also

Thank you

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

"The other thing and this might just be is I don't want to feel like a performing circus monkey!

That isn't us we both get amongst it,however the wife does like to make a women cum before I join.bjt that's not coz I like to watch.far from it

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By *bcums3 OP Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

Everyone has their preferences and it’s finding what suits each other, ultimately it’s been couples that have gave us the most abuse for it even when honest but going to change wording for the profile maybe that helps

for us though it’s the time wasters that are the issue. We have so little time as it is, it’s very frustrating when it happens x

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By *bcums3 OP Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

There are a lot of men who would be happy just to watch x x"

Very true there is a lot of men, but we try and make sure that’s clear from the beginning, we mainly seek woman for us both to enjoy, but having the option of couples is there for people like that, that do come along with similar preferences x

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

"Everyone has their preferences and it’s finding what suits each other, ultimately it’s been couples that have gave us the most abuse for it even when honest but going to change wording for the profile maybe that helps

for us though it’s the time wasters that are the issue. We have so little time as it is, it’s very frustrating when it happens x"

We've had a few timewasters which is annoying to say the least. Especially when you've sorted childcare and all the rest of it!!

I would suggest clubs as they seem to be better for meeting we've found.

We're a full swap couple but we don't have to be if that doesn't appeal. We find people are put off as soon as they see BDSM on our profile but again we do play vanilla. We mention it because to all meets I wear my collar so it's on our profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We are also a bit fem couple,and like you I am the female and do the chatting and arrangement for meeting.

I fully understand what your saying about time wasters, obviously we get them too.

Why aren't you seeking females only??

So does your husband expect to have sex with the other mans wife or partner. Just want to clarify plesse

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By *bcums3 OP Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"We are also a bit fem couple,and like you I am the female and do the chatting and arrangement for meeting.

I fully understand what your saying about time wasters, obviously we get them too.

Why aren't you seeking females only??

So does your husband expect to have sex with the other mans wife or partner. Just want to clarify plesse"

No husband never expects to play and we never assume that will happen. He enjoys watching me have fun just as much

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

"We are also a bit fem couple,and like you I am the female and do the chatting and arrangement for meeting.

I fully understand what your saying about time wasters, obviously we get them too.

Why aren't you seeking females only??

So does your husband expect to have sex with the other mans wife or partner. Just want to clarify plesse"

This is why we don't meet couples but we still get them asking to meet when it clearly states what were after

It seems it's not natural to only want to play with women on here

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By *bcums3 OP Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

for us though it’s the time wasters that are the issue. We have so little time as it is, it’s very frustrating when it happens x

We've had a few timewasters which is annoying to say the least. Especially when you've sorted childcare and all the rest of it!!

I would suggest clubs as they seem to be better for meeting we've found.

It does feel clubs are a better way to go, you def don’t get to project yourself the best you can on here and what we think as honesty may not come across like that

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By *bcums3 OP Couple over a year ago

lanarkshire

"We are also a bit fem couple,and like you I am the female and do the chatting and arrangement for meeting.

I fully understand what your saying about time wasters, obviously we get them too.

Why aren't you seeking females only??

So does your husband expect to have sex with the other mans wife or partner. Just want to clarify plesse

This is why we don't meet couples but we still get them asking to meet when it clearly states what were after

It seems it's not natural to only want to play with women on here "

The last sentence is very true and think maybe looking at changing the preference is better for us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We are also a bit fem couple,and like you I am the female and do the chatting and arrangement for meeting.

I fully understand what your saying about time wasters, obviously we get them too.

Why aren't you seeking females only??

So does your husband expect to have sex with the other mans wife or partner. Just want to clarify plesse

No husband never expects to play and we never assume that will happen. He enjoys watching me have fun just as much "

Aaah ok. Thanks for that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are only girl on girl play, with males joining in with own partners only , some people won't entertain it as they think they are being used as a performing seal , call it what you will but my hubby has not interest in playing with other ladies and I have no interest in other men . I enjoy the play and then he enjoys me afterwards . Each to their own

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