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Conversing with other members on Fab
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"I've just been reading a thread about the state of play on Fab, the number of horrednous messages that people have recieved and total lack of understanding about what a site like this offers. As we know, there are a lot of single guys on here who see it as Insta-Fuck, unable to wrtie more than... 'Fancy a fuck?' Similarly, there are so many women and couples who are equally short sighted and narrow minded on here. The problem in my mind is universal. So, this thread... I'd like men, who have been verified to give some details on their approach to Fab, how they message members and what their expectatiopns are from their approach and attitude. I'd like women and couple to do the same. Ultimatele creating a compendium of knowledge that new memnbers, and existing members can be directed to on how to conduct themselves, hints and tips. As a man, when you message someone, how do you do it, what response do you hope for. As a woman or couple, the same. And when you recieve a message, what are you looking for, what makes you want to respond. For me, all this bad blood between members is so pointless, lets help one another be better, it's the only way really. Cheers and I hope people engage with this thread." I approach every message the same. I only message women who have taken the time to create a nice profile. I don’t contact those that just say simple things like “hello” and “looking for an older man”. Every message is custom for the person I’m sending it to. No copy and paste from me. All I’m hoping for is a reply, even a copy and paste “no thank you” but I understand some women get 100s if messages a day on here. The one thing I hate is when they delete the message, no reply, and then block! It’s not like I send multiple messages! Although I do understand that some “fuck boys” will send constant messages, which I think is pointless. What makes you think that if they ignored your previous message, sending another one will get a different response? 
And for the record, every time I’ve received a message, I’ve always replied, even if I’m not interested.
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What am I looking for:
An intuition from an initial message. I don't look for the same things. A message which gives me an insight into that person. What are they looking for, why are they here, what they liked about my profile, what they can relate to. Honesty, wit, humour, almost a modesty to their message.
I don't really care if people have dick pics or whatever. Doesn't mean they are a bad person.
I won't reply to:
Hi how are you. Want to fuck? Suck my dick? Any message someone wouldn't have the balls to say in person I won't respond to. Some couples out "hi"... I mean hi? Lol.
Really just be honest and true to who you are. The rest will flow naturally. | |||
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I’ve never cut and pasted messages, be respectful, don’t bombard people with messages, we all have work, family, life to balance, just be patient | |||
"I think it's a good post BUT everyone wants different things. " Exactly what I think, hence asking the question | |||
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"I kind of simply send a message saying I am ready to fuck you, drop everything and be ready for me in 1hr. If they don't respond or say it's a No, I simply reply back I wouldn't touch you with a 10ft clown pole you hippopotopig. Turns out fab is full of hippopotopigs who won't meet. I assuming therefore 99% of the female profiles are fake. Still if at first you dont succeed keep trying. So I never let a negative reply/no reply stop me from trying 10 more times. I'm sure my persistence will pay off one day being God's gift and all. Ladies keep an eye out in your inbox for your message from me." LMFAO  | |||
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"Thanks for contributing! I think you’re right, those that need the advice won’t seek it, but at least there’s somewhere they can find it. Treat others as they wish to be treated is such a good phrase" I don't like it when people give advice. If men are the type to think all they have to do is demand a fuck, then I don't want to ever meet them. If someone gives them advice how to be better then someone might end up meeting them because they think they're decent, even though they're not.  | |||
"Its difficult, right at the top of my page it says in bold ' no longer looking for meets just here for the forums' as I have met someone and we want to be exclusive. But I love the forums and don't want to delete my account. Yet today I have two dozen messages asking to meet. I can't reply to all saying not meeting so I just delete as they should have read my profile, I don't think I'm rude, I just expect guys to have actually read what I have put. X" If you take men off your looking for list it takes you off the searches. Reduces mail to almost nothing. | |||
"I kind of simply send a message saying I am ready to fuck you, drop everything and be ready for me in 1hr. If they don't respond or say it's a No, I simply reply back I wouldn't touch you with a 10ft clown pole you hippopotopig. Turns out fab is full of hippopotopigs who won't meet. I assuming therefore 99% of the female profiles are fake. Still if at first you dont succeed keep trying. So I never let a negative reply/no reply stop me from trying 10 more times. I'm sure my persistence will pay off one day being God's gift and all. Ladies keep an eye out in your inbox for your message from me." | |||
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"Well done - great topic. I think the secret is just to be a human being, and talk/ message almost as you would on other (non-sexual) social media. The good people on here want to meet other people - not just willies or boobs that talk!" Yes, precisely, it’s not just random firing into the dark, there are people on the other end of the messages that get sent. I always think, would I say that to someone in the street I’d just met, face to face? | |||
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"It all boils down to how you look - nothing else matters on here " This is true. It’s about fulfilling fantasies after all. | |||
"It all boils down to how you look - nothing else matters on here This is true. It’s about fulfilling fantasies after all. " Glad you agree | |||
"It all boils down to how you look - nothing else matters on here " Would you fuck someone you don't fancy? | |||
"It all boils down to how you look - nothing else matters on here Would you fuck someone you don't fancy?" No - did I suggest that I would? | |||
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"It all boils down to how you look - nothing else matters on here Would you fuck someone you don't fancy? No - did I suggest that I would? " No, just wondering. | |||
"I find treating people on here just as you would if you bumped into them in a pub, if “fancy a fuck” wouldn’t work in the real world then it’s not going to work on here
I’ve never cut and pasted messages, be respectful, don’t bombard people with messages, we all have work, family, life to balance, just be patient " | |||
"Its difficult, right at the top of my page it says in bold ' no longer looking for meets just here for the forums' as I have met someone and we want to be exclusive. But I love the forums and don't want to delete my account. Yet today I have two dozen messages asking to meet. I can't reply to all saying not meeting so I just delete as they should have read my profile, I don't think I'm rude, I just expect guys to have actually read what I have put. X If you take men off your looking for list it takes you off the searches. Reduces mail to almost nothing. "Thank you! I didn't know I could do that, that's going to make it easier..there's loads of features on here I dont know yet x | |||
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"It all boils down to how you look - nothing else matters on here " Lots of guys on here that facially I fancy the pants off but due to me disliking how they come across in conversation I would not meet in a million years. There are also guys which are not my usual type that I click so well with when chatting that I would be wiling to have a social with to see how we get on, so I majorly disagree. The fact that alot of women get 100s of messages a day even when they have no pictures on their profile would show alot of men obviously disagree with you too. | |||
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"For us there are a few put of points. First those messages that don't acknowledge that we are a couple get binned. If the sender is not even bothered to say hi to MT as well as Boo why should we be polite to them . " How can people not acknowledge MT, he has a great body and cute bum, from the pictures I'm seeing you both get my full acknowledgement, just a shame most of the site doesn't have a mind like mine | |||
"It all boils down to how you look - nothing else matters on here Lots of guys on here that facially I fancy the pants off but due to me disliking how they come across in conversation I would not meet in a million years. There are also guys which are not my usual type that I click so well with when chatting that I would be wiling to have a social with to see how we get on, so I majorly disagree. The fact that alot of women get 100s of messages a day even when they have no pictures on their profile would show alot of men obviously disagree with you too." Ok - you disagree - great | |||
"It all boils down to how you look - nothing else matters on here This is true. It’s about fulfilling fantasies after all. " Not sure that is entirely true, you still need to be able to converse with people on some level. Looks might open the door, but how you interact is what gets you through the doorway. | |||
