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What do you ladies look for?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok, i’m sure there are other guys having the same experience as me, so here goes.
I’ve been on this site for about seven weeks now, and to be brutally honest I haven’t gotten anywhere with it. I’ve not had a single reply in those seven weeks - all messages either ignored or deleted. I have a face pic as my main pic, and I haven’t just got a single sentence at the bottom of my profile. I always send a face pic with a messages, and a dick pic if one is asked for. I always try and make my messages friendly, and never just a few words, always a couple of sentences minimum.
What the hell am I doing wrong??  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe the ladies that you’ve messaged don’t think that you’re their type?"
I can respect that. But to not even get a reply? Just makes me think i’m missing something is all ??????? |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire |
"Ok, i’m sure there are other guys having the same experience as me, so here goes.
I’ve been on this site for about seven weeks now, and to be brutally honest I haven’t gotten anywhere with it. I’ve not had a single reply in those seven weeks - all messages either ignored or deleted. I have a face pic as my main pic, and I haven’t just got a single sentence at the bottom of my profile. I always send a face pic with a messages, and a dick pic if one is asked for. I always try and make my messages friendly, and never just a few words, always a couple of sentences minimum.
What the hell am I doing wrong?? "
Only 7 weeks? You've got to be a bit more patient |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe the ladies that you’ve messaged don’t think that you’re their type?
I can respect that. But to not even get a reply? Just makes me think i’m missing something is all ???????"
No reply means no thank you on here OP, it's in the FAQs. Unfortunately you're one of hundreds of males so it's just going to take a while unfortunately. |
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"Maybe the ladies that you’ve messaged don’t think that you’re their type?
I can respect that. But to not even get a reply? Just makes me think i’m missing something is all ???????"
Delete without reply means no thank you on here. Replying to all messages, as a woman here, is an impossible, thankless task. This is my hobby too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is no magic formula.
Some guys will naturally be more succesful as they have attributes that are deemed more attractive.
Trying to be what people want doesn't work. Be yourself and don't get fixated on meeting. The harder you try, the harder it is.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok, i’m sure there are other guys having the same experience as me, so here goes.
I’ve been on this site for about seven weeks now, and to be brutally honest I haven’t gotten anywhere with it. I’ve not had a single reply in those seven weeks - all messages either ignored or deleted. I have a face pic as my main pic, and I haven’t just got a single sentence at the bottom of my profile. I always send a face pic with a messages, and a dick pic if one is asked for. I always try and make my messages friendly, and never just a few words, always a couple of sentences minimum.
What the hell am I doing wrong??
Only 7 weeks? You've got to be a bit more patient "
I wouldn’t say I was impatient - just a bit bemused really. I’m new to all this, and I don’t really know what i’m doing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From a couples perspective your 36 but cannot accommodate you don't say why so some may assume your married you might not be but if someone is 30 plus and can't accommodate we will read thier profile to find out the reason why if a reason isn't listed we are likely to move to the next message. We like many couples and single women only meet guys who can accommodate so that shrinks the pool of people for you.
Also the part in your profile about wanting to have secret sex with somebody's with wife puts us right off and comes over as disrespectful. I think most couples including those who let thier wife play alone expect to know who there wife is meeting and where. Asking someone's wife to meet you in secret is asking someone's wife to cheat on thier husband with you. That's not going to win you many fans.
I hope that helps.
J K x |
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"There is no magic formula.
Some guys will naturally be more succesful as they have attributes that are deemed more attractive.
Trying to be what people want doesn't work. Be yourself and don't get fixated on meeting. The harder you try, the harder it is.
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But that being said, reading profiles and going by that is a good start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You got a good profile to be honest.
The only possible thing i can think of is you don't accommodate.Some are put off by that.
But it really is early days for you here.
Make yourself known in the forums a little bit and that may help you along the way.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Patience and a sense of humour helps. I've been back a week and had a party invite and another meet arranged. Not saying that makes me special, I think it's how you approach each person. Play to your strengths!  |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire |
"Ok, i’m sure there are other guys having the same experience as me, so here goes.
I’ve been on this site for about seven weeks now, and to be brutally honest I haven’t gotten anywhere with it. I’ve not had a single reply in those seven weeks - all messages either ignored or deleted. I have a face pic as my main pic, and I haven’t just got a single sentence at the bottom of my profile. I always send a face pic with a messages, and a dick pic if one is asked for. I always try and make my messages friendly, and never just a few words, always a couple of sentences minimum.
What the hell am I doing wrong??
Only 7 weeks? You've got to be a bit more patient
I wouldn’t say I was impatient - just a bit bemused really. I’m new to all this, and I don’t really know what i’m doing."
Patience and perseverance are key traits you need on the site. If people are not interested in you, try someone else.
Eventually you will find the right people or they will find you. Just keep at it and make sure all your messages are unique. Read profiles, see what the ladies/couples are interested in before you try to send a message.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have to say I try really hard to answer all my msgs when it's a no but that's just me. Yr profile is fine but I agree with the other comment about being secret with a man's wife..BIG plus is that u have taken yr socks off in yr naked pic..well done lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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From a couples perspective your 36 but cannot accommodate you don't say why so some may assume your married you might not be but if someone is 30 plus and can't accommodate we will read thier profile to find out the reason why if a reason isn't listed we are likely to move to the next message. We like many couples and single women only meet guys who can accommodate so that shrinks the pool of people for you.
Also the part in your profile about wanting to have secret sex with somebody's with wife puts us right off and comes over as disrespectful. I think most couples including those who let thier wife play alone expect to know who there wife is meeting and where. Asking someone's wife to meet you in secret is asking someone's wife to cheat on thier husband with you. That's not going to win you many fans.
I hope that helps.
J K x"
The fantasy about someone’s wife wasn’t meant to come across that way, I meant it more as a fantasy for roleplay. Thanks for pointing that out |
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"Ok so i’ve just received a message from somebody, saying that this post is a beg for a sympathy fuck.
Now somebody is being openly hostile - wtf??"
If you haven't deleted it, report it on the message. That's unacceptable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From a couples perspective your 36 but cannot accommodate you don't say why so some may assume your married you might not be but if someone is 30 plus and can't accommodate we will read thier profile to find out the reason why if a reason isn't listed we are likely to move to the next message. We like many couples and single women only meet guys who can accommodate so that shrinks the pool of people for you.
Also the part in your profile about wanting to have secret sex with somebody's with wife puts us right off and comes over as disrespectful. I think most couples including those who let thier wife play alone expect to know who there wife is meeting and where. Asking someone's wife to meet you in secret is asking someone's wife to cheat on thier husband with you. That's not going to win you many fans.
I hope that helps.
J K x"
This. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hate to say it. But its not what many think it is on here. We delete all messages from guys as a matter of course. Singles guys we talk to all come from recommendations by friends of ours, so we know they are guys we can trust. Most people are going to be the same way. They will find the guys they want. But get yourselves to a club. You’ll get more luck with actually talking to people, and once verified it’ll get easier for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe the ladies that you’ve messaged don’t think that you’re their type?"
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Lol i was talking about this earlier.. I know of a man who has an identical twin brother and one of them was sleeping with a woman who he met from an app.. A few months later after they split up, his brother messaged her and she told him he wasn't her type  |
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