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new to this and no idea what I’m doing
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Any experienced swingers or users of this site have any tips on how to approach people and gain confidence , shy here but looking for fun, bit of an awkward one haha ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think you will find it awkward as you can't travel or accommodate. Is there no public transport near your home ?"
I need to change that, it’s only as cannot travel due to my local public transport being a complete mess, I have a bus pass but the service is so terrible , it’s like one bus every two hours or something
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m actually new ash green but put dartford as it’s nearest place with any actual kind of population, new ash green is dead eurekas is just down the road from you  "
yep , I was contemplating eurekas, was going to go last week, but I’m broke most of the time due to unemployment , can’t really afford the membership and events , I best get saving haha, and I am trying to be polite and respectful, it’s hard with all the deletes , although I won’t be brought down to the level that people are complaining about who send abuse when rejected  |
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A good starting point is to look at the threads where people ask for help when in a similar situation to you, so you could pick advice that resonates. They'll often focus on using your profile to sell yourself as people who get your messages will always look at your profile to see how well you match them.
It's very tough for single men here, so it's important to have realistic expectations.
Consider why people should pick you as a match, what theyd need to know. Be clear about the area you will travel by public transport to - don't leave people in doubt, as they'll move on to the next man who provides clear certainty.
Get to social events.
Don't have many cock pics, as it deters people.
Smiling photos are generally more inviting than without. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A good starting point is to look at the threads where people ask for help when in a similar situation to you, so you could pick advice that resonates. They'll often focus on using your profile to sell yourself as people who get your messages will always look at your profile to see how well you match them.
It's very tough for single men here, so it's important to have realistic expectations.
Consider why people should pick you as a match, what theyd need to know. Be clear about the area you will travel by public transport to - don't leave people in doubt, as they'll move on to the next man who provides clear certainty.
Get to social events.
Don't have many cock pics, as it deters people.
Smiling photos are generally more inviting than without. "
thank you I’ll try to sort out my profile a bit more, I have one cock pic as public I think |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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Pleased to see your profile explains why you can't drive and says a bit about your health. That's shows you are open and honest and is refreshing to see.
Your profile does talk a lot about what you would like. You could do with adding more about why people should choose to chat to you....so what you can offer, why they should reply to you, rather than the other 20 messages.
One tip is if you are messaging ladies, include something from their profile that got your attention. They then know you are writing because you want to meet them personally and not just any girl in a certain distance.
Be patient. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Pleased to see your profile explains why you can't drive and says a bit about your health. That's shows you are open and honest and is refreshing to see.
Your profile does talk a lot about what you would like. You could do with adding more about why people should choose to chat to you....so what you can offer, why they should reply to you, rather than the other 20 messages.
One tip is if you are messaging ladies, include something from their profile that got your attention. They then know you are writing because you want to meet them personally and not just any girl in a certain distance.
Be patient. "
thank you I try to pick pictures iv fabbed or interests I find on profiles , I am being as patient as I can |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am a total newbie and a little nervous, been wanting to join for ages,,, finally did it I am going to go to an event tonight at Club F in Durham any advice? |
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but you can afford to smoke. Don't get it. Sorry.
I need to get to silverleigh from Maidstone, so I understand about public transport, but NAG isn't far, get a fixed price from a taxi firm or ask a friend. |
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