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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never played with a couple, not been interested.
But what happens if two couples meet and you don't fancy one part of the couple. Do three of you go off and play, or what? Awkward  "
If I were to meet as a couple and the OH wasnt to be included for this reason I wouldn't play either. Youd think swapping pictures before hand would solve that issue though. Unless it was something about their mannerisms you didnt like |
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By *gcw2014Couple
over a year ago
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One reason we try and have a social first. We've experienced first hand that the other female doesn't want to play with me or the Male doesn't like Tracey. Not nice as the fun should be for everyone involved |
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"I've never played with a couple, not been interested.
But what happens if two couples meet and you don't fancy one part of the couple. Do three of you go off and play, or what? Awkward
If I were to meet as a couple and the OH wasnt to be included for this reason I wouldn't play either. Youd think swapping pictures before hand would solve that issue though. Unless it was something about their mannerisms you didnt like "
Not always because sometimes it's obvious that one of the other couple isn't keen either and nobody wants a reluctant partner |
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By *gcw2014Couple
over a year ago
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One reason we try and have a social first. We've experienced first hand that the other female doesn't want to play with me or the Male doesn't like Tracey. Not nice as the fun should be for everyone involved |
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"One reason we try and have a social first. We've experienced first hand that the other female doesn't want to play with me or the Male doesn't like Tracey. Not nice as the fun should be for everyone involved "
Agreed. |
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"Not that I'm likely to play with couples, but it's always bothered me and how you turn them down with no ill feeling"
Again socials first. Some people will always be upset at being turned down but most accept a polite "we won't be taking things further but it was nice to meet you" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never played with a couple, not been interested.
But what happens if two couples meet and you don't fancy one part of the couple. Do three of you go off and play, or what? Awkward
If I were to meet as a couple and the OH wasnt to be included for this reason I wouldn't play either. Youd think swapping pictures before hand would solve that issue though. Unless it was something about their mannerisms you didnt like
Not always because sometimes it's obvious that one of the other couple isn't keen either and nobody wants a reluctant partner"
You make a fine point there, socials are always best get a feel for everyone and their intentions  |
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"I've never played with a couple, not been interested.
But what happens if two couples meet and you don't fancy one part of the couple. Do three of you go off and play, or what? Awkward
If I were to meet as a couple and the OH wasnt to be included for this reason I wouldn't play either. Youd think swapping pictures before hand would solve that issue though. Unless it was something about their mannerisms you didnt like
Not always because sometimes it's obvious that one of the other couple isn't keen either and nobody wants a reluctant partner
You make a fine point there, socials are always best get a feel for everyone and their intentions "
Yep. We've had a couple of experiences that reinforce our decision to do things that way. |
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Was chatting to a married couple in a hot tub last week. Their dynamic was either could go off individually with whom they wished and if one of them fancied one half of another couple but the other didn't, the one who wasn't interested would take one for the team if the other couple only wanted to play as couples. I'm still not sure what I think about that... |
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"Was chatting to a married couple in a hot tub last week. Their dynamic was either could go off individually with whom they wished and if one of them fancied one half of another couple but the other didn't, the one who wasn't interested would take one for the team if the other couple only wanted to play as couples. I'm still not sure what I think about that..."
If someone was taking one for the team by having sex with me I'd be mortified  |
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"Was chatting to a married couple in a hot tub last week. Their dynamic was either could go off individually with whom they wished and if one of them fancied one half of another couple but the other didn't, the one who wasn't interested would take one for the team if the other couple only wanted to play as couples. I'm still not sure what I think about that...
If someone was taking one for the team by having sex with me I'd be mortified "
Relax, you'd never be considered as "Taking one for the team."  . . . Seriously though, I suppose if it works for them it works for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why join a swingers site if you don’t meet couples. Surely you’d just join a different site to meet people one on one. "
Because people want different dynamics
Not everyone is here to fuck |
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Again socials first. Some people will always be upset at being turned down but most accept a polite "we won't be taking things further but it was nice to meet you""
Definitely this, but if all goes well the social can turn into fun if we meet locally to either them or us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not that I'm likely to play with couples, but it's always bothered me and how you turn them down with no ill feeling
Again socials first. Some people will always be upset at being turned down but most accept a polite "we won't be taking things further but it was nice to meet you""
Indeed we do the same, socials first, then if everyone is happy to go forward fine but if not a polite honest no always works for us either way. Male  |
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"Was chatting to a married couple in a hot tub last week. Their dynamic was either could go off individually with whom they wished and if one of them fancied one half of another couple but the other didn't, the one who wasn't interested would take one for the team if the other couple only wanted to play as couples. I'm still not sure what I think about that...
If someone was taking one for the team by having sex with me I'd be mortified
Relax, you'd never be considered as "Taking one for the team." . . . Seriously though, I suppose if it works for them it works for them."
It's causing me no anxiety. |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
This is why we don’t meet very often it can be a nightmare in finding a couple where we are both happy, we are fussy lol and say if we wouldn’t play with them if we were single why play as a couple but in all honesty there’s not not many single guys I’m (AJ) attracted to, I like the full package and that’s hard to come by |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of the reasons we no longer play with couples. We found a lot of couples really only wanted the girl on girl and even had it where the girl of the other couple would take one for the team. Its so uncomfortable and not nice.
If we didn't fancy the one or part of the couple we would not have played. And we wouldn't be offended if the couple refused to play with us as they didn't fancy one of us |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Why join a swingers site if you don’t meet couples. Surely you’d just join a different site to meet people one on one. "
Because there aren't any MM or FF couples on dating sites. Also because like myself people may want to meet a swinging partner, not an easy conversation to have on a vanilla site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve had a situation where Mrs L didn’t fancy the male half, the women was keen to just carry on without him but we weren’t comfortable.
They then completely blanked us the next day in a bar, wouldn’t even make eye contact.
Hopefully sticking to threesomes will be less complicated
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"I've never played with a couple, not been interested.
But what happens if two couples meet and you don't fancy one part of the couple. Do three of you go off and play, or what? Awkward "
Not awkward, more like disrespectful. We don't take one for the team. Being a couple is more important than fucking some random. Very different mind set required to swing as a couple than to fuck as a single. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’ve had a situation where Mrs L didn’t fancy the male half, the women was keen to just carry on without him but we weren’t comfortable.
They then completely blanked us the next day in a bar, wouldn’t even make eye contact.
Hopefully sticking to threesomes will be less complicated
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It's these situations why we decided not to play as a couple anymore.. Becomes awkward, guilty and whole host of emotions so now it's single ladies and single males all day long |
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"Not that I'm likely to play with couples, but it's always bothered me and how you turn them down with no ill feeling"
You are only after men. Think most mf couples would see what that is all about. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I've never played with a couple, not been interested.
But what happens if two couples meet and you don't fancy one part of the couple. Do three of you go off and play, or what? Awkward "
I would and have kept it social only when I've played as a couple. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
"Why join a swingers site if you don’t meet couples. Surely you’d just join a different site to meet people one on one.
We primarily joined to meet single men"
Same as, still do. Thinking of another community where we could get this dynamic from...............nope, can't think of one. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Why join a swingers site if you don’t meet couples. Surely you’d just join a different site to meet people one on one.
We primarily joined to meet single men
Same as, still do. Thinking of another community where we could get this dynamic from...............nope, can't think of one."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If one of us doesn't fancy their counterpart we don't take things further? It's one of many, many reasons we always meet for a social only first"
this
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’ve had a situation where Mrs L didn’t fancy the male half, the women was keen to just carry on without him but we weren’t comfortable.
They then completely blanked us the next day in a bar, wouldn’t even make eye contact.
Hopefully sticking to threesomes will be less complicated
It's these situations why we decided not to play as a couple anymore.. Becomes awkward, guilty and whole host of emotions so now it's single ladies and single males all day long "
Trim ... Something you forgot to tell me ???
You meeting single guys now lolololol
To avoid confusion, we stopped the whole meeting couples thing. Infact we stopped the whole meeting private thing as well. Trim will play with single fems. I play with fems, couples and single guys but we only do so in a club. As we always play seperate we have just singles profiles as we will never play together.
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There has to be mutual attraction between the couples or it isn't happening. How ever much we might both fancy the lady (for example) if I don't find the bloke attractive, it won't progress past chatting. We have few sex meets because of this, and suspect that's the case for many couples. We tend to do better in clubs.
Neither of us would take one for the team and wouldn't expect anyone else to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is what makes foursomes more difficult than threesomes. The more egos you throw in the more complicated it all becomes. Meeting couples is sooooo much easier in clubs. Even then a couple might have that "take one for the team" or "let them have their fun" moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Socials are definitely useful especially when meeting couples we had one our first meet and they had clearly turned to this site to try fix a clearly and obviously broken relationship they tried pressuring but we just left |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah TOFTT is an ugly way of saying it. Sometimes an opportunity for an experience comes along and it would be just selfish to stand in the way. At the same time you are there to support. If no one takes your fancy there are lots of friendly folk to socialise with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple it's a lot harder.
Most of the time there's one you fancy, the other, meh. Neither of us is going to "take a hit" for the team.
Why should you. Unless yr happy shagging anything with a pulse.
Hence why we have socials first or meet at a club.
It's not always about looks, especially if you are all on the same wavelength.
It dramatically reduces the chances of group play of course.
But it's so not about quantity, as making a few good friends that play together
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"Yeah TOFTT is an ugly way of saying it. Sometimes an opportunity for an experience comes along and it would be just selfish to stand in the way. At the same time you are there to support. If no one takes your fancy there are lots of friendly folk to socialise with. "
So you think people should take one for the team and if they don't they are being selfish? Or am I reading that wrong? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah TOFTT is an ugly way of saying it. Sometimes an opportunity for an experience comes along and it would be just selfish to stand in the way. At the same time you are there to support. If no one takes your fancy there are lots of friendly folk to socialise with.
So you think people should take one for the team and if they don't they are being selfish? Or am I reading that wrong?"
That's a personal choice and should never come with expectation. |
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"Yeah TOFTT is an ugly way of saying it. Sometimes an opportunity for an experience comes along and it would be just selfish to stand in the way. At the same time you are there to support. If no one takes your fancy there are lots of friendly folk to socialise with.
So you think people should take one for the team and if they don't they are being selfish? Or am I reading that wrong?
That's a personal choice and should never come with expectation. "
Yeh that doesnt really answer my question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we're playing together, then we both have to like the other people, easy enough, we tried the whole taking one for the team thing and it lead to our worst meets. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
That's why we play in clubs - we get to see people (and them us) before we commit to playing. It works with single guys too. It saves the disappointment and embarrassment of meeting couples or singles and then having to say "thanks but no thanks" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Neither of us will take one for the team and we’d be mortified if anyone playing with us was doing that.
We however do not find it difficult to find people we are both attracted too and vice versa to have fun with, lots of people seem to make such a big deal as to why they can’t find couples to play with, if us oldies can do it surely most others can? Or maybe there are other issues stopping them playing with couples? |
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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
We only play together so if one of us doesn't feel attracted to one of the other couple or there is not really a connection then we don't play. We would however still verify the other couple as we would have met them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We work on the principle that it takes both of us to say yes, but only one to say no. Neither of us ever do something we don’t want to.
I don’t get why the OP thinks it’s awkward. It’s about being grown up and saying sorry, you’re not for us. It happens in reverse and doesn’t bother us.
Sometimes the gulf between some singles and couples on here seems huge...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We never take one for the team. We meet new couples at clubs first, this ties into us not having a lot of free time and also if we don't want to take it further we are in an environment to still make the night work.
We have had all of the scenarios pointed out - couple just want Mrs, couple just want Mr or they end up not wanting either of us (usually we have come to the same conclusion about them too).
We are polite but honest. If they are not for us we make our excuses and do something else. |
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It is hard to find someone that us both,I think me being ginger is letting the side down,the wife's beautiful so I feel I must be the weakest link, luckily we tend to fancy the same sort of women and have the same sort of taste so us liking them isn't to bad lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are on here to meet couples with bi females together and both of us have to be keen on the female. I alsi have to be keen on the male and I am very fussy these days. Niether of us would take one for the team. X |
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