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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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HI
I've been on here for a while naw and struggling too get attention from females e.g I never get any message or female view my profile even when I've had loads of face pictures of myself but naw keep them for in friends only for verirase reason, how could I make my profile stand out... 
Must of wasted a fortune for memberships in past |
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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
Staffordshire |
Welcome to the numbers game. Where there's more men than women. I had a quick glance. You lack photos and good substance for your text. And you're same status of woe is me won't be doing you any favours.
What did you expect would happen on here?
Also there's 3 links on my profile. Have a read. They're very helpful. |
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Imagine that you are a single female. There are at least 10 men to every single lady, you can have your pick of the site. Would your profile stand out from the boards of others and would it make you want to interact with the person who wrote it? If not then change it.
Another thing. Again imagine you’re a single female, you could possibly get 100’s of messages a day. Why would you spend your time trawling through hundreds of men’s profiles and messaging them when you don’t need to? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What she said...
You're saying you've been here before so you 'know the score', but seems like you are missing something.
Just a piece of advice- most of the time women look in ninja mode, where they don't show on 'who looked at me' page.
And seriously, a fortune on membership??? Nobody forced you to become site supporter... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have more photos for my friend's too see, I get too many men messaging me about my photos it's cringy! And what do you mean theirs 3 links too my profile |
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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
Staffordshire |
"I have more photos for my friend's too see, I get too many men messaging me about my photos it's cringy! And what do you mean theirs 3 links too my profile "
Go on my profile and scroll to the bottom and you'll see what I mean. And why not block all men from being able to message you?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"HI
I've been on here for a while naw and struggling too get attention from females e.g I never get any message or female view my profile even when I've had loads of face pictures of myself but naw keep them for in friends only for verirase reason, how could I make my profile stand out...
Must of wasted a fortune for memberships in past "
You have been on here before, so surely you know the score? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
Here's something a lady posted... https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/879358
And another useful one from a single male...
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538.
You'd do well to read these, there's also advice on my profile for newbies and people who aren't getting meets should you wish to use it. |
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A fortune wasted on membership??
I think the site is very very reasonable..
Your homophobia isnt attractive to a lot of people and you said you had blocked men from messaging you....You haven't.
Good luck..
Why not start afresh? |
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"If anyone reads my profile it days add me top see face pictures clearly I don't like too show my face too men like you  "
Why should we make the effort to add you?
As a single male here you’re one of thousands. Some of them actually bother to make an effort, have a half decent profile with enticing pics and don’t get stroppy when they don’t like what they see in response to forum posts.
You’re really not doing yourself any favours! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"HI
I've been on here for a while naw and struggling too get attention from females e.g I never get any message or female view my profile even when I've had loads of face pictures of myself but naw keep them for in friends only for verirase reason, how could I make my profile stand out...
Must of wasted a fortune for memberships in past "
Just smile and wave mate, don’t let it bother you  |
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"Men and TV can't message me, try message me you won't be able too lol
And maybe your right I should start a fresh account "
Why start a new account? If you are doing the same stuff and have the same attitude you will get exactly the same result. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men and TV can't message me, try message me you won't be able too lol
And maybe your right I should start a fresh account
Why start a new account? If you are doing the same stuff and have the same attitude you will get exactly the same result. "
Indeed x |
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I've made an effort on my profile and I get a few messages. Honestly it does work if you put time and effort in. I'm not ashamed to admit it but unfortunately I'm a bit shy and intimidated by all these awesomely fantastically beautiful women on here and struggle to find someone more understanding to meet that I probably won't blow their mind right away.
Give it a go. Make some effort and see what happens. Good luck |
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To people that ‘struggle’ and then bitch on here it’s as simple as this.
Do you pull in the vanilla world? If not you’re not going to on here either. It’s a swinging site and if you've assumed that everyone on here will want to then you’ve been mistaken.
Your only struggle is with your ego and misconception of what swinging is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No one's has forced me too come on here your right, maybe I should condicer in re newing membership next time as this site don't give me any hope "
Spelling and grammar ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To people that ‘struggle’ and then bitch on here it’s as simple as this.
Do you pull in the vanilla world? If not you’re not going to on here either. It’s a swinging site and if you've assumed that everyone on here will want to then you’ve been mistaken.
Your only struggle is with your ego and misconception of what swinging is. "
This fella really gets it. Sadly OP unless your attitude changes, the results are going to be inevitable. Even as a couple things only kicked off for us after we got some verifications. And cam ones aren’t going to cut it. You need real meets to be noticed. Once 5 or 6 different people verify you, you’ll be taken seriously |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
A Home Among The Woodland Creatures |
"To people that ‘struggle’ and then bitch on here it’s as simple as this.
Do you pull in the vanilla world? If not you’re not going to on here either. It’s a swinging site and if you've assumed that everyone on here will want to then you’ve been mistaken.
Your only struggle is with your ego and misconception of what swinging is. "
Bingo
If you're wondering why it's hard to meet people on fab - explain to me first why you thought it would be easy.
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It can be difficult to get established.
May I suggest adding "faceless" photos to your profile. These will give members some idea of you.
Attend some events or parties. Get yourself known.
Post in the Forum's.
Hope these are helpful.
Confidence is important too, but that can be gained.
Mary |
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"Too - also/as well as
Please use too and to appropriately, it’s making my teeth itch!
That would put me off but I’m a grammar and spelling snob."
Spelling and grammar do give an indication of a person.
I personally can't spell, and rarely use punctuation.
Good spelling and punctuation is just a guide, not to be relied on.
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Hello Op.
Lets look at some basic numbers. There have been 15 FF cpl's online in the past week within 50 miles of your location. Not all are looking for single men.
There have been over 600 single men between 25 and 35 online in the past hour within 20 miles of your location, that are looking for a FF cpl.
Do you see now how the odds are stacked against you?
You simply have to stand out and moaning about money you have chosen to spend on this site is not an attractive trait. Come on, it can cost as little as £30 for 13 months membership. £30 divided by 395 days equals just seven and a half pence a day, and your moaning about it. When it comes to making a god impression, how do you think that makes you look? |
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"Hello Op.
Lets look at some basic numbers. There have been 15 FF cpl's online in the past week within 50 miles of your location. Not all are looking for single men.
There have been over 600 single men between 25 and 35 online in the past hour within 20 miles of your location, that are looking for a FF cpl.
Do you see now how the odds are stacked against you?
You simply have to stand out and moaning about money you have chosen to spend on this site is not an attractive trait. Come on, it can cost as little as £30 for 13 months membership. £30 divided by 395 days equals just seven and a half pence a day, and your moaning about it. When it comes to making a god impression, how do you think that makes you look?"
Statically correct. Harsh, but this is the reality.
Everyone needs a USP
As this poster says, you have to be noticed.
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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
Nottinghamshire |
As a single female on here u dont stand out u have a profile pic but all the rest are hidden yet u post your Instagram on it strange your write up is ok but no humour in it just seams like alot of demands maybe that's not how it's meant but it's how I read it maybe add some smiley icons etc x |
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"As a single female on here u dont stand out u have a profile pic but all the rest are hidden yet u post your Instagram on it strange your write up is ok but no humour in it just seams like alot of demands maybe that's not how it's meant but it's how I read it maybe add some smiley icons etc x"
I’ve got my Instagram on my profile as I was tired of being accused of being a fake!
It goes some way to showing that I’m a real person and it also means that people can see more photos of me without me putting them on here. |
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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
Nottinghamshire |
"As a single female on here u dont stand out u have a profile pic but all the rest are hidden yet u post your Instagram on it strange your write up is ok but no humour in it just seams like alot of demands maybe that's not how it's meant but it's how I read it maybe add some smiley icons etc x
I’ve got my Instagram on my profile as I was tired of being accused of being a fake!
It goes some way to showing that I’m a real person and it also means that people can see more photos of me without me putting them on here."
Maybe but I sooner put more pics on here then give Instagram kik n snapchat on my profile but each to there own  |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"As a single female on here u dont stand out u have a profile pic but all the rest are hidden yet u post your Instagram on it strange your write up is ok but no humour in it just seams like alot of demands maybe that's not how it's meant but it's how I read it maybe add some smiley icons etc x
I’ve got my Instagram on my profile as I was tired of being accused of being a fake!
It goes some way to showing that I’m a real person and it also means that people can see more photos of me without me putting them on here."
It just looks like you are trying to get people off fab and use another app to talk to them tbh. A lot of people prefer to keep things on here OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Too - also/as well as
Please use too and to appropriately, it’s making my teeth itch!
That would put me off but I’m a grammar and spelling snob."
In that case I would have rather seen a space after the forward slash following ‘also’  |
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"Too - also/as well as
Please use too and to appropriately, it’s making my teeth itch!
That would put me off but I’m a grammar and spelling snob.
In that case I would have rather seen a space after the forward slash following ‘also’ "
Nope, there’s no need for a space after a forward slash but good try |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Too - also/as well as
Please use too and to appropriately, it’s making my teeth itch!
That would put me off but I’m a grammar and spelling snob.
In that case I would have rather seen a space after the forward slash following ‘also’
Nope, there’s no need for a space after a forward slash but good try "
True but it just feels a nicer grammatical flow to have that space. Bit disappointed x |
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"Too - also/as well as
Please use too and to appropriately, it’s making my teeth itch!
That would put me off but I’m a grammar and spelling snob.
In that case I would have rather seen a space after the forward slash following ‘also’
Nope, there’s no need for a space after a forward slash but good try
True but it just feels a nicer grammatical flow to have that space. Bit disappointed x"
There are usually no spaces either before or after a slash. Exceptions are in representing the start of a new line when quoting verse, or a new paragraph when quoting prose
You’re wrong. Again, nice try
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"If anyone reads my profile it days add me top see face pictures clearly I don't like too show my face too men like you "
Why would I add you so you can see my more private pictures? I'll move on to someone who gives me a reason to be interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Too - also/as well as
Please use too and to appropriately, it’s making my teeth itch!
That would put me off but I’m a grammar and spelling snob.
In that case I would have rather seen a space after the forward slash following ‘also’
Nope, there’s no need for a space after a forward slash but good try
True but it just feels a nicer grammatical flow to have that space. Bit disappointed x
There are usually no spaces either before or after a slash. Exceptions are in representing the start of a new line when quoting verse, or a new paragraph when quoting prose
You’re wrong. Again, nice try
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I bet you googled that x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get used to it. People have been here for years and get feck all. Focus on something else that brings you more in return. The juice is not worth the squeeze i can assure you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s supply and demand. And unfortunately the demand no where near matches the supply. We can afford to be so fussy when finding someone, that for some people it’s just not going to be the experience that want. |
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