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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey guys, I'm looking for a bit of advice. I'm struggling to get replies or even spark any interest with the ladies.
I've tried to be myself, not come across seedy or desperate but something just isn't working.
So I ask, how do you go about starting first messages?
Does my profile look OK? I'm not great with writing about myself.
Thanks in advance
Ant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile is awful..
And as thats the first place people look i reckon that's why you're struggling...
You can set your filters so men can't message you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile is awful..
And as thats the first place people look i reckon that's why you're struggling...
You can set your filters so men can't message you "
Always set dick pics to private  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For a start. Your profile literally says nothing about you.
Women generally check you out. Before even considering a reply."
Nah, he's got muscles
Thats all we need |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
Here's something a lady posted... https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/879358
And another useful one from a single male...
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538.
You'd do well to read these, there's also advice on my profile for newbies and people who aren't getting meets should you wish to use it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lose your dick pics and write more in your profile, theres nothing on it. Personally id lose the skatepark pic also, for it it just says your a bit of a big kid still |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lose your dick pics and write more in your profile, theres nothing on it. Personally id lose the skatepark pic also, for it it just says your a bit of a big kid still "
Done, thanks.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"very angry looking in some of the pictures. Immediately put me off. Your profile shows no effort. "
Thanks for the input. I will take some more pictures later and update. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You have no interests listed....give us a clue what you are into.
You are happy to meet people in their 90s ? Alter your age range. "
I do love an older mature woman but yeah 90 is pushing it lol. I will tick a few interests and set my age range a little more realistic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi there,
I’m impressed by the fact that you have some genuinely interesting pictures in your album, it looks like you have a real story to tell about the things you’re into that make you a person but I’m sorry to say that the actual text in your profile is so generic as to be virtually meaningless.
Try using that space to give some idea as to what makes you different from the thousands of other single males that are hear and you might find yourself getting more replies
Good luck |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"You have no interests listed....give us a clue what you are into.
You are happy to meet people in their 90s ? Alter your age range.
I do love an older mature woman but yeah 90 is pushing it lol. I will tick a few interests and set my age range a little more realistic. "
Setting it to 55. Good move  |
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"Hi there,
I’m impressed by the fact that you have some genuinely interesting pictures in your album, it looks like you have a real story to tell about the things you’re into that make you a person but I’m sorry to say that the actual text in your profile is so generic as to be virtually meaningless.
Try using that space to give some idea as to what makes you different from the thousands of other single males that are hear and you might find yourself getting more replies
Good luck "
Here here your profile text is near enough same as any other bloke on here us wemon know you are on here to meet wemon we dont need telling and the amount of men who put ... how nice they are but immediately turn nasty when told no thanks is amazing xx you got to stand out not spout the same bull every other bloke on here says x... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey guys, I'm looking for a bit of advice. I'm struggling to get replies or even spark any interest with the ladies.
I've tried to be myself, not come across seedy or desperate but something just isn't working.
So I ask, how do you go about starting first messages?
Does my profile look OK? I'm not great with writing about myself.
Thanks in advance
Ant. "
Your profile is awful and you cannot accommodate. Not the best start.
Lots of single guys say they are not good at writing about themselves, however with a little bit of effort you will find lots of advice on the forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Apart from your profile pic the rest are all a bit scary
Yeah I must change that as I'm really not a moody or scary person in the flesh. "
I have one of those faces too mate haha |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
Similar to me you are a single guy that can’t accommodate no matter how genuine your reasons are a lot of ladies and couples just don’t buy it.I tend to go to socials and a member of a club and that would be my advice to you.I also requested profile advice after I reformatted my profile into short sentences like bullet points the response I got was positive.You are quite welcome to have a look at mine if you feel If it will help you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Carry on as you are - people on here will invent loads of reasons not to meet you and you’ll end up more confused than ever if you follow their advice.
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Have you ever considered it maybe your attitude (which has come over across numerous posts in the forums not just the one above) that might be a contributing factor to your lack of success on Fab?
Check out this guy belows profile he is clearly a single male who gets it, has put in the effort in and is reaping the rewards. You really don't have to be Brad Pitt with a 10 inch cock to do well as a single male! There's a lot of everyday guys doing very well on here. Attitude and respect are everything if you want to succeed.
Username Costas
"Similar to me you are a single guy that can’t accommodate no matter how genuine your reasons are a lot of ladies and couples just don’t buy it.I tend to go to socials and a member of a club and that would be my advice to you.I also requested profile advice after I reformatted my profile into short sentences like bullet points the response I got was positive.You are quite welcome to have a look at mine if you feel If it will help you."
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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago
Cheshire/Staffs |
People don’t like my attitude - ok, if my attitude was ‘better’ then they wouldn’t like my profile, or my pictures, or where I live, or the cut of my gib.
You are only going to be popular on here if you look like a Greek god - you’re fooling yourself if you think any different. |
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"People don’t like my attitude - ok, if my attitude was ‘better’ then they wouldn’t like my profile, or my pictures, or where I live, or the cut of my gib.
You are only going to be popular on here if you look like a Greek god - you’re fooling yourself if you think any different. "
I haven’t seen any Greek gods on here (unfortunately).
You’re negative, pessimistic attitude is off putting and spitting your dummy isn’t the way to go.
No one on here needs to “invent” a reason not to meet, if it’s a no, it’s a no. |
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"If you had verifications before, surely you know what 'works' on Fab?
I dont get it
Was from over 2 years ago and most were from club meets. "
Try the club's again if you enjoyed them before. Also write about the type of lady your into and looking for. |
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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago
Cheshire/Staffs |
"People don’t like my attitude - ok, if my attitude was ‘better’ then they wouldn’t like my profile, or my pictures, or where I live, or the cut of my gib.
You are only going to be popular on here if you look like a Greek god - you’re fooling yourself if you think any different.
I haven’t seen any Greek gods on here (unfortunately).
You’re negative, pessimistic attitude is off putting and spitting your dummy isn’t the way to go.
No one on here needs to “invent” a reason not to meet, if it’s a no, it’s a no."
Thank you for your reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey guys, I'm looking for a bit of advice. I'm struggling to get replies or even spark any interest with the ladies.
I've tried to be myself, not come across seedy or desperate but something just isn't working.
So I ask, how do you go about starting first messages?
Does my profile look OK? I'm not great with writing about myself.
Thanks in advance
Ant.
Your profile is awful and you cannot accommodate. Not the best start.
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I cant accommodate much and i never get slated for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People don’t like my attitude - ok, if my attitude was ‘better’ then they wouldn’t like my profile, or my pictures, or where I live, or the cut of my gib.
You are only going to be popular on here if you look like a Greek god - you’re fooling yourself if you think any different. "
Greek god where  |
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"People don’t like my attitude - ok, if my attitude was ‘better’ then they wouldn’t like my profile, or my pictures, or where I live, or the cut of my gib.
You are only going to be popular on here if you look like a Greek god - you’re fooling yourself if you think any different.
Greek god where "
Same
If you see any, please send them my way!! |
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By *arkb73Man
over a year ago
Cheshire/Staffs |
"People don’t like my attitude - ok, if my attitude was ‘better’ then they wouldn’t like my profile, or my pictures, or where I live, or the cut of my gib.
You are only going to be popular on here if you look like a Greek god - you’re fooling yourself if you think any different.
Greek god where "
Thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People don’t like my attitude - ok, if my attitude was ‘better’ then they wouldn’t like my profile, or my pictures, or where I live, or the cut of my gib.
You are only going to be popular on here if you look like a Greek god - you’re fooling yourself if you think any different.
Greek god where
Same
If you see any, please send them my way!!"
U want me to share |
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"People don’t like my attitude - ok, if my attitude was ‘better’ then they wouldn’t like my profile, or my pictures, or where I live, or the cut of my gib.
You are only going to be popular on here if you look like a Greek god - you’re fooling yourself if you think any different.
Greek god where
Same
If you see any, please send them my way!!
U want me to share "
Haha ok, I suppose I can share  |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"People don’t like my attitude - ok, if my attitude was ‘better’ then they wouldn’t like my profile, or my pictures, or where I live, or the cut of my gib.
You are only going to be popular on here if you look like a Greek god - you’re fooling yourself if you think any different.
Greek god where
Same
If you see any, please send them my way!!
U want me to share
Haha ok, I suppose I can share "
. I am Greek but I am certainly no god.However I am polite and respectful and I believe that goes a long way on Fabs and life in general. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"Carry on as you are - people on here will invent loads of reasons not to meet you and you’ll end up more confused than ever if you follow their advice.
Have you ever considered it maybe your attitude (which has come over across numerous posts in the forums not just the one above) that might be a contributing factor to your lack of success on Fab?
Check out this guy belows profile he is clearly a single male who gets it, has put in the effort in and is reaping the rewards. You really don't have to be Brad Pitt with a 10 inch cock to do well as a single male! There's a lot of everyday guys doing very well on here. Attitude and respect are everything if you want to succeed.
Username Costas
Similar to me you are a single guy that can’t accommodate no matter how genuine your reasons are a lot of ladies and couples just don’t buy it.I tend to go to socials and a member of a club and that would be my advice to you.I also requested profile advice after I reformatted my profile into short sentences like bullet points the response I got was positive.You are quite welcome to have a look at mine if you feel If it will help you."
. Thanks for the compliment I read the forums on profile advice which there are plenty worked on mine and looked at guys profile in my age range for ideas I know it’s not the greatest but it’s better than what it was. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"Here's something a lady posted... https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/879358
And another useful one from a single male...
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538.
You'd do well to read these, there's also advice on my profile for newbies and people who aren't getting meets should you wish to use it. "
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OP have you read this lady’s profile lots of good advice on there for newbies and people not getting meets I don’t mind admitting I read and took it on board |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks all for the replies.
I will get my mind working today and come up with a "genetic" sounding profile.
Greek god you say... I'm glad there's non of them on here otherwise all us guys would be obsolete lol. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Here's something a lady posted... https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/879358
And another useful one from a single male...
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538.
You'd do well to read these, there's also advice on my profile for newbies and people who aren't getting meets should you wish to use it. .
OP have you read this lady’s profile lots of good advice on there for newbies and people not getting meets I don’t mind admitting I read and took it on board"
I've just had a look and I will take some of them pointers.
However I will say that your profile is a great example. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"Here's something a lady posted... https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/879358
And another useful one from a single male...
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538.
You'd do well to read these, there's also advice on my profile for newbies and people who aren't getting meets should you wish to use it. .
OP have you read this lady’s profile lots of good advice on there for newbies and people not getting meets I don’t mind admitting I read and took it on board
I've just had a look and I will take some of them pointers.
However I will say that your profile is a great example. "
. There is lots of good advice on these forums it does no harm in looking at the profiles of single guys in your age bracket or any age bracket just to get ideas in wording and formatting.Thanks for the compliment about my profile. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Being honest i prefer something different from the “genetic ones”.
Personally personalty in a profile and great pics are a win for me"
But you already know me lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being honest i prefer something different from the “genetic ones”.
Personally personalty in a profile and great pics are a win for me
But you already know me lol "
and just look at the look its me post you are doing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always say if you’re going to put a face pic up then make sure you’re smiling  glad you took advice of other ladies and removed dick pics sorry but I like my presents to be a surprise and you can’t really enjoy a gift when everyone else has seen it before you doesn’t exactly make you feel special, sometimes ticking all the interests shows you’re not too fussy perhaps keep a few interests for conversation later other than that you’re pretty attractive, whilst I do like a good physique on a guy the pics of you in the ring may be offputting, can be deemed as being an aggressive or egotistical personality. Unfortunately we live in a world of first impressions and stereotypes  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I always say if you’re going to put a face pic up then make sure you’re smiling glad you took advice of other ladies and removed dick pics sorry but I like my presents to be a surprise and you can’t really enjoy a gift when everyone else has seen it before you doesn’t exactly make you feel special, sometimes ticking all the interests shows you’re not too fussy perhaps keep a few interests for conversation later other than that you’re pretty attractive, whilst I do like a good physique on a guy the pics of you in the ring may be offputting, can be deemed as being an aggressive or egotistical personality. Unfortunately we live in a world of first impressions and stereotypes "
Thank you for taking the time to reply. I guess a picture is all down to how the person see it. Some may see me as aggressive... (I'm really not) others may see me as focused, driven, strong, committed... I guess I can't please everyone but also I can't hide who I really am.
Grrrrr this site really does baffle me lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Expect nothing and you’ll never be disappointed. Get chatting to someone from the forums, it worked for me. Then see what happens "
fully agree with this! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Expect nothing and you’ll never be disappointed. Get chatting to someone from the forums, it worked for me. Then see what happens "
Cheers ill take that advice and see what comes of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always say if you’re going to put a face pic up then make sure you’re smiling glad you took advice of other ladies and removed dick pics sorry but I like my presents to be a surprise and you can’t really enjoy a gift when everyone else has seen it before you doesn’t exactly make you feel special, sometimes ticking all the interests shows you’re not too fussy perhaps keep a few interests for conversation later other than that you’re pretty attractive, whilst I do like a good physique on a guy the pics of you in the ring may be offputting, can be deemed as being an aggressive or egotistical personality. Unfortunately we live in a world of first impressions and stereotypes
Thank you for taking the time to reply. I guess a picture is all down to how the person see it. Some may see me as aggressive... (I'm really not) others may see me as focused, driven, strong, committed... I guess I can't please everyone but also I can't hide who I really am.
Grrrrr this site really does baffle me lol "
The joys of online ! It’s much harder to project who you are than in person but a smile goes a long way, try it next time you’re out shopping smile at everyone you walk past it’s powerful stuff |
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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago
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"I always say if you’re going to put a face pic up then make sure you’re smiling glad you took advice of other ladies and removed dick pics sorry but I like my presents to be a surprise and you can’t really enjoy a gift when everyone else has seen it before you doesn’t exactly make you feel special, sometimes ticking all the interests shows you’re not too fussy perhaps keep a few interests for conversation later other than that you’re pretty attractive, whilst I do like a good physique on a guy the pics of you in the ring may be offputting, can be deemed as being an aggressive or egotistical personality. Unfortunately we live in a world of first impressions and stereotypes
Thank you for taking the time to reply. I guess a picture is all down to how the person see it. Some may see me as aggressive... (I'm really not) others may see me as focused, driven, strong, committed... I guess I can't please everyone but also I can't hide who I really am.
Grrrrr this site really does baffle me lol
The joys of online ! It’s much harder to project who you are than in person but a smile goes a long way, try it next time you’re out shopping smile at everyone you walk past it’s powerful stuff "
Totally agree with all points made a smile always goes a long way, but being nice doesn’t always work on here and you def don’t get to project who you are! |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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"I have made a few changes to the profile...
Any more input would be greatly appreciated. "
. Your profile is a lot better just carry on attending the clubs you mention in it and any socials nearby that are convenient for you to attend and things should improve for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have made a few changes to the profile...
Any more input would be greatly appreciated. . Your profile is a lot better just carry on attending the clubs you mention in it and any socials nearby that are convenient for you to attend and things should improve for you."
Thanks I appreciate the help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Quick summary for any newbies or people who struggle to get a meet/responses.
First of all women here want to be treated like real human beings with actual feelings, and needs so sentences like "I want to fuck your Mrs" or "I want my cock in you" or "come take my load" are just a sign of bad taste.
Also - anyone who wants to invite a stranger into their bed will invite a relaxed, easy going and experienced person before they would even look into trying their luck with someone who's new, nervous and shaky.
All of us here are adults, with families, jobs and read lives. most couples require a lot of preparation for such evenings (mindset, baby sitters, work adjustments etc.) so they wouldn't want to compromise their night that took so much time and effort to prepare for with inviting someone who may chicken out and be a no show or just be unable to do anything due to nerves or just simply not be good in bed.
Don't ever approach anyone saying anything like "playing with a couple is on my bucket list" - we are live people, not some fairy tale walking experiences for you to tick off.
Try to mentally walk in womans or couples shoes and see things from their perspective - it'll be easier to understand and not be so hard on yourself or them.
If someone is kind enough to reply with a "no thanks" - respect their choice and don't ask why not or try to convince them that you're worth giving a chance. That kind of behaviour will put them off replying to anyone all together.
Don't attach your cock shots unless someone actually asks you to do so (should be common sense).
Read people's profiles - takes 45 seconds at most. 45 seconds that will indicate weather you're a suitable candidate, if so - will increase your chances of matching with someone and reduce the frustration of constant no replies.
Don't copy paste your messages - be personal. If we will ever consider inviting you to our bed - we'd like to think that it matters to you as much as it matters to us.
Hope that helps.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Quick summary for any newbies or people who struggle to get a meet/responses.
First of all women here want to be treated like real human beings with actual feelings, and needs so sentences like "I want to fuck your Mrs" or "I want my cock in you" or "come take my load" are just a sign of bad taste.
Also - anyone who wants to invite a stranger into their bed will invite a relaxed, easy going and experienced person before they would even look into trying their luck with someone who's new, nervous and shaky.
All of us here are adults, with families, jobs and read lives. most couples require a lot of preparation for such evenings (mindset, baby sitters, work adjustments etc.) so they wouldn't want to compromise their night that took so much time and effort to prepare for with inviting someone who may chicken out and be a no show or just be unable to do anything due to nerves or just simply not be good in bed.
Don't ever approach anyone saying anything like "playing with a couple is on my bucket list" - we are live people, not some fairy tale walking experiences for you to tick off.
Try to mentally walk in womans or couples shoes and see things from their perspective - it'll be easier to understand and not be so hard on yourself or them.
If someone is kind enough to reply with a "no thanks" - respect their choice and don't ask why not or try to convince them that you're worth giving a chance. That kind of behaviour will put them off replying to anyone all together.
Don't attach your cock shots unless someone actually asks you to do so (should be common sense).
Read people's profiles - takes 45 seconds at most. 45 seconds that will indicate weather you're a suitable candidate, if so - will increase your chances of matching with someone and reduce the frustration of constant no replies.
Don't copy paste your messages - be personal. If we will ever consider inviting you to our bed - we'd like to think that it matters to you as much as it matters to us.
Hope that helps.
Happy fabbing."
What a great reply. I'm sure this will help many of us. Much appreciated. |
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I think your profile picture is great but your others don’t paint you in the same picture that you are portraying yourself as in this thread and the text.
I would probably discount you purely based on the photos. Brutal? Yes, but true I’m afraid. Obviously I can’t speak for all women, just myself. If you don’t want to take them down perhaps balance them with a few more approachable pictures! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lot of sentences start with "I"...
Intelligent people don't brag about their IQ. It's for others to notice or find out."
May I ask where I've bragged?
Or should I say... May one ask where one's bragged? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think your profile picture is great but your others don’t paint you in the same picture that you are portraying yourself as in this thread and the text.
I would probably discount you purely based on the photos. Brutal? Yes, but true I’m afraid. Obviously I can’t speak for all women, just myself. If you don’t want to take them down perhaps balance them with a few more approachable pictures!"
That's a fair comment. I will take some more smiley pictures and upload them ASAP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lot of sentences start with "I"...
Intelligent people don't brag about their IQ. It's for others to notice or find out.
May I ask where I've bragged?
Or should I say... May one ask where one's bragged? "
"I'm a smart intelligent guy.." - I wouldn't describe myself as that in my profile. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lot of sentences start with "I"...
Intelligent people don't brag about their IQ. It's for others to notice or find out.
May I ask where I've bragged?
Or should I say... May one ask where one's bragged?
"I'm a smart intelligent guy.." - I wouldn't describe myself as that in my profile."
I do see myself as smart and intelligent... I hardly see that as bragging. |
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"Lot of sentences start with "I"...
Intelligent people don't brag about their IQ. It's for others to notice or find out.
May I ask where I've bragged?
Or should I say... May one ask where one's bragged?
"I'm a smart intelligent guy.." - I wouldn't describe myself as that in my profile.
I do see myself as smart and intelligent... I hardly see that as bragging. "
Ok. You've asked for advice on your profile. I've tried to give it. I'm gonna leave it here. |
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Having read the whole thread, I must say you have come across as a very polite & articulate young man!
The profile has improved greatly and whilst I agree you do need a smiling picture, I don't mind some of the others.
You have definietly bucked the trend! I'm not going to patronize you further but I'd meet you for a coffee |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lot of sentences start with "I"...
Intelligent people don't brag about their IQ. It's for others to notice or find out.
May I ask where I've bragged?
Or should I say... May one ask where one's bragged?
"I'm a smart intelligent guy.." - I wouldn't describe myself as that in my profile.
I do see myself as smart and intelligent... I hardly see that as bragging.
Ok. You've asked for advice on your profile. I've tried to give it. I'm gonna leave it here."
Sorry if I come across as ungreatful as I'm really not.
I just fail to see how me saying I'm intelligent is bragging. |
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over a year ago
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"I think you’re yummy..muscles and tats..what’s not to like..didn’t see your profile at the beginning but looks fine now x"
Thank you much appreciated |
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"Having read the whole thread, I must say you have come across as a very polite & articulate young man!
The profile has improved greatly and whilst I agree you do need a smiling picture, I don't mind some of the others.
You have definietly bucked the trend! I'm not going to patronize you further but I'd meet you for a coffee "
That's very kind of you to say... I'm also partial to a good coffee wink wink |
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over a year ago
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"You can't accommodate, that's always a negative. Personally I think you will do better at clubs "
Sorry disagree.
Many people cant accom men women and couples and this isn't a issue, only for the person reading it that way |
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A nice smile would be good but from what I see of your amended profile (not having seen it originally) I would consider a social meet up if our messaging went well. It is a positive profile and you come across well on it and from what I have seen on here, importantly you have made the changes unlike many who just continue to complain. |
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"You can't accommodate, that's always a negative. Personally I think you will do better at clubs
Sorry disagree.
Many people cant accom men women and couples and this isn't a issue, only for the person reading it that way"
Well if I was looking for meets it would be a issue for me. Men that can't accomodate would always be striked off the potential pool of people I was looking for. And other girly friends I have on the scene say the same so I maintain my comment 
I think you would do well at xtasia OP. |
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Plenty of people have commented on your profile and agree that clearly a single guys profile has to be good - however equally the content of your messages you send - I can tell you now some messages we get result in is not even opening their profile - in fact some we don’t even need to open the message as we can see the one line in the preview already.
It’s a sad fact I’m afraid that however good your profile, your message and a great bloke you may be, as a couple by the time we’ve got to your email from the 50 disgusting, insulting, quite clearly not read our profile ones from a large number of idiot single men - yours really got to stand out to not just be deleted or blocked.
Our profile states we are a couple, it even says you should acknowledge that, and yet we get email after email saying “ gorgeous love to fuck you” which when we can be arsed gets the standard response thanks, what do you think of my missus also!
Along with the I’m a fireman, squaddie - great if we on fire or going to war!
The “I’m in your area this morning” - aka my wife doesn’t know, and like yeah you so great we will suddenly will take the day off work to meet them from just that single line message as if it’s like we live on a desert island and first time another human being been anywhere near where we live.
the standard “how are you?” messages.
Or the best ones - where the guy emailed us - then a month later forgets they have and sends us another email which even though is maybe more than the how are you - is an exact replica - and clearly a cut and paste that they’ve just sent to 100 people. Oh yeah we feel special now!
So as some have stated - put yourself in the place of the person(s) you contacting - read their profile, tailor your message to who and what they looking for. If it’s a couple your contacting - start the mail with hello x & x etc.
Face facts your fellow single males are fucking it up for you - but persevere, visit clubs/socials and sure you’ll have some success - as you can see from our profile, Veris and those we will have verified decent guys are out there, we’ve had some amazing single guy group sessions, but by nature of fab being free and too easy to sign up it’s equally full of some complete idiots, it be quite good if it had a setting that automatically kicked guys that received 10 blocks - and then IP blocked them
From signing up again. |
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over a year ago
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Please smile
Say what your looking for.
Keep the boxing photos, says more about you then a grumpy looking face.
Remember you can’t please everyone, so just please yourself.
Have fun ! |
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over a year ago
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"Thanks all for the replies.
I will get my mind working today and come up with a "genetic" sounding profile.
Greek god you say... I'm glad there's non of them on here otherwise all us guys would be obsolete lol. "
Fabgods... Now there's an idea for a sister website |
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over a year ago
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Today is the day I post up some smiling pictures.
I've decided to keep the boxing photo purely for the fact that it is part of my life and has been since I was a child so I'm not going to hide a massive part of who I am. I will however try and balance the moody looks with smiles as also I am a very smiley person in the flesh lol.
I will write a little more about what I'm looking for (I'll try not to use the work I so much)
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"Today is the day I post up some smiling pictures.
I've decided to keep the boxing photo purely for the fact that it is part of my life and has been since I was a child so I'm not going to hide a massive part of who I am. I will however try and balance the moody looks with smiles as also I am a very smiley person in the flesh lol.
I will write a little more about what I'm looking for (I'll try not to use the work I so much)
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Sounds good! Good luck finding what you are looking for on here! |
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"Today is the day I post up some smiling pictures.
I've decided to keep the boxing photo purely for the fact that it is part of my life and has been since I was a child so I'm not going to hide a massive part of who I am. I will however try and balance the moody looks with smiles as also I am a very smiley person in the flesh lol.
I will write a little more about what I'm looking for (I'll try not to use the work I so much)
Sounds good! Good luck finding what you are looking for on here!"
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Your profile is well written, but your pics are a bit off-putting because you look very angry.
About messages though, you have to do two things; stand out and hook them.
Think about ways to make your subject heading stand out. Strange subjects stand out, long subjects stand out, interesting subjects stand out. Subjects with odd characters stand out. Odd things stand out. Things which aren't normal.
Hooking; to hook, you need to get the woman to think about something which is interesting, at the same time telling her something about you and asking a simple question. It's about getting her to want to engage with you without you actually asking her to do so. |
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"I've added a smiley photo... Any good? Lol "
We just checked and none of the photos were smiling - they all look a bit serious and grim. You don't want to look like you're looking to fight someone. We seriously suggest having half of your photos as being proper smiles or laughing and would suggest you drop the car one. You look pissed off like you're about to have road rage.
Good luck. |
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"I've added a smiley photo... Any good? Lol
We just checked and none of the photos were smiling - they all look a bit serious and grim. You don't want to look like you're looking to fight someone. We seriously suggest having half of your photos as being proper smiles or laughing and would suggest you drop the car one. You look pissed off like you're about to have road rage.
Good luck. "
Sorry I just checked my photos and they were set to friends only. I have now set them to public. |
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"Your profile is well written, but your pics are a bit off-putting because you look very angry.
About messages though, you have to do two things; stand out and hook them.
Think about ways to make your subject heading stand out. Strange subjects stand out, long subjects stand out, interesting subjects stand out. Subjects with odd characters stand out. Odd things stand out. Things which aren't normal.
Hooking; to hook, you need to get the woman to think about something which is interesting, at the same time telling her something about you and asking a simple question. It's about getting her to want to engage with you without you actually asking her to do so. "
Thanks I'll try and put that in to practice |
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over a year ago
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"would have to say you have a better written profile than a lot of guys on here
Hes actually a good bloke for a blues fan one of a few I trusted "
Haha cheers villa |
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"would have to say you have a better written profile than a lot of guys on here"
Thank you, It was down to the great advice I've got from the kind folks on this thread |
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"Hey guys, I'm looking for a bit of advice. I'm struggling to get replies or even spark any interest with the ladies.
I've tried to be myself, not come across seedy or desperate but something just isn't working.
So I ask, how do you go about starting first messages?
Does my profile look OK? I'm not great with writing about myself.
Thanks in advance
Ant. "
If you go to clubs then use them to meet. Little happens for single guys here. I do not like the club scene so don't bother. |
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I have definitely found to be having a little more success mate. I switched up my profile bio and really think about how I’ll stand out from the 10001 messages the woman has already received that day. The subject box before the actual message is even more important than the message itself imo.
Oh yeah and have not a single dic pic on my profile ( not even private ), why would I want to give everything away? Women’s minds have to be engaged ( unlike us blokes who are still very primitive, lol ).
Too me it’s about getting the mind sparked in a respectful manner, more like old school flirting, rather than going straight to “ your pussy looks so tasty “! I have no clue how men think that kinda of message is gonna work tbh.
Anyway I’m off to look at your updated profile mate |
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"I have just changed my profile as I had no luck on here with zero days left before I have to pay, if someone would be so kind to have a look xxx"
Write up looks OK maybe a little more detail about what you do like don't like.
Also no pictures may detur |
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